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By *exysna OP Couple
over a year ago
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Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been searching for the elusive bi fem also. It's actually what we joined for....then we seen what else the site has to offer 
Your profile is great, I don't think ours is particularly awful, but almost all mf couples on here are looking for the same thing so single bi fems can afford to be picky.
We've been on here over a year now with no luck in that particular department, but we've far from given up hope.
My advice is attend socials so people get to know you personalities, we've been to two and we'd definitely go to more if we ever actually had the time. Attraction happens a lot easier in person than on here I think see.
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have several single female friends that we meet with quite regularly but have always met them through parties, clubs and socials never from pursuing ads or profiles from here...it's a 2 way thing I suppose...we like to get to know them a bit first personalitywise before we invite them round as it lets us know that they "get" the whole swingjng thing and understand our dynamic and they also get to know us and that we're not looking for a "plaything" or those ridiculous "putting on a show" meets that so many couples seem to advertise...
it works for us anyway and the fact that we have built such strong friendships with our female partners would suggest that it seems to work for them too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes we do exist. However basic supply and demand means we can be very choosy. I would have to build up some kind of connection with the couple and a social meet first to see the dynamics of their relationship. Any doubts and I'm out of there. As for being a plaything or wank fodder for the male NOT gonna happen. Some couples can be worse than single men when it comes to being pushy or dealing with rejection. |
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By *exysna OP Couple
over a year ago
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Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me |
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me"
the latter part of this comment could be your problem. We aren't play things and personally I would want as much from the man as the woman. And not to be a toy for either |
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx "
I've met a few so yes they exist and yes they meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me"
To be honest, your profile seems to be all about you, written by the male and gives no real idea of what would be in it for a single woman other than your own satisfaction...sorry but you did ask...I wasn't interested enough to even look at your pics or veris...janey |
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By (user no longer on site)
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seems there are very many time wasters too that enjoy the chase but when we try to organise a social meet or take it to personal messaging i.e. phone numbers, they seem to disappear from sight.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me
the latter part of this comment could be your problem. We aren't play things and personally I would want as much from the man as the woman. And not to be a toy for either "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes we do exist. However basic supply and demand means we can be very choosy. I would have to build up some kind of connection with the couple and a social meet first to see the dynamics of their relationship. Any doubts and I'm out of there. As for being a plaything or wank fodder for the male NOT gonna happen. Some couples can be worse than single men when it comes to being pushy or dealing with rejection."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me
the latter part of this comment could be your problem. We aren't play things and personally I would want as much from the man as the woman. And not to be a toy for either "
Sorry but perhaps it's a bad choice of words on their part.
"play"
but the "fun" and "play" are words everyone uses. As most are not sure how forward to be without being overly offensive to some,or put people off.(perhaps written by guy as partner not sure what to put and maybe first time so unsure what to say so labeled as play/fun)
(Our profile needs work but i did it along time ago and really need to sit down and put what we want and what people can expect from us.we are currently going to socials and will update soon)
The question i think they are asking is if u was looking for a couple, what would u be looking for in a profile to start 1st stages of meeting/chat?
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me
To be honest, your profile seems to be all about you, written by the male and gives no real idea of what would be in it for a single woman other than your own satisfaction...sorry but you did ask...I wasn't interested enough to even look at your pics or veris...janey"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx "
Not all single women are bi !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx
Not all single women are bi !!!"
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Some state that we can be picky, because there are so many couples to choose from. Let me put this to you all.....Even if there was only 3 couples on the site, I would still be picky and would rather go without. Just because I'm a single lady and on a swingers site, does not mean I am here to shag anyone and everyone.
You will judge me on my verifications, as I have a lot. But read the profile. I socialize a lot and rarely have sex, due to my ill health.
#rantover #justsaying #thisisnteventwitter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single bi fems like myself are not as I keep getting referred to as "rocking horse shit" and the like...lol..ive made friends and met couples from here where some have played and others havent...just because we are single doesnt mean we will instantly wish to play with everyone. Continue with nice polite messages and go with the flow... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"seems there are very many time wasters too that enjoy the chase but when we try to organise a social meet or take it to personal messaging i.e. phone numbers, they seem to disappear from sight.
keep looking, they are out there somewhere "
Chatting/building up a rapport is not time wasting! It is the first step in a process that is required if you are going to be successful. If not you may as well dial an escort. |
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"seems there are very many time wasters too that enjoy the chase but when we try to organise a social meet or take it to personal messaging i.e. phone numbers, they seem to disappear from sight.
keep looking, they are out there somewhere
Chatting/building up a rapport is not time wasting! It is the first step in a process that is required if you are going to be successful. If not you may as well dial an escort."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi guys - having a similar experience to _exysna on here and would appreciate any advice...
I'm bi and my mr is straight and we've been looking for a bi lady to join us for some fun sexy times, but dont seem to be having much luck pinning down meets on here.
We're really honest on our profile, we read the profiles of others properly and when we message we always include face pics and ensure we personalise each message - usually something has stood out to us about that profile and talk or ask about that. We dont expect a reply straight away and get the no reply = no interest thing and we're fine with it. We also want to build up relationships and get to know people first too...
What we're really confused by is when we do get a positive (and sometimes emphatic!) response and start engaging, then we suddenly get radio silence a few messages in, whether we're chatting about general stuff or asking the lady questions about what she's looking for... hopefully it's clear that we don't see people as a play thing as that's certainly not how we _iew it.
We're not pushy and try to get to know the person a bit before we start asking the 'shall we meet' question. Sometimes we don't get that far, other times we ask and never get a reply...we're honestly fine if someone decides they dont want to meet but no response is quite frustrating when there has been some clear interest shown.
Is there a secret formula to this? A time when it's acceptable to get down to the nitty gritty? How many times should you message if someone goes quiet? Do you think us not having veri's at the moment is a problem?
We're not actually new to swinging, but we have previously had regular fun with people from our social group (not on this site), but we decided to try fab to widen our circle and meet some new friends (we're also planning a visit to townhouse in April... yay!)
Anyway - any thoughts on the above or anything we can do to make our profile or approach more appealing are appreciated!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi hun, if you read our profile you will see we have no problem with building a rapport as we believe this is a very important part of anything esp when asking someone to join us.
Like I said though, they seem to disappear when is it tried to be taken to the next stage of that rapport building, many seem really happy to get to know us but then nothing once numbers or contact details are exchanged.
This is time wasting in anyones book |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx
Not all single women are bi !!!"
Indeed they are not, well pointed out. Even though I have stated I'm straight on mine I still get couples asking me to "play" with them both. To assume, makes an ass of me and u |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi hun, if you read our profile you will see we have no problem with building a rapport as we believe this is a very important part of anything esp when asking someone to join us.
Like I said though, they seem to disappear when is it tried to be taken to the next stage of that rapport building, many seem really happy to get to know us but then nothing once numbers or contact details are exchanged.
This is time wasting in anyones book "
After having a peek at your profile , it isn't totally clear what you are really after .
So he is all the man you need , but you are not enough for him ?
Or are we interpreting it wrongly ?
A bi female will need to feel 100% comfortable with both of you , and there could be a hesitance with whether jealousy may kick in .
Just an observation , and not a criticism  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"Hi hun, if you read our profile you will see we have no problem with building a rapport as we believe this is a very important part of anything esp when asking someone to join us.
Like I said though, they seem to disappear when is it tried to be taken to the next stage of that rapport building, many seem really happy to get to know us but then nothing once numbers or contact details are exchanged.
This is time wasting in anyones book "
ever thought it just fizzles out, or they change their mind... thats not time wasting.
I'm a bi fem and i do meet. I'm picky tho - not because I think I'm "above" other people, but because I value myself and my sexual health. I'm not a slapper. I don't just drop my knickers and shag anything.
Loads of things are off-putting for meeting couples - many profiles written by the men, or only talking to one half of a couple all the time. I am not a play thing, so I don't only want to play with the wife, and I'm not a performing act. Also, there was a couple I was talking to who suggested he "road-tested" me before I met his mrs. Some couples treat single women as less worthy than their partner, so thats a huge turn off too.
I also hate the "he's all the man I need" type comment.
So yes, there are bi fems that do meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah we can appreciate the comment on time wasting, more somewhat frustrating and can feel like well that was a waste of time if that makes any sense
thank you for the feedback though, no one will ever be a plaything for us, not our nature at all, we enjoy the whole experience and want all to be a whole part time we have together
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By (user no longer on site)
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not sure on fizzles out or change their minds, why give phone numbers or kik contacts etc? but never reply?
we will never object to someone saying they are not interested, everyone is fully entailed to their own choices and we realise we are not going to be to every bodies taste, far from it
a few words can go along way sometimes, who knows though |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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yes, but you can never guess how someone will react to a rejection.
I've had guys and couples go from being very complementary to calling me a fat ugly whore because i dared to say no, so often people do just go quiet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx "
Yes we do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks guys,we do go to some clubs occasionaly but the majority seem to be couples(not that we mind,we quite enjoy them) or single blokes, we do offer to meet socially first to get to know them as we can be a little shy n wont just rip their clothes off lol, but even the ladies that say they just wana shag without the social dont even reply??? Confused.com or wot, are women put off with the bi male thing?? The woman is more for the wife to play with n me to join in when they want me
the latter part of this comment could be your problem. We aren't play things and personally I would want as much from the man as the woman. And not to be a toy for either
Sorry but perhaps it's a bad choice of words on their part.
"play"
but the "fun" and "play" are words everyone uses. As most are not sure how forward to be without being overly offensive to some,or put people off.(perhaps written by guy as partner not sure what to put and maybe first time so unsure what to say so labeled as play/fun)
(Our profile needs work but i did it along time ago and really need to sit down and put what we want and what people can expect from us.we are currently going to socials and will update soon)
The question i think they are asking is if u was looking for a couple, what would u be looking for in a profile to start 1st stages of meeting/chat?
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still comes across as being there for the woman and if we allow him he can join in. I'd want him with or before her not waiting to be allowed to join |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single bi fem the first thing with your profile is the same with most couples looking for bi fems....absolutely no pics of the male?!
It is much harder for us to find a couple as me personally, I have to fancy both. I think by the tone of some comments there is an expectation that we will just turn up for your pleasure....what about us?! What do we get out of it? I couldn't think of anything worse than just being used so that a couple can fulfil a fantasy of the wife being with a woman whilst the hubby looks on.
If I am looking to meet a couple, I need to see face pics of both and know that I am going to have has much involvement with the hubby as I am with the wife!
It makes for complicated dynamics, which is probably why I have only ever been with 2 couples in all my years of swinging!
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I really hope that I am making sense, even though I am not bi.
OP cannot accommodate, so why would a single woman ask 2 people back to their house???
Arrange to meet at a club, and start from there. x |
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By *exysna OP Couple
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the replies guys but just need to make a few pointers if i may..
At no point was it said all single women were bi, wot was said was we would like to meet a single bi woman.
We do meet and have plenty of fun with couples,thats who we normally meet but was just looking for a bit of mff fun thats all.
the word Play/Fun doesnt mean you are a plaything or a toy, but that is a word everybody uses on here because thats what we are doing...playing and having fun together wether it be mm ff mmf ffm mfmf or more.....true???
Also most meets weve had its always been the ladies that have started playing together first,wether it be a hotel,house or a club meet and noticed in clubs that seems the norm and then the guys join in,no complaints from anyone and we all get to enjoy whatever happens.
We arent bothered wether we get to meet up with a single bi lady cos we enjoy the fun we are having at the mo,it was just another fantasy that weve had before and would like to do again, and the answer to another statement i noticed, what would the woman get from it would be an enjoyable social night out with a great couple who are friendly,non pushy and enjoy a laugh and if we dont click on the fancying eachother part then we dont play(sorry do adult stuff), no feelings hurt,and we all go home at the end of the night after having a great laugh and maybe making new friends.
Sorry but just had to get our point across as it seems some people read these forums n go straight into overload lol
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"yes, but you can never guess how someone will react to a rejection.
I've had guys and couples go from being very complementary to calling me a fat ugly whore because i dared to say no, so often people do just go quiet."
it's funny how some people change with rejection lol
Not a lot of single fems our way. Would love to meet as we could have lots of sexy fun. But sexy fun is what it's all about, wether with a sexy bi fem, sexy couple or the odd single guy as a treat for Leslie that is how we treat all meets. With respect and anticipation of fun. If fun does not happen we definitely don't start calling names and go off in a huff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes we exist... and are genuinely Bi...
Yes we meet - that's why we're here...
But a lot of us like our meets to be one-on-one - we have no interest in meeting couples ..!
That's sometimes because we've tried it and have found that meeting couples can be between a disappointment and a nightmare....
So please don't assume that just because we like both genders, that we then like to mix-n-match....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well when the profiles text says looking for couples etc, listed as couple (MF) and they have threesomes listed in interests, I guess you get the thoughts they want to meet couples for threesomes
or is that just us.......
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes, but you can never guess how someone will react to a rejection.
I've had guys and couples go from being very complementary to calling me a fat ugly whore because i dared to say no, so often people do just go quiet."
I've have lost count of the times frustrated couples have sent abusive messages on here. I think some of them think I owe them a threesome? |
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"yes, but you can never guess how someone will react to a rejection.
I've had guys and couples go from being very complementary to calling me a fat ugly whore because i dared to say no, so often people do just go quiet.
I've have lost count of the times frustrated couples have sent abusive messages on here. I think some of them think I owe them a threesome? "
Absolutely right !
No one has a right to anything , on here or anywhere else .
Mind you .... Fond memories here lol |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"well when the profiles text says looking for couples etc, listed as couple (MF) and they have threesomes listed in interests, I guess you get the thoughts they want to meet couples for threesomes
or is that just us.......
happy fabbing everyone "
Maybe they do want to meet couples for threesomes.
But SOME - not ALL.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"well when the profiles text says looking for couples etc, listed as couple (MF) and they have threesomes listed in interests, I guess you get the thoughts they want to meet couples for threesomes
or is that just us.......
happy fabbing everyone
Maybe they do want to meet couples for threesomes.
But SOME - not ALL.
A"
I never said all just the ones with it listed, we never contact anyone who doesn't have that listed unless they have messaged us first
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"well when the profiles text says looking for couples etc, listed as couple (MF) and they have threesomes listed in interests, I guess you get the thoughts they want to meet couples for threesomes
or is that just us.......
happy fabbing everyone
Maybe they do want to meet couples for threesomes.
But SOME - not ALL.
A
I never said all just the ones with it listed, we never contact anyone who doesn't have that listed unless they have messaged us first
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But that's my point!
We meet couples and single guys.
But those we choose to. So just because it says we meet couples and single guys it doesn't mean that everyone that messages gets a meet!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"well when the profiles text says looking for couples etc, listed as couple (MF) and they have threesomes listed in interests, I guess you get the thoughts they want to meet couples for threesomes
or is that just us.......
happy fabbing everyone
Maybe they do want to meet couples for threesomes.
But SOME - not ALL.
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I never said all just the ones with it listed, we never contact anyone who doesn't have that listed unless they have messaged us first
But that's my point!
We meet couples and single guys.
But those we choose to. So just because it says we meet couples and single guys it doesn't mean that everyone that messages gets a meet!
A"
oh right, thats obviously where we are going wrong lol 
we are under no illusion that a message is the sign that a meeting is going happen, my reply is in response that not every single female wants to meet couples, I know they all don't, but the ones that list is as what they are looking for surely are? hence listing it
but that doesn't mean that we think thats every couple on the planet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a single, bi female and would love to meet with the right couple. That hasn't happened yet though - even though I spend a lot of time browsing couples. I think the most common problems I have are that profiles are often really one sided, I sometimes begin to doubt the existence/agency of the female half of the couple as the man will bombard me with messages, suggesting he meet with me first (and contrary to many others here, whilst the man needs to be decent, I'm a lot more interested in the woman), I'm not always clear on the expectations/rules of that couple i.e. will the man be involved?, and actually, what nobody has mentioned but is quite important - it's pretty intimidating as a solo female to meet with not one, but two people, at once, even for a social meet. They have safety in numbers, whereas you feel like you're being put on show to be judged and evaluated. That's probably why it's easier to meet naturally at a club or some such cause then you see whether you get on without the weight of any immediate judgements. |
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With us we would like to meet a bi female at some stage, we would like a social meet first, the trust of the lady with us and connection and click and having a laugh is important to us.
With any bi female, there would be interaction on messages from both of us, usually mainly myself though ( her).
A phone call with myself and a lady in question would be a bonus too, and when all three are happy then a meet can be planned. |
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I'm a bi fem who meet local bristol couples only. From my experience over the last 5 years there's only usually 4 genuine meets from the south west at any one time. I always respond even if its to say not for me. I get inundated with many a message and as vain as this may sound. I can afford to choose the most best looking couples on fab. I don't meet any one out of bristol due to lack of time and I require quick weekday meets . Couples from afar always want hotel meets on the weekend x |
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"Hi guys - having a similar experience to _exysna on here and would appreciate any advice...
I'm bi and my mr is straight and we've been looking for a bi lady to join us for some fun sexy times, but dont seem to be having much luck pinning down meets on here.
We're really honest on our profile, we read the profiles of others properly and when we message we always include face pics and ensure we personalise each message - usually something has stood out to us about that profile and talk or ask about that. We dont expect a reply straight away and get the no reply = no interest thing and we're fine with it. We also want to build up relationships and get to know people first too...
What we're really confused by is when we do get a positive (and sometimes emphatic!) response and start engaging, then we suddenly get radio silence a few messages in, whether we're chatting about general stuff or asking the lady questions about what she's looking for... hopefully it's clear that we don't see people as a play thing as that's certainly not how we _iew it.
We're not pushy and try to get to know the person a bit before we start asking the 'shall we meet' question. Sometimes we don't get that far, other times we ask and never get a reply...we're honestly fine if someone decides they dont want to meet but no response is quite frustrating when there has been some clear interest shown.
Is there a secret formula to this? A time when it's acceptable to get down to the nitty gritty? How many times should you message if someone goes quiet? Do you think us not having veri's at the moment is a problem?
We're not actually new to swinging, but we have previously had regular fun with people from our social group (not on this site), but we decided to try fab to widen our circle and meet some new friends (we're also planning a visit to townhouse in April... yay!)
Anyway - any thoughts on the above or anything we can do to make our profile or approach more appealing are appreciated!
G&D xx"
Al seems friendly enough. I'm a bit different fro other bi women. I like to get on and do. I ask to exchange face pics asap. Exchange numbers and speak that day. That way I confirm I'm female and we can have a chat and get to know each other. If iv received several clear face pics then I'm happy to go ahead with a meet but if I'm only receiving a grainy far away face pic or not sure I always ask to meet for a drink. I can't stand messenging and do cam etc. I don't even upload dirty pics I only send my face pics privatly. Personally happier to see them naked on the day than in pics x |
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx "
Join the club guys as you're as no means alone |
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"I'm a single, bi female and would love to meet with the right couple. That hasn't happened yet though - even though I spend a lot of time browsing couples. I think the most common problems I have are that profiles are often really one sided, I sometimes begin to doubt the existence/agency of the female half of the couple as the man will bombard me with messages, suggesting he meet with me first (and contrary to many others here, whilst the man needs to be decent, I'm a lot more interested in the woman), I'm not always clear on the expectations/rules of that couple i.e. will the man be involved?, and actually, what nobody has mentioned but is quite important - it's pretty intimidating as a solo female to meet with not one, but two people, at once, even for a social meet. They have safety in numbers, whereas you feel like you're being put on show to be judged and evaluated. That's probably why it's easier to meet naturally at a club or some such cause then you see whether you get on without the weight of any immediate judgements."
We would never put someone on show as and we would always say to bring someone for safety,just not for their safety friend to be involved |
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"i got a mouth ful because i didnt want to meet a couple its put me off  "
They obviously can't take rejection but as the world not every couple is the same |
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"As a single bi fem the first thing with your profile is the same with most couples looking for bi fems....absolutely no pics of the male?!
It is much harder for us to find a couple as me personally, I have to fancy both. I think by the tone of some comments there is an expectation that we will just turn up for your pleasure....what about us?! What do we get out of it? I couldn't think of anything worse than just being used so that a couple can fulfil a fantasy of the wife being with a woman whilst the hubby looks on.
If I am looking to meet a couple, I need to see face pics of both and know that I am going to have has much involvement with the hubby as I am with the wife!
It makes for complicated dynamics, which is probably why I have only ever been with 2 couples in all my years of swinging!
xx "
Yep we've also noticed that and we don't understand as if you're a couple why only have pictures of one half?  |
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"Mornin all, do single women actually meet on here? We have looked through many a profile and have sent nice messages (not one liners) as all the ladies ask for,sent face pics as they ask for,we are not fat, hairy, or ugly and offer to meet socially instead of expecting to jump straight into sex, yet without even a simple no thanks the messages just get deleted?? Starting to lose faith with the ladies, is our profile ok or does it need changing???? Doesnt seem to put the single males off though, we are getin bombarded a bit too much,any help would be appreciated guys
Thanks
Xx
Not all single women are bi !!!
Indeed they are not, well pointed out. Even though I have stated I'm straight on mine I still get couples asking me to "play" with them both. To assume, makes an ass of me and u "
We think the reason for that is because some people put certain things on their profile but when you speak to them it's all switched round so many basically just try their luck |
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Meeting a bi woman who is interested in both me and my lovely wife? That's what I call Lottery Odds. Sure, it's possible, but I ain't gonna hold my breath.
-JD |
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"Meeting a bi woman who is interested in both me and my lovely wife? That's what I call Lottery Odds. Sure, it's possible, but I ain't gonna hold my breath.
-JD"
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"i got a mouth ful because i didnt want to meet a couple its put me off
They obviously can't take rejection but as the world not every couple is the same "
no that is true. |
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We had a young lady join us within a couple of weeks of joining, think it's a combination of luck and a good profile. She was magnificent, classy, sophisticated and a great time was had by all. She was not our plaything which is important and has now become a good friend. Her pleasure was as important as ours and I think you have to make that clear. Having been on here as a single bi-fem that was always my concern. The profiles I avoided were the ones who only mentioned what they wanted and not what they could offer me xxx |
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"I'm a single, bi female and would love to meet with the right couple. That hasn't happened yet though - even though I spend a lot of time browsing couples. I think the most common problems I have are that profiles are often really one sided, I sometimes begin to doubt the existence/agency of the female half of the couple as the man will bombard me with messages, suggesting he meet with me first (and contrary to many others here, whilst the man needs to be decent, I'm a lot more interested in the woman), I'm not always clear on the expectations/rules of that couple i.e. will the man be involved?, and actually, what nobody has mentioned but is quite important - it's pretty intimidating as a solo female to meet with not one, but two people, at once, even for a social meet. They have safety in numbers, whereas you feel like you're being put on show to be judged and evaluated. That's probably why it's easier to meet naturally at a club or some such cause then you see whether you get on without the weight of any immediate judgements."
Thanks for sharing... D and I are always really aware of the fact that meeting a couple might be intimidating at first, and would basically be happy to do whatever the lady wanted to put her at ease (social first, phone chat etc) but not sure how to get that across in our profile.
All messages tend to come from me rather than Mr, which i think does come across... maybe adding something about what we can offer as a couple will help, so we will try that... thanks
tbh i think we come across better in person so maybe the club route will be a better way?
Ta for the insights and advice G x
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Al seems friendly enough. I'm a bit different fro other bi women. I like to get on and do. I ask to exchange face pics asap. Exchange numbers and speak that day. That way I confirm I'm female and we can have a chat and get to know each other. If iv received several clear face pics then I'm happy to go ahead with a meet but if I'm only receiving a grainy far away face pic or not sure I always ask to meet for a drink. I can't stand messenging and do cam etc. I don't even upload dirty pics I only send my face pics privatly. Personally happier to see them naked on the day than in pics x "
Thanks for the feedback/advice... we always send clear face pics of us in real life non sexy pic mode so that people know exactly what they're getting and can decide if they are interested... x |
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"We had a young lady join us within a couple of weeks of joining, think it's a combination of luck and a good profile. She was magnificent, classy, sophisticated and a great time was had by all. She was not our plaything which is important and has now become a good friend. Her pleasure was as important as ours and I think you have to make that clear. Having been on here as a single bi-fem that was always my concern. The profiles I avoided were the ones who only mentioned what they wanted and not what they could offer me xxx"
we have had this recently and talk about a piece of the jigsaw finding its place - had a couple of meets with her already - we always stress in our chats that its important all 3 of us are happy and if one isnt for any reason at all then nothing happens - |
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