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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I met a guy off here last year, we really hit it off, saw each other a few times etc etc.
Things didn't end very well and he deleted his account and we never spoke since April.
Randomly today he contacted me, initially it was to apologise for what had happened and how things ended, it then turned in to him telling me that he knew about everyone I'd met, even gave usernames of the men I've met and the meet requests I currently have up on my profile.
He claims he is not back on fab but that his friend is and he knows me and been looking at my profile.
He refused to tell me his username and just told me his first name but I don't know who it is by the name he's given me.
I just find it really unnerving that someone is looking at my profile and feeding info back to someone I no longer have contact with.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do? I doubt admin can do anything until I find out what the username is. |
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It will be him more than likely, keep an eye on your who's looked at me and block anyone you think might be him.
Did you tell him that apologising for whatever it was then displaying blatant stalkerish behaviour was a bit odd?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It will be him more than likely, keep an eye on your who's looked at me and block anyone you think might be him.
Did you tell him that apologising for whatever it was then displaying blatant stalkerish behaviour was a bit odd??"
Absolutely I did, I went nuts!
I've looked through the "looked at me" list but as he's been on the site before he'll be clever enough to hide his profile being visible.
I told him it was completely intrusive and what I do has nothing to do with him but he literally knew everything and it's quite scary! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The only thing you could do would be to delete your profile and start over with a different name and no info on it that he could recognise you from x"
I considered it but I've got quite a few verifications now that I love and I also don't feel like I should be driven to take that action |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd just tell him he is not welcome to contact me any more and ignore him completely from now on. What a weirdo!
PS I see you, stalker guy. Leave Amazonian Goddess alone  "
I've blocked him on whatsapp now but obviously knowing he can see what I get up to is just creepy!  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"The only thing you could do would be to delete your profile and start over with a different name and no info on it that he could recognise you from x
I considered it but I've got quite a few verifications now that I love and I also don't feel like I should be driven to take that action"
But if you were really concerned, then you wouldn't hesitate to do the above, you could always ask them to re-verify you, a few veri's are not the end of the world if you feel your safety is at liberty  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd just tell him he is not welcome to contact me any more and ignore him completely from now on. What a weirdo!
PS I see you, stalker guy. Leave Amazonian Goddess alone
I've blocked him on whatsapp now but obviously knowing he can see what I get up to is just creepy! "
Nah, its just sad. Don't give him any power over you. Forget him and carry on enjoying yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The only thing you could do would be to delete your profile and start over with a different name and no info on it that he could recognise you from x
I considered it but I've got quite a few verifications now that I love and I also don't feel like I should be driven to take that action
But if you were really concerned, then you wouldn't hesitate to do the above, you could always ask them to re-verify you, a few veri's are not the end of the world if you feel your safety is at liberty "
I dont fear for my safety I just feel it's an invasion of privacy and to then contact me randomly after 3 months to tell me is just weird.
I don't see why I should give him the satisfaction of driving me to close my account either! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"The only thing you could do would be to delete your profile and start over with a different name and no info on it that he could recognise you from x
I considered it but I've got quite a few verifications now that I love and I also don't feel like I should be driven to take that action
But if you were really concerned, then you wouldn't hesitate to do the above, you could always ask them to re-verify you, a few veri's are not the end of the world if you feel your safety is at liberty
I dont fear for my safety I just feel it's an invasion of privacy and to then contact me randomly after 3 months to tell me is just weird.
I don't see why I should give him the satisfaction of driving me to close my account either!"
But if he is watching what you are doing, you have played into his hands by posting this thread have you not? |
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I would delete as unread any messages from the guy and he will then see that his attempts to freak you out by playing mind games has had no effect and so, yet again, he's failed. Yes, it's not very pleasant knowing someone knows a lot about what you do on here but in reality....so what? Some men are able to be very maniplulative and clever with it. Think not what he does but what effect his actions have on you. That's something you can control and he can't.
Also consider deleting and starting again if it affects you too badly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The only thing you could do would be to delete your profile and start over with a different name and no info on it that he could recognise you from x
I considered it but I've got quite a few verifications now that I love and I also don't feel like I should be driven to take that action
But if you were really concerned, then you wouldn't hesitate to do the above, you could always ask them to re-verify you, a few veri's are not the end of the world if you feel your safety is at liberty
I dont fear for my safety I just feel it's an invasion of privacy and to then contact me randomly after 3 months to tell me is just weird.
I don't see why I should give him the satisfaction of driving me to close my account either!
But if he is watching what you are doing, you have played into his hands by posting this thread have you not? "
There is no direct link from my profile to the posts I put on the forum so he'd have to be an even sadder bastard to go trawling through them to find this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"just make it clear you want nothing else to do with him, block all contact and ignore."
Done just that! Told him it was just plain stalkerish and blocked him on whatsapp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just make it clear you want nothing else to do with him, block all contact and ignore.
Done just that! Told him it was just plain stalkerish and blocked him on whatsapp"
and don't let the bastard grind you down..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unblock him , tell him you fancy meeting him again , arrange a public place , get a couple of mates and all dress in long Macs , hats and moustaches and all follow him taking photos whilst hiding behind lampposts etc so he can see you 
He will think twice about stalking you again lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"just make it clear you want nothing else to do with him, block all contact and ignore.
Done just that! Told him it was just plain stalkerish and blocked him on whatsapp
and don't let the bastard grind you down....."
Gonna do my best not to let him hence why I refuse to delete my account because of this and him.
I have hidden it just for now though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would keep my profile open,its like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted anyway,if hes that way inclined to keep an eye on it then unless you hide forever hes going to see it at some point
Ignore anything to do with him and live life exactly as you were before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a rotten, underhand thing to do to you and frankly you need to kick him into touch. What you do is none of his business. Personally I would ignore him and keep doing what makes you happy. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The thing that bothered me the most is that he knew the guys usernames from my verifications. If it is him who has the profile on here and not this apparent friend I just hate the idea of him causing trouble for them or contacting them. I know he's obviously already seen them but just wanted everything hidden from his view for now in the hope he'll get bored and disappear. |
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"I met a guy off here last year, we really hit it off, saw each other a few times etc etc.
Things didn't end very well and he deleted his account and we never spoke since April.
Randomly today he contacted me, initially it was to apologise for what had happened and how things ended, it then turned in to him telling me that he knew about everyone I'd met, even gave usernames of the men I've met and the meet requests I currently have up on my profile.
He claims he is not back on fab but that his friend is and he knows me and been looking at my profile.
He refused to tell me his username and just told me his first name but I don't know who it is by the name he's given me.
I just find it really unnerving that someone is looking at my profile and feeding info back to someone I no longer have contact with.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do? I doubt admin can do anything until I find out what the username is."
How did he contact you? Surely you can trace him from there be it a text or an email? Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I met a guy off here last year, we really hit it off, saw each other a few times etc etc.
Things didn't end very well and he deleted his account and we never spoke since April.
Randomly today he contacted me, initially it was to apologise for what had happened and how things ended, it then turned in to him telling me that he knew about everyone I'd met, even gave usernames of the men I've met and the meet requests I currently have up on my profile.
He claims he is not back on fab but that his friend is and he knows me and been looking at my profile.
He refused to tell me his username and just told me his first name but I don't know who it is by the name he's given me.
I just find it really unnerving that someone is looking at my profile and feeding info back to someone I no longer have contact with.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do? I doubt admin can do anything until I find out what the username is.
How did he contact you? Surely you can trace him from there be it a text or an email? Z"
It was via whatsapp, he still had my number even though we didn't have any contact since April.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing that bothered me the most is that he knew the guys usernames from my verifications. If it is him who has the profile on here and not this apparent friend I just hate the idea of him causing trouble for them or contacting them. I know he's obviously already seen them but just wanted everything hidden from his view for now in the hope he'll get bored and disappear. "
you could just hide all your verifications? That will stop him viewing your "friends" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone contacted me about a lady I had met trying to stir trouble I would let the lady know and tell her not to worry as its just sour grapes on his behalf. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone contacted me about a lady I had met trying to stir trouble I would let the lady know and tell her not to worry as its just sour grapes on his behalf. "
One of the guys he mentioned is actually a really close friend so I contacted him to let him know.
He basically just said it was jealousy as he'll probably be gutted that I've carried on having fun after we parted ways.
He's totally right, but still freaks me out that he's basically been stalking my profile and watching my every move and then randomly just tell me he knows everything....makes me shudder!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's well out of line and no business of his
Does he know where you live, work etc?"
He knows where I live but he's the other end of the country so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be stupid enough to come to my home
I'll knee him in the balls if he does |
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"That's well out of line and no business of his
Does he know where you live, work etc?
He knows where I live but he's the other end of the country so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be stupid enough to come to my home
I'll knee him in the balls if he does "
Go Ninja
Sorry didn't mean to freak you but he is obviously slightly deluded/predatory
Nice pics. Taxi for 'Sexy town' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's well out of line and no business of his
Does he know where you live, work etc?
He knows where I live but he's the other end of the country so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be stupid enough to come to my home
I'll knee him in the balls if he does
Go Ninja
Sorry didn't mean to freak you but he is obviously slightly deluded/predatory
Nice pics. Taxi for 'Sexy town' "
Don't think I could be any more freaked out to be fair lol
Awww and thanks! I only found out recently that even with my profile hidden my public pictures can still be seen....good job I know that otherwise I would have been freaked out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's well out of line and no business of his
Does he know where you live, work etc?
He knows where I live but he's the other end of the country so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be stupid enough to come to my home
I'll knee him in the balls if he does
Go Ninja
Sorry didn't mean to freak you but he is obviously slightly deluded/predatory
Nice pics. Taxi for 'Sexy town'
Don't think I could be any more freaked out to be fair lol
Awww and thanks! I only found out recently that even with my profile hidden my public pictures can still be seen....good job I know that otherwise I would have been freaked out lol"
Well we are all routing for you here and want to make sure your safe and away from the moron that is hounding you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's well out of line and no business of his
Does he know where you live, work etc?
He knows where I live but he's the other end of the country so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be stupid enough to come to my home
I'll knee him in the balls if he does
Go Ninja
Sorry didn't mean to freak you but he is obviously slightly deluded/predatory
Nice pics. Taxi for 'Sexy town'
Don't think I could be any more freaked out to be fair lol
Awww and thanks! I only found out recently that even with my profile hidden my public pictures can still be seen....good job I know that otherwise I would have been freaked out lol
Well we are all routing for you here and want to make sure your safe and away from the moron that is hounding you.
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Thanks very much, that's really sweet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ultimately amazonian stay safe... he's just a jealous tosser that you neither need nor want, i'd fall off the radar a bit, that worked for me on another site xxx most of all best wishes and if i see this stalker well i feel a swift knee to the balls would sort him out grrrr... winds me up how some people get.... (and breathe)... nice halo returns... |
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