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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in some D/s dynamics, the sub actually thinks up punishments themselves. things they genuinely don't like, often on a rated scale of severity to be equal to the infraction. plus, is she misbehaving just to get punished? if so, how do you intend to handle that? |
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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
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deny her spanking then also try securing her hands behind her back make her kneel naked then proceed to wank just out of her reach let her see you cock and how much you are enjoying it before you cum all over her face
denial is a great punishment
use your fingers to get her right on the edge of cumming then just stop and walk away she will be so frustrated
use your imagination if she likes/enjoys done do it find what she hates and do that as a a punishment but use it sparingly or it will loose effect
but most of all have fun |
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I love being punished and enjoy pain so its a little more difficult when it comes to punishing with me..
There are a few things that you could try though such as orgasm denial (tying her up bringing her to the edge then making her watch you pleasure yourself or making her wait days). Spanking with a paddle/cane is a little more harsher and then theres humiliation (ie going out without knickers on.. name calling ect).
Entirely up to you..  Mrs x |
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"deny her spanking then also try securing her hands behind her back make her kneel naked then proceed to wank just out of her reach let her see you cock and how much you are enjoying it before you cum all over her face
denial is a great punishment
use your fingers to get her right on the edge of cumming then just stop and walk away she will be so frustrated
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Oh damn, beaten! but its a very good punishment! |
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I'm with the others who suggest that if your sub gives up her 'weaknesses' to you, then they are there ripe for the taking, as and when appropriate.
I assume you've done a range of restraints and encourage you to think of the psychological as well as the physical elements of the interaction and relationship. If you think about real life, the fear of something that hasn't happened is often much worse the actual thing when it does happen. Fear etc is all in the mind, so start becoming the master of her weaknesses and fears. All good frigthening films ramp up the fear type elements really well, long before the actual stuff ever happens. You need to decide upon the journey, the speed and to keep a watchful eye upon her. If she is enjoying anything, then it is important for you to decide whether this is appropriate or not and deny appropriately. Likewise, any attention, physical and otherwise that she may get, is all at your discretion and control.
Most kids will eat unlimited sweets in a sweetshop, if they're free and are allowed to. Don't allow your sub to gorge herself with gluttony for cock, spanking etc. With-hold and deny.
Similarly, whilst everything is done with complete agreement, it is also good to maintain the element of surprise. Suspense about what may happen can be a powerful thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love being punished and enjoy pain so its a little more difficult when it comes to punishing with me..
There are a few things that you could try though such as orgasm denial (tying her up bringing her to the edge then making her watch you pleasure yourself or making her wait days). Spanking with a paddle/cane is a little more harsher and then theres humiliation (ie going out without knickers on.. name calling ect).
Entirely up to you.. Mrs x"
i don't enjoy pain, but I'm told i would be challenging to. punish if i ever actually earned a punishment, lol. the thread referenced above wouldn't work as a punishment, either. i think I'm odd  |
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i don't enjoy pain, but I'm told i would be challenging to. punish if i ever actually earned a punishment, lol. the thread referenced above wouldn't work as a punishment, either. i think I'm odd "
I dont think we should be refered as odd just wickedly disobedient and naughty .
As for pain, for me its a little bit of a buzz during and the whole act (i guess i get off the humiliation) in a way and then afterwards is more of the punishment when you have the embarrassment of bruised and sore ass/legs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We like the D/S games but I wouldnt want to play total denial games. The payoff of making each other come is too good to miss."
my Dom never denied me outright when we played, he would simply delay it by telling mei wasn't allowed to yyet. he had to give permission for me to orgasm, and i had to doit when i was told tto. i enjoyed that. cumming on command is great.  |
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"We like the D/S games but I wouldnt want to play total denial games. The payoff of making each other come is too good to miss.
my Dom never denied me outright when we played, he would simply delay it by telling mei wasn't allowed to yyet. he had to give permission for me to orgasm, and i had to doit when i was told tto. i enjoyed that. cumming on command is great. "
When were u coming? While you were being penetrated? Thats a little trickier for OH to not come. She delays but often comes anyway (little rebel  ). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We like the D/S games but I wouldnt want to play total denial games. The payoff of making each other come is too good to miss.
my Dom never denied me outright when we played, he would simply delay it by telling mei wasn't allowed to yyet. he had to give permission for me to orgasm, and i had to doit when i was told tto. i enjoyed that. cumming on command is great.
When were u coming? While you were being penetrated? Thats a little trickier for OH to not come. She delays but often comes anyway (little rebel ). "
yes, it's not easy. in order to hold it right on the edge so that you don't come, but you're there for when he says you can requires bloody concentration. i don't know how i do it, just that i do. or at least, that i was able to for that Dom. will be interesting to see if i can for another, actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"deny her spanking then also try securing her hands behind her back make her kneel naked then proceed to wank just out of her reach let her see you cock and how much you are enjoying it before you cum all over her face
denial is a great punishment
use your fingers to get her right on the edge of cumming then just stop and walk away she will be so frustrated
use your imagination if she likes/enjoys done do it find what she hates and do that as a a punishment but use it sparingly or it will loose effect
but most of all have fun "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced.
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Really you should join a more appropriate forum and get some advice from some genuine players - there are plenty out there.
Off the top of my head:
Writing lines
Corner time/general time out
Enforced silence
Ignore her
Cleaning
Exercise
Kneeling on rice
Try joining a BDSM related forum there are plenty out there and if you guys are new to the scene it's probably a good idea.
Just keep it safe.
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By (user no longer on site)
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A starter for 10
Denial of orgasm whilst on her own
Denial of sex
Make her flash whilst out
Wearing no underwear
Scouring pad in knickers for a day
Spanking with a belt then no touching
Having sex with another guy on their own
Explain how disappointed you are to her.... That should be the biggest punishment if she is truly sub. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced.
Really you should join a more appropriate forum and get some advice from some genuine players - there are plenty out there.
Off the top of my head:
Writing lines
Corner time/general time out
Enforced silence
Ignore her
Cleaning
Exercise
Kneeling on rice
Try joining a BDSM related forum there are plenty out there and if you guys are new to the scene it's probably a good idea.
Just keep it safe.
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to be quite honest, many on this site are genuine players who are also found on alternative or fetish lifestyle websites. off the top of my head i can think of 8 people that i know, in addition to myself. whilst those websites are really good, as you say, this forum is as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced. "
Make her watch Manchester United's 2013/14 season on DVD  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced. "
If I was to be punished by my dom the worst thing he could do to me is not allow me to suck his cock, so me knelt in front of him wanking or rubbing his cock along my lips and to be able to take him deep would drive me nuts.
I always ask if I can cum and he also tells me if he wants me to cum. Again denying my orgasam would be a punishment or made to cum time and time again hard to achieve . Have lots of fun x |
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"Hi, me and my fuck buddy are new to the scene of sub/dom. I'm the dom in the relationship and she is the sub. We are getting the hang of it pretty well and are really enjoying ourselves. However, I am having trouble thinking of a suitable punishment for her when she misbehaves or doesn't do as she is told. She loves it when I spank her (and so do I) so that doesn't work as an effective punishment, nor does making her suck my cock (loves that too). Can anyone suggest any 'not too extreme' punishments for her as we are only beginners. Thanks in advanced. "
I find remote controlled toys while in public are very good, she has to control herself while being randomly stimulated. |
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