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Why is no one interested in our profile.
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so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Open up your message filters if you want more messages 
Like the above poster states, you're searching for the nigh on impossible so your inbox will reflect that.
Your profile also kinda reads like your more interested in webcam stuff which is ok if that's your 'bag' but most want to meet and will wonder if you're just a cam couple and wouldn't message to begin with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your age and having quite a restricted age range that you are looking for. You are looking for the unicorn on here and have to have the profile and social skills to attract them. Sorry but as an old unicorn I fell asleep reading your profile. The bit about webcamming just made my head sore. Get to some socials. Good luck. |
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Can't comment on how attractive you are as no idea what you look like. M
Your profile does come across as being mostly all about webcam, that couples with your age and the fact that you want to meet single fems under 30 who can accom means that your options are going to be very limited.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like everyone's said your young and your age range is low. We are in the sane boat. We are looking for a bi fem, we can't accom we are 22 and 23 years old.
You've just gotta keep putting yourselves out there really. If you find a magical solution please pass it our way.
We've tried abra kadabra not much luck yet, maybe swishing the wand to the left might work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is so much good advice been given all I can add is to try a social so that you get yourselves seen .
Your upper age will restrict you there are some really great older users on site who you would have serious fun with . Just enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
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Sorry guys but as you asked , here goes .
Your profile is one we would avoid as we would see you as dreamers or wannabes .
It seems all about Web cams and the elusive single bi female .
Your pics are pretty much worthless in the sense of what to expect if you did meet .
To have been on here as long as you have and still yet to be meet verified seems unfathomable .
Sorry to be critical , but that's our honest opinion  |
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"so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
Sorry guys but as you asked , here goes .
Your profile is one we would avoid as we would see you as dreamers or wannabes .
It seems all about Web cams and the elusive single bi female .
Your pics are pretty much worthless in the sense of what to expect if you did meet .
To have been on here as long as you have and still yet to be meet verified seems unfathomable .
Sorry to be critical , but that's our honest opinion "
thank you everyone for your advice. We don't take any offense as we are quite light hearted. We actually don't webcam much anymore so we should update our profile.
Our meet verification is a sad story but we have met people and never got a veri in return (not complaining, just saying)
We are in need of a profile update it seems. Thanks for the advice again. We do have other pictures... Might add some to friends only.
Also thanks for being honest. We would rather know our flaws rather than not.
We can assure anyone reading we are not wannabes. We have been to 2 clubs and played with couples on all 3 times. |
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Having read your profile, I would suggest there is too much negativity in it....ie Too many "We donts", and too many rules.
Sell what you like and what you want to explore. Its too long also...all in my own opinion.
A bit of a re-jig require. Good luck. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
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The volume of messages is proportionate to your filters, if you open them to single men open age etc watch the numbers rocket, that just means you ve loads of messages to read and delete though,
Quality over quantity  |
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I think that if you're only looking for contact from single bi ladies under 30... and not really saying what they'll get out of any meet, there isn't really any incentive to make contact.
From a couples point of view, apart from the age difference, you look great and I'm sure if you were to open up who you're looking for, you would have loads of interest. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
Sorry guys but as you asked , here goes .
Your profile is one we would avoid as we would see you as dreamers or wannabes .
It seems all about Web cams and the elusive single bi female .
Your pics are pretty much worthless in the sense of what to expect if you did meet .
To have been on here as long as you have and still yet to be meet verified seems unfathomable .
Sorry to be critical , but that's our honest opinion
thank you everyone for your advice. We don't take any offense as we are quite light hearted. We actually don't webcam much anymore so we should update our profile.
Our meet verification is a sad story but we have met people and never got a veri in return (not complaining, just saying)
We are in need of a profile update it seems. Thanks for the advice again. We do have other pictures... Might add some to friends only.
Also thanks for being honest. We would rather know our flaws rather than not.
We can assure anyone reading we are not wannabes. We have been to 2 clubs and played with couples on all 3 times."
Top tip? If you're going to clubs and meeting? Try and get a meet veri.
Many post about the great meets they've had via profiles and the forums. But without the 'evidence' of a veri many will just see it as BS - it's how it is.
Even if those you meet at a club aren't on Fab the club itself (or staff) most likely will be. People will take you far more seriously if you can show you're into more than web camming.
Good luck! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol makes a change for not seeing a single man complain here
I prefer the East 17 avatar. It made me chuckle "
Thanks and yes I will put it on, I do look like bryan there with the cap and pose lol  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it's your age, plus you're looking for a bi woman under 30 who can accommodate!
When you're seeking a "niche" you'll struggle: surely you know that?!!"
This
Except you have obviously upped the age limit to mid 40's. Still don't think it will make much difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol makes a change for not seeing a single man complain here
I prefer the East 17 avatar. It made me chuckle Thanks and yes I will put it on, I do look like bryan there with the cap and pose lol "
Thats made my day lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol makes a change for not seeing a single man complain here
I prefer the East 17 avatar. It made me chuckle Thanks and yes I will put it on, I do look like bryan there with the cap and pose lol
Thats made my day lol "
lol yw, nice day today, feeling hot hot hot, got the fan on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't say it's your age we started on here at 21 and have never encountered our age as an issue.
From one young couple to another, I personally think it's that your only looking for FF couples and woman |
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Quality is always better than quantity anyway
We don't get loads and loads of messages but then we don't want loads and loads. We only want messages from people we'd like to meet so that's cool.
It is a lot easier meeting people face to face rather than on here anyway.
Don't sweat it, you are both young, you have plenty of time...
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"I can't say it's your age we started on here at 21 and have never encountered our age as an issue.
From one young couple to another, I personally think it's that your only looking for FF couples and woman "
Wooow I thought I put MF there as well long time ago That could have been our main problem! Thank you soooo much for bringing this up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so, we have been on fab for quite a while. We see other people get a lot of attention, when we go to clubs we hear stories of people getting too many
messages and we really can't relate. Is it something in our profile or are we really that unattractive or come across as unfriendly or is it our age. We have met with people in clubs and they say they will verify but that only seems to be one sided...
Please give your advice.. Thanks
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Avoid all with a Sydney uni disclaimer,Avoid younger than your children (our motto) Avoid anyone that states send pics and we will return!!
Fairly pretentious profile to be fair searching for whats not really about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others have said, try using your profile to state what you want, rather than what you don't.
Look at your profile as your shop window, dress it temptingly and who knows, the door bell might chime!
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So, some views from this unicorn....
Guessing you may have altered your profile already, as I can't see much wrong with it, apart from (as others have stated) overuse of negative connotations. If it wasn't for location I would have contacted you.
Rather, try putting 'we do...' Or 'we will...' Not sure if it helps much though, as I'm not getting as much interest from couples (lots of single men though) as I was told I'd get either lol.
I think I'm too fussy...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Correct the spelling error 'drop of the hat' not bat and get rid of the Sydney rubbish as it's meaningless crap and then your profile won't appear so long |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
+1 on the Sydney thing...if it hadn't already been said, I'd be asking why OP suggests that others use it...taking someone else's advice is one thing, but when you cut and paste it wholesale, it becomes your advice, and should therefore have a rationale. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too wordy - lots of "No this" and "No that" puts people off. You can get your likes and dislikes across in far fewer words. Your photos are also not very good and need to show off your best bits. Look at other couples profiles and discuss what you think looks good about the best photos. if you're Silver or Gold you can look at the Most Fabbed photos and you'll see what I mean. Hope this helps and Good Luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your text reads ok, bit negative could change the language to list more what your looking for not what your not always helps, quite frankly having all your webcam verifications showing is worse than having none showing, makes you look like your not really swingers but fantasists, 6 months no face to face meets why would people think your for real??
Its very easy to get meetings face to face and then have people verify you so I don't believe and others wont if their honest that you will have sex with others at this stage!!
Delete and start again and I look forward to your next post in 6 months with all webcam pics on it complaining how you cant get a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we agree a big part in it would be your age, we started on the site when mrs mids was 19 and I was 29 and most of the people on here judged us based on our ages and wouldnt take us seriously, that was until we had our first meet lol, plus we also started on cam which as said in previous messages there is nothing wrong with cam, but now when people message us to do cam we refuse as it no longer has the same effect on us since we started actual meets.
Oh and lastly the whole single woman thing is bloody hard enough as it is without and filters let alone under 30 and one that accommodates lol.
Anyway heads up guys and plod along and dont let it get to you they will soon come flocking :p x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try meeting more people in clubs. this will surely help you and don't make looking for a single female that can accomodate a mission...they are few and far between...alot are not single at all and have a partner/husband, boyfriend or fuck-buddy. The best place the meet genuine single females are in a club as they feel alot more safer there than going to a persons home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im sure your profile will appeal to lots of people on the site. you just maybe arent hitting tour target audience?
oh and sorry because i know that doesnt solve the problem...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard to get the size of a profile right, we think ours is a bit too long and yours us longer. Your target of the bi fem will be next to impossible, your age will go against you.
We are lucky in the fact we prefer older people as our verifications show so it's easy to get meets. Maybe it's worth having a think about your target age group, expanding that will help.
Good luck. X x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can't see why anyone would be put off you both look great and seem genuine. Maybe some don't want to go through a lot of soul searching but just want to spend their precious free time indulging in more carnal pleasures ? It's all I can think of . I'd keep trying though and probably visit a few clubs always the best way to success in my experience . Good luck . |
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