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Don't do anything that you or her will regret later. If she (or you) says no to anything, don't roll the eyes, stomp your foot or tut. Take, talk, talk and talk some more.
Leave your first night feeling like you want to go back to do more. Better than feeling like you never want to try anything like it again.
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"Don't do anything that you or her will regret later. If she (or you) says no to anything, don't roll the eyes, stomp your foot or tut. Take, talk, talk and talk some more.
Leave your first night feeling like you want to go back to do more. Better than feeling like you never want to try anything like it again.
crystal"
Agree completely the first night in a club is likely to be a whole new experience that even if nothing happens your partner and you will have a great night, meet some great people and see things you'll talk about lots. If you play, you play, if its just with each other great, you'll go back again wanting more.
If you pressure yourselves into "we have to do this or that" then one of you won't enjoy it and maybe resent it. Leave wanting more... We did  |
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"Don't do anything that you or her will regret later. If she (or you) says no to anything, don't roll the eyes, stomp your foot or tut. Take, talk, talk and talk some more.
Leave your first night feeling like you want to go back to do more. Better than feeling like you never want to try anything like it again.
crystal"
We don't entirely agree with this .
Heres why .
Often , when couples attend a club for the first time , there's a huge build up , and that step into the fire is the result of a lot of nerve and pent up desire .
So if when attending for the first time , you go with the intention of doing little or nothing , all that bravery and trepidation is for nothing , and you are no nearer to knowing if the lifestyle is for you .
The deflation and disappointment may leave you feeling like you don't want to go through it all again .
If you have discussed it as a couple , and feel ready , then go with an open mind . Have a blast and then you will know if it's right from experiencing the fun and thrill of it all
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"Don't do anything that you or her will regret later. If she (or you) says no to anything, don't roll the eyes, stomp your foot or tut. Take, talk, talk and talk some more.
Leave your first night feeling like you want to go back to do more. Better than feeling like you never want to try anything like it again.
crystal
We don't entirely agree with this .
Heres why .
Often , when couples attend a club for the first time , there's a huge build up , and that step into the fire is the result of a lot of nerve and pent up desire .
So if when attending for the first time , you go with the intention of doing little or nothing , all that bravery and trepidation is for nothing , and you are no nearer to knowing if the lifestyle is for you .
The deflation and disappointment may leave you feeling like you don't want to go through it all again .
If you have discussed it as a couple , and feel ready , then go with an open mind . Have a blast and then you will know if it's right from experiencing the fun and thrill of it all
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I think it depends entirely on the individuals. On our first night out, we both left saying what a fantastic time we both had and wishing we had taken advantage of a couple more opportunities. As soon as we got home, we were straight on the net researching the next night out! I think for many people, the bravery involved in attending their first visit to a club is a big step and for some, going a step too far may cause issues.
It's an entirely individual thing and nobody can ever really say what people should or shouldn't do on their first visit but as long as you have a good time and it sparks an interest in doing more, it can only be a good thing in my opinion.
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"Don't do anything that you or her will regret later. If she (or you) says no to anything, don't roll the eyes, stomp your foot or tut. Take, talk, talk and talk some more.
Leave your first night feeling like you want to go back to do more. Better than feeling like you never want to try anything like it again.
crystal
We don't entirely agree with this .
Heres why .
Often , when couples attend a club for the first time , there's a huge build up , and that step into the fire is the result of a lot of nerve and pent up desire .
So if when attending for the first time , you go with the intention of doing little or nothing , all that bravery and trepidation is for nothing , and you are no nearer to knowing if the lifestyle is for you .
The deflation and disappointment may leave you feeling like you don't want to go through it all again .
If you have discussed it as a couple , and feel ready , then go with an open mind . Have a blast and then you will know if it's right from experiencing the fun and thrill of it all
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Must agree fully. My first time to a club (but already experienced swinger) was with a fb and being shown round by another fem "friend". Was to chams. Was told the round room was the most action packed..... Finding it empty twice we thought "fcuk it" we need to get it started - so the 3 of us did - room soon filled up and it was a great night.
If you are going and have built up expectations then best advice is to go for it.....I assume you already know your limits and have a list of do's and don'ts. Stick to them and enjoy! |
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"Always leave wishing you had done more rather than feeling like you had done too much or gone too far 
crystal
Very good advice "
second that. We started by looking around, chatting and a little play with just us. Each time we went after that we expanded our boundaries a little more, learning what we both enjoyed and, more importantly, what we preferred not to try again |
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