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What would you do?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bit of background. Husband and I have been playing with a single guy quite often who insists on safe sex. We are the same and won't do bareback at all so we have become good friends with this gent. However, this gent has now played with a couple, several times, who only strictly do bareback. I love giving oral and don't know what to do with the awkward situation that will arise if we meet this gent again and I insist he wear a condom when or if I give him oral. He will no doubt ask why.

We know there is still a risk of catching something with oral but when you know someone's rules when playing, or in this case, think you do, you think you are pretty much as safe as you can be.

Should we go back to this gent or not? Do we explain to him why we don't want to play now if we think the risk is to big?

Just wondered what your opinion would be if you were in this situation.

Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for reading.

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By *ethot69Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

Simple answer - do whatever you feel you should do.

That's the only advice you need.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If he's a good friend, talk to him about it.

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By *udereMan over a year ago

haringey

If he's a good friend, talk to him about it."

Sage advice therediscuss it with him and the best course of action for all will become clear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ditto do what you feel comfortable with. If hes a good friend If he knows the other couple are clean and you trust him ask him to get tested before you do any thing with him.

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By *leasureseanyMan over a year ago

hull

we all take different risks every day in one form or an other , and if he takes a test then great, at the end of the day you and only you have to be happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can never be sure if our playmates are telling us the truth about their swinging lifestyle.

We should all make our own decisions on who we play with and what we do with them.

If you are concerned enough to worry about it, stick to someone you can trust 100% or don't ever have any kind of unprotected sex with anyone but your own partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just want to say a big thankyou to you guys. It really helped us make our decision. We have decided to have a chat to our friend about this and if he is a true friend like we think he is, he will be ok with it and get tested or suit up. If not then we will know he isn't what we thought he was.

Thanks again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

assume that everyone you play with has been having bareback sex and you wont go far wrong

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