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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey so we are new to this all well kinda we have been on this site for a couple of months and haven't had any luck yet. Could anyone give us some pointers x |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"have you thought about a club in your area, it may be better.
Any parties or social events to build your network.
good luck  "
This.
Plus is your profile going to attract a single bi fem?
You state the male will be involved but there's no images of him - so he could be a Brad Pitt or Roy Chubby Brown look alike. You can't accom either. It's going to be a rare single lady that will invite two strangers into their house. You also state you're looking for your first bi experience. Nothing wrong with that - but that may discount those that seek experience and the knowledge that they are meeting someone who actually enjoys bi encounters rather than someone dipping their toes.
Plus of course - patience. You are seeking the same as hundreds of other couples and as such have to make yourselves an attractive proposition to a demographic that can easily pick and choose their company. As is often said to single guys - you get out what you put in - but patience and a lack of expectancy are key.
Good luck!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice we will add more pics and take down the first bi experience part. We understand there wre 100's of other couples in our boat but we just thought, we are young, sexy and confident so thought we would have more luck.
We know patience is key but we have had so many time wasters we are starting to loses it a bit |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Thanks for the advice we will add more pics and take down the first bi experience part. We understand there wre 100's of other couples in our boat but we just thought, we are young, sexy and confident so thought we would have more luck.
We know patience is key but we have had so many time wasters we are starting to loses it a bit "
Be very selective on who to contact.
Focus on those with a good record of verifications and insist on an early phone call - those serious won't have a problem with that. Sadly the 'single bi fem' is the most commonly faked profile.
Clubs and parties will enable you to meet a variety of people face to face - and if nobody takes your fancy you're under no obligation to play!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd echo what others have said, there is very little to entice a single bi female. What's in it for her? Very, very little.
I'd echo the point about parties and meets. Also as your profile mentions an interest in kink there is a thriving fet scene in London and an undeniable crossover between the 2 scenes. It is so much easier to meet people in a social setting where people get to see your dynamic. So consider that, consider clubs and socials. Don;t rely purely on this (or any other) site. Single bi-females aren't sometimes refered to as unicorns for nothing |
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"I'd echo what others have said, there is very little to entice a single bi female. What's in it for her? Very, very little.
I'd echo the point about parties and meets. Also as your profile mentions an interest in kink there is a thriving fet scene in London and an undeniable crossover between the 2 scenes. It is so much easier to meet people in a social setting where people get to see your dynamic. So consider that, consider clubs and socials. Don;t rely purely on this (or any other) site. Single bi-females aren't sometimes refered to as unicorns for nothing"
This
And... don't try too hard.
We have had some success in meeting single bi fems because we don't pursue them, we let them know we are interested, make friends, chat,and see where it goes, let them set the pace.
Don't chase a lady just because she is the "elusive" bi fem.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know why people think single bi females are so rare to find!
I meet lots of them at clubs who are happy to play with couples but probably because it's a safe environment , you meet face to face and get an instant feel of wether your attracted or not, can chat and socialise with no pressure to play and anyone can walk away at any time without feeling they've had their time wasted. Of course that's just my opinion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why people think single bi females are so rare to find!
I meet lots of them at clubs who are happy to play with couples but probably because it's a safe environment , you meet face to face and get an instant feel of wether your attracted or not, can chat and socialise with no pressure to play and anyone can walk away at any time without feeling they've had their time wasted. Of course that's just my opinion "
As a single bi female.... This sums it up. Clubs are safe for me and if we don't click... We can just chat and go our pun way... Elle xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just trying to imagine what the responses would be if the original post said 'help a single guy find a girl' "
It would be the same from me.... Get put to clubs and meet people xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd echo what others have said, there is very little to entice a single bi female. What's in it for her? Very, very little.
I'd echo the point about parties and meets. Also as your profile mentions an interest in kink there is a thriving fet scene in London and an undeniable crossover between the 2 scenes. It is so much easier to meet people in a social setting where people get to see your dynamic. So consider that, consider clubs and socials. Don;t rely purely on this (or any other) site. Single bi-females aren't sometimes refered to as unicorns for nothing"
You're doing a lot of echoing crystal - have you had the carpets taken up? (Sorry - couldn't resist.....resist.....resi.....res.....re......r..... Hehe ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single bi females are people... living breathing human beings with feelings.
When people start talking about them as some sort of 'tick box' on their sexual bucket list, it's a massive turn off.....
Great advice on this thread.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single bi females are people... living breathing human beings with feelings.
When people start talking about them as some sort of 'tick box' on their sexual bucket list, it's a massive turn off.....
Great advice on this thread. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why people think single bi females are so rare to find!
I meet lots of them at clubs who are happy to play with couples but probably because it's a safe environment , you meet face to face and get an instant feel of wether your attracted or not, can chat and socialise with no pressure to play and anyone can walk away at any time without feeling they've had their time wasted. Of course that's just my opinion
As a single bi female.... This sums it up. Clubs are safe for me and if we don't click... We can just chat and go our pun way... Elle xx"
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Having read your profile, I have to say, I wouldn't be meeting you.
Its not the lack of experience... it just reads like it was written by a guy.
You say nothing of what you offer said lady. It's all about what you want, and to expect the lady to accom or meet 2 strangers somewhere is asking an awful lot - put yourself in her shoes... would you want to meet like that?
No mention of social, it sounds like you want wham, bam thank you ma'am!
There are so many couples out there who make an effort, and make it attractive for ladies to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the reply we don't want a wham bam thank you ma'am meet. We want to meet socially. From what everyone's said it's all good advice.
We will change our profile and take all of your criticism constructively thanks guys x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the reply we don't want a wham bam thank you ma'am meet. We want to meet socially. From what everyone's said it's all good advice.
We will change our profile and take all of your criticism constructively thanks guys x"
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the advice we will add more pics and take down the first bi experience part. "
Don't think that this is the way to go really. While it may make meeting you less attractive to some women, you are far better off being honest with someone about your level of experience in advance of a possible meet.
There is nothing to be ashamed about it being your first bi experience, it just won't be for some people to want to share that with you. For others, it may well be what attracts them to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the advice we will add more pics and take down the first bi experience part. We understand there wre 100's of other couples in our boat but we just thought, we are young, sexy and confident so thought we would have more luck.
We know patience is key but we have had so many time wasters we are starting to loses it a bit "
I don't think you need to take down the bit about your 1st bi experience, but more pics of the male half wouldn't hurt!
We've been lucky enough to have met with a few single bi Fems... It didn't happen straight away though...
Try putting yourself in their shoes, are they going to be treated as a sex toy? Will you be taking their needs and boundaries into consideration?
Try going to clubs or private parties, as from our experience single Fems, bi or straight dont tend to meet at their own homes as they like to feel safe!
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm just trying to imagine what the responses would be if the original post said 'help a single guy find a girl' "
The OP would be a lamb to the slaughter, happens every time from those I've seen.
A few survive intact but they do it with humour.
We're not looking to meet bi-females so I just watch from the sidelines thinking how strange the attitudes are in this community to men who aren't part of a couple. You're as wanted an airborne disease it sometimes seems from the way people post.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I'm just trying to imagine what the responses would be if the original post said 'help a single guy find a girl' "
have you thought about a club in your area, it may be better.
Any parties or social events to build your network.
good luck
post more in the forums and get yourself known
** all the above would have been my answer ** |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"Hey so we are new to this all well kinda we have been on this site for a couple of months and haven't had any luck yet. Could anyone give us some pointers x"
and me pleeeeeese seems we are looking for the same thing |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Its still a bit bare of information, and its a real shame the only male pic is a cock one... most ladies already know what one of those looks like.
I guess if its what you want, its your profile... its about selling yourselves - look at it as a single female... would you want to meet those people?
You may well struggle being very young as well, a lot of folk on here will be old enough to be your parents/grandparents.
Have a look at other profiles - and don't plagiarise, but see what works for successful couples, and then see what you can come up with for your own. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have added some more and will add some pics a bit later. We know about our age as that's been a massive factor in women not being interested.
Thanks for all the help you are giving us though x |
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"We have added some more and will add some pics a bit later. We know about our age as that's been a massive factor in women not being interested.
Thanks for all the help you are giving us though x"
Your profile sounds friendly enough, and it's difficult to get the content just right anyway. Too much and people won't read, too little and they'll move on. We've seen profiles of barely 2 lines yet they have dozens of veris. Best way is to expand on your wishes in the initial message.
Have you considered meeting couples? There are plenty of couples in similar situations to you. We've had meets where the girls play for a while and then the guys join in.
We love playing with younger people by the way. You've only been here a few weeks, so keep trying, and good luck!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single bi females are people... living breathing human beings with feelings.
When people start talking about them as some sort of 'tick box' on their sexual bucket list, it's a massive turn off.....
Great advice on this thread. "
Agree 1000% I no longer meet couples because I feel like I'm there for them. To explore them & doesn't seem returned. Its all about the couple. Well hang on. I want a social drink first but get told no would be odd. We don't do that. Or I'm big curious. Absolutely not, go find someone else to try bi. Don't get me started on the you can't kiss my man rule. Your in a pair, who is holding my hand! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single bi females are people... living breathing human beings with feelings.
When people start talking about them as some sort of 'tick box' on their sexual bucket list, it's a massive turn off.....
Great advice on this thread.
Agree 1000% I no longer meet couples because I feel like I'm there for them. To explore them & doesn't seem returned. Its all about the couple. Well hang on. I want a social drink first but get told no would be odd. We don't do that. Or I'm big curious. Absolutely not, go find someone else to try bi. Don't get me started on the you can't kiss my man rule. Your in a pair, who is holding my hand!"
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This seems a common theme that I (H) can totally understand. The 'no social' verges on infuriating me and it's attitudes like that, along with the notion that the couple is doing the woman a favour, that have well and truely put me off venturing out to play without C |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single bi females are people... living breathing human beings with feelings.
When people start talking about them as some sort of 'tick box' on their sexual bucket list, it's a massive turn off.....
Great advice on this thread.
Agree 1000% I no longer meet couples because I feel like I'm there for them. To explore them & doesn't seem returned. Its all about the couple. Well hang on. I want a social drink first but get told no would be odd. We don't do that. Or I'm big curious. Absolutely not, go find someone else to try bi. Don't get me started on the you can't kiss my man rule. Your in a pair, who is holding my hand!"
We're not even interested in bi-females
and im angry for you. I say the same thing about couples quite regularly. This activity isn't just about what we want and often couples think singles should be grateful for being invited in to the relationship. We much, much prefer an even playing field with any meet and refuse to take the stance that only our needs have to be met. Guys constantly say 'you're the couple, I'll follow your lead' it's said with the best of intentions but I don't want anyone I play with to feel like second class citizens.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me, it's just like fishing. You need to find a good location, a good swim and prepare your bait accordingly.
For example let's say the bi fem's a Carp. Doesn't matter what type but that's what you're targeting. So, you find a nice swim with lots of features, good reed margins, Lilly pads, Island, shelf on the bottom. All will hold quality bi fem's, so bait up each one differently. Corn by the pads, meat in the margins, maggot by the shelf. The carp patrol these features all the time in the hunt for a couple so now look at your tactics. You can't accom. So you need a good sound base to begin your operations. A good weight to get to the lillies, or a closed feeder for the shelf. Once you're out there sit back and wait. Every so often wack a little ground bait out there, and the ladies will soon be queuing up.
Be careful for predators and nuisance single guys, but I think you'll soon be catching every cast. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinkyberkscouple !
May we ask where you got your panties from in the avatar"
Good old lovehoney! They used to do a few colours ... Try searching "crotchless caged panties" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinkyberkscouple !
May we ask where you got your panties from in the avatar
Good old lovehoney! They used to do a few colours ... Try searching "crotchless caged panties"
Thank you"
sure i have seen some similar on ebay too |
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