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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can I ask some advice? I chatted very briefly on Fab, to a guy, never even mentioned a meet as it was really early on, (literally a few messages)
Anyhow I was out socially on friday with a lot of friends celebrating my birthday, and this guy came over and started trying to join in and chat me up and going on about Fab and us having messaged, and wanting to get more intimate. I politely told him I was on a social night out and didnt want to discuss anything Fab related and that he'd over stepped the line, but he just kept saying I was leading him on...
How do you feel?
What would you have done in that situation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure what you could have done without drawing more attention to yourself. That's awful and I'd have been very upset. Discretion is clearly a word that isn't in his dictionary  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen Fab members at my favourite bars before. If members live close then the chances are they'll see each other at some point. He overstepped the line. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I live in a small town, there is only one pub. I didnt tell him I was going out at all, he just happened to be in there, and said he recognised one of my tattoos.
This is why it was a little creepy. I had no clue it was him til he started going on about Fab..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I live in a small town, there is only one pub. I didnt tell him I was going out at all, he just happened to be in there, and said he recognised one of my tattoos.
This is why it was a little creepy. I had no clue it was him til he started going on about Fab..
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I see yes, that's why. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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he left in the end, but I had to just pretend he was some d*unk young lad... very embarrasing. Id never dream of doing that to anyone I saw or recognised from Fab. Discression is a big must for me.. especially when living in a close knit area...
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"he left in the end, but I had to just pretend he was some d*unk young lad... very embarrasing. Id never dream of doing that to anyone I saw or recognised from Fab. Discression is a big must for me.. especially when living in a close knit area...
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oh my! And he should respect that 100% .. Deff wrong and not acceptable behaviour at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are happy to meet local people. I think you just had a particularly bad experience with someone who doesn't appreciate the discretion that most people want from swinging. |
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"thanks guys, helps to know I wasnt in the wrong.
Im definately going to be more vigilant. x"
Good Lord no, you weren't the one in the wrong.
Lots of people misunderstand discretion from openly criticising people they've met in the forum to the type if thing you describe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks guys, helps to know I wasnt in the wrong.
Im definately going to be more vigilant. x"
Creeps me out when someone just messages me in here to say they've seen me out and about, coz I have no idea who they are...I never reply to these messages to confirm who I am and set my pics to friends only coz of this too.
One guy does always send me his pic so I don't find him creeoy creepy coz now I know who he is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Block anyone too local in future!
How awful for you and soo immature of him.  "
I agree, with both points, especially blocking locals if you are in a small town |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well for starters, Photoshop any identifying tattoos out of your pics. I don't know if you use it on your phone,but make sure Who's Near is turned off also. And make sure you only speak with guys from an acceptable distance away.
Unfortunately living up here has it's drawbacks, everyone knows everyone. If you're like me and don't give a monkeys toss then that's fine, otherwise it's a pain.
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