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Hi looking for some advice.
Iv had a few meets that I thought went well. I leave a nice verification but don't receive any.
Is it only me or dose this happen a lot and what's people's reason's. Im sure there are a few.
If it went bad id prefer to be told so I could improve.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if its from men, u may find its because they dont want to be labelled bi...they can hide your verification...but they wont have control over you displaying...unless they block you(then some will worry they lose their veri status) |
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Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly  |
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over a year ago
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I always ask if meets actually want a veri some aren't bothered. I have been slightly niggled by giving one or two and then not getting one in return though. I can quickly get over it though and I just don't meet them again. It's the little things  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if its from men, u may find its because they dont want to be labelled bi...they can hide your verification...but they wont have control over you displaying...unless they block you(then some will worry they lose their veri status)"
This is what I would have said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly "
What a cock end you rock girl wish I was closer xx  |
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over a year ago
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we nearly always leave verifications -apart from some that are just socials - we have had a few that not left a veri but have seen them since - not too bothered but they are nice to have |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks for the comments. Maybie im just paranoid I read the situation wrong and they never had fun.
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Im sure they had a great time
I rarely leave verifications,the people I have met know ive had fun because Ill meet them again |
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"Hi looking for some advice.
Iv had a few meets that I thought went well. I leave a nice verification but don't receive any.
Is it only me or dose this happen a lot and what's people's reason's. Im sure there are a few.
If it went bad id prefer to be told so I could improve. "
Verifications should be to verify who you say you are, and turn up when you say you will, not how good you can perform. |
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Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the comments. Maybie im just paranoid I read the situation wrong and they never had fun.
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think we accasionally have thought that when newer on here.It happens to me all the time, I always write them they show or not, some never give me one,however I very rarely have one off meets, so see them again so cant be all bad ive just never asked for them or why they didn't, its there choice |
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over a year ago
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally. "
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"Hi looking for some advice.
Iv had a few meets that I thought went well. I leave a nice verification but don't receive any.
Is it only me or dose this happen a lot and what's people's reason's. Im sure there are a few.
If it went bad id prefer to be told so I could improve. "
OP i wouldn't blame myself (or yourself) for someone not leaving a veri. It's nowt wrong with you and i wouldn't say you needed to "improve"
Some people will and some won't leave veri's for various reasons some of which have been said above. Personally i'd say as long as you enjoyed yourself that's what should matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi looking for some advice.
Iv had a few meets that I thought went well. I leave a nice verification but don't receive any.
Is it only me or dose this happen a lot and what's people's reason's. Im sure there are a few.
If it went bad id prefer to be told so I could improve. "
Some people just don't know what to write, they don't want to say too much,but also worry they might say too little.
It may involve using over one atom of brainpower ....??? |
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally.
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter"
Not at all, we respect that people are entitled to make their own choice, but if we'd taken the time to verify them and they didn't do likewise (or at least acknowledge in the form of a message etc) we would just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive left verifications before, because i had a good time and stupidly thought I would receive one back, as they said they did too. Its not very encouraging not to receive one.
I dont leave one now unless I get one. ok maybe petty but it doesnt hurt for someone just to write what they thought. if they liked me or whoever they met. |
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"Hi looking for some advice.
Iv had a few meets that I thought went well. I leave a nice verification but don't receive any.
Is it only me or dose this happen a lot and what's people's reason's. Im sure there are a few.
If it went bad id prefer to be told so I could improve. "
. Some people are a bit obsessed with verifications . They can be a bit meaningless and not everyone will want people to know whom they have met. As long as you enjoyed your meet , don't worry about the verifications |
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally.
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter
Not at all, we respect that people are entitled to make their own choice, but if we'd taken the time to verify them and they didn't do likewise (or at least acknowledge in the form of a message etc) we would just move on."
oh I see thankyou for explaining, I dont always get a thankyou but a majority of people who didnt veri me, I bump into them again at a party or they message another day no mention of my veri I left yet its seen on there profile.some ive seen now and again for ages.my club buddys (women) are terrors for that, I wouldnt want to move on there good laugh/company, so its not just men |
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally.
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter
Not at all, we respect that people are entitled to make their own choice, but if we'd taken the time to verify them and they didn't do likewise (or at least acknowledge in the form of a message etc) we would just move on.
oh I see thankyou for explaining, I dont always get a thankyou but a majority of people who didnt veri me, I bump into them again at a party or they message another day no mention of my veri I left yet its seen on there profile.some ive seen now and again for ages.my club buddys (women) are terrors for that, I wouldnt want to move on there good laugh/company, so its not just men"
Hi Cheri,
Well we left each other a veri afte that first meet in the eureka couples room last summer, the night of the flavoured condoms
It is true sometimes you don't find out who you played with and never find them on here. We actually have a note on our profile now that says if we played at a club or party and never swapped usernames, get in touch.
So, for any of you "Kent Couple"s out there who we met and played with at eureka or pleasures in the last 18 months...
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I'll verify a guy if i liked him, pretty much right away. I don't think it would bother me if i didn't get one back. Although i will say that reading a new nice veri does make me smile |
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally.
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter
Not at all, we respect that people are entitled to make their own choice, but if we'd taken the time to verify them and they didn't do likewise (or at least acknowledge in the form of a message etc) we would just move on.
oh I see thankyou for explaining, I dont always get a thankyou but a majority of people who didnt veri me, I bump into them again at a party or they message another day no mention of my veri I left yet its seen on there profile.some ive seen now and again for ages.my club buddys (women) are terrors for that, I wouldnt want to move on there good laugh/company, so its not just men
Hi Cheri,
Well we left each other a veri afte that first meet in the eureka couples room last summer, the night of the flavoured condoms
It is true sometimes you don't find out who you played with and never find them on here. We actually have a note on our profile now that says if we played at a club or party and never swapped usernames, get in touch.
So, for any of you "Kent Couple"s out there who we met and played with at eureka or pleasures in the last 18 months...
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Hi guys so we did lol
I carry a notebook in my naughty bag so I can take profile names now a days . I have a memory like a fish.
this year I started writing a note in there private notes eg name date where lol so if left a veri and they don't leave me one . I can pretend I remember when we chat or meet again at a club/party
I have a ritual I go to profile, send friends request, write veri, write nice to meet u message and write private notes |
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"Some don't because they are thoughtless, some don't because they are lazy, some don't because they didn't really enjoy it, some just don't choose to verify.
We respect the decision of those who have chosen any of the above after meeting us, but wouldn't meet them again personally.
if you respect there choice, why would you not meet them again.it sounds that it does matter
Not at all, we respect that people are entitled to make their own choice, but if we'd taken the time to verify them and they didn't do likewise (or at least acknowledge in the form of a message etc) we would just move on.
oh I see thankyou for explaining, I dont always get a thankyou but a majority of people who didnt veri me, I bump into them again at a party or they message another day no mention of my veri I left yet its seen on there profile.some ive seen now and again for ages.my club buddys (women) are terrors for that, I wouldnt want to move on there good laugh/company, so its not just men
Hi Cheri,
Well we left each other a veri afte that first meet in the eureka couples room last summer, the night of the flavoured condoms
It is true sometimes you don't find out who you played with and never find them on here. We actually have a note on our profile now that says if we played at a club or party and never swapped usernames, get in touch.
So, for any of you "Kent Couple"s out there who we met and played with at eureka or pleasures in the last 18 months...
Hi guys so we did lol
I carry a notebook in my naughty bag so I can take profile names now a days . I have a memory like a fish.
this year I started writing a note in there private notes eg name date where lol so if left a veri and they don't leave me one . I can pretend I remember when we chat or meet again at a club/party
I have a ritual I go to profile, send friends request, write veri, write nice to meet u message and write private notes "
Hey,
Yes, we might have to start doing that, though a bit hard when you walk round naked the whole time! We now reckon we have fucked more people we don't know the names of than those we have found and swapped veri with.
For example, that fourth couple on the bed that night, the one who got the chocolate condom. Did you ever get their names? We didn't. Yet that's a cock and a cunt that got fucked by at least 3 of us!
We dunno. Guess that's what hardcore swinging is about!
(Were there nine people or ten at that gangbang last week...)
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey,
Yes, we might have to start doing that, though a bit hard when you walk round naked the whole time! We now reckon we have fucked more people we don't know the names of than those we have found and swapped veri with.
For example, that fourth couple on the bed that night, the one who got the chocolate condom. Did you ever get their names? We didn't. Yet that's a cock and a cunt that got fucked by at least 3 of us!
We dunno. Guess that's what hardcore swinging is about!
(Were there nine people or ten at that gangbang last week...)
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god that was last summer I cant remember didnt have my notebook, blooming fun night though
erm me and A with 7 men (3 fb though must stop saying where im going nah) 
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly "
what a cheek |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loads of reasons. CBA, forgot, already sent a few from previous meets...gets boring doing to many repeats, some people just don't, Some didn't swap names etc, I suppose didn't enjoy is a possibility but probably the least likely reason.
I tend to show mine , at least for a while, as someone has gone to the trouble.
Probably 1 in 3 don't bother but hey...I would just be more of a slut than the 200 or so I have had from meets.... |
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"Loads of reasons. CBA, forgot, already sent a few from previous meets...gets boring doing to many repeats, some people just don't, Some didn't swap names etc, I suppose didn't enjoy is a possibility but probably the least likely reason.
I tend to show mine , at least for a while, as someone has gone to the trouble.
Probably 1 in 3 don't bother but hey...I would just be more of a slut than the 200 or so I have had from meets...."
so does that mean you would have had 603 verications if everyone verified you my halo has just slipped off |
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"Verifications should be to verify who you say you are, and turn up when you say you will, not how good you can perform."
Exactly this. I always leave a verification but it is entirely up to those I meet if they wish to leave one for me or not. I certainly won't chase anyone for a veri - and whether they leave one or not has no bearing on my decision to meet them again. |
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"Loads of reasons. CBA, forgot, already sent a few from previous meets...gets boring doing to many repeats, some people just don't, Some didn't swap names etc, I suppose didn't enjoy is a possibility but probably the least likely reason.
I tend to show mine , at least for a while, as someone has gone to the trouble.
Probably 1 in 3 don't bother but hey...I would just be more of a slut than the 200 or so I have had from meets....
so does that mean you would have had 603 verications if everyone verified you my halo has just slipped off "
Your hall got smacked off at an orgy by one of several flaying limbs and landed in the corner of the room somewhere. Nobody has seen it sense.
You re-wrote the term "bad girl" 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the guy or guys you meet are mainly straight and not looking to meet TVs then you can pretty much forget the verification. You'll probably find they won't display yours either.
As someone said, they don't want to be labelled Bi as it puts off the women and couples. If it bothers you, don't verify them until they've left one for you first. |
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"Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly "
Omg really. I would block instantly if someone said that to me |
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"Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly
Omg really. I would block instantly if someone said that to me"
It's a shame people behave like this. He wanted to meet you so he shouldn't be ashamed of doing so, same as if a guy/girl/couple meet a bi guy or tv.
It's not nice being treated as a shameful secret but it does happen. A lot.
I have met several fab members who have left verifications for couples/girls who have the WE DONT MEET BI GUYS line in their profile.
It's a bit upsetting when you realise but I just let it slide. That's what discretion is all about, I guess. |
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"Some people don't leave them as they don't want everyone to know their business which I think is fair enough. However, I was told once not to leave one as he didn't want people knowing he had met someone of my size. That pissed me off exceedingly
Omg really. I would block instantly if someone said that to me
It's a shame people behave like this. He wanted to meet you so he shouldn't be ashamed of doing so, same as if a guy/girl/couple meet a bi guy or tv.
It's not nice being treated as a shameful secret but it does happen. A lot.
I have met several fab members who have left verifications for couples/girls who have the WE DONT MEET BI GUYS line in their profile.
It's a bit upsetting when you realise but I just let it slide. That's what discretion is all about, I guess. "
Then there's the guys who are desperate to get the green tick (as it's the magic leg opener apparently) and women and couples are so damn difficult to meet for the poor loves.
I've been taken in by that back in my naive and less cynical days. Met an unverified straight guy who after very quickly cumming nearly tripped over his pants trying to get out the door. Then wanted a veri, which I duly left, not getting one in return and got blocked when I asked why.
Dirty secrets abound. |
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"I'll verify a guy if i liked him, pretty much right away. I don't think it would bother me if i didn't get one back. Although i will say that reading a new nice veri does make me smile "
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By *aywalton1Man
over a year ago
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My regular FB who I still see, verified me after our 13th meet. A couple I met 4 times have never verified me. In both cases they verified others after first meet. Never asked why but it does happen. My take on it is that I value the fact they want to meet again even if they don't verify you, but it's a bugger if all do it and you can't get verified as it may stop others. My suggestion, send thank you message after meet and confirm you are interested in meeting again if that is the case, then send verification straight away, don't wait for their response. Even if they don't want to see you again you should still be respectful and grateful for the meet you did have. |
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