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By *igowl OP Man
over a year ago
Bristol |
Hi. I have been using "fab" on and off, since last October, During the past 6 weeks or so, I have been quite actively messaging women, and some couples. I have yet to arrange a meet with anyone!...
I really am not sure what I am doing wrong? Is it because now, iv been on the site 9 months without a verification? I have recently added a few new pics (face included), which I do attach when I send a message. I realize not everyone will find me sexually attractive, and that is ok. But after 9 months on the site, with no luck, its obvious that i need some help!
In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say.
I would greatly appreciate any advise, or help, from the forum readers! Thanks in advance! ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say."
I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me - I tried to be 'upbeat' but I'm really not like that and it just wasn't me.
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By *igowl OP Man
over a year ago
Bristol |
Upbeat is not exactly what i meant by polite and pleasant. I do try and add my own personality into the message though. What i mean is, Im not sending messages saying "wanna fuck now?" and the likes. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
You're not my type and too far away, but for me... I read messages and profile, and then decide whether to chat more, and you fall down on lack of profile. It tells me nothing other than in 9 months, you've neglected it... it honestly tells me nothing about you or what you like, other than you play straight with couples... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well your profile and profile pics look alright to me so I can only assume you must have a minging face.
P.s people can be too polite when messaging. You can spot the profiles where you know a good old dirty message will get you noticed . |
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By *arteeneWoman
over a year ago
aylesbury |
Hi I am most likely not your type but I will say you should but in your profile a nice sexy pic if you see the guys pics who have added to your forum they are sexy and your profile looks like you are looking for a job try being yourself and as a lot have said go to a club x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my messages, I am polite and pleasant. The messages I send are not just one liners. I actually put some thought into what I say.
I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me"
1st rule: Be attractive. 2nd rule: Do not be unattractive.
It's amazing what a guy can "get away with" if he has washboard abs and a modicum of intelligence! Same message from a "not my type" kind of guy could cause a torrent of self-righteous semi-abuse
I was talking about this with my very average-looking but perfectly serviceable guy friend just yesterday (he's given up now). This place is a hot-guy goldmine! Average-looking men have to try that much harder just to get noticed. It can be demoralising and I feel for you OP. BUT personality is also very important, so not all is lost. I have no specific advice, but I wish you best of luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Getting lost in the crowd hey? Ok well thank you for your kind reply!
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we would say the same your profile is very similar to a lot of others and your pictures are not the best so why not take new ones with better lighting. |
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By *igowl OP Man
over a year ago
Bristol |
Thank you again to everyone who has replied! I have got a few messages from posting this thread!
I am very interested in going to a club for the 1st time! But it will have to wait until next month! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm annoying and sarcastic. Seems to work for me - I tried to be 'upbeat' but I'm really not like that and it just wasn't me.
"To thine own self be true""
Love your profile & your approach, sarcastic always works for me
OP your profile is great, if you approached me I would certainly reply at the very least as it shows you have a sense of humour which is a big plus in my opinion. That's as opposed to read, wince & bin
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You arent my type and the distance is a problem anyway regardless. Your profile is different in the way its written but a bit too off the wall for me. Why not try writing it in a fun,relaxed way. Info about you and what you like. Maybe say why you cant accommodate |
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By *ot4ujoWoman
over a year ago
Eccles |
Love the fact you've put on a smiling face picture not a dozen pictures of your cock x
As for the profile I think it's great bit fun but says all that's needed shame your so far away I'd of met you in a club x |
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I say it a lot.... But hit tinder man!
30-45 professional women are crying out for big rugby types like you!
Wish I was half as big as you!
Really, bit of chat & within a week you will find a couple of interests...
It's not swinging... But it could be, you'd be surprised at how many of the so called "white unicorns" are just, successful, intelligent, assertive women who just don't want to be caged/lied to by a man... And how many of them are interested in this...
A year down the line and you could be back in this game with a couple of FBs.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was thinking of going to a adult cinema or something cos same problem sadly or it's people who want me to go there's at a drop of a hat especially couples |
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