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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
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We agree. No such thing as an ugly person. Attraction is about personality and confidence far more than looks. Or at least it is to us!
Being confident in who you are is the best way to be attractive. If you're happy in your own skin being you other people will pick up on it and respond in kind! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"We agree. No such thing as an ugly person. Attraction is about personality and confidence far more than looks. Or at least it is to us!
Being confident in who you are is the best way to be attractive. If you're happy in your own skin being you other people will pick up on it and respond in kind!"
that is very nicely written.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ugly is someone who doesn't care for anybody else
ugly is someone completely devoid of compassion
ugly is someone who would deliberately hurt somebody
now ask the question again ? |
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"ugly is someone who doesn't care for anybody else
ugly is someone completely devoid of compassion
ugly is someone who would deliberately hurt somebody
now ask the question again ?"
exactly this....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think you're unattractive, however on looking at your pics the one you have chosen as your avatar is probably the least flattering. I'd say the one at the bottom of your profile pics is much nicer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think you're unattractive, however on looking at your pics the one you have chosen as your avatar is probably the least flattering. I'd say the one at the bottom of your profile pics is much nicer. "
Thanks for letting me know. I changed my avatar to the one you mentioned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good stuff. I'd probably delete the other one altogether to be honest. I don't think it's very flattering. I think with a funky haircut you'd look great |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good stuff. I'd probably delete the other one altogether to be honest. I don't think it's very flattering. I think with a funky haircut you'd look great "
Ok. Its deleted now. Not sure about my hair though as I usually just have it cut short at the hair dressers. When it comes to styling my hair, I haven't got a clue how that is done. I must also add that I have a bit of a hairline which is a bit embarrassing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Brazilian gave you some easy to apply good advice .
Far more useful than some of the useless words which won't help you at all .
Do you compare yourself to other guys of a similar age to suggest you may not be especially attractive ?
Or are you actively seeking meets and being turned down ?
As shallow as it seems , with the way you present yourself at the moment , there is plenty of room for improvement .
But at least you have a canvas to do so , good luck and remember , there really is someone out there who will find you attractive . Whether you find them attractive too is another question .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In terms of your hair there are lots of options. A bit of styling gel/wax goes a long way. Tell your hairdresser you would like to try a more up to date style which suits your hairline and ask him/her to show you how to style it. A good hairdresser should always teach you how to get the look at home. (love from a good hairdresser!) |
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By *issLissCouple
over a year ago
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No way are you ugly!
One of your pics of your penis looks a bit strange though? The other one looked normal.
I do agree with previous posters that a make over would probably make you more marketable but the sexiest thing in a man is confidence. So if you like who you are and how you look then wear that with pride, however if you want to change slightly to make yourself feel better then do what's best for you. And if you are looking to change the outside don't neglect the inside because that is just as, if not more, important. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need a new makeover new hair cut , contact lenses waxing and new wardrobe lol"
Bit harsh! I like hair on men and have no issues with specs. They can be specsy! See what I did there?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No way are you ugly!
One of your pics of your penis looks a bit strange though? The other one looked normal.
I do agree with previous posters that a make over would probably make you more marketable but the sexiest thing in a man is confidence. So if you like who you are and how you look then wear that with pride, however if you want to change slightly to make yourself feel better then do what's best for you. And if you are looking to change the outside don't neglect the inside because that is just as, if not more, important. Good luck! "
I do like their advice and yours which I'm very thankful for.
I think I know which cock pic looks strange. That would be due to it being all soapy. It does look a bit odd though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest."
No. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"brave for putting that up its gone the right way for a change u havnt been torn apart cant be all bad you have a decent cock"
Cheers mate. It is a pretty decent cock isn't it. Its not had any problems so far lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reckon as above a quick haircut would do wonders..would love to get my clippers on it.
Go to a decent mens barbers and ask their advice..
Meanwhile..no you are not ugly..i don't mind hairy or glasses.  |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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Human nature means that most of us are physically attracted to a certain 'type'....therefore, you won't be everyone's type but that certainly doesn't make you ugly!
I've read some of your forum posts and you seem like a polite, eloquent guy which goes a long way with the ladies!
Just one thing...the soap bubbles on that pic do make your cock look spotty! Good idea for a pic but maybe try again
Good luck, I'm sure you will do fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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definitely not.
and i am going to offer you some constructive points that might help.
go to a good hair dressers/barbers and get a trendy hair cut that you are comfortable with and this will make you stand out even more. as much as women protest, this is a swingers site so looks do play a factor.
also dress nicely in fitted stylish clothes. avoid what in fashion now and research what is stylish. ASOS is a good start.
i hope i dont offend but you are definitly not ugly, far from it. you have a laid back liam gallagher look that can be spruced up.
just my 2 cents |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Human nature means that most of us are physically attracted to a certain 'type'....therefore, you won't be everyone's type but that certainly doesn't make you ugly!
I've read some of your forum posts and you seem like a polite, eloquent guy which goes a long way with the ladies!
Just one thing...the soap bubbles on that pic do make your cock look spotty! Good idea for a pic but maybe try again
Good luck, I'm sure you will do fine "
You're quite right of course and I thank you. I did have a look at the photo and it does make my cock look spotty. I'll try and do a better soapy photo next time. Maybe even have a soapy erect photo for the private pics too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You think you're ugly? you should see me, God gave me the ugliest face under the sun and hit it with a fucking shovel! Seriously, you've got nothing to worry about, you seem to have a great personality along with a sense of humour. Doesn't hurt that you also happen to own a decent size cock, all the best to you mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally yes......but as a straight guy I don't fancy Brad Pitt either.....so I'm sure that like the rest of us you will get a mix of reactions and some ladies will drool over you....you want genuinely ugly....check me out an then look at my verifications,,,,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally yes......but as a straight guy I don't fancy Brad Pitt either.....so I'm sure that like the rest of us you will get a mix of reactions and some ladies will drool over you....you want genuinely ugly....check me out an then look at my verifications,,,,,"
Find the best picture you have and sell what you are all about.
If people don't like it,then move on and just be you mate. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest."
let me turn around the question.....
why would anyone want to meet if with that much negativity around you.....
I am here to meet fun people, not people who are so defeatist before they even start..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest.
let me turn around the question.....
why would anyone want to meet if with that much negativity around you.....
I am here to meet fun people, not people who are so defeatist before they even start....."
Spot on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest.
let me turn around the question.....
why would anyone want to meet if with that much negativity around you.....
I am here to meet fun people, not people who are so defeatist before they even start....."
He just wanted a bit of reassuring. Maybe he has a reason for that. He didn't sound defeated to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest.
let me turn around the question.....
why would anyone want to meet if with that much negativity around you.....
I am here to meet fun people, not people who are so defeatist before they even start.....
He just wanted a bit of reassuring. Maybe he has a reason for that. He didn't sound defeated to me "
No I wasn't being defeatist at all. Just needed some reassurance that's all. |
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I think most people get times when they are insecure .Hell I know I do ! It's perfectly normal and maybe a chance to shake things up ,but only if you want to . Do what makes you happy not to please others as you never will!
I'd far rather have a decent guy normal guy than a adonis with ugly personality .
Just keep the faith hunni x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's been answered already so i'm just parroting really but no your not....to some you may be, to many you won't be.....the same as everyone, we'll all have those who find us attractive, ugly or just indifferent so, as has been said, the most important point is do you like you? work on you liking you and the rest ought to follow =) |
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i hope im not judgemental with looks . its the personality that attracts me .. why do so many people demand face pix .. we all have faces lol ... i know theres a lot of torsos or cocks on here but one does expect a head to come with the package lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm hairy and wear glasses, but no on has ever actually run away. Yet."
Yeah. I must admit all my meets in the past were good ones and no one ran away then. Even the dent in my chest didn't put them off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most men nowadays have been influenced by Playboy and Penthouse magazines and equate good looks in a woman with her being good in bed. That is pure fantasy most good looking women are no better in bed than a plain one. In fact they are often very inhibited sexually and very disappointing. My best sex has been with very ordinary looking girls and not the good lookers.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You aren't ugly but there are better looking blokes here than you.
They will be the ones that widen the pupils.
They may fall down by not being able to back up their looks.
As others have said, your pics and your look don't sell you at first glance.
Change those and back them up with a confident friendly approach and your 'luck' on here might just change for the better.
Just change with what you are happy to change tho. Remember you are in this for you, not for anyone else.
What changes 1 person finds attractive, might be off putting to another so you are never gonna attract all of the people all of the time.
Good Luck |
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You are only ugly if you decide that you are.
I would say that it is time to re-think your choice in glasses?
Take a girl friend with you round a few opticians to see what style suits you.....
Then go on line and order up a stylish pair in your own prescription!
Also consider having some semi-professional photos taken. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no not ugly, your only 29, slim, and men are meant to be hairy anyway, and you have got a good head of hair and i like glasses i think they are sexy and make you look inteligent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no not ugly, your only 29, slim, and men are meant to be hairy anyway, and you have got a good head of hair and i like glasses i think they are sexy and make you look inteligent."
Thank you. That's very nice of you and yeah glasses are sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to know as even though I know I'm not the best looking person on here with me wearing glasses, being a tad hairy and having a dent in my chest but, am I ugly?
Be honest."
can I be honest ......... Be happy to be alive and well and stop putting yourself down .... No one is perfect , No one and most people hate something, But you lean to live with it, And its who you are and know looks are just a small part of what makes a lovely person . |
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From one bro to another; stop asking yourself if you are ugly; be at peace with who you are then work it to your advantage.
Being confident in yourself is far more attractive to women than Clooney's face + Tatum's six pack. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From one bro to another; stop asking yourself if you are ugly; be at peace with who you are then work it to your advantage.
Being confident in yourself is far more attractive to women than Clooney's face + Tatum's six pack."
Thanks for the advice mate. I'm not asking this question all the time. You're right that confidence is more attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No probs. And if it helps, we've all been there. The ones who say they haven't are liars!
Stay positive and enjoy the journey, man."
Thanks mate. Will do. |
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If being here is making you doubt your attractiveness and is denting your confidence, hide your profile for a bit and get out there.
As my dear old dad used to say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you are how you feel.
if you feel ugly you will exude ill confidence within yourself and people will pick up on this.
unless you are loaded, you havent a chance of changing what you have, so play the cards you have been dealt.
this is not the place for a confidence boost.
if you need one, hang around with people that like you are accept you for who you are.
here, its brutal at the best of times. |
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I'm a sucker for for a geeky/nerdy looking guy and I live chest hair. So to me no you are not. To others you may well be. We all have different things we like and some of the guys my girlfriends find attractive I so do not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not ugly!!!! I think your cute however I reckon change the shape or style of your glasses and get some advice which suit your face shape best. A good hair trim (on your head!!!) makes the world of difference to how you feel about yourself too. If you like your glasses and hair then keep it as it is it's how you feel about yourself that matters x |
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