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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this? |
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?"
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult "
She's basically wanting to meet a couple for oral fun whereby she can watch another woman suck me as she sucks her partner and then go from there really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are plenty of couples who like that sort of play... I would suggest trying your local clubs, you can socialise and see who you both feel comfortable with."
Thanks for that, Certainly worth considering |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult
She's basically wanting to meet a couple for oral fun whereby she can watch another woman suck me as she sucks her partner and then go from there really."
Shouldn't be a problem at all.
Just look for couples that soft swing only, or post a meet request stating what you're looking for.
It's really not that uncommon a scenario!
Good luck.
A |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult
She's basically wanting to meet a couple for oral fun whereby she can watch another woman suck me as she sucks her partner and then go from there really.
Shouldn't be a problem at all.
Just look for couples that soft swing only, or post a meet request stating what you're looking for.
It's really not that uncommon a scenario!
Good luck.
A"
Yeah that's what we've done so fingers crossed and Thank You |
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult
She's basically wanting to meet a couple for oral fun whereby she can watch another woman suck me as she sucks her partner and then go from there really."
As the others have said you will have no problem, good luck and enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
would she want to be involved at all?
Could I suggest a flirty social, so that she can guage how she feels about seeing you being openly sexual with another woman verbally and takes it from there? The problem with either scenario is that you will need to find a coupel who are happy for one half to take a back seat and while that's possible it could be difficult
She's basically wanting to meet a couple for oral fun whereby she can watch another woman suck me as she sucks her partner and then go from there really.
As the others have said you will have no problem, good luck and enjoy "
Thankyou very much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing "
A quick question to the OP re the above!
You've obviously played with single guys so I assume the 'first meet' you're referring to would be a meet with another couple.
Is the worry about her seeing you with another woman as there's evidently no issue with the pair of you playing with other guys?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing "
 While we would have no qualms with soft swong we would run a mile from the potential for drama fthat comes with a couple where the female is described as 'tentative' and their are concerns at how she might react |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing
A quick question to the OP re the above!
You've obviously played with single guys so I assume the 'first meet' you're referring to would be a meet with another couple.
Is the worry about her seeing you with another woman as there's evidently no issue with the pair of you playing with other guys?
A"
Yes it's a first couples meet and I don't think it's a worry to be honest, It's more that she prefers to take one step at a time as we did with the single guy. She's more worried I'll get a better Blowjob lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing
While we would have no qualms with soft swong we would run a mile from the potential for drama fthat comes with a couple where the female is described as 'tentative' and their are concerns at how she might react"
It's not that she has any worries about getting upset so maybe I've worded my opening post poorly...Sounds like me. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing
A quick question to the OP re the above!
You've obviously played with single guys so I assume the 'first meet' you're referring to would be a meet with another couple.
Is the worry about her seeing you with another woman as there's evidently no issue with the pair of you playing with other guys?
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Yes it's a first couples meet and I don't think it's a worry to be honest, It's more that she prefers to take one step at a time as we did with the single guy. She's more worried I'll get a better Blowjob lol"
Everybody has to start somewhere - nobody would swing otherwise!
I understand the comments raising concern but without taking a first step how is anyone meant to try a new experience?
Guess the key is just finding the right couple.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing
A quick question to the OP re the above!
You've obviously played with single guys so I assume the 'first meet' you're referring to would be a meet with another couple.
Is the worry about her seeing you with another woman as there's evidently no issue with the pair of you playing with other guys?
A
Yes it's a first couples meet and I don't think it's a worry to be honest, It's more that she prefers to take one step at a time as we did with the single guy. She's more worried I'll get a better Blowjob lol
Everybody has to start somewhere - nobody would swing otherwise!
I understand the comments raising concern but without taking a first step how is anyone meant to try a new experience?
Guess the key is just finding the right couple.
A"
I agree, The right couple is key for that first step.
Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?"
Why not look round for a couple further away and get chatting then book a weekend break away and meet them that way there are lots of accommodating people around who will have no problem with that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi,
We've been on Fab a while trying to ease ourselves into the lifestyle with a view to meeting couples for some fun.
It's taken a while and my partner is now ready to take that first step but there's a little problem I would appreciate some advice on if possible so here goes:
For a first meet my partner would prefer a couple that we aren't very familiar with for a type of soft play so she can tentatively see how she feels about seeing me with another woman. I don't have any problem with this but get the feeling it's something that will be very difficult to arrange.
Anyone have any views or advice on this?
Why not look round for a couple further away and get chatting then book a weekend break away and meet them that way there are lots of accommodating people around who will have no problem with that. "
Very good idea. I'd better get on a scouting mission lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's good that your honest, but we tried this once before , where the lady wasn't sure all was fine until gilly made the other guy cum and that was it the waterworks came on it's not something we would try again and now we only play with people who are sure and happy to swing
While we would have no qualms with soft swong we would run a mile from the potential for drama fthat comes with a couple where the female is described as 'tentative' and their are concerns at how she might react"
Actually, we have walked away from a couple who weren't 100% sure. They were comfortable to play with me but he said to 2wheels 'I'm not sure how I might react to you touching my woman and I might deck you' 
There are plenty of people out there willing to play who don't give us any concerns about how they might react. We're in this to have fun! Not to be some experiment to help someone find out if this is for them or not.
crystal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Take it slowly and let her choose the couple.. explain your position, if you have chosen a decent couple they will understand and let your other half dictate the pace and if she dont like it leave or stop and if you have a few social meets with the couple first it will happen naturally and easily on its own. |
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