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Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her |
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask him if he has sent it to the right person as it doesn't make sense"
Ooo yes, good idea, that way there's a get out for him, and it also gives him and you chance to discuss.
My question is …would you?
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"Ask him if he has sent it to the right person as it doesn't make sense
Ooo yes, good idea, that way there's a get out for him, and it also gives him and you chance to discuss.
My question is …would you?
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Yes if it's genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd text him back and ask him why he has asked the question.
sounds like a test to me so I would reply and if he's genuine follow up with the 'have u thought it completely through' question & what does his partner think...?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"
Just ask him what it is all about as you are confused at him contacting you like that out of the blue. Engage in a little communication. |
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"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something
What does SHE think?"
It would appear that she has been missing out on something which must make her husband feel great.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make out like it's a joke and send a jokey yes like "sure anything to get her off your hands for the weekend mate lol".
That way if it's a joke you played it cool and played along with it. But if it's for real he then has to make it clear he wasn't joking  Oh and you also haven't questioned it or made it sound weird...which might mean he backs out of it |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something
What does SHE think?"
Silly! The woman has no say in this whatsoever. Her husband is fine with it so that's all that matters. |
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"She has only ever been with him and feels she may be missing out on something
What does SHE think?
Silly! The woman has no say in this whatsoever. Her husband is fine with it so that's all that matters."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would avoid this as potentially it has the ability to ruin your friendship and there relationship. The idea might seem all well and good with her consent but would your mate want the constant reminder around that you and his wife if this does happen have had extra fun together? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"
If you're unsure then feel free to send her in my direction  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"
It's a set up.
Don't get suckered in. Let them sort their sex life out. Using a man for sex x shocking x  |
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her
It's a set up.
Don't get suckered in. Let them sort their sex life out. Using a man for sex x shocking x "
I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've had a three way text conversation me him n her she's keen but apprehensive "
Apprehension before could turn into guilt afterwards. I think you should steer clear. You could end up losing his friendship and playing a part in ending their relationship (even unintentionally).
I guess it works for some people but we always avoid anything too close to home! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why?"
Testing to see his friend's resolve against seeing his woman as a potential sexual partner. As you know, in monogamous culture fucking someone's partner is considered highly disrespectful - extra disrespect points if it is a man fucking his friend's woman (because sexism). So a best friend is expected to fight the temptation EVEN IF it is being dangled in front of them! Twisted to try and tempt but honestly I've heard of people attempting this many times before. |
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"I don't get the test thing. What would he be testing and why?
Testing to see his friend's resolve against seeing his woman as a potential sexual partner. As you know, in monogamous culture fucking someone's partner is considered highly disrespectful - extra disrespect points if it is a man fucking his friend's woman (because sexism). So a best friend is expected to fight the temptation EVEN IF it is being dangled in front of them! Twisted to try and tempt but honestly I've heard of people attempting this many times before."
Is it insecurity? How awful to live like that  |
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By *amamanMan
over a year ago
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He sends a text !?..To play with his wife ....?i may be old fashioned ,but if he wants you to play with his wife why doesnt he speak to you ? Sounds very wrong somewhere ,,tread very carefully ...this could fuk up a friendship or worse if it goes wrong ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd walk away as far as you can. If you go through with it and things go wrong between them afterwards....guilt / jealousy then you'll be blamed. Surely your friendship is more important? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your 3 way conversation. Was this face to face or over the phone, email etc?
Sit them down. Talk to them. Make it clear they know what they are asking. Very clear.
Then it really is down to you. Could break a friendship, ruin a marriage. Or not.
Good luck. |
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blimey,sounds fraught with danger,may work out but 'don't shit on yr own doorstep' comes to mind.
I had a few similar experiences in my more reckless years,all ended in tears..
Wishing you all the best.. J  |
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"Had an unusual text earlier of a mate of many years.
Asking if I'd take his wife away for the weekend and have as much fun as we would like.
They don't swing subject has never been raised before. Unsure if this is some kind of test for me/her"
Take her away, have as much fun as you like and when you get back ask if you've "passed" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone thought that they could be both getting something out of this,and they will have something to talk and fantasize about after the event.Who better to trust your wife's security to than a friend better than a random stranger.
Do it they are adults and should know what they want. |
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