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"No Indians just not my cup of tea"

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There will be a hundred different reasons but they all come under one heading "personal preference".

I expect you have some, no one should have to explain or justify them

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By *extoysareusCouple over a year ago

kinky heaven

Because people have the right to choose who they want to shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't tea actually FROM India?

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Im only attracted to white people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey

I get that part and yes I do have some preferences.

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Hey

I get that part and yes I do have some preferences.

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

focus on the ones who don't? be polite and respectful

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

There's also loads of profiles that say no whites, there's no point trying to convince someone otherwise, just accept you're not what they want and read another profile!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Usually not in relation to the Indians but pakistani their attitude towards women and sex often is very different to British views. Many being very offensive, you'll find its not just swingers but quite a lot of working girls won't meet Asians because of this.

Sadly most people are judged by the loudest part of their group.

Just like Brits are known in many holiday spots as loud mouth violent d*unks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veriety is the spice of life that's what we are here for different shapes creed and colour but that's our choice , bring on a oriental women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

Nothing you can do really.

Same as the people who say "no bi guys" you a in changing their minds so don't bother

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Hey

I get that part and yes I do have some preferences.

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

You can't do anything but concentrate on those that don't have it on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes I understand and practice.

However, as you would know females on this site get SO MANY replies and making myself stand out or even being read would seem to be quite a challenge.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You have been given reasons above...

Personal preference

Stereotyping of attitudes

Because they can...

I'm not sure what else you feel the reasons are?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world caters for everyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x"

You gave been given reasons.

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

It's called freedom of choice although a difficult concept for some people to grasp

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Yes I understand and practice.

However, as you would know females on this site get SO MANY replies and making myself stand out or even being read would seem to be quite a challenge."

Yep and you seem to be concentrating on the profiles that exclude you completely

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By *extoysareusCouple over a year ago

kinky heaven

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x"

I do think no asians is a bit narrow minded considering how large it is with so many countries and cultures.

Would it be better saying no Pakistanis or Indians or Filipinos or Thais?

Saying that some only want BBC.

At the end of the day its their choice and that's the end of it.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Yes I understand and practice.

However, as you would know females on this site get SO MANY replies and making myself stand out or even being read would seem to be quite a challenge.

Yep and you seem to be concentrating on the profiles that exclude you completely

OP if 80% of profiles say that... now maths isn't my strong point, but that leaves 20% who don't - so focus on them.

You don't want to meet single guys, thats your preference. How would you feel is some single guy had a moan about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going to put no cowboys on our profile stuff it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's very true.

however, I don't focus on the ones with that restriction/ preference i place that would be wasting time.

i guess what I'm trying to gauge from this ad is what females on here are looking for from a guy of a Asian ethnic origin?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to his own, though I have seen some seriously hot asian / indian women that I would LOVE to have fun with!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x"

People have "whites only" no fatties etc. No one has to justify their preferences, if I'm not for them I don't waste one nano second wondering why!

I don't understand why people focus on those NOT interested in them, opposed to those that are!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female

swingers.

Its called choice and preferance that's all.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about mate

You can't change people preferences lol, just chat with people who don't state that on that profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Haha thats the hard part mate.

I cant seem to find anyone!

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Its called personal preference, many women have on their profile "only looking to meet black guys", as a white guy i don't moan about it, i just move onto the next profile.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Seriously??

Stop talking nonsense

atleast it's not another guy moaning about women wanting BBC only

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, you keep changing the reason for your thread lol!! I prefer to meet white or black men, and white only females. I'm yet to find an asian man I've been attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey,

Thanks for all the messages and advice!

I know understand it all a bit better!

"not interested move on to the next"

Thanks guys and happy Swinging

PS: is there a way to delete forum posts? I feel as though I've got enough information.

K x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry I'm not that good on forums!

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Hey,

Thanks for all the messages and advice!

I know understand it all a bit better!

"not interested move on to the next"

Thanks guys and happy Swinging

PS: is there a way to delete forum posts? I feel as though I've got enough information.

K x"

No, the delete option is only there for a few minutes.

Its here for eternity now.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x"

PERSONAL PREFERENCE!

that clear enough for you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Search by user name "Asian" this will get you anyone with Asian in their usernames such as "Asian lover" etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Focus on preferences that include not exclude you - it's much more rewarding that way

I would say that your figure of 80% is ridiculously exagerated from the reality though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah oh well.

I think I've been respectful So I should hopefully have nothing to worry about!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

YES

that has been the resounding answer.

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Ah oh well.

I think I've been respectful So I should hopefully have nothing to worry about!"

Wait a minute...Do you have any preferences OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sounds good man. Will try that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

To be honest I'm a open kind of guy

You can check my profile but i guess some sort of mutual attraction should be there right?

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Sounds good man. Will try that"

try quoting the people you are replying to... at the bottom of their post, there is a bit that says "reply privately, reply in forum, quote"

Use the quote when you are answering someone and it much easier to follow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sounds good man. Will try that

try quoting the people you are replying to... at the bottom of their post, there is a bit that says "reply privately, reply in forum, quote"

Use the quote when you are answering someone and it much easier to follow."

Thanks Will do from now on!

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"To be honest I'm a open kind of guy

You can check my profile but i guess some sort of mutual attraction should be there right?"

OP I just checked your profile and I honestly couldn't even tell you were asian.

By the way your only 23 years old you joined a week ago and you live in a pent house in London, tee hee

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To be honest I'm a open kind of guy

You can check my profile but i guess some sort of mutual attraction should be there right?

OP I just checked your profile and I honestly couldn't even tell you were asian.

By the way your only 23 years old you joined a week ago and you live in a pent house in London, tee hee

Hahaha I know I know

In case your wondering its not mine I could not afford that!. Its me and my dad but he travels for work and is away most of the time!

AndI guess your right! I do need to give it more time. I think I got condfused with how long I've actually been on here, after sending messages a few times it seems like a while.

I guess it might be a age thing aswell as i am pretty young.

Thanks for pointing out those bits I shall make amends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Focus on preferences that include not exclude you - it's much more rewarding that way

I would say that your figure of 80% is ridiculously exagerated from the reality though"

Agree, closer to 79.9%

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Focus on preferences that include not exclude you - it's much more rewarding that way

I would say that your figure of 80% is ridiculously exagerated from the reality though

Agree, closer to 79.9%"

I rounded up. My bad

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By *annyblackMan over a year ago

Manchester

I will tell u the truth n I'm gonna be honest even though it's entirely my opinion..Yes people have their preferences and they ve a right to. But most Asians (not all), keep their Asian women at home but they want to ve fun with women from other races...I don't know if they believe their women are more sacred than other women or there are other reasons which I'm not aware of...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its just personal preference. I'm in the same boat, I seem to keep running into dead ends. With preferences;

1) no single males

2) age limits

3) no bisexual men

4) no Asians

Just keep at it, there is someone out there for all of us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they've put it on their profile you wouldn't want to meet them anyway mate. One of the key rules of swinging... don't do anything everyone isn't completely comfortable doing. Just keep on looking and you'll find the right people

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Ouch.

It's okay OP I'm sure you have a private gym attached to your luxury penthouse where you live

I'm not even bullshitting but its like 20secs away.

Literally take the elevator and turn left and it's there

I should go more"

Tee hee I like you OP, you're naturally lazy and funny

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By *qua vitaeWoman over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Indeed, some people say it's personal preference. I've met Asians, Afro-Caribbeans and Africans, as well as whites. The difference between the cultures as I've found them is that some Asians seem more pushy and may put off some.

I'm Australian, so people may not want to meet an Aussie.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Isn't tea actually FROM India?"

I think China...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have ppl say fit ppl only but i dont start a thread up crying about it. Do yourself a favour delete your profile. Trying to play the race card

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Isn't tea actually FROM India?"

China tea isn't. I'm not sure about Yorkshire tea but I suspect so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow thread going seriously off topic

Just to reiterate, appreciate other people's preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

Thanks I appreciate your insight.

Im british Asian not muslim at all in fact Im sikh.

My dads from england as well and I hold NONE of those stereotypes listed above

I dont know how to disassociate myself from that horrible stereotype chances are I never will be. The act of few define a race in our society

lol getting a bit dramtic

k x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

LOL funny post. Don't know why you have brought Religion into it. Indians can be Hindu, Sikh, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met a few nice Indian men. They were all very nice westernised men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

LOL funny post. Don't know why you have brought Religion into it. Indians can be Hindu, Sikh, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim etc.

We are well aware of that....

Why religion?

I suppose because like a lot of people we do suffer from Islamphobia...

Most if not all our issues have been and are with Muslim Asians...

Despite our best efforts not too.

TBH we have no issues with Sikhs, or Hindu's.

And as we said there are some very attractive Asian cpls on here.

We have found that some Asian men pretend not to be Asian saying they are Portuguese or South American etc.

why would they do that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

Thanks I appreciate your insight.

Im british Asian not muslim at all in fact Im sikh.

My dads from england as well and I hold NONE of those stereotypes listed above

I dont know how to disassociate myself from that horrible stereotype chances are I never will be. The act of few define a race in our society

lol getting a bit dramtic

k x

We are sorry to stereotype you...

However, you clearly understand why....

You are right it is a bit serious, But I bet a huge number of fabbers will have issues with meeting Muslim men..

Which we now know you are not....or so you say...

Uncomfortable? Yes...but very true

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Just to clarify....."jokes" about abusing children is never going to be acceptable for this site as Admin won't allow it.

If anyone does post anything of this nature can people just report it rather than keep quoting and bringing it back to the top.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?! "

Not racist at all....people are entitled to an opinion.

The PC Brigade cause way too many problems...

The recent cases with Pakistani men in Rotherham prove that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?!

Not racist at all....people are entitled to an opinion.

The PC Brigade cause way too many problems...

The recent cases with Pakistani men in Rotherham prove that!!!

How would you define racism then? If not making automatic negative assumptions based on someone's ethnic background?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?!

Not racist at all....people are entitled to an opinion.

The PC Brigade cause way too many problems...

The recent cases with Pakistani men in Rotherham prove that!!!

How would you define racism then? If not making automatic negative assumptions based on someone's ethnic background?"

As we said much was gained from our personal experiences...

However, if you read between the lines of what we are saying you might see that we are not comfortable with our feelings of Islamaphobia..

For the very reasons you state.

Nonetheless , it is how we feel.

And, we suspect many many other people feel the same.

But, point taken and noted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha was going to message you OP but seems you have a preference for people who only have a pic on their profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x

People have "whites only" no fatties etc. No one has to justify their preferences, if I'm not for them I don't waste one nano second wondering why!

I don't understand why people focus on those NOT interested in them, opposed to those that are!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?!

Not racist at all....people are entitled to an opinion.

The PC Brigade cause way too many problems...

The recent cases with Pakistani men in Rotherham prove that!!!

Recent cases in Rotherham ???

And don't forgot those historic cases about those other peado Asian's Jimmy saville, Stuart Hall, Rolf Harris, Max Clifford, Gary Glitter, Ian Watkins, Johnston king et al

Bloody Asians hey

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By *irentwoCouple over a year ago

Gloucestershire

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

That's a blatantly racist and disgusting post. You judge an entire race on the actions of a few....racism!

Some white men beat up or cheat on their wives, some white men are rude....does that mean to be I can safely assume all white men do these things?!

Not racist at all....people are entitled to an opinion.

The PC Brigade cause way too many problems...

The recent cases with Pakistani men in Rotherham prove that!!!

Recent cases in Rotherham ???

And don't forgot those historic cases about those other peado Asian's Jimmy saville, Stuart Hall, Rolf Harris, Max Clifford, Gary Glitter, Ian Watkins, Johnston king et al

Bloody Asians hey

Yeah to be honest it sounds a bit racist to me.

Also above^ very valid point. Whit , black all sorts of races can be just as bad or even worse. Its a shame my race would be defined by what the media publicise.

To be fair if we really want to get into it my own race disgusts me sometimes, when you hear about stuff like the India bus rape it really pushes things way back for people like me.

Take this; I was in Newquay recently and my god I was getting stated at dirty looks left right and center. We had gone there to go out and have good time but after a walk around with the stares and stuff we decided all that would happen would be trouble.

Now that for me hurt. The fact that I just walking into a town like that with no bad reputation yet still getting stared at and dirty looks, you could say I was paranoid but me my father and a few friends agreed that there was definenty a racist undertone there.

Didn't really expect to cause this much of a storm but it's getting interesting to say the least!

Keep your replies coming in regardless of opinion.

K x

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Welcome to the forum....I am sure by your attitude and good looks you will find someone who will want to meet....just avoid the people who are not likely to want to meet you.

Join in on the forum and maybe get yourself to a social, it may open doors up for you.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Welcome to the forum....I am sure by your attitude and good looks you will find someone who will want to meet....just avoid the people who are not likely to want to meet you.

Join in on the forum and maybe get yourself to a social, it may open doors up for you.

Good luck

Aw thanks

Really appreciate that! And yes I will become more active on forums

Happy Swinging!

K x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, color/nationality aint a problem for me as its just the pussey I want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Despite the clumsiness of the above ^

...they have highlighted an interesting point. This point is that many traditional Islamic communities across Britain feature some particularly archaic and duplicitous standards regarding women - particularly white, western women, hold sway. It does not do anyone credit to dismiss this.

(It should be born in mind that many UK nationals hold the same dismissive view towards women... oh how far feminism has to go...)

However, that said, to extrapolate the behaviour of one group or subset - however large - and apply it to ALL members of a group indiscriminately is not only morally and ethically wrong it is (even worse) logically untenable.

While I have some 'hard limits' regarding who I find attractive I always prefer to judge the individual without reference to preconceptions (however difficult that may be at times), life is, I find, much more fun that way!

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By *ionicfingerMan over a year ago

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Is that because of the penthouse lol

Just saying ... That could be your "preference"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is that because of the penthouse lol

Just saying ... That could be your "preference""

What's wrong with having a penthouse?

;)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And don't forgot those historic cases about those other peado Asian's Jimmy saville, Stuart Hall, Rolf Harris, Max Clifford, Gary Glitter, Ian Watkins, Johnston king et al

Bloody Asians hey

Well tbh in cases of child grooming gangs since the early 90's 91% of convictions have been Muslim males.

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

We dont like indians

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

LOL funny post. Don't know why you have brought Religion into it. Indians can be Hindu, Sikh, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim etc.

We are well aware of that....

Why religion?

I suppose because like a lot of people we do suffer from Islamphobia...

Most if not all our issues have been and are with Muslim Asians...

Despite our best efforts not too.

TBH we have no issues with Sikhs, or Hindu's.

And as we said there are some very attractive Asian cpls on here.

We have found that some Asian men pretend not to be Asian saying they are Portuguese or South American etc.

why would they do that?

"
why would they do that?! Maybe because there are people like yourselves who not only think all " Asians are the same and fit into the stereo typical stuff you recon, and they must all be muslims and after all " a lot if people have Islamphobia" really?! And you ask why they feel the need to say they are not the type ,you choose to put into boxes? Goodness me! Heard it all now!

you have no problems with sikhs or Hindus ... Is that before or after you have established they are not Muslim?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So lying about themselves to get a meet with somone who specifically days they don't want to meet somone with their a tributes is acceptable to you?

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"So lying about themselves to get a meet with somone who specifically days they don't want to meet somone with their a tributes is acceptable to you?"
are you talking to me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm, i'm just going to say hello. Hopefully those who know me, speak to me or have met me think differently of me. Fingers crossed i disprove all these stereotypes many may have.

..it is a bit

when you read comments like above. I don't want people thinking that about me, especially before they've even met me or spoken to me.

Nonetheless, everyone's entitled to their opinion.

Good luck OP.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Erm, i'm just going to say hello. Hopefully those who know me, speak to me or have met me think differently of me. Fingers crossed i disprove all these stereotypes many may have.

..it is a bit

when you read comments like above. I don't want people thinking that about me, especially before they've even met me or spoken to me.

Nonetheless, everyone's entitled to their opinion.

Good luck OP.

"
exactly Pops! Fucking vex's me to the core... And I for one would never think that of you or any others for that matter... All this stereo typical bull shit is absurd

Sarah X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Erm, i'm just going to say hello. Hopefully those who know me, speak to me or have met me think differently of me. Fingers crossed i disprove all these stereotypes many may have.

..it is a bit

when you read comments like above. I don't want people thinking that about me, especially before they've even met me or spoken to me.

Nonetheless, everyone's entitled to their opinion.

Good luck OP.

Thanks man!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

OP... You will find plenty of people who will respect you and be polite as well ... Good Luck and Welcome to fabs asylum! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP... You will find plenty of people who will respect you and be polite as well ... Good Luck and Welcome to fabs asylum! Lol

Hey,

Thanks for that really nice of you to say!

K x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So lying about themselves to get a meet with somone who specifically days they don't want to meet somone with their a tributes is acceptable to you? are you talking to me?"

Well you do seem to be suggesting it's ok to lie about who you are to get around someones preferences.

Just which ones do you think it's ok to do?

Race, religion, bareback preference, sexuality, gender?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am a Yorkshire man of Asian origin.

I have been fortunate to have met people that have stated no Asians. The forums are good place to start.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"So lying about themselves to get a meet with somone who specifically days they don't want to meet somone with their a tributes is acceptable to you? are you talking to me?

Well you do seem to be suggesting it's ok to lie about who you are to get around someones preferences.

Just which ones do you think it's ok to do?

Race, religion, bareback preference, sexuality, gender?"
I didn't say that, I said is it any wonder some may say they from somwhere eles if they are assumed to be the stereo typical Asian 'muslim' that the poster, who I was replying to suggested? You have taken my point outta context and there is a huge difference ( to me anyway!) of someone having a preferance and being rude about it !

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By *candiumWoman over a year ago

oban

oh dear. What a mess.

didn't an Indian write the Karma Sutra?

just saying like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a few Asian guys at partys.... No conversation x bad breath x n one decided to say I want you.

He had to be told in the end to stay away from me cos I wasn't interested.

.... Sexual attraction is what counts x

Saying that ... The op isn't a shortie like the guy at the party but he is way to young x

Enjoy yourself x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x

PERSONAL PREFERENCE!

that clear enough for you?

More racism, then preference.

There I said it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey

I get that part and yes I do have some preferences.

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

Please just focus on those open to meeting you and attend one of the many socials, etc advertised on Fabs. I am sure when peeps meet you in person, find out that you are a wonderful guy, that you will get veris and meets then you will be off and running!

The hard fact is if peeps don't want to meet, they don't want to meet-for whatever reason, whether they tell you or not.

The gentle, sweet fact is that many will meet you. Your time is better spent finding those people than bothering with this topic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies! they have been offering some insight but some go without saying to be honest.

Let me state i'm not trying to change anyones mind if they put "no asians" I wont respond why bother?

Im just trying to see the possible reasons as to why the "no asians" on peoples profiles.

look forward to your replies

k x

PERSONAL PREFERENCE!

that clear enough for you?

More racism, then preference.

There I said it."

So where it says "No white/northern european/milk bottle people," on your profile that's racism is it?

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

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By *an_WoodMan over a year ago

Stafford

"Hey

I get that part and yes I do have some preferences.

All I was saying is that If so many put that on their profiles what should I do?

K x

The hard fact is if peeps don't want to meet, they don't want to meet-for whatever reason, whether they tell you or not.

The gentle, sweet fact is that many will meet you. Your time is better spent finding those people than bothering with this topic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes we all have preferences but to state such a ignorant statement “no Asians or blacks” is just down right rude & offensive. Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean you have the right to offend!! It's simple if a Asian or black guy messages you & your not interested simply delete or block. No Asians or blacks sounds like the dark ages when people use to put that in their b&b windows. Shame on you all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guilty as charged!!

that was a long time coming my friend had to be said to help them out after complaining they weren't getting anywhere with the ladies. What do they expect with such crude usernames.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Sorry but no way do 80% of the profiles say whites only etc. That is a massive exaggeration.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that. "

I see you are new to the forums, welcome and a tip if you want to talk to someone directly you can hit " + quote" under the persons comment you wish to reply to. That will then highlight the comment in grey and your writing will appear in black.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that.

"
thank you for tip of the day! X

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"No I don't agree with that either. You should never offend someone on colour race religion. Simple as that.

thank you for tip of the day! X"

Happy to help.

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By *evilish_intentionsMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yes we all have preferences but to state such a ignorant statement “no Asians or blacks” is just down right rude & offensive. Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean you have the right to offend!! It's simple if a Asian or black guy messages you & your not interested simply delete or block. No Asians or blacks sounds like the dark ages when people use to put that in their b&b windows. Shame on you all. "

Just missing the "no dogs" eh! Tbh, I don't necessarily feel offended by it, but it does make me question how 'integrated' we really are as a society. Don't get me wrong, I agree/appreciate that some people have a 'type', ie: Blonde hair, blue eyes, but it does still seem a little crass to make such a sweeping statement. Personally I feel there are different layers of "attraction" and every person out there is different. For example, some of the 'no blacks' couples/fems may actually find "Will Smith" to be a very funny, handsome and attractive man...

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By *evilish_intentionsMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"I met a few Asian guys at partys.... No conversation x bad breath x n one decided to say I want you.

He had to be told in the end to stay away from me cos I wasn't interested.

.... Sexual attraction is what counts x

Saying that ... The op isn't a shortie like the guy at the party but he is way to young x

Enjoy yourself x

Lol, that does sound nasty. The reality is though, it sounds like you came across a group of 'imports'. Do you guys not come across other 'normal' asian/black guys in your day to day life? At work for example? & by normal, I'm talking about people that have grown up listening to the same music as you, watching the same tv shows; believe it or not, even eating the same food as you and using the same brand of toothpaste

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm a little confused here. I'm a 'milk bottle' person but also have a deep, natural suntan at this time of year - which means I'm in! But next February, my tan will have faded so I'll be out.

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By *tirling DarkCouple over a year ago

Stirling

"Focus on preferences that include not exclude you - it's much more rewarding that way

I would say that your figure of 80% is ridiculously exagerated from the reality though

Agree, closer to 79.9%

I rounded up. My bad"

no, you exaggerated the %!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Isn't tea actually FROM India?"

China. We started off the cultivation in India.

I have no problem with asian chaps of any background. Happy to meet them.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Having been married to an Indian man before I met Mr N I witnessed many instances if lazy thinking, casual racism and outright nastiness from people not wanting to live next door to us because "the smell of curry seeps through the walls" to "friends" telling me their boyfriends enjoyed "Paki bashing" and worse.

Not wanting to have.sex with a certain members of a certain group of people is fine but making sweeping, ill informed statements about ANY group of human beings isn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a little confused here. I'm a 'milk bottle' person but also have a deep, natural suntan at this time of year - which means I'm in! But next February, my tan will have faded so I'll be out. "

I got a natural tan baby!! Au naturaaaale.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I'm a little confused here. I'm a 'milk bottle' person but also have a deep, natural suntan at this time of year - which means I'm in! But next February, my tan will have faded so I'll be out.

I got a natural tan baby!! Au naturaaaale.

Lol my first husband used to laugh about the people who judged him by the colour of his skin then spent huge amounts of time, effort and money to get the same colour. As Steve illustrates so well you're the same person on the inside whatever colour the outside is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow it's like going back in time in here. If you don't want to meet someone based on their colour surely a nice polite decline is all that's needed rather than insult people. Milk Bottle people et al

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. If youve quoted them then they have gone too sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a little confused here. I'm a 'milk bottle' person but also have a deep, natural suntan at this time of year - which means I'm in! But next February, my tan will have faded so I'll be out.

I got a natural tan baby!! Au naturaaaale.

To be honest. It doesn't really bother me what people think. Well, not anymore anyway. It was a shock to my system when i first joined the site, i was giving out messages and face pics but the abuse i got returned was a bit

. That did put me off meeting or even going to parties/socials for the first year or two.

I never used to get abuse like that outsite of fab and i used to find a bit disheartening when i thought to myself 'i'd sign up to a site where people may be a bit more openminded and non judgemental'. Not tarnishing everybody with the same brush - but, it was due to those messages i stopped messaging and got myself in to the forums.

But now, looking back, maybe i was a bit more naive back then and now i'm not too fussed really. I still get the abuse but it doesn't bother me no more. The way i see it - thank fuck i didn't end up meeting them.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Why would I allow someone to waste their time (and mine) when I'm not going to be interested?

Having sex with someone isn't like renting a room to someone

Renting a room doesn't require attraction. Sex does (usually). Renting a room isn't a personal thing. Sex is (usually).

Prostitutes could be considered the equivalent of renting a room in a B&B.

People looking for recreational sex are absolutely within their rights to have selection criteria, even if that upsets those that feel excluded.

Some people on here, and in every day life, don't fancy fat women. It's attraction, or the lack thereof, not discrimination!

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By *evilish_intentionsMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"Ive removed posts. If youve quoted them then they have gone too sorry."

No probs, thanks for the heads up. You guys do a great job.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP always remember their is someone for everyone. Just persevere, ignore the shite from those who's mouths it leaks and focus on the positives of others. Thick skin and a laid back attitude is what is needed on this site and it seems you have both.

Good Luck OP and Have Fun

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"I met a few Asian guys at partys.... No conversation x bad breath x n one decided to say I want you.

He had to be told in the end to stay away from me cos I wasn't interested.

.... Sexual attraction is what counts x

Saying that ... The op isn't a shortie like the guy at the party but he is way to young x

Enjoy yourself x

Lol, that does sound nasty. The reality is though, it sounds like you came across a group of 'imports'.

I think that sounds just as nasty

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

My take on the " no this and no that" on a profile is.....yes I know it is preferences and we can all have them....but our preferences are in our head and if someone mails us that are not in that preference we just say no thanks.

I personally think it looks awful to have shouty letters saying no this that or the other( be that fat/ thin/ colour/ sexual orientation etc.... I am guessing most people know it will offend some people and I don't know why they would want to do that.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My take on the " no this and no that" on a profile is.....yes I know it is preferences and we can all have them....but our preferences are in our head and if someone mails us that are not in that preference we just say no thanks.

What about not having shouty letters but still stating what you're looking for, to prevent wasting anyone's time?

If a bloke doesn't want to meet fat women, there's no need to rant or be insulting, but I'd rather know not to bother messaging him.

Perhaps that's an unusual way to feel?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

What about not having shouty letters but still stating what you're looking for, to prevent wasting anyone's time?

If a bloke doesn't want to meet fat women, there's no need to rant or be insulting, but I'd rather know not to bother messaging him.

Perhaps that's an unusual way to feel?"

I can understand what you mean and yes preferences are good to show....if someone wants tall dark handsome men there isn't a problem for me to say it.....it is more the " I don't want this, I don't want that" type of thing I mean. A lot of people don't have what they are looking for just what they don't wan't.

I think it is more about the context and how it is said more than what is being said if you see what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I state my preferences on my profile but it doesn't mean that I am homophobic or racist. Guys having sex with guys and men with dark skin do not appeal to me sexually. It doesnt mean that i avoid these men in real life as friends etc. I have been accused of being anti bi men, racist, shallow etc. I am none of those, I just dont want to have sex with them.

I am sorry that the OP has suffered any form of abuse based on his race/colour.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

What about not having shouty letters but still stating what you're looking for, to prevent wasting anyone's time?

If a bloke doesn't want to meet fat women, there's no need to rant or be insulting, but I'd rather know not to bother messaging him.

Perhaps that's an unusual way to feel?

I think it is more about the context and how it is said more than what is being said if you see what I mean?"

Yes, I see what you mean.

I tried to have a balance on my profile. I give some information about what appeals to me (also hints on what to put into a message to get my attention) as well as the things that are "deal breakers".

It saves, say, smokers wasting time messaging and me wasting time dealing with it when I won't, under any circumstances, be interested in meeting them.

It would also, if people bothered to read and understand it, save the butthurt abuse from, say, smokers when I turn them down.

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By *evilish_intentionsMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think that sounds just as nasty

Can appreciate where you are coming from, but in context, I was just pointing out that two people that will have been brought up in much the same way are unlikely to have any problems communicating with one another on the grounds of their skin colour...

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By *orrow my wifeCouple over a year ago

Brighton

I very much like indians and pakistanis ...

Its personel preference as to who we fuck simples!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Yes, I see what you mean.

It saves, say, smokers wasting time messaging and me wasting time dealing with it when I won't, under any circumstances, be interested in meeting them.

It would also, if people bothered to read and understand it, save the butthurt abuse from, say, smokers when I turn them down."

I think in the context of the first post, smoking etc is not included in what I was thinking about. It was more offending people for their colour/ sexual choice/ size etc

Now that you get abuse from people who smoke does it not tempt you to take it off and just say no thanks to smokers without the need to explain anything?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure if this will offend the o p but in my view if you are born in britain you are british and not asian either one or the other in my view.

Its about perceptions and integration by this it comes across to me as not fully acceoting britain as birthplace.

Sorry of it uosets anyone especially the o p who i expect is a genuinely nice guy but by posing the question a opinion is justified.

The no asian statuses folk put on is no different to putting as some do ssying only wants black its a preference and race should never be brought into it as it does.

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Just gonna say, am not entirely in agreement. Now one of my preferences is "No Bi guys, TV/TS/CD's" as far as meeting goes, but chatting/socialising makes no difference to me as I'll chat to anyone. I however only put it on my profile in the last couple of years after being harassed by a number of bi guys on a weekly basis.

And their justification?

"Well, a profile is for putting what you want or don't want, you haven't got on your profile that you're not interested so how was I to know".

I ignored the first bi guy that said this, but when it became a repeat occurrence and I was tired of blocking (after receiving abuse) and reporting (and no outcome from admin) I eventually took ownership of the issue and put "No bi guys".

Am I going back to the "dark ages" by putting what I don't want? I don't believe so, but if am gonna be damned if I do and damned if I don't, I'd rather communicate clearly.

I am and will always be a pro-preference player. Simple example: Am not a 6ft tall, uniform wearing, rugby playing white male, but if I came across a profile that wanted (any combination of these) and ruled me out, I would more than happily respect their preferences and move on. In fact, I'd appreciate that they did communicate clearly their preferences. No one is psychic.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Yes, I see what you mean.

It saves, say, smokers wasting time messaging and me wasting time dealing with it when I won't, under any circumstances, be interested in meeting them.

It would also, if people bothered to read and understand it, save the butthurt abuse from, say, smokers when I turn them down.

I think in the context of the first post, smoking etc is not included in what I was thinking about. It was more offending people for their colour/ sexual choice/ size etc

Now that you get abuse from people who smoke does it not tempt you to take it off and just say no thanks to smokers without the need to explain anything?"

Some people are offended by being excluded by people's preferences, regardless of what they are.

No, I'm not tempted to take it off my profile. It might prevent some smokers from messaging me and it means I can, without so much as a twinge of guilt, delete messages from smokers without reading them or replying. (If someone does match my preferences I usually reply even if it's a no thanks).

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I know Ahabs.... sometimes you can't win either way so why I wouldn't dream of telling anyone how to use their own profile.

I was just explaining how we choose to use ours and how some other profiles make me cringe

I think there are sometimes better of saying some things

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By *rincealbertxMan over a year ago

Germany

If people aren't open minded I suggest their attractiveness is severely diminished. Move along and find someone you are attracted to, that is open minded!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"I know Ahabs.... sometimes you can't win either way so why I wouldn't dream of telling anyone how to use their own profile.

I was just explaining how we choose to use ours and how some other profiles make me cringe

I think there are sometimes better of saying some things

FFS third time lucky....that should have said

" I just think at times there are better ways of saying things."

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I know Ahabs.... sometimes you can't win either way so why I wouldn't dream of telling anyone how to use their own profile.

I was just explaining how we choose to use ours and how some other profiles make me cringe

I think there are sometimes better of saying some things

FFS third time lucky....that should have said

" I just think at times there are better ways of saying things."

Typing one handed Ruggers?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

One finger !

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"One finger ! "

Not to you I might add... just on the keyboard

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Ahabs a question....as you are a straight man and looking for females or couples why would anyone say you should put no bi's on your profile so they don't mail you?

Surely it is plain enough so I wouldn't pander to anyone to change our profile if they didn't fit what we were looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Indeed, some people say it's personal preference. I've met Asians, Afro-Caribbeans and Africans, as well as whites. The difference between the cultures as I've found them is that some Asians seem more pushy and may put off some.

I'm Australian, so people may not want to meet an Aussie.

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An hussie or an Aussie..

down under in the Bush.. one with pubes.

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Ahabs a question....as you are a straight man and looking for females or couples why would anyone say you should put no bi's on your profile so they don't mail you?

Surely it is plain enough so I wouldn't pander to anyone to change our profile if they didn't fit what we were looking for."

Oh I completely agree, the search criteria should make it clear. But seeing as there were several (for lack of a better word) "geniuses" that needed some verbal roadmap (I should be appreciative .. it showed they actually read my profile), I felt I best make sure they have no excuse and do them a favour.

It still doesn't stop the messages though, just the abuse. Especially when I reply "So, you're the genius that thought I'd make an exception for you?" lol.

Its not pandering, but I do hope to shed light on how silly said individual is being.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's very true.

however, I don't focus on the ones with that restriction/ preference i place that would be wasting time.

i guess what I'm trying to gauge from this ad is what females on here are looking for from a guy of a Asian ethnic origin?"

becasue you're asian and always focus on the race card. FFS get over it and move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's very true.

however, I don't focus on the ones with that restriction/ preference i place that would be wasting time.

i guess what I'm trying to gauge from this ad is what females on here are looking for from a guy of a Asian ethnic origin?

becasue you're asian and always focus on the race card. FFS get over it and move on!"

And because you're non-Asian you will always blame every Asian of playing the race card when an Asian possesses an opinion

FFS get over it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey,

Newbie here, and I'm curious as to why so many profiles are "whites only etc" everyone's entitled to their own opinion and preference but at least 80% of the profiles I view have this.

I'm not mad or whiny just curious as to why this is the mindset of so many female swingers.

Hope you guys can shed some light on this!

Sincerley a confused British Asian

K x"

Yours says no single makes so I thought you would have got the choice element everyone should be able to have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At great risk of being labelled racist here are our thoughts.

We will not meet Asian Men for a variety of reasons.

.personal experience of rude, grabby Asians at Clubs.

.Asian men's attitudes to White women ....and their own women!

Double standards, Koran in one hand, can of lager in the other....

Double standards, White women and Girls seen as worthless sluts to be used...Rotherham and the dozen's of other places!

Islamaphobia.

However, there are some VERY attractive Asian cpls on Fab....but we can guarantee they are not Muslim!

That's us banned from the forums....

Rubbish..! Rubbish..!! Rubbish...!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's very true.

however, I don't focus on the ones with that restriction/ preference i place that would be wasting time.

i guess what I'm trying to gauge from this ad is what females on here are looking for from a guy of a Asian ethnic origin?

absolute crap. i've lost count the number of messages from asian guys on here and it always starts with the same opening line. "i hope your not offended by me being asian and are not in any way a racist or against coloured guys". i'ts those types of guys that make my frickin blood boil!!!

becasue you're asian and always focus on the race card. FFS get over it and move on!

And because you're non-Asian you will always blame every Asian of playing the race card when an Asian possesses an opinion

FFS get over it"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *rince Charming 69Man over a year ago

Loughborough

Personally, I adore "Indians"

Asian ladies really appeal to me, they are very beautiful!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

just

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ok we've used our discretion and tried to let this run as long as possible but Ive removed even more posts so Im calling it a day now sorry

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