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By *igsy8 OP Man over a year ago

Accrington

How do you get a foot in the door,i been on this site for 2years and never had a meet,granted ive only sent a few messages, but thats cuz a guy gets to feelin rejected when all he gets is your not verified by another member!!wtf thats not gonna happen is it, im a really easy goin guy who cares and listens and you read status sayin dont jus say hi,but why write a essay if your gonna get told to piss off,pretty sure im not unbearably ugly so what,its not even like i wanna fuck everyone on here,really startin ti feel shit, comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site "

What do you think swinging is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So your assuming that because it's a swinger site everyone should be breathlessly dropping there knickers in anticipation of the flood of men.

Heaven forbid the people that come to socialise, get to know people 'and' have lots of sex too.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

My goodness you look miserable in your pics, and your room looks a scary mess on thefirst one, get some smiley ones somehow and my advice would be dump the oozing cock pic too, I find those really off putting. Go to a social would be my advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clean your table maybe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So your assuming that because it's a swinger site everyone should be breathlessly dropping there knickers in anticipation of the flood of men.

Heaven forbid the people that come to socialise, get to know people 'and' have lots of sex too.

Well according to most they don't wear knickers anyhow so he is sort of halfway there

Have to agree with previous posts, new pictures needed and look happy in them and send out more messages , go along to socials ...you only get out of this what you put in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Smiling often helps

Her

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By *qua vitaeWoman over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I would start again with a new profile. Being on here for a while without friends or veris would be off putting to some. Write a better profile without the text speak and above average looks...that's subjective. Take new photos, being careful what's in the background; only 1 or possibly 2 cock picks should suffice and smile. The first photo of you smiling looks much better, except it's behind the camera phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would start again with a new profile. Being on here for a while without friends or veris would be off putting to some. Write a better profile without the text speak and above average looks...that's subjective. Take new photos, being careful what's in the background; only 1 or possibly 2 cock picks should suffice and smile. The first photo of you smiling looks much better, except it's behind the camera phone."

100% this and if you have a few people you talk to create the new account delete the old one so you can remain in touch. Also get yourself to some socials and meet a greet people that way you will have more chance of taking this further, Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Much better photos needed and spelling.

Good luck though x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site "

This sentence speaks volumes

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

I agree with all of the above. Your place looks untidy - you say you can accommodate but can't travel, so this is the place you expect people to come and play.

Also, I know some people say it makes no difference but good grammar makes a lot of difference to some. Why risk losing them just because of a badly presented profile text? Split it into paragraphs to make it more readable and use the long-hand words (please - not plz, you - no U etc)

Go to socials and finally, as the others have said, smile on at least ONE of your pictures. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sell yourself!!!...bin the misery guts pics and start again...there are loads of men on here..you have to stand out for all the right reasons not the wrong ones...good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sell yourself!!!...bin the misery guts pics and start again...there are loads of men on here..you have to stand out for all the right reasons not the wrong ones...good luck

It might help looking at how other set up there profiles to get a few ideas, I have read missbrowneyes one and it states clearly what she enjoys and wants. When people look at yours being a male you need to be different from the crowd and sell yourself more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !"

They do? Shock horror now there is something he had never considered

Why would they not just lay back and think of England for him?

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By *itten-xxxWoman over a year ago

North West

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !"

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !"

Yes, I don't think that comment has done him any favours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !"

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site "

Therein may lie the problem Im afraid...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't see swinging as purely for sex. Try taking some good quality photos and smile and make sure your profile is top notch with all spelling and grammar correct. The only 'laid' you should be concerned about at this stage is how your profile is laid out. Be positive!

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

So come on op, why should it be easy to "get laid" on a swinging site and what do you think swinging is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nothing on his profile makes me go "wow must meet him"

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clubs and socials opens doors it did for us.

Your profile does not stand out and neither does your pics. Which is why perhaps you should get noticed in person by attending socials and clubs.

Soon as the word gets out your decent and reliable then things may happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there's no need to feel like shite because you can't get laid on a swingers site, the forums always have posts from single men finding it difficult ~ maybe take a look at those for some more advice on how to improve your chances.

the successful single men are not all

Adonis's

but the one thing they tend to have in common is a well written, snappy profile with a selection of different photos. Unless you can pull the mean n moody look off tho I'd stick to smiling for a photo, much sexier.

how about trying the chat rooms / web cams or get yourself down to a social / club?

good luck!

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

putting some paragraphs in your profile might be a good start and then remember most people on here are time-wasting muppets .also remember that single guys looking for a fuck arent in short supply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *elsh n wildCouple over a year ago

Cardiff area

Where's he gone x

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By *homCrownMan over a year ago

West Fife

"I would start again with a new profile..... Take new photos, being careful what's in the background; only 1 or possibly 2 cock picks should suffice and smile.."

Sound advice, except I always have trouble getting my cock to smile.....

sorry!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your photos do not appeal, the surroundings are not great/don't look clean and the pictures are not smiley. Sorry to say but you asked

Also if you message people same as above then u will never get a meet. Yes it's a swinging site but people arnt desperate and your comment about not being able to get some on a swinging site would put me off big time. Look at your profile closely what's appealing about it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found this site by chance and joined for a bit of fun, never really expecting to get laid here as men outnumber women by goodness knows how many, especially with it being a free site. I have found that the more expensive the site the more meets/sex you get, fewer guys/cheapskates to compete with. So just treat this site as a bonus if anything does come along. Funnily enough though I have had to turn down 3 meets because of sudden work commitments or being unable to accommodate at that time. You never know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...

comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site

What do you think swinging is?"

Shagging what else?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't see swinging as purely for sex. Try taking some good quality photos and smile and make sure your profile is top notch with all spelling and grammar correct. The only 'laid' you should be concerned about at this stage is how your profile is laid out. Be positive!

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol"

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

We all want different things. Yes, of course I want sex. Lots of it and a wide variety. I also want to talk to people, make friends and be socialable. In those respects I stand my what I said earlier.

The OP asked for help and I suggested he look to the social side of swinging as well as the sex. Or lack of.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"We all want different things. Yes, of course I want sex. Lots of it and a wide variety. I also want to talk to people, make friends and be socialable. In those respects I stand my what I said earlier.

The OP asked for help and I suggested he look to the social side of swinging as well as the sex. Or lack of. "

But we all know the type of people that are just looking for a shag only! Don't we?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you get a foot in the door,i been on this site for 2years and never had a meet,granted ive only sent a few messages, but thats cuz a guy gets to feelin rejected when all he gets is your not verified by another member!!wtf thats not gonna happen is it, im a really easy goin guy who cares and listens and you read status sayin dont jus say hi,but why write a essay if your gonna get told to piss off,pretty sure im not unbearably ugly so what,its not even like i wanna fuck everyone on here,really startin ti feel shit, comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site "

That last comment was the kicker for us. Reality often does not live up to expectation and your expectations are way off the mark.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging."

Oh no? what else then? lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol"

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. "

Stop talking to much sense, we all know the types of people who don't understand it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...

comes to somethin when you cant even get laid on a swinger site

What do you think swinging is?

Shagging what else?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol"

So do we , nothing worse than spending hours and hours socialising , when you could be shagging

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

So do we , nothing worse than spending hours and hours socialising , when you could be shagging

But you go to clubs. And didn't you go to Swingfest last year? That's socialising.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

So do we , nothing worse than spending hours and hours socialising , when you could be shagging

But you go to clubs. And didn't you go to Swingfest last year? That's socialising."

We go to clubs to have sex , and tbh didn't stay long last year , we left after an hour to go dogging

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

So do we , nothing worse than spending hours and hours socialising , when you could be shagging

But you go to clubs. And didn't you go to Swingfest last year? That's socialising.

We go to clubs to have sex , and tbh didn't stay long last year , we left after an hour to go dogging

Lol don't blame you actually

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By *eard-lincolnMan over a year ago

near lincoln

If your after sex use tinder, I get way more sex on there than here.

This site is more about meeting like minded people , having a great time, fantastic parties and then the possibility of fantastic sex after all of those things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your after sex use tinder, I get way more sex on there than here.

This site is more about meeting like minded people , having a great time, fantastic parties and then the possibility of fantastic sex after all of those things. "

ah a swipe to the left or a swipe to the right.....

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By *igsy8 OP Man over a year ago

Accrington

Thankyou all very much for your comments very helpful, the last comment was probably just born of frustration, im not just on here to fuck and i dont wanna fuck everything, i never start messagea off with hi wanna have sex try not to mention sex in first couple of messages,im not really the smiley type,advice on pics noted although whats in the background ??? Is it not the person in the pic thats important, thanks again guys,socials im not sure if theyre my thing and even if they were i wouldnt dream of turning up at 1 on my lonesome

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"If your after sex use tinder, I get way more sex on there than here.

This site is more about meeting like minded people , having a great time, fantastic parties and then the possibility of fantastic sex after all of those things. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If your after sex use tinder, I get way more sex on there than here.

This site is more about meeting like minded people , having a great time, fantastic parties and then the possibility of fantastic sex after all of those things. "

Oh I don't know , we seem to be doing just fine on here .

But thanks for your kind advice

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"If your after sex use tinder, I get way more sex on there than here.

This site is more about meeting like minded people , having a great time, fantastic parties and then the possibility of fantastic sex after all of those things.

this quite sums it up, obviousley swinging 99% of the time involves some kind of sexual contact, but its not all about that.

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By *igsy8 OP Man over a year ago

Accrington

Thanks again you orrible lot, i have made some amendments to my profile based on your advice i'll have to wait and see if it makes a difference, thankyou x

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By *jloversCouple over a year ago

teynham

Think you need to update your photos you don't look happy at all.. Real turn off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. "
erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

There is so much wrong with this profile description it's hard to know where to start.... You need to make is sound much more positive. Negativity isn't an attractive quality - not does it pay results. Make people think - hey - this guy sounds good - lets find out more.

A well constructed profile is a good start. The photos don't flatter. Get some new ones (and ensure they are rotated correctly).

Para 1: delete - irrelevant

Para 2: reword - but needs proper punctuation, capitalisation etc. Remove "lots of sex" - we all love lots of sex. Only some actually achieve that. And you are neither a woman nor a couple - so that's most likely ain't going to happen.

Para 3: Reword. Jeez.

"if it leads anywhere" - sounds like you are after a long-term relationship. It happens - but not often.

"not looking to fuck everyone" - some things are best left unsaid. This being one of them.

"a bit turned on ... smart women". You mean there are lots of women who are NOT smart? Hardly a flattering statement.

Better to describe your interest in music then if someone wants to join in outside FAB - that's a conversation topic for later rather than have this as a pre-requisite.

Para 4:

"Not really too fussy but I do have standards" - Hardly likely to endear yourself to anyone!

"High sex drive" - most of us have that.

Para 5:

The way to meet people is to

a) get in the chat rooms and additionally

b) get a cam and 'show yourself' - not your cock. IMHO - people like to see faces - helps make a 'connection'

c) get yourself to a social or a club - meet people and get them to see you are someone maybe they would be interested in meeting later

Para 6: Delete this. Some things are best left unsaid - the likelihood is you are not as good as you think. IMHO no sex session is ever the same - even a repeat meet. It all depends on you both working at pleasing each other.

Para 7: I think people will have given up well before this paragraph.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The easiest verification to get is a cam one. Simply go into a room, post that that is what you need and ask if anyone willing help. We all know that meets are easier fo achieve once verified, so maybe it is time to reconsider your decision not to cam. It may be a means to an end!

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By *ohnfromnwukMan over a year ago

North Manchester

As another has said a club is the best way to meet people and get a verification. Lots near you some of which have membership free nights or socials e.g. Gatehouse, New Liaisons, or take the plunge and get a membership and enjoy any of the Manchester clubs

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

look up swinging, yes it obviously includes sex and alot of it, but the difference comes between those who understand the lifestyle and those who dont, swinging isnt about simply meeting someone to shag, its alot more than that, however lots use this site just for that reason now, doesnt change the meaning of swinging, many different people use this site for there many different own reasons, swingers, singles meeting singles, cheats, to name a few, but to some its the only tool to use and to many others its just a tool in a wider lifestyle.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"The easiest verification to get is a cam one. Simply go into a room, post that that is what you need and ask if anyone willing help. We all know that meets are easier fo achieve once verified, so maybe it is time to reconsider your decision not to cam. It may be a means to an end!"

Simplest - but I give more credence to in-person verifications. These tells me that someone a) actually looks like 'their' photos in real life b) gives an indication what sort of person they are - rather than claim to be and c) whether they are likely to turn up

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"Thankyou all very much for your comments very helpful, the last comment was probably just born of frustration, im not just on here to fuck and i dont wanna fuck everything, i never start messagea off with hi wanna have sex try not to mention sex in first couple of messages,im not really the smiley type,advice on pics noted although whats in the background ??? Is it not the person in the pic thats important, thanks again guys,socials im not sure if theyre my thing and even if they were i wouldnt dream of turning up at 1 on my lonesome

You've taken the comments on board and started sprucing up your profile, which is great. As for 'what's in the background...' well, on your cock pic I can see what looks like a screwed up bin-bag, an empty plate and a book of some kind. If that's the level of cleanliness just in the vicinity of your chair, what's the rest of your place going to be like? People DO look at the backgrounds in photos.

I'm assuming you're expecting women to come back and have sex in your abode - most women will notice if the surroundings look unkempt or unhygienic in a photo and consequently won't be interested in finding out if your bedroom is of a similar standard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Delete the profile and start again.

I'd say much of the activity on here is not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Last cock photo (dec 2011)

get it delete i dont want to see bin bags and crap makes you look like you dont keep a clean home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You CAN bloody smile!

It makes a huge difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You CAN bloody smile!

It makes a huge difference

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

If the current profile is 'spruced up' - I'd hate to think what it used to look like!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the current profile is 'spruced up' - I'd hate to think what it used to look like!"

That's a tad harsh!

The OP has taken the advice on board & I think done a good job of updating his profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ian me old mucker its a step in the right direction and you cracked a smile good on you.

The profile is a lot better than before so you next step will be trying out the chat rooms / visiting some socials / getting yourself know within the forums. This will all help and you never know you just might strike up an understanding with someone and get a meet. The very best of luck, have fun and stay safe

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol"

omg please will you do whatever it is you use this site for, and leave swingers to swing and others to do there thing without trying to impose your warped views on them, what you do, you do, what swingers do, swingers do, what anyone does is upto them, it really is as simple as that, you dont think of yourself as a swinger, your mind isnt open enough to be one, thats fair enough, but why the constant need to impose your views on everyone else that does like to swing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, if after two years with no meets you can't be arsed to go to a social or a club because you don't want to go on your own, how are you ever going to turn up for a meet if you need a chaperone?

If your messages to people have yielded no results by now, then obviously there is something wrong with what you are doing and you need to change attack. I would suggest socials and clubs are the way forward. And if you won't do that then it's probably time to call it a day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Delete profile and start again.

Whine less, be awesome more.

People are here for their fantasies so they want fun happy exploratory people who are confidant in themselves.

Swinging is not different to any other group activity or hobby you gotta go to events and get to know people you gotta be forward and friendly not sit and wait for people to come to you.

but seriously 2 years?

Can you go into your sent box and paste in your last first contact message so we can see if there's something wrong there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok quick read of the profile

For your rewrite you are banned from using that many negatives I swear parts of it made me want to reach for my anti depressants.

Mention the things your into sexual things you've tried an liked things you wanna try so people can get a feel for if your in sync.

Remember this ain't a dating site, while there is a social side to it most people are here good hassle free sex with someone who likes the same as them.

Then there's this bit

"I want to find a female for fun,I'm not looking to fuck everyone on here,"

Female? Seriously? You sound like the dad from Friday night dinner. And the second part well that's never going to happen anyway and it's kinda insulting to others as if there's some set limit of meets their allowed before they become scum.

So ditch it.

The whole thing needs to be more light hearted and proofread. Write it on a pc not your phone it helps with the typos too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think there should be a separate forum category for blokes moaning about lack of success?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !"

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

If the current profile is 'spruced up' - I'd hate to think what it used to look like!

That's a tad harsh!

The OP has taken the advice on board & I think done a good job of updating his profile.

I posted a review earlier based on the current wording - hence my comment...

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

is that a pair of pants hanging on the door in the last photo? ..connie xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest, I think you should join plenty of fish. That's a meet and shag nsa site you may be more suited to.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You get out what you put in! You have to mail you have to be polite and you have to make things interesting the people who struggle tent not to realise this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

lol there you go again, sugar coating. Swinging and singles all do the same thing on here shag ultimately - if it's about banter and friendship why do it on a swinging site if not for the shagging as well!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

Im not sugar coating anything, I never once said it wasnt about sex or that sex doesnt happen or that meeting just to shag doesnt happen here, quite the opposite, people do meet to shag as you put it, but what I am saying (aswell as many others that have told you on this thread and the many others you have trolled) swinging is much more than just meeting to have sex, and swinging isnt meeting and shagging a random stranger (again as you put it) yes swingers meet and have sex, I never once said they didnt, but its not shagging strangers, but then I dont no why I waste my time talking to you, you have a very narrow 1 track mind, insistent on forcing your views on everyone else and insulting people on the way.

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!"

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont know what men do to get meets. Ive had meets but am feeling like a reject quite a lot lately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement."

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

Lol @ swingers not shagging strangers .... what???????????????

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol"

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll."

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

Lol @ swingers not shagging strangers .... what???????????????"

must not feed the troll, must not feed the troll.

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is "

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Poor OP all he asked for was some pointers and he started a war.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others."

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

Lol @ swingers not shagging strangers .... what???????????????

must not feed the troll, must not feed the troll."

Lol loving the fact you didn't argue with that haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you're gonna do a cock shot get rid of the bush!!!

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!"

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

Erm I think swinging is purely about sex ultimately lol

Sex is usually (but not always) the end result, but its not the only part of swinging.

Oh no? what else then? lol

Making friends, having a laugh, checking out clubs, banter on here. erm you can do that anywhere but on a swinging site it so obviously involves shagging

Ultimately it's shagging mainly strangers no matter how you try and sugar coat it lol

Lol @ swingers not shagging strangers .... what???????????????

must not feed the troll, must not feed the troll.

Lol loving the fact you didn't argue with that haha"

I had already stated to the contrary, why should I feel the need to argue with a trolls every post simply because its looking for an argument.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact."

Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, in which partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[1]

The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the freer attitudes to sexual activity after the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the invention and availability of the contraceptive pill and the emergence of treatments for many of the sexually transmitted diseases that were known at that time.

The swinger community sometimes refers to itself as "the lifestyle", or as "the alternative lifestyle".[2] The term "wife swapping" or "partner swapping" is criticized for not accurately describing the full range of sexual activities in which both singles or couples may engage,[3] which is not limited to conventional sex with a person other than their regular sex partner. Other terms sometimes encountered are wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending, which describe similar concepts, usually in sociological or anthropological research.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!"

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste."

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Me neither, I like to think I have standards and get to know people in a social circle, either one on one or an organised one. I would never agree to meet a stranger on here for sex without getting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol"

Anyway enough said, so called swingers shag strangers - believe what you like about your lifestyle - it's shagging at the end of the day, bye bye x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Omg your halos are gonna slip and choke you in a minute hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Standards? what standards? you are a swinger and you shag other people's wives or husbands with consent - they are strangers!!!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol"

Honestly, I rea it several times, and am happy to do a ctrl F, but the word 'stranger' is not there. Wife swapping and sharing in no way assumes that the husband is sharing the wife with a stranger. In fact its much more likely that couples sharing will be well known to each other.

As adventurous said above (and you obviously ignored), some swingers do meet strangers, and some swingers do not have standards. But your blanket, 'well if I think it then its true' attitude is wrong. Not all swingers shag strangers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Read your profile again, I'm not sure many of your friends are messaging you right now, but I bet a few strangers are lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

oh please this is ridiculous, read your profile again - are you trying to get your friends to message you? No, but a stranger will and you will eventually arrange a meet with that stranger, albeit after chatting for a while and meeting at a club - they are strangers!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tall, strong, opinionated woman searching for tall, dark, and handsome men who are not scared by tall, strong, opinionated women.

If you are looking for a woman who can gut a partridge, shoot a crossbow, argue Fermats Last Theorem, and cook a fantastic tray-bake I'm the one for you. If you are intrigued and want to know more then send an interesting message with face pic attached and we can thrash out the details for a meet.

Due to my job as a secret agent I am unable to commit to regular meets.

To all you cammers, chatters, and skypers, I have nothing against the way you use the site, but I am here to meet men in the flesh for naughty fun and so would not be of interest to you.

Although I have 'smoker' ticked I am actually a vaper (vanilla flavour for preference). I have no problem if you want to smoke though. Just bear in mind while you are outside the pub having a fag I might be chatting up the barman.

Now, lets go have an experience.

Is that barman someone you know or a stranger?

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By *ivente clubCouple over a year ago

sunderland

I was kind of going to give you a bit of advice there until I read your last sentence. You have more chance of getting laid meeting someone on P o F than here. Swingers are not to be used as prostitutes nor are we here to be met with disrespectful fab members who think we all put out for anyone. I now understand why you have frequented this site for some time and never had a meet. And I for one are glad that no one has had the misfortune of meeting you and lowering their and our swinging standards!! geez, posts like yours really wind me up! One more thing, you may not be aesthetically ugly (in your view) but by god your view of swingers certainly is!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're all wrong.

Some people do use the site to meet total strangers for one off sex. Some use it to make friends that they fuck...... and every combination in between.

Why try to argue that only 'your way' is the 'right way'?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Standards? what standards? you are a swinger and you shag other people's wives or husbands with consent - they are strangers!!!!!"

they aren't strangers if classed as friends who you've known for a long time and meet in and out of the swingers scene, a stranger is someone you've never met before and don't really know, a big difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet."

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Gee...after reading this little ditty I'm at a loss to explain your lack of meets!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Omg your halos are gonna slip and choke you in a minute hahaha"

I don't claim to have a halo, it wouldn't suit me anyway. I'm just responding to your comment about swingers shagging complete strangers and having no standards. I'm sure some do meet off here without a social first, fair play, its how they run their profile and I run my profile my way.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!"

Excellent misread there. I know you won't rest until you get everyone to think you're right but they won't, and you're just making yourself look a bit angry.

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Here in your own quote lies everything ive tried in vain to explain to you about the word swinging, yes sex is involved, I never once said it wasnt, but no where in this quote does it say swingers shag strangers, or swingers have no standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!

Excellent misread there. I know you won't rest until you get everyone to think you're right but they won't, and you're just making yourself look a bit angry."

Forget it, keep your head buried in the sand for me I do not care - good luck with your meets with all your friends lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!

Excellent misread there. I know you won't rest until you get everyone to think you're right but they won't, and you're just making yourself look a bit angry.

Forget it, keep your head buried in the sand for me I do not care - good luck with your meets with all your friends lol"

Thanks, appreciate the thought.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Read your profile again, I'm not sure many of your friends are messaging you right now, but I bet a few strangers are lol"

Get over yourself! You haven't a clue what your speaking about! Or who and how I meet! So yes, I will agree with.....trip trap, trip trap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

It's not a fact! I've never met a stranger from here for sex! I meet potential friends, a big bloody difference!

Read your profile again, I'm not sure many of your friends are messaging you right now, but I bet a few strangers are lol

Get over yourself! You haven't a clue what your speaking about! Or who and how I meet! So yes, I will agree with.....trip trap, trip trap

strangers in the night, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!

Excellent misread there. I know you won't rest until you get everyone to think you're right but they won't, and you're just making yourself look a bit angry.

Forget it, keep your head buried in the sand for me I do not care - good luck with your meets with all your friends lol

Thanks, appreciate the thought.

tart

Ah, we're resorting to name calling now? Sorry, that's not my style. "

Lol no not name calling, just stating a fact, it's what you are if you meet strangers for shags lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards. "

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Lol no not name calling, just stating a fact, it's what you are if you meet strangers for shags lol

Oh no, I am having sex with people from a site dedicated to helping me find like-minded people for sex, and some of them may not have been my bestest pal since birth? How very dare I?

Please, if you have to resort to that sort of childish tactic to get your jollies then you are really on the wrong site. Now I must go. Off to shag someone silly and *gasp* I've known him for years! Toodles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!"

least he has pics.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol no not name calling, just stating a fact, it's what you are if you meet strangers for shags lol

Oh no, I am having sex with people from a site dedicated to helping me find like-minded people for sex, and some of them may not have been my bestest pal since birth? How very dare I?

Liar lol bye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!"

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP maybe the attitude that you 'can't even get laid on a swingers site' is the problem. Guess what - swingers have standards. They don't just fuck anything! !

Come on ! Yes they do !!!!!

And so all single people don't have standards? What a load of rubbish!!

you seem to have a problem with the word swingers, no where did this person say single people dont have standards, they simply made a valid statement.

Swingers do not have standards, they shag strangers like everyone else lol

oh dear, I must try not to feed the troll.

I'm not a troll, just telling it as it is

no you arent, you make deliberately childish provoking comments, and have a very narrow mind, unwilling to accept any explanation other than your own views that you try and force on others.

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

Struggling to see the word 'stranger' in your copy & paste.

Erm read it again very very slowly - wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending - I don't think the word stranger needs to be used, it says it all in that statement lol

They're strangers when they message me. They're not strangers when we meet. They're not bosom pals either, but I'll know enough about them to make a decision whether to meet.

At last - you meet strangers! Thank you!

Excellent misread there. I know you won't rest until you get everyone to think you're right but they won't, and you're just making yourself look a bit angry.

Forget it, keep your head buried in the sand for me I do not care - good luck with your meets with all your friends lol

Thanks, appreciate the thought.

tart

Ah, we're resorting to name calling now? Sorry, that's not my style.

Lol no not name calling, just stating a fact, it's what you are if you meet strangers for shags lol

who do you meet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier"

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and the reason why you have no pics is because you're cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!"

thats uncalled for. it hardly strengthens your argument to be abusive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!"

red ruby?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!"

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

red ruby?"

I think you may be right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is"

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!"

I think it is the confrontational and abusive tone leading you to be labelled a troll

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and the reason why you have no pics is because you're cheating"

No it's mainly because of my job, it's quite high profile!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact."

It is a fact....I have shagged many strangers. So have many/most of the people on this site......but either way this thread has again lost the plot...answer the OP's question.....or tell him he is a total nob for asking it in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem."

you have no right to say who they meet are strangers, you might think they are because you don't know them, but they might have known them for years, i know what definition is and strangers does not come under it, you're digging yourself a deeper hole for yourself so shush

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

I think it is the confrontational and abusive tone leading you to be labelled a troll"

Lol it's how you're reading it and if you're getting angry and hot under the collar just reading it you will interpret it as confrontational, understandable I guess. But I am no troll, just someone with a different opinion to some others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

Don't tell me to shush! Everyone starts out as a stranger on here no matter how you try to sugar coat it. And very few have known their meets for years,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Swingers shag strangers - where is the deliberate childish comment there? It's a fact, get over yourself!

it is not a fact, it is your narrow minded view, look up the meaning of fact.

thank you at last!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

Don't tell me to shush! Everyone starts out as a stranger on here no matter how you try to sugar coat it. And very few have known their meets for years,"

In spite of your ranting... this comment you make is indeed true.

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By *igsy8 OP Man over a year ago

Accrington

One things for sure weather your swingers, casual shaggers, mates, confused or summat else, your certainly a passionate bunch

Thanks for pointers, very inciteful xx

Ian

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

Don't tell me to shush! Everyone starts out as a stranger on here no matter how you try to sugar coat it. And very few have known their meets for years,

In spite of your ranting... this comment you make is indeed true. "

I'm not ranting, just messaging my opinion - if you think I'm ranting it's the way you are interpreting it when reading

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem."

the difference you and you alone on this thread dont get is,

Meeting strangers to shag.

to meet someone you have barely spoke to, and shag them the 1st time you meet.

swinging.

1, definition of many.

to chat to like minded people find a connection, meet them socially, maybe a coffee or a pub, chat some more, get to no them, then maybe sex takes place, then again, then again.

Can you see the blatant differences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

Don't tell me to shush! Everyone starts out as a stranger on here no matter how you try to sugar coat it. And very few have known their meets for years,"

i've known 1 for a year and the other 7 months, not exactly strangers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

the difference you and you alone on this thread dont get is,

Meeting strangers to shag.

to meet someone you have barely spoke to, and shag them the 1st time you meet.

swinging.

1, definition of many.

to chat to like minded people find a connection, meet them socially, maybe a coffee or a pub, chat some more, get to no them, then maybe sex takes place, then again, then again.

Can you see the blatant differences."

lol swinging is shagging ultimately regardless of what pastime you choose beforehand!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it always the black heads who insist that everyone on here has no standards.

It has never held me back lol whereas your pic ......... lol !!!!

least he has pics.......

And that's gonna help him lol - I would never put my pic on here because I have standards lol and it certainly isn't a barrier!

yes it has helped him seeing as he's had plenty more meets than a troll and yes having no pics is a barrier

Well it hasn't been for me so perhaps I've just been lucky! Why am I troll, oh yes because I have an opinion that differs from others on here. Shame lol!

name calling, basically saying you're right and everyone else is wrong because they meet friends and not strangers and they understand what swinging is

But they do meet strangers, it's not that I'm right it's because they do - look up the definition of swinging. Just because some people can't face the truth is not my problem.

Don't tell me to shush! Everyone starts out as a stranger on here no matter how you try to sugar coat it. And very few have known their meets for years,

i've known 1 for a year and the other 7 months, not exactly strangers"

And the other 20 or so that have verified you? Known them all for years have you?