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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

seems you have met atleast one, doing better than some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "

You only been on here 2 months,you need to give it time,some guys wait a lot longer before they get a meet..

Before sending emails make sure they are looking for guys,you are in their age range ect.

Gook luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same here, no meet and been on here for ages...... so many ignorant people around, if i dont fit the bill then id rather know the reason than just no reply.

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

"Same here, no meet and been on here for ages...... so many ignorant people around, if i dont fit the bill then id rather know the reason than just no reply.

And why do you think you are automatically entitled to a reply?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "

Time, perserverance, common sense...

took me 6 months to get my first meet.. but i spent that time surveying the landscape, going to clubs, going to socials, going into the chatrooms, going onto the forums, and getting myself known....

you get out what you put in...

what have you "put in" so far...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its really hard for guys on Fab due to the sheer amount but keep being a regular in the forums, mabye get to the social nights too? we find it hard too sometimes

As for the no replies, some peoples inbox is just always so full, and they cant answer all the emaila but also some people just cant be bothered replying.

Just keep positive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

be patient.... yes it is hard to get a meet as a single guy but more the fun when you do!!!!

so just relax , send your messages be yourself and it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And why do you think you are automatically entitled to a reply?

Is it not called decency?

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By *hattyman80Man over a year ago

stockport

I think if you get on the forums it really helps I've been here 3 weeks and chatted to some amazing people and I've got a meet this week and potentially another and I've been invited to things too. I genuinely think the forums are the reason

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By *stwoCouple over a year ago

anywhere

we feel if a single guy has an ad its always very strange to have females in all their profile pics.we assume this is for their ego and not for others interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know a few single men that have lots of female interest maybe its all to do with the interaction with the ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More pictures would be nice, i cant tell what you look like from the one on the beach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And why do you think you are automatically entitled to a reply?

Is it not called decency?"

Yes! You win! You and all the other people who say it's bad manners not to reply. I've changed sides. You win. You are right. Every one should reply.

No matter that they get lots of mail. No matter that it is a full time job replying. No matter that when they say no thankyou they get back ' Please tell me why? and then are expected to spend the rest of the week giving in depth analysis on personalities that they know NOTHING of and by testimony of the delete button didn't want to.

Come to think of it ..... you are SO GODDAM right. Manners are EVERYTHING. SO .....would you please stop messaging people. They didn't ask for your messages. It's indecent! I'm with you. Let's stop ALL this silly messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "

Okay kev....this my opinion and of course only that.

Read your profile. It actually says........Quote ' Looking to CHAT and MAYBE meet.

Well .. im here to meet so i'd delete you right away. A pen pal is not what I want.

Now don't come back at me and say it's not what you MEANT. It's what you SAID and our profiles are all that people have to go on.

Secondly - You use a couple of phrases that were just coined to make me barf! Not just me either..... these are :

a)I know how to treat a lady ( so fucking sir Galahad! ) We are NOT all the fucking same. One size does NOT fit all. Do you really think that women like the same things ? Do you pick em up , flower n choc them ? Fuck them ? and feel you've done a good service ?

Such a stupid cliche.

b) I love the older woman ? ( which one? insert all the stuff in the first set of brackets. We are NOT older women but the same individuals we were as girls or teens. If you didn't like us then - you won't now. Or do you suppose we all become charming grateful fuck bunnies when we reach 40 ish ? )

c) I love oral. I could stay down there all day ? ( For me that's such an immature thing to say. So laddish. So im in the pub braggin' )

Okay you hate what I say. That's fine. So you ARE a lad! Great!

Try to remember that you are attempting to appeal to women AND a very wide variety at that - you are not trying to pick up a bloke.

Thanks for putting yourself up for improvement.

You have more strength that i do in that department

Have a think. Have tons of fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great

Okay kev....this my opinion and of course only that.

Read your profile. It actually says........Quote ' Looking to CHAT and MAYBE meet.

Well .. im here to meet so i'd delete you right away. A pen pal is not what I want.

Now don't come back at me and say it's not what you MEANT. It's what you SAID and our profiles are all that people have to go on.

Secondly - You use a couple of phrases that were just coined to make me barf! Not just me either..... these are :

Such a stupid cliche.

c) I love oral. I could stay down there all day ? ( For me that's such an immature thing to say. So laddish. So im in the pub braggin' )

Okay you hate what I say. That's fine. So you ARE a lad! Great!

Try to remember that you are attempting to appeal to women AND a very wide variety at that - you are not trying to pick up a bloke.

Thanks for putting yourself up for improvement.

You have more strength that i do in that department

Have a think. Have tons of fun xxx "

I have to agree about the oral comment, it makes you sound desperate tbh. And your photo is useless can't see what you look lke from it. Andf at the end of the day, there is nothing about you whch ismore appealing than most of the other 1000 odd men on here. Maybe your first thing would be to improve your profile,make yourself seem more appealing rather than just clutching at straws with lines like "I could stay down there all day." And better pics may or may not be a good thing, most good looking men have no problem posting clear close up pics which can be seen easily by women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And why do you think you are automatically entitled to a reply?

Is it not called decency?"

Getting narcky like this is also never going to endear you to anyone. As is said above the women and couples on here get tons of messages so a lot of the time it is not feasible for them to reply. Best thing to do if you send a message and it just gets deleted is to scratch it down to experience and carry on. Don't sit there dwelling on it and getting yourself wound up wondering why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great

Okay kev....this my opinion and of course only that.

Read your profile. It actually says........Quote ' Looking to CHAT and MAYBE meet.

Well .. im here to meet so i'd delete you right away. A pen pal is not what I want.

Now don't come back at me and say it's not what you MEANT. It's what you SAID and our profiles are all that people have to go on.

Secondly - You use a couple of phrases that were just coined to make me barf! Not just me either..... these are :

Such a stupid cliche.

c) I love oral. I could stay down there all day ? ( For me that's such an immature thing to say. So laddish. So im in the pub braggin' )

Okay you hate what I say. That's fine. So you ARE a lad! Great!

Try to remember that you are attempting to appeal to women AND a very wide variety at that - you are not trying to pick up a bloke.

Thanks for putting yourself up for improvement.

You have more strength that i do in that department

Have a think. Have tons of fun xxx "

b)older women, ummm how much older, my age or the blue rinse brigade

Annoys me immenseley i have to say being referred to as the older woman, im 49 not 149 ffs, makes me feel like i should be retiring from work, pottering around the garden and having my hair done once a month at the local hair dressers

oh yes and bloody saga holidays, but hey im a grateful fuck buddy then arent i

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Same here, no meet and been on here for ages...... so many ignorant people around, if i dont fit the bill then id rather know the reason than just no reply.

Ignorant people?!!

A word to the wise: if you don't fit the bill then why would you waste your time contacting people, and more importantly why should they waste their time going over their profile and telling you where you fall short.

Personally I wouldn't want to meet you as your pictures are off putting...I don't think I'm alone in that!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "

Granny has pretty much summed it up, however, you're also limiting those that contact you.

Should a nice petite woman happen upon your profile, stating you love bbws is going to put her off.

All you need do is say you enjoy ladies of all sizes, not really that difficult is it?!!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "
BE prepared to buy a tin hat ,,,Esp if ya start moaning about not getting meets

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By *onnoisseur100Man over a year ago

Woking-ish

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great BE prepared to buy a tin hat ,,,Esp if ya start moaning about not getting meets "

good advice but just a little to late for this guy....... he jumped in with both feet!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

good advice but just a little to late for this guy....... he jumped in with both feet!"

in a sense I think that is a problem with a lot of guys... in the sense that they just think "sex site... need to get my rocks off" and just write down any old rubbish.....

as oppose to sitting down and actually just taking a step back, seeing what the site is actually like....

just taking a look at the forums, and the chatroom, and then writing something proper that then give a better feel of them

people just think of stock phrases that they think will have the most impact with the least amount of effort.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While i'm on me high dudgeon ... and before I get knocked off it .....

Im going to change my status to ...

I love Ferrari's and Money xxxx

Then im gonna pop a message over to Ferrari and Camelot sayin'

'Wanna gimme sum?'

Can't wait for it allllllll to start rolling in !!

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By *onnoisseur100Man over a year ago

Woking-ish

"While i'm on me high dudgeon ... and before I get knocked off it .....

Im going to change my status to ...

I love Ferrari's and Money xxxx

Then im gonna pop a message over to Ferrari and Camelot sayin'

'Wanna gimme sum?'

Can't wait for it allllllll to start rolling in !!"

well you won't have too far to go, will you, at least for camalot? aren't they in bootle?????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"While i'm on me high dudgeon ... and before I get knocked off it .....

Im going to change my status to ...

I love Ferrari's and Money xxxx

Then im gonna pop a message over to Ferrari and Camelot sayin'

'Wanna gimme sum?'

Can't wait for it allllllll to start rolling in !!

well you won't have too far to go, will you, at least for camalot? aren't they in bootle?????

Don't know pumpkin ..... I'll check it out but I don't think so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi all been on site a while but finding it hard to get a meet with a lady any advise would be great "

have you thought about buying a mask?

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