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I don't believe your current status message moaning about unanswered messages is going to help you. If you spend any time at all on the forums you'll have read so many threads and messages about that and read the justifiable reaction to them... :no answer=no interest and any reply is as often as not met with abuse so many do not reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't believe your current status message moaning about unanswered messages is going to help you. If you spend any time at all on the forums you'll have read so many threads and messages about that and read the justifiable reaction to them... :no answer=no interest and any reply is as often as not met with abuse so many do not reply."
I agree, negative status updates are off putting. Is a no reply really soul destroying? I think not  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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No public pics, a moderately negative profile and a very negative status.
Without public pics, not many people will want to take a chance to get to know you as a person. It's not easy explaining to someone, that they look like Pancho Villa or their dad/brother and they don't want to take it further.  |
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"I don't believe your current status message moaning about unanswered messages is going to help you. If you spend any time at all on the forums you'll have read so many threads and messages about that and read the justifiable reaction to them... :no answer=no interest and any reply is as often as not met with abuse so many do not reply.
I agree, negative status updates are off putting. Is a no reply really soul destroying? I think not "
I'm sorry but I feel it is ! Would you ignore me if we met in real life ? No of course you wouldnt so why is it acceptable on-line ? |
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"I cant win can I ? I had my photos on my profile but again that put a lot off
So damned if I do damned if I dont
Thanks for your feedback though I do appreciate it "
There's no point possibly getting into a conversation with someone then sending pics only to be turned down, seems a waste of time to me for both parties and if you find a no reply soul destroying, how would you find a block after chatting and sending pics??! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe your current status message moaning about unanswered messages is going to help you. If you spend any time at all on the forums you'll have read so many threads and messages about that and read the justifiable reaction to them... :no answer=no interest and any reply is as often as not met with abuse so many do not reply.
I agree, negative status updates are off putting. Is a no reply really soul destroying? I think not
I'm sorry but I feel it is ! Would you ignore me if we met in real life ? No of course you wouldnt so why is it acceptable on-line ?"
In the real world, you're not called a fat ungrateful bitch if you politely say hi then decline anything further!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe your current status message moaning about unanswered messages is going to help you. If you spend any time at all on the forums you'll have read so many threads and messages about that and read the justifiable reaction to them... :no answer=no interest and any reply is as often as not met with abuse so many do not reply.
I agree, negative status updates are off putting. Is a no reply really soul destroying? I think not
I'm sorry but I feel it is ! Would you ignore me if we met in real life ? No of course you wouldnt so why is it acceptable on-line ?"
no reply = not interested, how is an inbox full of no thanks gonna make you feel? a reply is a no thanks |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm sorry but I feel it is ! Would you ignore me if we met in real life ? No of course you wouldnt so why is it acceptable on-line ?"
Yes, but you don't get 200 people saying hello can I have a chat with you in the real world. On here a lot of lasses get 200 messages a day, I know even I do.  |
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I dont even get that far ! When I have emailed someone for the first time and don't get a reply, even a no thank you its really hurtful.
I accept that I'm not for everyone how ever I do expect a reply if I have been polite etc to them its common courtesy really or am I asking to much ? |
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"I dont even get that far ! When I have emailed someone for the first time and don't get a reply, even a no thank you its really hurtful.
I accept that I'm not for everyone how ever I do expect a reply if I have been polite etc to them its common courtesy really or am I asking to much ?"
This subject has been covered lots on here. Some women as others have said, can get in excess of 100 messages a day. What makes your message and profile stand out enough in amongst those to get a reply? How long do you think it would take to type 100 no thank you's whilst getting more messages because you are online then, if you don't block after a no thanks, you either get abuse or the Spanish inquisition as to why you're not interested. If a no reply bothers you that much I would suggest this may not be the best site for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now I get that what we could do with is a No Thank you Button at least they have thought about your email or even you !"
wouldn't work, coz thats just the same as typing it out and the recipient having 200 messages saying no thanks isn't gonna make them feel any better, like i've said twice now, no reply IS a no thanks  you don't need it typing out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First line of your profile made me want to hit you with a trout.
Didn't read further.
If you have to tell people not to judge you before they are even told anything about you strongly indicates that you judge yourself and think others will too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First line of your profile made me want to hit you with a trout.
Didn't read further.
If you have to tell people not to judge you before they are even told anything about you strongly indicates that you judge yourself and think others will too.
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lmfao "hit you with a trout"! XD
you do make me laugh sometimes lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cant win can I ? I had my photos on my profile but again that put a lot off
So damned if I do damned if I dont
Thanks for your feedback though I do appreciate it "
Seems odd to us... This site is about people meeting, often just based on physical attraction rather than mental attraction. If people are put off by your pictures then it is best to be upfront from the outset. If we built up a mental attraction with somebody, then saw their pictures and had no physical attraction, we would stop it from going further.
From our point of view, we prefer a profile with slightly better grammar and spelling. Copy it into a MS Word (or similar), check and copy/paste it back in. |
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"First line of your profile made me want to hit you with a trout.
Didn't read further.
If you have to tell people not to judge you before they are even told anything about you strongly indicates that you judge yourself and think others will too.
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Fresh out of trout - would a halibut be a good substitue?  |
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Concentrate on the ones that reply !!!!! Don't moan ! Its not attractive ! And put a pic on your profile !
Unless its a quiet day and I'm bored ! I usually don't bother even looking at the ones with no pics !!! I don't have the time to chat to everyone !!! So if a nice pic takes my fancy ! And the profile is jolly and upbeat, That's the one I choose !
This sounds harsh but someone once said on a thread like this "you don't send a reply to every bit of junk mail you get in the post! Just the ones you are interested in" fabs a bit like that!!! and when I first joined I thought it was rude not to reply !!! That soon changed ! And those who read my profile will know that b4 they message me !!!! |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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"I dont even get that far ! When I have emailed someone for the first time and don't get a reply, even a no thank you its really hurtful.
I accept that I'm not for everyone how ever I do expect a reply if I have been polite etc to them its common courtesy really or am I asking to much ?"
I don't see how an inbox full of 'thanks but no thanks' messages would make you feel any better?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Didn't really get past the negative status and opening line to be honest. As for no replies - it has been done to death. No reply is a reply - it means they are not iinterested. It's not rude and if that's soul destroying how the hell would an inbox of 'thanks but no thanks' make you feel? |
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In case anyone is remotely intrested I've put my profile on Hidden just so I can sort a few things out.
After a very long email chat with MsThunderThighs we came ( or rather she did lol ) to the conclusion as to where I was going wrong. Taking her advice on board I know what I have to do so until I have done so I've put my profile as private.
So I would also just like to give my personal and public Thanks to MsThunderThighs Thank you thats the kinda advice I needed X You , for me , went above and beyond what I was expecting.
Good luck in finding your bald inked Guys lol
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"In case anyone is remotely intrested I've put my profile on Hidden just so I can sort a few things out.
After a very long email chat with MsThunderThighs we came ( or rather she did lol ) to the conclusion as to where I was going wrong. Taking her advice on board I know what I have to do so until I have done so I've put my profile as private.
So I would also just like to give my personal and public Thanks to MsThunderThighs Thank you thats the kinda advice I needed X You , for me , went above and beyond what I was expecting.
Good luck in finding your bald inked Guys lol
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I noticed you'd hidden your profile.
The good thing is that you've taken on board some of the advice given to you in that you are revising your profile.
That's positive
As for the matter of politeness, read the site FAQ's. It's been done to death on the forum.
Taken from the FAQ's
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
I understand exactly where you are coming from with the whole politeness thing. And yes, it's demoralising to spend time crafting a message only to see it get deleted without so much as a 'how d'ya do' - but that's how it is here. You have to get used to it.
I have.
Channel your energies into more positive action.
But remember, there are so many of us single guys on here that the ladies really can pick and choose.
Cheer up fella |
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"In case anyone is remotely intrested I've put my profile on Hidden just so I can sort a few things out.
After a very long email chat with MsThunderThighs we came ( or rather she did lol ) to the conclusion as to where I was going wrong. Taking her advice on board I know what I have to do so until I have done so I've put my profile as private.
So I would also just like to give my personal and public Thanks to MsThunderThighs Thank you thats the kinda advice I needed X You , for me , went above and beyond what I was expecting.
Good luck in finding your bald inked Guys lol
I noticed you'd hidden your profile.
The good thing is that you've taken on board some of the advice given to you in that you are revising your profile.
That's positive
As for the matter of politeness, read the site FAQ's. It's been done to death on the forum.
Taken from the FAQ's
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
I understand exactly where you are coming from with the whole politeness thing. And yes, it's demoralising to spend time crafting a message only to see it get deleted without so much as a 'how d'ya do' - but that's how it is here. You have to get used to it.
I have.
Channel your energies into more positive action.
But remember, there are so many of us single guys on here that the ladies really can pick and choose.
Cheer up fella "
Thanks Mate
Its nice to hear that a male also thinks its " demoralizing " that makes a change lol
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How ever thank you for the feedback 
Need to stop being soo bloody picky 
