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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, this is our first post in the forum so hoping you're a friendly lot 
We were on here for a few months and had lots of messages from couples, and of course single men, and some great meets, then we had a short break, came back, but we hardly get any messages now, mainly from single men but very few couples.
Just wondering if we're putting people off with our profile? We thought it best to say what we did/didn't want but beginning to think it might be having a negative effect.
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It seems fine to me. If I was being picky I would say you labour the point about having to be attractive a little it would stop us from contacting you because we wouldn't know what your criteria for attraction is. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"count yaself lucky - I dont get any messages 
No i can see that from your long list of verifications lol"
mostly because I mailed them out.. a lot are repeat meets. I rarely have anyone contact me. |
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"It seems fine to me. If I was being picky I would say you labour the point about having to be attractive a little it would stop us from contacting you because we wouldn't know what your criteria for attraction is."
Fair point, its hard to quantify because there is no criteria lol, i just look at a pic and think yes i would or no i wouldn't. It's often not the most beautiful people we find attractive either, we like all sorts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a list of what you do not want, There is nothing wrong with at all. There just are not that many bi men out there i would say. "
That's true but they only need to be bi if they're single guys, in a couple it doesn't matter. Maybe that doesn't come across.
We realise being bi puts straight men in couple off a lot too though  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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theres a lot of unecessary working in it for me.
~ Face pics are a must before meeting, we base our decision to meet primarily on if we find you attractive so please, if you don't have any, don't bother messaging (and we mean clear pic, not blurry, in the distance, sideview or wearing sunglasses)
~ Single guys that send a face pic with first message are much more likely to get a reply, we get lots of messages and often just delete messages with no pics to save time!
~ BBW / large females or males don't do it for us, having said that we're not perfect and we're not looking for perfection, just nice normal people
~ Prefer no smokers too, as we like to kiss and really dislike the taste of a smoker, and no, mints don't work!
could be condensed to - "please send a clear pic in your first message, we are not into bbw or smokers - sorry."
the rest is a little,,, wishy washy??? too .. It could flow better and take some pics off . Some are nether flattering or say much? .. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"theres a lot of unecessary working in it for me.
~ Face pics are a must before meeting, we base our decision to meet primarily on if we find you attractive so please, if you don't have any, don't bother messaging (and we mean clear pic, not blurry, in the distance, sideview or wearing sunglasses)
~ Single guys that send a face pic with first message are much more likely to get a reply, we get lots of messages and often just delete messages with no pics to save time!
~ BBW / large females or males don't do it for us, having said that we're not perfect and we're not looking for perfection, just nice normal people
~ Prefer no smokers too, as we like to kiss and really dislike the taste of a smoker, and no, mints don't work!
could be condensed to - "please send a clear pic in your first message, we are not into bbw or smokers - sorry."
the rest is a little,,, wishy washy??? too .. It could flow better and take some pics off . Some are nether flattering or say much? .. x"
Haha you just made it sound too easy 
Going to use that lol, thanks. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I look for fun on profiles. You expect certain dos and don't on single women profiles, but on couple ones - to me, it doesnt look fun (as the hub is pretty well always in control of what goes on)
Just tell people what you want and a bit of what you do maybe.. ? |
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"It seems fine to me. If I was being picky I would say you labour the point about having to be attractive a little it would stop us from contacting you because we wouldn't know what your criteria for attraction is.
Fair point, its hard to quantify because there is no criteria lol, i just look at a pic and think yes i would or no i wouldn't. It's often not the most beautiful people we find attractive either, we like all sorts "
We're the same, we go by photos and personality in messages |
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"I look for fun on profiles. You expect certain dos and don't on single women profiles, but on couple ones - to me, it doesnt look fun (as the hub is pretty well always in control of what goes on)
Just tell people what you want and a bit of what you do maybe.. ? "
Hmm. I wouldn't agree with you on the control thing but maybe that's just us, we're 50/50 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I look for fun on profiles. You expect certain dos and don't on single women profiles, but on couple ones - to me, it doesnt look fun (as the hub is pretty well always in control of what goes on)
Just tell people what you want and a bit of what you do maybe.. ? "
So what makes a profile fun in your opinion? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It seems fine to me. If I was being picky I would say you labour the point about having to be attractive a little it would stop us from contacting you because we wouldn't know what your criteria for attraction is.
Fair point, its hard to quantify because there is no criteria lol, i just look at a pic and think yes i would or no i wouldn't. It's often not the most beautiful people we find attractive either, we like all sorts
We're the same, we go by photos and personality in messages "
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I look for fun on profiles. You expect certain dos and don't on single women profiles, but on couple ones - to me, it doesnt look fun (as the hub is pretty well always in control of what goes on)
Just tell people what you want and a bit of what you do maybe.. ?
Hmm. I wouldn't agree with you on the control thing but maybe that's just us, we're 50/50 "
I meant if there's a husband present, it's unlikely any guy will take the piss. I do what I do really but with another guy in the room you are conscious not to hog it.. |
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"I look for fun on profiles. You expect certain dos and don't on single women profiles, but on couple ones - to me, it doesnt look fun (as the hub is pretty well always in control of what goes on)
Just tell people what you want and a bit of what you do maybe.. ?
Hmm. I wouldn't agree with you on the control thing but maybe that's just us, we're 50/50
I meant if there's a husband present, it's unlikely any guy will take the piss. I do what I do really but with another guy in the room you are conscious not to hog it.. "
Oh right, got you. Yes I agree I wouldn't feel as safe it confident if Mr N wasn't present. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Can't see anything wrong in your profile. Think all couples go through lulls you also have to be prepared to make the first move occasionally sitting back and waiting for the offers to flood in does not always work |
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