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over a year ago
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
Call their bluff...
Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.
Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x |
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
How do they know how to contact your family?
How do they know who your friends are?
Print their profile and messages in case of police involvement
If you sent them a face pic, put the same one on face buk then you can say they copied it from there
Don't send money
Let them do it, if you're genuinely single then it's just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way."
Seriously?  Is that how you solve disputes?
I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman! |
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OMG  definatly don't send them money x call their bluff tell them ok how would they know your family and friends anyway ?? Block them on here report them, block them on your mobile and move on they're obviously just freaks x please don't worry tho you have done nothing wrong its them that could end up in trouble with the law  |
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family
Call their bluff...
Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.
Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them that that's known as either blackmail or extortion and you'll go to the police. "
You should do this. Let us know what happens. I feel really sorry for you.
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
Would direct them to the nearest branch of Sports Direct..... advise them to enter aforementioned retailers, buy a nice new set of trainers.... and jog the fcuk on |
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family
Call their bluff...
Message them, tell them that you are going to the police with the printed out message they sent you, and when they get arrested, they will the ones that get exposed to their family and friends.
Then block them, you won't hear from them again, if they have your number change it x
This "
This also |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tell a close friend who you trust implicitly.
They will know your personal situation and can give advice knowing the possible implications of any course of action.
I take it there is some way they can identify you e.g. You have been photographed or filmed, as there is nothing on your profile that identifies you personally.
Not knowing your personal situation, my advice is to front to out with them. The thought of a prison sentence for blackmail can be good for focusing the mind. |
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"How do they know how to contact your family?
How do they know who your friends are?"
look at where the OP lives .... from my experience of living in Eire, everyone knows who you are and everything about you |
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
As you dont accomodate i take it you went to there house,just hand post a copy of there message and if any photos of them,through there letterbox with a big kiss and say lovely neighbours  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Call their bluff and tell them to do it but in the mean time you are taking the matter of blackmail to the police, in all honesty if it came out what's the worst that could happen? Your a single man so have no wife or girlfriend to worry about finding out, I'd imagine ya mates will pat you on your back and your family will ask questions |
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Same advice as others - don't give them an inch and show that you are not weak. Obviously reinforce that you will use the police.
If you've done anything wrong, then let us know about it, or someone on here that you trust, as it may need some more specific advice. As it stands, if you are not married, you could be dating someone, so it may threaten that - but having group fun is of course not illegal, but may be frowned upon by some more religious leaning folks.
Arm yourself by being ready and build your confidence levels. You need to let out any worries, as they are weakening to us as people. If you have fab friends, see if there are any that you could talk with. Otherwise, your standard life friends would be good.
Consider amending your profile temporarily, if that is what they would use to help identify you, but overall I believe in staying strong, as you are in a stronger position than they are, as they're acting illegally.
Look after yourself  Good luck!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A range to meet in the local pub to pay them at a busy time
Once they're sat down an chatting stand up and loudly and angrily shout
"I don't care how small your cock is I am NOT fucking your wife because you can't, and no I won't take you're filthy money"
Then storm out. No matter what they say afterwards what is heard then will be the truth in everyone's mind lol |
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
Expose you for what exactly ? |
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There is some good advice above. Personally I would reply to the message thanking them for the proof that they are blackmailing you and say you will be forwarding it to the police. |
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"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way.
Seriously? Is that how you solve disputes?
I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman!"
if someone was trying to blackmail for money yes. Only the male half of course. I would be at there house or work place causing them all sorts of distress. They deserve nothing less. Unless the guy seemed like he would kick arse then it would be police being called. |
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"Is the guy handy ,dangerous or knows people that are? If not I'd seriously consider bringing violence there way.
Seriously? Is that how you solve disputes?
I'm never sure whether posts like this we are supposed to openly laugh at how pathetic they sound or run away from the laptop in fear of the internet hardman!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never be ashamed of what you do or what you've done.
There is nothing wrong with doing what makes you happy. (Unless your a Psychopath)
Bullies, extortion, can only work if you give a toss.
What can they actually threaten you with? Nothing......
We wish you all the best..
L & J |
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He has not said what they wanted money for, was it half the meal was it half the hotel bill ????? was it for their elctric, new sheets you spunked over???
All it says is they asked for money but money for what.
Need to know that first before you start calling black mail surely???
so Op what was the money for |
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Good point above, this could be seen at two levels, both not great.
First level, some misunderstanding about shared hotel bill etc etc, that could have somehow gone a bit odd, hence the demand.
The more worrying level is this is some attempt to blackmail you. Of course none of us on the forum know how you know this couple, and I am guessing having met four times that that you thought you know them fairly well.
If they really think this is a way to extort money from you, and you pay, this will happen to others. Or worse, something akin to the Scottish case of the council worker that was beaten up by the partner of a woman he had been taking naughty photos of.
I would state the facts to admin on here, and I would state the facts to the rozzers, that's all you can do. All of us put a lot of trust into situations of play with ourselves, partners and our health, and if they are trying to blackmail you it needs to be stopped, as where does that grow to?
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"Met a couple Last night (have met 4 times prior) but got message today looking for money or else will expose to.my friends and family "
Tell them you will expose them to police. That will shut them up lol |
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dont pay. They will ask for more. You have nothing to be ashamed of to your family. Or if u do, deny it!
OMG. Report, block and move on. If they spill the beans on you, then others will know what they're up to as well. 
