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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be sarcastic, bitchy, funny and honest, send them a ridiculous picture of you in fancy dress and sit back and wait, those that reply will obviously have a sense if fun, those that don't, you've lost nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works?  "
Yes.. I am inundated with offers, currently finding time to fit all the women in each day |
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
You have been on before recognise your pics and asked for advice? Only you can know what to write in a message. There is no ideal message. The advice below and given on the many forum threads on the subject is good advice
Best of luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women
It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!! Me sarcastic !!!!!  "
Not you, shag tonight. Don't panic, that's not an offer, I mean the user shag tonight lol |
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"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol.and that works? Yes.. I am inundated with offers, currently finding time to fit all the women in each day "
drop the bit about nice tits to make the inbox a little bit more manageable. Got it down to three hours reading and replies daily. Works a charm.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you lucky sod! I would have thorght that would been a turn off for women
It is, I believe he's being sarcastic!! Me sarcastic !!!!!
Not you, shag tonight. Don't panic, that's not an offer, I mean the user shag tonight lol"
I was just about to say . Yes please . You killed the moment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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would something like this work
Hi, I mike 
A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.
Key Stats:
6ft 2 tall
34 inch waist
Slight belly
Clean and DD Free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would something like this work
Hi, I mike
A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.
Key Stats:
6ft 2 tall
34 inch waist
Slight belly
Clean and DD Free"
DD free ??. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drug and STD"
Would leave that bit out mate . It sounds like you had a drugs and decease problem and now your free
Ladies would automatically expect you to be DD free anyway . I don't think there are many ladies looking for guys who aren't |
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"would something like this work
Hi, I mike
A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.
Key Stats:
6ft 2 tall
34 inch waist
Slight belly
Clean and DD Free"
Honestly, I would just delete it. Stats are irrelevant. You need something to catch the readers eye/imagination.
Appreciate people have to start somewhere but telling people you have little experience is a negative start. Make a message personal, pick put something from the persons profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Make a message personal, pick put something from the persons profile "
 You need to give the recipient a reason to reply so need to make it unique to each person you message. I may be wrong but from the example you gave it reads like you send the same message to multiple recipients - probably not a great idea. Read the forums and you'll see copy and paste messages are generally not well recieved.
Comment on the profile, pay a compliment (preferably something a little more substantial than nice tits), ask a question. You need to be engaging and draw people in to a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make each message you send individual to the person you are messaging, don't cut and paste the same message to everyone. Read their profile in full and look for common ground to give you ideas of something to write about.
Be patient and put in effort. A lot will no doubt still get deleted but you'll have a better chance.
If that fails just ask them for a shag right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Make each message you send individual to the person you are messaging, don't cut and paste the same message to everyone. Read their profile in full and look for common ground to give you ideas of something to write about.
Be patient and put in effort. A lot will no doubt still get deleted but you'll have a better chance.
If that fails just ask them for a shag right now. "
Cut and paste!! Haha now I know you have done that .. crafty devil haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
read her profile and try to meesage her with content related to what she is looking for, if you want more meets I would go to a club |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
"would something like this work
Hi, I mike
A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.
Key Stats:
6ft 2 tall
34 inch waist
Slight belly
Clean and DD Free"
Yawn! Sorry, but a message like that would be deleted straight away....nothing that stands out from the crowd, makes me smile or makes me believe that you have bothered to read my profile.
And another tip....some photos of you looking even remotely happy might help! Smile man, what you so miserable about??!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep coming and going with new profiles probably doesn't help, this must be your 3rd profile in around a month. Some people notice this and rightly or wrongly assume you might not be serious or up for this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about as an opening line
'Lottery millionaire looking for a woman to help him spend obscene amounts of money on fast cars, designer clothes and exotic foreign travel.....'
If nothing else it will get people's attention |
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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago
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Very true.... Where it doesn't work in on here. If you answer the message and say you get 5 maybe 10 a day then you will be on here all day just discussing your health.
They get deleted as it shows the kind of effort and interest they have in our profile which prob relates to the effort put in on the job! |
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*  |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,
I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused* "
He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,
I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*
He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given! "
I think this is his 3rd profile in a month. He asked for advice on his last one a few weeks ago and got some good advice so he knows what he should be doing. |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire Moorlands |
"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them,
I don't think hiding your profile will help you get meets, people usually do that when they don't want to meet. *confused*
He has only just hidden it....I'm guessing yet another one who asked for advice but didn't like the advice given!
I think this is his 3rd profile in a month. He asked for advice on his last one a few weeks ago and got some good advice so he knows what he should be doing."
Hmmm....just a bit thick then??? Lol! Some guys on here never learn...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"would something like this work
Hi, I mike
A 20 year old student, who hasn't had much experience but would like to mix and meet people sexually. I would be intrested in talking with you and hopefully arrange something.
Key Stats:
6ft 2 tall
34 inch waist
Slight belly
Clean and DD Free"
Cut and paste messages in my opinion don't work, you need to read the persons profile and answer that.
Also a few weeks ago you were only looking to meet guys....what changed?? |
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
Really your best bets are socials. In a social you are a real person who has made the effort to turn up. That is, you become a serious player/swinger. Best of luck. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I m often amazed that people (often guys) have to ask for help to craft a message thats a good introduction
same with a profile thats engaging and interesting guys you know you best,, 
Wtf guys use your imaginations,
Apologies I m in a frystrated mood today,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually send "Hi, nice tits, fancy a shag tonight "lol."
Spot on.... its complimentary, offering something and asking a leading question. .. guaranteed to get a response. Hahaha
I try to be a little different with my intro line being.... nice legs.... what time do they open? Kidding.
Better to ask if you can call one leg Christmas and the other one easter and then ask the lovely lady if you can come visit between the holidays.
Have a good day people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if im honest its not the first message that impresses me its the guys profile. I always read that first if its not to my taste i delete the message without even reading it |
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By *hameless-2Couple
over a year ago
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Oh for fux sake mate.
Please don't take this the wrong way, but grow a personality. No wonder you always get deleted with that one liner.
I'm an old fat fucker now but we still manage to pull younger, good looking slim cpls.,women,men.
Cos my personality is bigger then my belly and my wife is so damn sexy lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am wondering how best a woman would like a first message to go because at the moment I use
"Hi there, how are you" and everyone seems to delete them, "
why don't you try chatting in the chatrooms? get to know a few people that way, then attend a social or two, get a few verifications and then hopefully meets will follow...
but for now how about 'hi..i just checked out your profile and I think we would get on.. have a look at mine and if you agree lets take it from there?' or something like that?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually start with.
Ahoy there. Stand by to be boarded you landlubber. Then the offer of walking my plank usually gets busty maidens all a quiver and queuing up to shiver my timbers!
Yarrggh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials were how we started and was a really good ice breaker ..... contrary to what we thought swingers arnt that scary after all ....... just a bit odd |
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