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disrespect or fair enough?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ok so i've been chatting with a couple gain recently. Our conversations have gone along the lines of their into meeting/happy to Meet, asking for a face pic for the missus then saying they'd get back to me after seeing what the missus said with "i will defo get back to you either way kind of reply" left it for a day or so... asked what the missus had to say.. No reply. So I leave it a bit and then ask about it again after a considerable amount of time, and get told I didn't send one last time - so I check my message history and lo! There it is, I sent it 2 months ago and not deleted by them. So what's up with that? sure, they may have forgotten about it so...
Next I send another face pic in good faith and on the assurance they'd send one back, but again no pics at all. just another message that's a one liner from them, not dismissive, but with a strange tone.
Now personally I really couldn't care less if they want to meet or not, if anything the way they've been I certainly don't anymore.
I have to ask though what's up with the bullshit exactly? Bit of mutual respect goes a long way surely? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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block them and move on... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yeah fair enough, just a point though. these are verified users :S |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happens all the time on here. Some people on here come out with more bullshit than a heard of cows produce in a year!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they just changed their minds?
Maybe they've got other things happening in their lives besides swinging?
No offence meant at all, OP, but it happens.
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
No response = not interested,
Move on you ve done what you can do, the actions of others is in their control, we have a saying on Yorkshire ' theres nowt stranger than folk,'
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just changed their minds?
Maybe they've got other things happening in their lives besides swinging?
No offence meant at all, OP, but it happens.
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none taken and sure, but surely a friendly "look we've talked as we said we would and you're not for us" would be cool? something tells me its the male of the two with one hand on the mouse and the other...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"none taken and sure, but surely a friendly "look we've talked as we said we would and you're not for us" would be cool? something tells me its the male of the two with one hand on the mouse and the other... "
Maybe you're right, maybe not.
Thing to remember I reckon is that it probably isnt personal.
Agree that it would be ideal if everyone replied and explained, but the reality is that women and couples on here are swamped with mail AND they have their 'other', everyday, lives to manage too.
Totally understand where you're coming from, mate. Glad no offence taken.
Move on, give them the benefit of the doubt.
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"Maybe they just changed their minds?
Maybe they've got other things happening in their lives besides swinging?
No offence meant at all, OP, but it happens.
none taken and sure, but surely a friendly "look we've talked as we said we would and you're not for us" would be cool? something tells me its the male of the two with one hand on the mouse and the other... "
Something tells me you might be right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just changed their minds?
Maybe they've got other things happening in their lives besides swinging?
No offence meant at all, OP, but it happens.
none taken and sure, but surely a friendly "look we've talked as we said we would and you're not for us" would be cool? something tells me its the male of the two with one hand on the mouse and the other... "
Yeah a simple you are not for us message would have been nice,its happened to me before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if i didnt hear back from them the first time i wouldnt of bothered, they werent interested but they didnt have the good manners to say so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair enough.
No response is no response.
Whatever their reasons, it ain't happening.
I learned very quickly that in terms of holding an online profile, you have to adopt a very come day go day attitude when it comes to what makes others tick.
You can't assume everyone with communicate in the same way as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair enough.
No response is no response.
Whatever their reasons, it ain't happening.
I learned very quickly that in terms of holding an online profile, you have to adopt a very come day go day attitude when it comes to what makes others tick.
You can't assume everyone with communicate in the same way as you."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally would prefer people to just say not for me as I'm happy to do the same so no one's time is wasted and we all know where we stand. Unfortunately not everyone has the self confidence to give a polite no thanks or take one and an abusive message can sometimes follow so ignorance is preferable. I've been on here long enough to know when its going nowhere so just move on, plenty more people worth your time on here |
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