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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

Name and shame is against site rules. If you do you will be sent to the naughty step.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would you prove it to the rest of the site? And it's your word against theirs

And last and more importantly why care? If they don't want to speak to you or are abusive why even give it a moments more thought?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ye not allowed to name n shame hun which i feel is bad coz some of the vile messages i have had on here are unbelievable just for saying no thank you, Some peeps on here need to get lives rejection is a part of life and a lady has the right to choose her playmates just because i swing does not mean i dont have preferences in play partner n will shag the fookin crack of dawn n every man who asks

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OMG! read the FAQ's page

No reply or delete = not interested. Deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people are rude, just block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When people on here are getting in excess of 50 messages a day, unfortunately most don't have the time, or inclination to reply to each and every one.

If your getting a handful of messages a day, then a polite 'thanks but no thanks' isn't out of the question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG! read the FAQ's page

No reply or delete = not interested. Deal with it."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG! read the FAQ's page

No reply or delete = not interested. Deal with it."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people are abusive then report them

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

My profile makes it clear what my preferences are. If guys choose to ignore and still message, I will delete and block. Anyone being abusive when I say thanks but no thanks will be reported and blocked. I have to say though, in the four years I've been on here, I have had very few nasty messages. What I have noticed is rude behaviour has gotten worse recently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

In what context do you mean "give them a go"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you want to name and shame people for blocking you because they didn't lime a message thst according to your first post only said 'hi', then for several reasons you might want to consider whethet this site is really for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some women get hundreds of messages A DAY!!! To reply to them all would likely require a full time secretary. Check out the FAQ's where it is rather specific on the issue and states categorically that, on this site, it is not to be considered rude not to reply to a message.

I have seen many users comment that they used to repky with a polite 'no thanks' but would then get a follow up message asking why not etc so now they don't bother.

Naming and shaming, as has been said by others, is strictly against site rules.

Occasionally some users seem to forget this, or haven't familiarised themselves properly with the rules as from time to time I see a status that breaches this rule, but i'm pretty sure these are picked up by site admin as their not up for long

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

In what context do you mean "give them a go"? "

Female spreads her legs?

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By *ustcutieWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

I'd better get of the site then..... Apology to all the lovely folks I've met and the ones I've arranged to.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

In what context do you mean "give them a go"?

Female spreads her legs?

I was detecting a sense of entitlement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

Make tge time to reply or get off the site? Seriously could you have a bigger sense of entitlement? We are here to meet people not exchange pointless messages with people that we have no interest in.

As for 'giving them a go' - are you really suggesting people should dish out sympathy shags?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

op, in the few posts you have put on here you have probably answered to the rest of the forum why you are getting blocked or no replies, a simple 'hi' or similar can come across as very lazy and theres 100's of old posts about this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them"

Your profile appears to be looking for non sexual cross dressing partners, your message just says hi, what response were you expecting?

If a message is abusive then you have the option to report it, but no answer would be the go to response to a one word first message.

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

is this site really for you, lose the sense of entitlement, no one owes anyone a reply, when you join the the site, you dont sign to say I will reply to every person that messages me/us even if they are not what im looking for or im not attracted to what I see in anyway, do you reply to every single takeaway menu saying no thanks, or every credit card offer saying no thanks, people will manage there profiles as they see fit, if you dont like it move on/leave.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

'Hi' messages to us get deleted.

Profiles we'll never be interested in may well get blocked.

Do we feel bad, rude or guilty?

Do we fuck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not rude not to reply. What is rude is replying with a polite no thanks then receiving unnecessary abuse because they can't take polite rejection. This is one of the many reasons people don't reply. I'm constantly amazed why some people get such a bee in their bonnet about how others run their profiles. They didn't reply, they weren't interested, you didn't know them, you never will. Move on and forget about it, they have.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them"

No.....

The block button is there to be used (if wanted) for whatever reason. It's not rude to block someone that you don't want any contact with....

If you feel a message is rude/abusive then report it to admin/site and let them deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously name and shame people who block?? Jeez ecoect to see my name alot then

Report abusive messages and grow a thicker skin regarding getting blocked. People block for a whole host of reasons.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Any message that just says hi automatically gets deleted with us. Infact pretty much most one liners....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree, most women I would say 70% are rude as you email them the first opening line lol. Thank god you can block them back lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

You have posted numerous threads about manners/rudeness so you know the score about this site. Maybe you need to read the faq's again to remind yourself that no reply is no thank you. I really don't think it should be up to the women who don't reply to messages that leave the site. If we all did I would imagine there would be 3 ladies left (and none of them would be really female) Tho you may at least get a sympathy shag if you bend over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them"

Maybe they do it because your clearly not what they are looking for judging by your profile and want to make sure neither you or they will bother each other again? I dont think its rude at all. As many people have had pointed out women and couples can get vast amounts of messages and just dont get time to reply to all of them. They are doing nothing wrong so no should not be named.

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By *edheadsruleCouple over a year ago

lancashire

Maybe married men ( our profile says no thanks) men saying fancy a shag ill pop round now ( profile says no thanks) young lads( profile says no thanks) bi men ( hes straight) should also be named and shamed then ? Instead I roll my eyes and ignore them , its a grown up site for grown up people, why bother spitting the dummy out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them"

Haha,I have heard it all now lol

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You want to name and shame women for blocking you because you don't interest them?

You think this would make everyone else on the site avoid them and teach them a lesson?

Goodness, who knew you are so important!

I'll make a note.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

I'd better get of the site then..... Apology to all the lovely folks I've met and the ones I've arranged to.......

Me too a better jog on

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"If you get a rude message or block for no reason at all apart from saying hi.

Should you name and shame the people who have done it to you so the rest of the fab swingers site knows to stay away from them"

This just has to be a wind-up...it cannot be serious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well people should show manners then in my books.

Maybe I am wrong but if you come on a site like this or any other one you should make the time to reply to people or get off the site.

If someone is rude in the first message then yes say thank you but no thank you.

But if someone is trying there best maybe not in a way you would want it put across to you.

At least give them a go.

Plus people take people on face value and nothing else.

Manners and being polite goes out the window on here.

ARE YOU FOR REAL

When we joined we got over 100 messages A DAY from single guys. 75% were polite and friendly enough but probably 65% had clearly not read our profile and would have known had they bothered that they were never going to get a meet with us so wasted their time messaging and our time reading it and SHOCK HORROR checking their profile only to find that, as I said, they were never going to be a match. So why would I or should I bother wasting even more of my time replying?

As has been said many times do you reply to every unsolicited item of junk mail you recieve? Every spam email perhaps? Surely by your reckoning its rude not to. After all like the majority of guys who message us, they didnt bother to see if you were a suitable recipitant or in anyway check if you matched their products demographic, but they did spend time creating lovely printed leaflets and writing that email so how dare you just bin those letters or just empty your spam folder. You dont deserve a letter box or email address...

In short when guys learn to check if theres a chance they are suitable first we will have much more time to reply as there will be far less messages to sift through!!!

Oh and as for saying people take you at face value, its a swinging site not matchmaker. People want fantasies fullfilled not marriage proposals. Its YOU who clearly needs to get off the site because quite frankly you dont get it at all

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