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How do the ladies feel about swinging with an attached guy ( and the other half doesn't know)
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By *ogue78 OP Man
over a year ago
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Just curious, my partner doesn't know and I could trot out a million and one reasons on why I'm here, but the short answer is that I love the thrill of a chase and also my imagination on the story forum can get pretty wild.
If I do meet a woman and chat on here, I just assume they have read my profile and so are still happy to be friends and possibly more.
So ladies, and gents, your thoughts?
( yes I know I've opened it for abuse, but hey ho and all that ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't. Even though it's only for sex it just screams disrespect to me. Swinging is about honesty and if you're able to lie and disrespect your partner, whom you supposedly have feelings for, how would you treat a woman that you are only there to fuck and fuck off?
I would never knowingly play with someone attached and lying to their partner about it. But there are plenty on here that don't care.
However if you're just looking for singles, there are plenty of affair seeker websites. There's always the option of clubs, usually a no questions asked kinda environment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I meet often in the club environment I have to say I'm a bit indifferent.. as I am not stupid.. I know many guys are married and playing away.
My double standard comes with couples on here... I will not play with one half of a couple on here unless it's all together..
I don't tend to ask marital status to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't knowingly play with a guy that's cheating but I've played in clubs so I guess I must have.
Oh ...its called cheating if your partner/wife doesn't know ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not swinging
Had a lovely 'couple' contact us a couple of days ago, but they were not a couple they were cheating on there perspective spouses, so that was a no!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Indifferent. I've been cheated on in all my long term relationships. Most of the guys I've met on here have turned out to be married/in relationships. My long term fb got married recently, still see each other fairly regularly.
Most blokes are full of bullshit, I just don't get taken in by it anymore.
Hence why I'm on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Indifferent. I've been cheated on in all my long term relationships. Most of the guys I've met on here have turned out to be married/in relationships. My long term fb got married recently, still see each other fairly regularly.
Most blokes are full of bullshit, I just don't get taken in by it anymore.
Hence why I'm on here "
I definitely agree with your comment about most men are full of shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband knows the ins and outs (teehee) of what I'm up to. But I generally don't ask the guys what their position is. Personally though, I've found married guys more respectful of my post meet needs (I.e not to bug me!) whereas I've been unlucky enough to have met some single guys don't get that I won't just drop everything to be with them. Now, I usually tell meets that I don't meet more than once. X |
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On here for fun, not to be embroiled in others domestics . If anyone's wishes to cheat then that decision is there's and no odds to me .I just choose not to meet them as plenty of single guys I can meet with out the clock watching and cloak and dagger .
If they are up frount about it then people can make their own choice to mert or not. My objection is the ones who blatantly lie about being single for their own selfish gain.But hey if they have zero qualms about deceiving the person they reportedly love , why would they be honest with random on line lol. Fortunately you can suss them with some questioning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Man or woman it's just something we would not do
Swinging as passion said is about total honesty with your partner. Infact we can see how swinging has made cpl more stronger, we love to play but love both of us bring there enjoying each other's experiences x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would not do it knowingly. Not our thing understand there are many reasons why someone would do it and not judging.
Just not something we like to be involved in. |
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I choose not to play with married men or women from the site. However, I do play in clubs, and I don't stop to ask their marital status. But I don't swap numbers or anything in clubs, so I'm less likely to get embroiled in some kind of domestic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try very hard not to but I like i imagine many others still get lied to. The way I feel is that the partner left at home probably knows something and it's probably hurting them more than they will ever let on. Some will kick cheating spouses to the curb, some will stay and feel a little worse everytime it happens... I want to be no part in that. It makes me really sad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread is focused on men cheating but women play away too; so, just out of interest, would you ladies and couples play with them?
I'm not trying to hijack this thread but just add some balance to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The simple reason I don't cheat on Mrs N is that not only is she a lovely person and doesn't deserve that sort of treatment and secondly I am such a terrible liar. I'd feel terrible about what I'd done and she'd know i'd been up to something. Women always do.
Cheating destroys trust when you get found out and it's very hard if not impossible to rebuild.
Best thing to do with your partner is to tell them about your needs and if they don't accept then either put up or move on, Cheat if your conscience lets you. Mine certainly wont.
With regards to cheaters we have a fairly pragmatic approach to it. We feel sure we've met guys/girls that are cheating and certainly don't go out of our way to meet them but we don't ask questions and whose to say we are not being lied to as well.
Probs just meet the once, suss em out and then probably decline another meet. As I said we leave it up to their consciences and feel sure their partner will suss out their infidelity eventually.
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"I wouldn't. Even though it's only for sex it just screams disrespect to me. Swinging is about honesty and if you're able to lie and disrespect your partner, whom you supposedly have feelings for, how would you treat a woman that you are only there to fuck and fuck off?
I would never knowingly play with someone attached and lying to their partner about it. But there are plenty on here that don't care. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't knowingly meet someone who is cheating, not respectful at all from either party.
Clubs though, you'll know even less so I guess the answer is most prolific / active swingers will have met attached people? |
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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago
manchester |
"Just curious, my partner doesn't know and I could trot out a million and one reasons on why I'm here, but the short answer is that I love the thrill of a chase and also my imagination on the story forum can get pretty wild.
If I do meet a woman and chat on here, I just assume they have read my profile and so are still happy to be friends and possibly more.
So ladies, and gents, your thoughts?
( yes I know I've opened it for abuse, but hey ho and all that ) "
There are people on hear that would get off on seting u up..... |
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