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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no your not, but im not a fan of the 'message me and we can chat about preferences' approach..
having a profile pic might help you though "
i thought i did have a profile pic no?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no your not, but im not a fan of the 'message me and we can chat about preferences' approach..
having a profile pic might help you though
i thought i did have a profile pic no??"
no, you have pics in your public gallery but not selected one as your profile picture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no your not, but im not a fan of the 'message me and we can chat about preferences' approach..
having a profile pic might help you though
i thought i did have a profile pic no??"
well if you have . You are a very dark colour and your facial features have fallen off |
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"no your not, but im not a fan of the 'message me and we can chat about preferences' approach..
having a profile pic might help you though
i thought i did have a profile pic no?? well if you have . You are a very dark colour and your facial features have fallen off "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No .... It appears to be harder for blokes on here to get meets
Everyday someone asks the same question so you ain't alone
Be patient and keep trying "
thanks by the way your pics are great x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know it must be hard for single guys to get meets on here, but you really do have to put some work into it!
Take a look at your profile text!
How do you stand out from the many other single guys on here?
Do you go to socials?
Are you pics a good picture of you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know it must be hard for single guys to get meets on here, but you really do have to put some work into it!
Take a look at your profile text!
How do you stand out from the many other single guys on here?
Do you go to socials?
Are you pics a good picture of you? "
honestly i have put work in and i have met some off here but not for a while it semms like the atmosphere on the site has changed over the years
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
You look fine, but you could improve your profile blurb. A few extra pics taken in different locations, wearing different types of clothing would help.
Suited and booted, a suggestive one of your torso lathered in soapy shower gel, perhaps one of you engaged in an activity (not wanking!) and a comedy shot (see above if tempted to use pic of face when wanking).  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"it semms like the atmosphere on the site has changed over the years
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I've been here for three and a half years and don't see any difference at all. I meet less, but that's because I've stopped putting effort into arranging meets. Perhaps that's your problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, you're not ugly at all 
Just as a personal thing, you've basically ticked the 'will shag anything' box; all interests, smokers and would you really have sex with a 99 year old??? Screams of desperation.
And rapport is spelt like this ======  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, you're not ugly at all
Just as a personal thing, you've basically ticked the 'will shag anything' box; all interests, smokers and would you really have sex with a 99 year old??? Screams of desperation.
And rapport is spelt like this ====== "
hey thanks for the input yeah it does seem like i am in the shag anything box lol i can see how that may look and i had not realised i had spelt it wrong you look great too x |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before "
i mean anyone going not with anyone lol if that makes anymore sense |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before
i mean anyone going not with anyone lol if that makes anymore sense"
Not really......do you want to meet people for sex or just for socials because right now it says you won't sleep with people - meaning you are not going to have sex with people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before
i mean anyone going not with anyone lol if that makes anymore sense
Not really......do you want to meet people for sex or just for socials because right now it says you won't sleep with people - meaning you are not going to have sex with people?
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with just anyone maybe it needs changing
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before
i mean anyone going not with anyone lol if that makes anymore sense
Not really......do you want to meet people for sex or just for socials because right now it says you won't sleep with people - meaning you are not going to have sex with people?
with just anyone maybe it needs changing
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Good, just so people like me who can't read between the lines know what you mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo. "
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol Would you really meet a 99 year old lady ??
Would you really not meet a 29 year old? "
Big difference between a 29 year old and 99 year old . Me thinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
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I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out."
no not argueing sorry dude if it came across that way |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out."
yeah and my dads bigger than your dad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no not argueing sorry dude if it came across that way"
What I'm trying to say, is it is MUCH better than what it was. Like Lucy says above^^^
Good luck chap.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out. yeah and my dads bigger than your dad "
Fight fight fight fight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out. yeah and my dads bigger than your dad
Fight fight fight fight"
jahahah! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out."
Seriously guy! You get some great advice from a successful single guy off here and chose to ignore it?! Jeez! I have met the guy who offered you advice. His profile jumped out at me. Why? Because it was different. (And believe me single guys stand virtually no chance with me) Yours is bland and like 1000's of others on here. You have to stand out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha, I was gonna start a topic asking the same thing....
What have I got to do to help me improve my chances of a meet?"
why when you've posted 2 threads and posting on multiple threads asking for advice when we've given you advice? We can't give you advice every time you ask for it! you're the one that's mean't to put the effort in, not us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's your shop window. Dress it well and sell yourself. Confidence is a preference Yada Yada yada. Try a unique approach and keep upbeat, pics are a big selling point. So make an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me.  "
I am also and can't accomodate. Doesn't mean I'm you are in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me. "
He may house share or still live at home!
Just because he can't accomadate doesn't mean he's not a single guy |
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Omg .
When we saw your picture we neally had to grab the sick bucket but we managed to contain ourselfs long anuf to dial the ugly help line and report you for crimes agains uglyness..
Hope this helps
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By (user no longer on site)
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me.
He may house share or still live at home!
Just because he can't accomadate doesn't mean he's not a single guy "
I was basically saying it for HIM to say why he cannot accommodate as people will just assume that he's not actually single and it will deter people from meeting him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me. "
Just because you can't accommodate doesn't mean you're not single...!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me.
Just because you can't accommodate doesn't mean you're not single...!!"
read my above post... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No but you're profile is just boring, you say you're a genuine single guy but cannot accommodate, don't seem genuinely single to me.
He may house share or still live at home!
Just because he can't accomadate doesn't mean he's not a single guy
I was basically saying it for HIM to say why he cannot accommodate as people will just assume that he's not actually single and it will deter people from meeting him"
I would say may not will though..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I looked at your profile when you made the post and you had fuck all written on it.
I see this question time and time again, guys get great advice on here and then do absolutely nothing.
But do you know what?..you've done it. You've put a whole lot more text on your profile which is great and fair fucking play to you.
BUT..
It's still very rambling and doesn't really get to the point.
On mine I get to the point STRAIGHT AWAY then leave all the rest of it if they want to read more.
But what I want and what I'm looking for is immediately obvious.
You also need to break up the text, it's one big fucking block and nobody is going to sit there and read that the way it currently is.
Get a few more pics up too defo.
dude no offense but you couldnt have read it and say there was nothing on there as there was not sure exactly what it is you looked at mate?
I did. You had nothing on it.
Unless I saw the wrong profile which I doubt.
I gave you advice if you don't want to take and argue with me then good luck.
But I've had a LOT more meets than you have.
/out.
Seriously guy! You get some great advice from a successful single guy off here and chose to ignore it?! Jeez! I have met the guy who offered you advice. His profile jumped out at me. Why? Because it was different. (And believe me single guys stand virtually no chance with me) Yours is bland and like 1000's of others on here. You have to stand out.
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GREAT meet it was too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why does cant accom mean you are not gen single??
K, you are gen single but cant accom.....
everyone has reasons...."
thanks people for your advice i do apreciate it. i cannot acomadate as i still live with my dad embarassing i know lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your defo not ugly but do look at bit grubby. Take another photo od you with tidy hair and smart shirt on or something?"
a bit grubby lol its just how my hair is its a bloody natural afro not a lot i can do with it lol trust me i have tried
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does cant accom mean you are not gen single??
K, you are gen single but cant accom.....
everyone has reasons...."
everyone does have reasons but I've explained mine, he hasn't so people will assume he's not genuinely single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does cant accom mean you are not gen single??
K, you are gen single but cant accom.....
everyone has reasons.... thanks people for your advice i do apreciate it. i cannot acomadate as i still live with my dad embarassing i know lol "
explain it in your profile, it's not embarrassing at all but it might enhance women's interests |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Okay my thoughts....
update the pictures, some suggestions already made as to what they can be of.
profile text needs to say what you are looking for & what you can offer. this is your selling tool, what you are judged on so it has to be good.
the 'message me a question' part, drop that and replace with the above suggestion.
I very rarely message anyone to ask a question, don't have the time & I'm sure other woman on here are the same! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The competition for single males on here is fierce so you need to stand out from the crowd, to be honest there are much easier places to meet women, be specific about what you want and focus on people who meet your requirements if your able to attend socials and maybe a club, ugly is very subjective so can't answer that question good luck anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The competition for single males on here is fierce so you need to stand out from the crowd, to be honest there are much easier places to meet women, be specific about what you want and focus on people who meet your requirements if your able to attend socials and maybe a club, ugly is very subjective so can't answer that question good luck anyway "
What cracking pins you have! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know it must be hard for single guys to get meets on here, but you really do have to put some work into it!
Take a look at your profile text!
How do you stand out from the many other single guys on here?
Do you go to socials?
Are you pics a good picture of you?
honestly i have put word i have met some off here but not for a while it semms like the atmosphere on the site has changed over the years
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So because you've not met anyone for a while that means you're ugly or doing something wrong?
Fuck it ... If that's the case then those of us who've not met anyone at all are well and truly out of luck ...
Whatever you did right to get meets before obviously worked and you've met people why moan about it since you having a dry spell |
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"I am puzzled because you say you 'do have standards and won't sleep with anyone'........does that mean you are only after socials? Not got a problem if you do mean that but it's not something I have seen before
i mean anyone going not with anyone lol if that makes anymore sense"
Possibly need to rephrase that a little bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am i ugly? lol
No, but you could make more of an effort with your photos. "
He did make an effort two selfies the 2nd one was double the effort of the first one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spelling mistakes honey - always puts me off! Plus living with your dad is not a bad thing but perhaps don't mention it as a negative. Just state unable to accommodate - it's no one else's business! What about some pics of you having fun. Your not a bad looking chap but you look sooooo bored xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Spelling mistakes honey - always puts me off! Plus living with your dad is not a bad thing but perhaps don't mention it as a negative. Just state unable to accommodate - it's no one else's business! What about some pics of you having fun. Your not a bad looking chap but you look sooooo bored xxxx"
hey thanks although its just my face people have told me my whole life to cheer up and stuff i cant help it its just what my face looks like when relaxed lol
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