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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My partner and I have set up some meets...mmf...mmfmm...mmmffmmm etc etc
Now my question is....Why do single guys say yeah yeah I'm up for that..sounds like fun..I'm available. .yep ill be there for Deffo. ..They say yeah I've done loads of them meetings before....but either the night before or sometimes one the day text and say ...sorry I can't do it..Now ive thought about it I can't preform in front of other men ...I find it hard (well maybe not!!!! Hahahaha)to understand why they say yes but really mean no....i know nerves to come into it sometimes but....... |
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Is it really only single guys? I've had couples cancel last minute too.
I think there are a lot of people on here that just want the thrill of the chase and have no intention of meeting. I think there are also people who genuinely change their mind, both are frustrating but really seem to be the price you pay when a site is free! |
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I could say you have just been unlucky....but this sort of thing seems increasingly common. The site is definitely attracting more n more dreamers and wannabes.... |
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My limited experience would suggest some guys on here have no intention of meeting,but get off on someone offering to meet. masturbating on the strength of a meet & then not interested..
check out how many guys have been on this site for 6 months or more, without a verification..  |
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"My partner and I have set up some meets...mmf...mmfmm...mmmffmmm etc etc
Now my question is....Why do single guys say yeah yeah I'm up for that..sounds like fun..I'm available. .yep ill be there for Deffo. ..They say yeah I've done loads of them meetings before....but either the night before or sometimes one the day text and say ...sorry I can't do it..Now ive thought about it I can't preform in front of other men ...I find it hard (well maybe not!!!! Hahahaha)to understand why they say yes but really mean no....i know nerves to come into it sometimes but......."
Go for ones with verifications... |
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It seems like a great idea at the time when they're horny and sat with their cock in their hand at the laptop... But when it actually comes to turning up and getting down to it in front of an audience they'd rather stay home with a porno. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ... 
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being in same area and not having had same problem would say bi men dont tend to have same group problems. Also if they say they have played in groups I dont just take their word or the veri as proof I do message others who were there. |
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it? "
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past? |
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?"
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ... "
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried "
Yes but shouldn't they say yes after they read the profile? Homophobia seems to be an issue. |
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried "
Hahahaha well at least I'm being HONEST hahaha
Really tho what fun is that if guys cum within 2 minutes..maybe fun for the guys but certainly not for me...unless of course they can then cum again!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried "
you think? Wow |
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Because the true sexual power of the woman prevail the male dominated society
Women can get more fucking than men there is no doubt about that and it can overpower and diminish the self esteem of some guys if they luck of confidence!
It has happened so many times to us as well that after we have organised a Gang Bang some guys for some reasons do not turn up even if they had confirmed they would up to the eleventh hour and yet so many single guys complain they cannot pull... What can I say?
It would appear that some guys could only fuck the whole world behind a computer while they have a hard on, but once is over, it's over!
Luckily some of us can have 6 to 8 orgasm every day (lucky me) so that I am always ready |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried
you think? Wow"
I was just making a light hearted comment,
And by the use of the i thought that was clear
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have not had the problem of no shows yet. The guys we tend to invite though are usually bi or bi curious even when we are playing straight. The 4 guys for our bukkake were all bi or curious even though there was no male interaction and was a straight forward bukkake. The reason is that bi guys are comfortable being naked around each other in bigger groups.
PS We LOve straight men too xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because the true sexual power of the woman prevail the male dominated society
Women can get more fucking than men there is no doubt about that and it can overpower and diminish the self esteem of some guys if they luck of confidence!
It has happened so many times to us as well that after we have organised a Gang Bang some guys for some reasons do not turn up even if they had confirmed they would up to the eleventh hour and yet so many single guys complain they cannot pull... What can I say?
It would appear that some guys could only fuck the whole world behind a computer while they have a hard on, but once is over, it's over!
Luckily some of us can have 6 to 8 orgasm every day (lucky me) so that I am always ready "
Hummmmm me to..love my big orgasm s and love cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried
you think? Wow
I was just making a light hearted comment,
And by the use of the i thought that was clear
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I was saying you think? Wow... I think you maybe right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried
you think? Wow
I was just making a light hearted comment,
And by the use of the i thought that was clear
I was saying you think? Wow... I think you maybe right! "
Damn right they'd be worried with such demands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it?
If they don't show their veris - how do you know they are genuine about having attended one in the past?
Because that's where I go wrong and I take their word for it...I guess some are not like me 'no need to lie' but they only get one chance!
The guys that have turned up have been great and it saddens me that the ones who are all big headed and are not, makes it harder for the genuine ones to be trusted ...
Maybe they finally read your profile and see the bit about,
"And those that cum within 2mins please don't bother getting in touch"
And get worried
you think? Wow
I was just making a light hearted comment,
And by the use of the i thought that was clear
I was saying you think? Wow... I think you maybe right! "
So it was me miss reading,
I only have the drink to blame |
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I don't think it matters what you try and organise - social meet, gangbang, house party you usually get less than 50% of people showing up.
Why? some people will say yes just for the sake of it, the "single" male who is quite happy giving it large in messages but when it comes to meeting makes an excuse last minute! genuine reason for not being able to attend
it's part of the swinging lifestyle and that's why I only play at clubs cos if I get let down by someone there is always someone else to take their place |
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"I don't think it matters what you try and organise - social meet, gangbang, house party you usually get less than 50% of people showing up.
Why? some people will say yes just for the sake of it, the "single" male who is quite happy giving it large in messages but when it comes to meeting makes an excuse last minute! genuine reason for not being able to attend
it's part of the swinging lifestyle and that's why I only play at clubs cos if I get let down by someone there is always someone else to take their place "
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"Yes you're right about veri's but when asked about them we are told ...oh I don't like to show them ...
So we do tend to give them a chance....
We've even chatted with some on the phone but still they change their minds...weird ...Yes I also agree some couples/single ladys do the same but my question was why do single men do it? "
To some the idea of swinging is a fun fantasy. The reality of it scares them. Ask any future meets to show you their verifications to prove they meet. |
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"My partner and I have set up some meets...mmf...mmfmm...mmmffmmm etc etc
Now my question is....Why do single guys say yeah yeah I'm up for that..sounds like fun..I'm available. .yep ill be there for Deffo. ..They say yeah I've done loads of them meetings before....but either the night before or sometimes one the day text and say ...sorry I can't do it..Now ive thought about it I can't preform in front of other men ...I find it hard (well maybe not!!!! Hahahaha)to understand why they say yes but really mean no....i know nerves to come into it sometimes but......."
Some of the single men will not actually be single. When they cancel the meet it means the wife or girlfriend has put a spanner in the works. |
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"I don't think it matters what you try and organise - social meet, gangbang, house party you usually get less than 50% of people showing up.
Why? some people will say yes just for the sake of it, the "single" male who is quite happy giving it large in messages but when it comes to meeting makes an excuse last minute! genuine reason for not being able to attend
it's part of the swinging lifestyle and that's why I only play at clubs cos if I get let down by someone there is always someone else to take their place "
If only men could fuck as much as a woman can... you would get a better attendance to a meet, but unfortunately it requires much more from a men side, not only the size of a cock which is the first thing to come across with, but also a long lasting erection to be able to penetrate a pussy and perform well in a group scenarios! Of course a woman is only the receiving part
At the end of the story it comes down to confidence and a lot of it too to overcome such a test but what I think is unacceptable is letting down side and the facility in which is done without a phone call to apologise in sufficient time that's absolute cowards behaviour and we never give a second chance! |
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"I don't think it matters what you try and organise - social meet, gangbang, house party you usually get less than 50% of people showing up.
Why? some people will say yes just for the sake of it, the "single" male who is quite happy giving it large in messages but when it comes to meeting makes an excuse last minute! genuine reason for not being able to attend
it's part of the swinging lifestyle and that's why I only play at clubs cos if I get let down by someone there is always someone else to take their place
If only men could fuck as much as a woman can... you would get a better attendance to a meet, but unfortunately it requires much more from a men side, not only the size of a cock which is the first thing to come across with, but also a long lasting erection to be able to penetrate a pussy and perform well in a group scenarios! Of course a woman is only the receiving part
At the end of the story it comes down to confidence and a lot of it too to overcome such a test but what I think is unacceptable is letting down side and the facility in which is done without a phone call to apologise in sufficient time that's absolute cowards behaviour and we never give a second chance!"
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OP every one that cancels may have a different & unique answer, there isn't a "single males cancel because xyz" answer. That applies for couples and single fems too. On occasions I've had to cancel meets for various reasons, sometimes I'm stuck at work, illness, something in my real life takes priority and even second thoughts on the person I'm meeting. There isn't a cookie cutter answer.
The only thing that's the same in every arrangement is you.....are you doing something to put them off? Is your selection process rigorous enough? Are you too pushy? Again it might be something different with each person, but the only thing you can change is how you arrange meets.
Have you considered arranging this st a club? If you get no shows, I'm sure there will be others already there to help step in to replace the missing guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree loads don't really have any intention on meeting here
Loads cancel anyway I've had guys cancel and so have I, I've never cancelled last minute but I don't loose any sleep about cancelling a meeting either and I know the men I meet don't either, meeting a person purely for sex is very basic and raw and what might seem like a fantastic idea on the Wednesday night sitting very aroused might just not hit the mark on the Friday
Also people involved in group are probably more likely to cancel as they probably think she or he will still be getting fucked even if I'm not attending so its not a big deal
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My understanding from those in a similar situation like gang bangs too, is to message double the number of men you want, that way you might be in with a chance of getting some of what you want
Maybe consider searching for men who offer this type of thing ie mm profiles and/or those single male profiles that have been set up specifically for gang bangs, I know there are profiles like this as I have been messaged by a couple |
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"Its not just the blokes bit unfair to say it is just men on here "
no one is saying its just men, however the ops experiences are with arranging meets with men, thats why men are the subject here. |
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