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Have I been duped?
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By *issyKissy74 OP Woman
over a year ago
Yate, South Glos, Bristol |
Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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No....
he may have decided swinging is not for him and that will have nothing to do with you, more his mindset.
onwards and upwards.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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no! Its about him, not you. was he married, feeling guilty maybe? My guess is he will be back, and probably look for you. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you've only be duped if you were either expecting more and/or arranged to meet again and have no other way of contacting him.
otherwise onwards & upwards! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
and why should they???? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
I joined swinging for NSA sex, I don't need to advise my meets what action I am about to do if it doesn't involve them NOR do I expect that from them.. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
That is what NSA sex is for us....we don't answer to people we play with and they don't answer to us.
Do you expect more? and if so what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
 You mean swingers actually do NSA
Silly me, I'm so on the wrong site 
Good conversation, great sex, no commitment, well that's what we look for and enjoy, I'm already wed so nsa is what we use this site for  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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You haven't been duped it just can be like that.. It's not you though, it's him and the fab way sometimes.
Don't be suprised if he has a new profile and messages to meet again and asks for a veri in a week.
Happy swinging, let it go as experience and enjoy your next meet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont worry abt it,it can happen to all of us,i was at a party last week spent my evening with a bloke i met there,and he came back to my hotel till mid Morning,i gave him my number,not heard a word lol
Accasionally we will meet and have the most amazing time with a bloke and never hear from him again,other times they will stay in touch here or privately and you see them again,i never feel hurt or used its sometimes what n.s.a sex is about,dosent have to be a reason,i enjoyed myself and sounds like you did too thats all that matters,time to move on  |
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"Dont worry abt it,it can happen to all of us,i was at a party last week spent my evening with a bloke i met there,and he came back to my hotel till mid Morning,i gave him my number,not heard a word lol
Accasionally we will meet and have the most amazing time with a bloke and never hear from him again,other times they will stay in touch here or privately and you see them again,i never feel hurt or used its sometimes what n.s.a sex is about,dosent have to be a reason,i enjoyed myself and sounds like you did too thats all that matters,time to move on "
This woman speaks sense |
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
and that is the reason why your always complaining about guys. What you have just described is perfectly normal on a site like this, not sure what you actually want from guys
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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he probsbly is unsure about swinging, or wants absolutely no strings or feels guilty if atached as long as you had mutual fun what does it matterv really.
dont be worried and just think of it as an enjoyable moment, which I am sure we all hope it was
kindest regards |
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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance
and that is the reason why your always complaining about guys. What you have just described is perfectly normal on a site like this, not sure what you actually want from guys
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It's all about mindset, I've never had a bad experience with a man I've met from this site because I have a tried and tested method of selecting them, I'm honest about what I will be to them and what I expect them to be to me.
If people meet up through this site expecting their meet to be a potential "partner or long term devoted lover" then that will be apparent and make people run a mile(some after having got what they wanted in the first place NSA!and yes it works both ways!)
If the site makes you feel used you are using it incorrectly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
What a strange comment, surely this guy kept up his end if the deal by meeting as agreed, he took that further by playing, which he did not commit to by agreeing to meet!
They met, they had fun they owe each other nothing!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance "
It is a swingers site, not match dot com.
Most people are looking for casual encounters and not a relationship so it should never come as a shock or be taken to heart when people have sex and flit.
If it does hurts, this lark maybe isn't for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance
It is a swingers site, not match dot com.
Most people are looking for casual encounters and not a relationship so it should never come as a shock or be taken to heart when people have sex and flit.
If it does hurts, this lark maybe isn't for you."
this. It's it what most people do on here isn't it? 
OP don't take it personally. He probably felt guilty and decided this wasn't for him. But, like others have said he might be back. |
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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No. There is a good chance he was married/has a partner and was cheating. He probably got worried about being caught. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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whatever the reason don't worry about it, you're good looking woman and you will have other meets. some good some will be not so good. it's all about the mindset that you use and the intentions in which you use that mind set. it is definitely not you or him either. this is a swinger site and you were both honest with each other. no harm no foul.
state your intended interests on your profile so this doesn't happen again to you. To question ones motives after the fact is useless. unless they were your motives that you were questioning |
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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Worried about what?
We meet people for nsa sex we like. Some, whilst you enjoyed the encounter and them you don't want to meet again. I met with no expectations.
Casual sex is not for everyone. Perhaps after the initial euphoria had faded he felt empty, he was married...who knows. Just go into meets with no more expectation other than you hope to have a good time! |
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance and that is the reason why your always complaining about guys. What you have just described is perfectly normal on a site like this, not sure what you actually want from guys
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the lady was asking if she had been duped so dont slate me i have been duped by someone on here decieving me so thats why im not meeting guys anymore x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
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no let me take his place hehe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly you have been treated to what many a guy on here do ,get what they want from you,then off they go without so much as a backward glance and that is the reason why your always complaining about guys. What you have just described is perfectly normal on a site like this, not sure what you actually want from guys
the lady was asking if she had been duped so dont slate me i have been duped by someone on here decieving me so thats why im not meeting guys anymore x"
ditto! If a guy fills your head with crap, meets you, has sex, then suddenly disappears, then yes, thats being duped. if he tells you straight he wants sex and nothing else, meets you, has sex, then disappears, thats swinging! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met a guy yesterday, had really great sex...He seemed very happy; so was I.
Checked the site today and he appears to 'be no longer on the site'. The profile has gone.
Should I be be worried?
A message to say he was leaving would've been nice but I wouldn't let it worry you..as long as you had fun that's the main thing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we would be a little worried about someone we met that immediately left the site, but as said, as long as you made sure everything was safe, then you have nothing to worry about. |
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