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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me)  trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in
Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please |
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"Hi
Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me) trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in
Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"
No it isn't wrong of you. We always send ours if we are going to meet. The choice is yours, dance to their tune or walk away. |
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over a year ago
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Move on. I understand people keeping photos private for whatever reason but how do they expect to arrange meets if they don't send any, as far as I'm aware, this isn't blind date!! I've heard so many excuses for not sending a face pic and I'm not interested. Not wrong at all for asking especially after sending yours, my thoughts are they're not interested. |
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If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x |
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x"
I have never tried to copy a photo from fab so I don't know if thats possible but have you never considered that it's just as easy to show photos to other people on a phone? |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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"Move on. I understand people keeping photos private for whatever reason but how do they expect to arrange meets if they don't send any, as far as I'm aware, this isn't blind date!! I've heard so many excuses for not sending a face pic and I'm not interested. Not wrong at all for asking especially after sending yours, my thoughts are they're not interested."
Very much agree with this. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
You can copy photos from fab, the right click option is there.
No pictures no meet in my book - what do they think, its blind date?
Or are they going to be sat in the pub with a hard on and her tits out so you recognise them? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x"
Easy to do on a pc. Enlarge image, do a screen print, paste onto word and crop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x
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It is possible to save a photo, but you will have water mark on it. x |
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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago
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It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.
If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.
Do they have pics on Fab? perhaps not because they're worried about how that association might affect their professional status? Well they can always send a 'normal' pic to you by email or text message.
The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!
I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.
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"Hi
Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me) trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in
Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"
No excuses for no photos. Software can always be used to blur faces . I always assume that no photos means a fake profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.
If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.
Do they have pics on Fab? perhaps not because they're worried about how that association might affect their professional status? Well they can always send a 'normal' pic to you by email or text message.
The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!
I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.
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I've had a few people say they don't have any on here but can send some by text/email. I don't understand this as they're concerned about their professional status but are happy to give away personal contact details. I would never give my contact details to someone I'd not agreed to meet let alone not seen just to send a pic. If they don't have any on here its a big no and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.
Block and move on. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.
If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.
Do they have pics on Fab? perhaps not because they're worried about how that association might affect their professional status? Well they can always send a 'normal' pic to you by email or text message.
The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!
I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.
I've had a few people say they don't have any on here but can send some by text/email. I don't understand this as they're concerned about their professional status but are happy to give away personal contact details. I would never give my contact details to someone I'd not agreed to meet let alone not seen just to send a pic. If they don't have any on here its a big no and move on. "
They could have an email account specifically set up for that. I used to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.
If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.
Do they have pics on Fab? perhaps not because they're worried about how that association might affect their professional status? Well they can always send a 'normal' pic to you by email or text message.
The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!
I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.
I've had a few people say they don't have any on here but can send some by text/email. I don't understand this as they're concerned about their professional status but are happy to give away personal contact details. I would never give my contact details to someone I'd not agreed to meet let alone not seen just to send a pic. If they don't have any on here its a big no and move on.
They could have an email account specifically set up for that. I used to. "
I guess so but I haven't so would be reluctant to give my details. I see no reason for not having a pic on here but I guess they have and that's up to them. |
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"Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.
Block and move on."
Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me) trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in
Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"
Its not wrong to ask you can choose as they can you can ask to cam with them if they are cautious its normal to talk on cam with nothing sexual if they refuse that I would blow them off though. Well people out there in the vanilla world do that all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x"
Wrong sent pics can easily be copied, pasted and or saved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x
It is possible to save a photo, but you will have water mark on it. x"
Not true it's very easy to copy and or save pics sent to you should you wish to!
There will not be a water mark on it if there isn't one there to start with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think at some point before you meet they should show themselves, by pic or on cam,
maybe waiting until they are sure they want to meet before showing, how are you supposed to recognise them if meeting in a public place, your call depends how much you want to meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are they the Queen and Prince Phillip then?
Would these people that have such important professions meet with a paper bag over their heads?
Everyone has their own sets of criteria for how they use the site and thats fine but by then they also have to understand that it doesn't always suit other people
Id never arrange a meet without seeing pictures of who im meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We no longer meet people that wont send a piccy. Been caught out a time or 2 in past with this shennanigans.
Usually means one of them has been beaten with the ugly stick and one of us will be asked to take one for the team. Or it's a bloke posing as a couple. The could always put a pair of dark glasses on couldn't they.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wont even exchange messages with people who have no pictures at all on their profile, Neither of us consider looks to be that important its more the fact of them thinking that they are that special they have no need to make any effort.
And as for discretion, important job what a load of total bollocks that excuse is so pathetic it laughable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never send pics to anyone and I'm real genuine woman. If someone doesn't accept that I have no problem with it. Just cos you meet someone doesn't mean you have to play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be great if Fab had the ability to put face pics into escrow. Once the two of you have entered your face pics into escrow they both get released to each other so you can both see who each other is... at the same time. Without that it is always a power play of "we want to see your faces before you see ours" which is just such a farce. I feel if we're going to show someone our faces then, at the very least, we should see theirs... which is what happens in most cases... but you're always leaving yourself prone by going first. The escrow idea would solve that. Should I suggest it to admin?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they wont send a pic, ask for a phone chat to prove they are a couple. If they baulk, tell them they can ring you and withold their number,if they still refuse, chances are they are fake."
agree with this, ask for a phone call. if they refuse, walk away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No harm in arranging a social meet, then you will know exactly what they look like. I don't have and never will have pics on this site and it hasn't held me back. Remember the only way you will truly know what somebody/a couple look like is by meeting them. You don't have to hang around if you don't like what you see x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We wont even exchange messages with people who have no pictures at all on their profile, Neither of us consider looks to be that important its more the fact of them thinking that they are that special they have no need to make any effort.
And as for discretion, important job what a load of total bollocks that excuse is so pathetic it laughable.
Gimp "
You'd be surprised with some professions how seriously they take their employees being on a site like this. Definitely not worth the risk. And if photos are such a big issue, I just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.
Block and move on.
Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt
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I know from personal experience! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.
Block and move on.
Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt
I know from personal experience!"
Yep a phone call first is good, but there is no guaranteed way of knowing what anyone looks like without a social meet first. Anyone can put fake photos up. |
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We encounter this and it's plain bizarre aka time wasters
We all like to protect our identities. Totally get folks wanting to be careful but we've met people of numerous backgrounds and professions but all with pics up front
Blind dates no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We encounter this and it's plain bizarre aka time wasters
We all like to protect our identities. Totally get folks wanting to be careful but we've met people of numerous backgrounds and professions but all with pics up front
Blind dates no thanks "
It's not a blind date in the blind date sense (with the possibility of a relationship to follow), but the only true way of knowing if someone is fake or not. And lets face it if they are really fake they won't show! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sod them. Even if they were in a sensitive job they can send body shots and you will get a feel for whether genuine or not.
You then meet up and if they have faces like a welders bench you can then walk away with no obligation...
If it feels/sounds dodgy it's not worth the hassle M8 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't meet without seeing a pic first, and always a social first meet anyway. Some people don't want to send pics but I'm fine with that and I respect their wishes but won't meet them. |
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"really appreciate the support and advice guys I guess I should give up on meeting a couple for now  I give people too much faith "
By the way did you know that if you have sent someone a picture on here and no longer wish them to have it if you delete it from your profile it will disappear from the message you sent them too? Obviously this wont solve the problem of them saving it elsewhere but not everyone does that |
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x"
your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So just a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes |
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So just a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes"
I have just had a go and it really is a matter of two clicks to save a picture to the desk top, no determination needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds. |
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So tjust a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes
I have just had a go and it really is a matter of two clicks to save a picture to the desk top, no determination needed."
ok just pathetic desperate assholes then :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds."
Do you work for MI5 lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds."
Snapchat?
Pics can still be screenshot x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"really appreciate the support and advice guys I guess I should give up on meeting a couple for now I give people too much faith
By the way did you know that if you have sent someone a picture on here and no longer wish them to have it if you delete it from your profile it will disappear from the message you sent them too? Obviously this wont solve the problem of them saving it elsewhere but not everyone does that "
Really? thats pretty awesome think I might just do that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find people who refuse pics are ones posing as someone different or have you ever thought of the possibility that they might know you which could be another reason for stalling.
Cut your losses and move on mate. If they continue to mail you just block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've started a thread in the site suggestions forum about the idea of a face pic escrow system. If you feel that would help maybe give it a thumbs up  "
A good idea but would only work if everyone has face pics on here which they don't. I've spoken to many people who don't have face pics on here and send them by text/e-mail |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.
Snapchat?
Pics can still be screenshot x"
no similar I believe,it's called tiger text.
True, you can still screenshot but if you're anything like me the mere fact that you've got X amount of seconds to view from when it's sent, taking a screenshot was the last thing on my mind lol.... |
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I have to say that we have never had an issue with face pictures. People request ours we send and they send back or vice versa, quite a lot of people couples and single men attach them to a first message too. I wonder if our age gives an impression of reliability or respectability. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't send face pics but we are willing to go on cam to show ourselves but this doesn't make us dodgy or fake it's just I don't always trust face pics as they could be of anyone where as on cam your seeing for real. This is our choice and it's gone ok upto now  |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.
Do you work for MI5 lol xx"
Sounds more like the opening sequences of Mission Impossible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.
Do you work for MI5 lol xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion
Good luck x"
Yes you can, or you can screen shot it. Even if they disabled right click you can just nab it from the page code, Or even from your browser cache.
If you're seeing it on your pc or your phone you've downloaded a copy of it. |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.
There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.
Snapchat?
Pics can still be screenshot x
no similar I believe,it's called tiger text.
True, you can still screenshot but if you're anything like me the mere fact that you've got X amount of seconds to view from when it's sent, taking a screenshot was the last thing on my mind lol...."
And there are plenty of as that automatically save the pictures for you as soon as they arrive. For all the snap chat copies these apps exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let me get this right. They ask to see a pic of you, but won't send you a pic of them. Absolutely shocking etiquette. I would definitely give them a wide berth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let me get this right. They ask to see a pic of you, but won't send you a pic of them. Absolutely shocking etiquette. I would definitely give them a wide berth."
We find that often they want to meet but refuse to show what they look like first, all we know is they have a cock and a pussy.
Now as far as we are concerned our time is very limited usually to weekends and then not every weekend.
If we are not attracted to them why would we waste a weekend meeting up ! ( and them us of course)
As for this ' I'm a professional' what a load of crap. |
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Plenty more choice OP 
