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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Like most single guys here I am having no luck. I'm always nice and polite but I'm getting frustrated with it.

I've spent ages writing to people and trying to appeal to them based on the content of their profiles (which I read).

Not actual replies, not even a 'no thanks'. In beginning to winds if the messaging even works.

Help.. Please! Is it my profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe stick to Your wife . I ignore anyone who is being unfaithful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile does make you sound abit too fussy but I think your biggest problem is the being attached

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe stick to Your wife . I ignore anyone who is being unfaithful "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You mean I should do what all the other married guys do and pretend to be single!?

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

I much prefer honesty, and you get found out quickly too anyway. I used to meet attached but it gets too complicated and I didn't like how I felt guilty either.

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Good on you for being honest, but because you are attached and cheating many people do not see this as 'swinging' and so will not entertain meeting you. I'm not saying that nobody will meet you but your circumstance will certainly cut down the amount of possible meets compared to a single guy. Just be patient and keep doing what you are doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You mean I should do what all the other married guys do and pretend to be single!?"

No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved."

So you're going to lie instead? That will cut down the number who will meet you even more, man up and leave your partner, or stay with your partner and leave fab, this is a swinging site, not a cheating site. If you're partner isn't interested in sex, ask her why.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved."

What would be the point of that? Get chatting, could go on a while, get on fairly well, start to arrange a meet... Oh by the way I'm married and my wife has no idea I'm on here' that's just wasting everyone's time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Send huge amounts of emails and hope for luck, with a clever thought out copy and paste msg lol, just change the name lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You mean I should do what all the other married guys do and pretend to be single!?"

No need, plenty of genuine single guys around...Ahem, One here! You can ask my wife.

Divorce pending (been separated ages)

Seriously though, if you carry on as you are, it's only a matter of time before your wife finds out, then you most likely will be single, and have caused a lot of hurt too.

Don't mean to preach, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the constructive feedback people. I wasn't aware 'married dating' sites existed and they are definitely more what I need.

For those being judgemental, when you've been married 25 years to someone you met at 16... Then you can judge me.

I'll be off now. X

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By *arehamMan over a year ago

handforth

I've been on here ages only had one meet up to know,but I love looking at all the nude ladies on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the constructive feedback people. I wasn't aware 'married dating' sites existed and they are definitely more what I need.

For those being judgemental, when you've been married 25 years to someone you met at 16... Then you can judge me.

I'll be off now. X "

I was married to someone I met at 19, was together 20 years. Anyway, not sure about the relevance of that? It would be slightly hypocritical of me to judge, as I've done things I'm not proud of, good luck, Hope you don't find her on same site!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved."

So you'd feel guilty lying to someone on here about being single but you don't feel guilty about cheating on your partner....makes sense...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just a thought why not stick with your wife or leave her you say you being honest clearly you are not.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Thanks for the constructive feedback people. I wasn't aware 'married dating' sites existed and they are definitely more what I need.

For those being judgemental, when you've been married 25 years to someone you met at 16... Then you can judge me.

I'll be off now. X "

That's like saying a murderer could only be judged by someone who had murdered. Grasping at those justification straws me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And don't go fo larger ladies?

Thats pretty much ruled out 90% on here straight away

Ooer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the constructive feedback people. I wasn't aware 'married dating' sites existed and they are definitely more what I need.

For those being judgemental, when you've been married 25 years to someone you met at 16... Then you can judge me.

I'll be off now. X "

I don't get why people get their knickers in a twist when people judge them on cheating!! course you're going to be judged!! Why not leave her and let her find someone that loves her unconditionally?? Anyway the reason you're having problems is because the vast majority of fab ladies are larger than average and have morals and standards and wouldn't want to get embroiled in a situation like yours

Good luck with your search

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site."

"So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

So you think changing your profile to make you look more like a single guy might help, but you'll be honest and up front when arranging a meet - which result in arrangements coming to a shuddering halt.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

You might feel that you're justified in looking for sex outside your relationship, because there's no interest sexually at home, but have you actually tried to sort this aspect of your relationship out?

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should anybody want to go near you, when you show your partner a complete lack of respect! I wouldn't even dream of meeting you, and I hope she finds a better man. C x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing to do with being attached so don't worry, more to do with the fact there are so many guys here. Just keep on messaging, go to clubs and go on cam and you will have luck soon I am sure. Most guys on here are attached, but some choose to lie on their profile - they are far worse than someone like you who chose to be honest from the start. Everyone has their reasons, you don't need to explain.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Omg plenty of halos gonna be slipping and choking for sure after reading these comments lol. After all being on a swinging site makes you whiter than white. It's a shag at the end of the day however you choose to get one looooooool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Omg plenty of halos gonna be slipping and choking for sure after reading these comments lol. After all being on a swinging site makes you whiter than white. It's a shag at the end of the day however you choose to get one looooooool"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A shag is one thing. But being ignorant to ones trust? Something totally different. What G and I do, we do together, for both of us. C x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A shag is one thing. But being ignorant to ones trust? Something totally different. What G and I do, we do together, for both of us. C x"

And shag strangers albeit together. And that makes it all okay I suppose. Why do people choose to interfere in other people's lives, it's none of our bloody business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe when it's posted in a public forum? You know? C x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks! "

You would say that being a cheat as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat. "

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks!

You would say that being a cheat as well "

and you're a swinger lol,cheap shags all round then

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"A shag is one thing. But being ignorant to ones trust? Something totally different. What G and I do, we do together, for both of us. C x

And shag strangers albeit together. And that makes it all okay I suppose. Why do people choose to interfere in other people's lives, it's none of our bloody business."

people weren't getting evolved, hence sending him dimple no or not replying.

Op chose to post a thread asking why this was happening and people have said. If he didn't want an answer then don't post and people will continue their business and leave him to his

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks!

You would say that being a cheat as well "

Doesn't mean she's wrong though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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but its nothing to do with his home life but everything to do with being one of thousands on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks!

You would say that being a cheat as well

Doesn't mean she's wrong though"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile "

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not"

Also his choice to ask why he's not getting any meets on an open forum........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit"

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

Also his choice to ask why he's not getting any meets on an open forum........"

doSmilie(' --o')

and it's nothing to with his so called cheating more to do with the competition on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it."

No its not though!! Probably is to you because your cheating!!! But for most of us it really isnt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

Also his choice to ask why he's not getting any meets on an open forum........

doSmilie(' --o')

and it's nothing to with his so called cheating more to do with the competition on here"

How is it 'so called cheating'?? It's just straight cheating!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some peoples mentality here beggars belief... Just because it's a quick cheap "shag" to you, doesn't mean it is to everybody. Everybody we have actual sex with, we chat with and become friends with. If there's no mutual connection, no trust, then it's as good as worthless to us. C x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not"

But as he has said there are sites better suited to his needs. FAB is a swinging site, it's not a married looking to play site. Yes people do use it for that, but it's going to be harder to find what you're looking for on here then on a site specifically designed for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To all the people knocking cheats and who play in clubs, how do you know you're not playing with a cheat, whether man, woman or couple who are cheating together? Unless you know them from their normal lives, which is unlikely, then you don't. So how do you reconcile that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To all the people knocking cheats and who play in clubs, how do you know you're not playing with a cheat, whether man, woman or couple who are cheating together? Unless you know them from their normal lives, which is unlikely, then you don't. So how do you reconcile that?"

I chat to them and get to know them a bit, you can normally tell one way or another

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

I've never had any problems meeting people and it's there in black and white on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I chat to them and get to know them a bit, you can normally tell one way or another

yeh rite, of course you can lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well personally I ask them if they are attached. If they choose to lie then there isn't much I can do about that, but for those that are honest I'm friendly & non judgemental but I decline to play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile says feel free to ignore you! So maybe people are just doing as you have asked them? You can't say ignore me and then moan about it when they do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some peoples mentality here beggars belief... Just because it's a quick cheap "shag" to you, doesn't mean it is to everybody. Everybody we have actual sex with, we chat with and become friends with. If there's no mutual connection, no trust, then it's as good as worthless to us. C x"

that makes it okay then, chat first shag later? lol what a joke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

I've never had any problems meeting people and it's there in black and white on my profile. "

Hate to break it to you but your the 'any holes a goal' sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

I've never had any problems meeting people and it's there in black and white on my profile. "

You're female, you're going to find it a lot easier then the guys on here so comparing your experience to the OPs isn't really a far comparison.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Befriend first, share an intimate moment later. I think you're a lost cause here, defending something like this. Carry on! C x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You mean I should do what all the other married guys do and pretend to be single!?"

Eh Boris/mush!.......some of us actually are single....it's usually the being able to accommodate and to do overnights that shows. Many women use it as a filter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You mean I should do what all the other married guys do and pretend to be single!?

Eh Boris/mush!.......some of us actually are single....it's usually the being able to accommodate and to do overnights that shows. Many women use it as a filter."

Good one it is too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheers magic, wasn't digging at you actually.

And my account is about to get deleted.

I'll get my coat.

We wouldn't because we don't believe in cheating see you when you come back with your new and improved profile

he doesn't need to change it, we all make our own choices whether to meet him or not

I've never had any problems meeting people and it's there in black and white on my profile. "

You don't even have any respect for your partner and you're disagreeing with everyone who say cheating is wrong but maybe try walking in your partners shoes. How would you feel if he was the one cheating?And plus swinging isn't a cheap shag. You might wanna do your research

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it."

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, bring honest is good but swinging isn't cheating and the majority of the forum users take a dim view on cheats.

There are specialist sites for attached people looking for affairs. You need to accept that FAB is a swinging site it's not an I'm attached at looking to cheat site.

So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I should become a monk! :-/

Perhaps I'll just remove the attached but and deal with the honesty before a meet IF I get any interest...?

I can't just go through with pretending to be single.. that sucks for everyone involved.

Quite right. Cheating is not Swinging.

You have made it rather obvious that you are playing behind your partners back. As others have said, that's unlikely to win you many fans here.

As for the question on whether you should lie or not? - You're already deceiving someone aren't you!

Let's consider a few things here.

Do I think you should just pretend to be a single guy and not reveal you're attached at all?

No, I do not.

And think just for a moment about this.

What do you think the likely outcome would be if your partner found out you were on a swinging site?

Or that you were playing around behind her back?

My advice is simple. If you don't want to get found out - don't do it in the first place.

Or even this. How would YOU feel if you discovered that your partner was also on fab and looking to play around behind YOUR back?

Would that make you feel inadequate.

Think you need to sort out your relationship sir.

Either call it a day, or maybe even get some professional help - marriage guidance etc.

Cheating won't fix the problem - it will only make it worse.

What a load of bollocks!

You would say that being a cheat as well

and you're a swinger lol,cheap shags all round then

Excuse me ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

What? Surely you wouldn't know you had a connection until you had chatted with them.... So therefore not a stranger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol"

I'm not shagging anyone coz I'm not meeting

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Forum users are only a very small percentage of members so you will only get a small amount of views.

You will find people who do play with married people so I wouldn't change that on your profile.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol

I'm not shagging anyone coz I'm not meeting"

So you've never shagged anyone from this site? What's the point of being here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Forum users are only a very small percentage of members so you will only get a small amount of views.

You will find people who do play with married people so I wouldn't change that on your profile.

Good luck

Never had any problems to date, blokes will always want a shag, it's women with the do gooder attitudes lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol

I'm not shagging anyone coz I'm not meeting

So you've never shagged anyone from this site? What's the point of being here?"

I've got 13 veri's so yes I have but not anymore coz I have a fwb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

What? Surely you wouldn't know you had a connection until you had chatted with them.... So therefore not a stranger

They all start out as strangers, which is the point I am trying to make

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol

I'm not shagging anyone coz I'm not meeting

So you've never shagged anyone from this site? What's the point of being here?

I've got 13 veri's so yes I have but not anymore coz I have a fwb"

So they started out as strangers!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems to have gone off subject slightly

OP it's good that your honest on your profile so others can make an informative decision on whether to meet you or not.

The number of single guys out number single Fems and couples. Maybe go to clubs or a social.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Forum users are only a very small percentage of members so you will only get a small amount of views.

You will find people who do play with married people so I wouldn't change that on your profile.

Good luck

Never had any problems to date, blokes will always want a shag, it's women with the do gooder attitudes lol

I'm a 'do gooder' I don't have any problems

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Same shite but different thread, go figure

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Ok can the man have his thread back now please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

But you're happy enough to shag behind your partners back

You shouldn't concern yourself too much it's me that's cheating not you, but we are both shagging others lol

I'm not shagging anyone coz I'm not meeting

So you've never shagged anyone from this site? What's the point of being here?

I've got 13 veri's so yes I have but not anymore coz I have a fwb

So they started out as strangers!! "

They weren't when I met them and knew one outside of fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swinging is about trust and friendship in my eyes, not just a cheap shag, if your cheating then a swinging site isn't for you as it's mostly full of people the whole experience not just the sex bit

swinging is shagging, please don't try to sugar coat it.

Not knocking how anyone else decides to do it, but I would rather go without a 'shag' than do it with someone I dont feel a connection with

Nor would I

What? Surely you wouldn't know you had a connection until you had chatted with them.... So therefore not a stranger

They all start out as strangers, which is the point I am trying to make"

Ok but they aren't strangers when I shag them.... So you've just contradicted yourself

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Ok can the man have his thread back now please. "

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Christ - it's like Ground Hog day - shagging shagging shagging - yes we get it - we're all shagging, well aside from the OP.

We all do it just within our own personal moral boundaries. Most of us on FAB don't equate cheating as swinging hence the opposition on this thread to your personal situation. As explained repeatedly swinging is based on trust therefore those who cheat on their partners aren't viewed as particularly trustworthy.

Sadly I think you are more interested in being antagonistic than taking on board the varying opinions on here.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Cheating is wrong, swinging is saintly, but we are all signed up on this site for the same thing SHAGGING - not antagonistic just frustrated at the ignorant or choosing to be ignorant people on here"

I think the overall feeling is mutual

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am married but seperated just before I

Joined fab..... it's on my profile. .. my husband dose know I've joined fab...

He found my pic's. .... anyhow the point I'm trying to make is look at ur marriage

And talk to ur wife ... you never know she may want to join u.... u never know till u ask.... u are entitled to ur own preferences. .. but some off my fellow fabbers have hit nail on the head thier are a lot off big lady's on here including myself. .. at the end of the day u will follow the path u chose to.... I did... I did not cheat my husband as he did not deserve that..... take care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems to have gone off subject slightly

OP it's good that your honest on your profile so others can make an informative decision on whether to meet you or not.

The number of single guys out number single Fems and couples. Maybe go to clubs or a social.

I get more than enough messages on here thanks lol"

I'm sure that you do! I never mentioned anything about messages in my post though, I was keeping to the subject of the thread.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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To the OP...maybe start another thread if you need any more advice and hopefully people will stick to the question.

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