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Am I being too harsh?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"
I've had this, I've messaged but no replies so I just block them |
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We have people who look at us regularly we wouldn't think to message them and assume that if they wanted to contact us they would have by now. We think that if you put pictures on the net people will look, some more than others but if it makes you uncomfortable block them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He might just want to perve a lot, and I guess if it bothers you I'd block him.
It sounds excessive to me personally (to look that much without even a message), but it's fab and there's opportunity to do that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"
Are you ever likely to consider meeting him? Is he your type? We've blocked people who constantly look but don't message if we're not interested in the first place...It saves turning them down if they ever get the gumption to message and frankly it gets a bit creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone, I know he's done nothing wrong & it's his prerogative if he wants to reply.
I was trying to be polite & maybe give him an opportunity to chat if he wasn't sure about a 1st message.
I think it is a bit excessive the amount of times he's looked. I have no face pics etc that he could see only the picture of my tattoo. I've blocked him now.
Happy swinging
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems a little excessive 23 times in one day but it's quite easy to rack up a number of views.
Viewed because they're on a local update, commented on a forum post , who is online etc etc.....can't remember who you viewed so look again ~ all adds up ~ or they could be a complete perv...  |
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This happens quite often, at first I thought it was maybe guys who are shy and would like to...but....
Then I started contacting them saying,you keep lookin at my profile and asking if I could help them. Mostly no responses,found it a bit creepy so blocked them.
Currently,it freaks me out less and I just allow them to view my profile/pics.Some are simply pic collectors.. Flattering in some ways!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would this be a bad time to suggest there are others who choose not to allow you to see they've viewed your profile who may be visiting your profile many, many, many, many times...?
Or they may not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would this be a bad time to suggest there are others who choose not to allow you to see they've viewed your profile who may be visiting your profile many, many, many, many times...?
Or they may not."
This.
It is a bit odd but loads of other people could be looking every 2 minutes, you'd never know if they are in stealth mode.
For me, I wouldn't bother blocking as if he was that bothered he'd just open a new profile and keep looking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"
That would freak me out I would block. Yes people can look in stealth but you don't know so it's not weird.
23 times wow
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During the course of the day I've probably popped onto Fab to check my messages, contact someone, look at pics or read the forum over 20 times. I use a phone to log on and do so by just pressing where I've been on the site previously, almost every time I end up on someone's profile and from there I go to the "Home" page.
I've probably "viewed" the same profile a dozen or more times just because it's a starting point when I come onto the site.
I hope they don't think I'm a stalker   |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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There is the possibility the person is a "harvester", ie on your profile to see your friend's list and verifications and hope to get meets that way. Its sad but there are people like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"
I had similar once and sent a message. No reply back so I just assumed i wasn't his type either that or he has no intention of meeting anyone |
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"If you had a lot of pics available for few I wouldn't think it was weird but what exactly is he looking at? Can't be reading your profile that many times a day. I would think it was creepy too. "
I wonder if it's one of two things either someone wants a tattoo like that or after being messaged someone is playing a game. |
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I have a guy shows up on my looked at me 25% of the time at weekends ie for every 100 views he's there 25 times. A little less during the week. He's never messaged me. Doesn't really bother me. He must just like looking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was told before that if you use the 'who's near' feature, you show up on the 'looked at me' feature on the people on the lists profile.
Could just be that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of guys repeatedly look at my profile. Some message to tell me they are having fun on their own looking but most don't.
I don't care who looks or how often. Many guys are only on here for wanking material. So what?
If it bothers you; block him. It's not harsh. |
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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago
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I sometimes read interesting posts in these forums and idly click on the commenter's profile only to find myself looking at a page I've visited several times before, and possibly don't even fit their requirements. I hope they don't think I'm stalking them. Never done it 23 times in one day though!
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"We have people who look at us regularly we wouldn't think to message them and assume that if they wanted to contact us they would have by now. We think that if you put pictures on the net people will look, some more than others but if it makes you uncomfortable block them. "
...and this!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had a look at "whose Looked at me" 1 username is on there 23 times in the past 2 days.
I sent him a message before, being polite I said "hello & that I saw he'd been looking at my profile, happy to chat" I got no reply although the message was read.
Earlier today sent him a 2nd message. You're still looking why not say hello. Again it was read but no reply.
Since the 2nd message, he has looked another 3 times. I'm now thinking of blocking him as find it a little creepy, although he has done nothing wrong.
Your opinions would be appreciate.. Xx"
If you find creepy you should block, end of. |
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Do you update your status often?
Write in the forum often?
Possible reasons for this activity.
Also could be using who's nearby and all three of these could lead him to clicking your profile before realising it's you again.
Or he could just be a stalker lol
So where in plymouth are you xx |
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is he verified or something like that?