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So here's my story (if you are interested)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm a bored, married man, never cheated on my partner before, looking for a regular lady for some discreet fun. I know this sounds like the usual start of a profile but I'm finding it impossible getting anywhere at the minute!

First of all I don't get the time to visit the site often and when I do get talking to somebody they either drop a clanger after a few messages or it sort of fizzles out!

I can't have pictures showing because of said marriage.

I don't want to send pics without being sure I'm talking to somebody genuine.

And I don't want to end up rushing into something where I might end up on the missing persons register!

I'm starting to think the genuine women have already found the genuine men and the rest of us genuine blokes are lost amongst the thousands of male profiles on here

Any advice would be well received

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Work on your marriage... That would be my advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Correct. Lots of men like you on here. Married men are difficult to arrange to meet with, don't have the same appeal as free and single men. Plus some women won't have sex with married men out of principle

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Photos don't have to show your face. You are unlikely to get anywhere without any photos at all.

You're going to have to be more patient than some because a lot of women don't want to meet men who are cheating on a partner.

Brace yourself to hear how swinging is very different from cheating. Many have very strong feelings about it.

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By *randmrsminxyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

quite the site as while your on here you'll never get on .

Sit here down and tell her your concerns

Tell her you want to work it out . if she says no . move out move on get your divorce then play to your hearts content on FAB

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We both play with each other's knowledge and are both OK with it. I'm not showing pictures more to do with the fact somebody who knows us may see them. I'm sure some of you couples on here understand that although you play together you wouldn't want somebody to find out you are on her...

We have discussed playing together but decided it's a no go and we don't talk about what we get up to

Maybe this site isn't right for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but you're not genuine are you? you're married, so you can't call yourself genuine

fix stuff at home, think with your head instead of your dick, it's not her fault you're getting nothing at home, it's yours, start talking, make her feel special, she's mean't to be your wife.

If it's fizzled out, get a divorce then shag as many women as you want without feeling guilty.

You might as well as delete the account and sort your marriage out first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a bored, married man, never cheated on my partner before, looking for a regular lady for some discreet fun. I know this sounds like the usual start of a profile but I'm finding it impossible getting anywhere at the minute!

First of all I don't get the time to visit the site often and when I do get talking to somebody they either drop a clanger after a few messages or it sort of fizzles out!

I can't have pictures showing because of said marriage.

I don't want to send pics without being sure I'm talking to somebody genuine.

And I don't want to end up rushing into something where I might end up on the missing persons register!

I'm starting to think the genuine women have already found the genuine men and the rest of us genuine blokes are lost amongst the thousands of male profiles on here

Any advice would be well received

Why don't you set up a couples profile with your wife, or better still let her set up a single fem profile then send her our way and we will show her a good time

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple over a year ago

Leeds

The messages probably peter out when you tell them that you are married rather than put it on your profile. Would save wasting someone's time...

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By *isalikesitWoman over a year ago

nottingham

But you aren't a genuine man!

I want someone who won't let me down at the last minute due to cold feet or his wife not letting him out. I don't want to hear the woe is me of "my wife doesn't understand me". I don't want to be embroiled in a cheaters lies and guilt and the biggest is, I don't want the guilt of ruining another persons life, when they find out what their husband has been doing!

So no you won't find it easy on here because a lot of us are swingers not cheaters looking for an easy shag.

Talk to your wife, go to Relate, sort things out, one way or the other.

Lisa

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow, some very judgemental people on here! For the lady who has just suggested the messages fizzle out when I tell them I'm married...I don't receive messages, I'm a bloke remember

Every message I send explains my situation.

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By *isalikesitWoman over a year ago

nottingham

"We both play with each other's knowledge and are both OK with it. I'm not showing pictures more to do with the fact somebody who knows us may see them. I'm sure some of you couples on here understand that although you play together you wouldn't want somebody to find out you are on her...

We have discussed playing together but decided it's a no go and we don't talk about what we get up to

Maybe this site isn't right for me

This sounds very different to your op!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, some very judgemental people on here! For the lady who has just suggested the messages fizzle out when I tell them I'm married...I don't receive messages, I'm a bloke remember

Every message I send explains my situation. "

What did you expect??????????????? You posted on a public forum

Did you think people were gonna be all "oh poor you"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, some very judgemental people on here! For the lady who has just suggested the messages fizzle out when I tell them I'm married...I don't receive messages, I'm a bloke remember

Every message I send explains my situation. "

You said they drop after a few messages, so you do get them. People are judgemental but if you put a post up, you ask for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, some very judgemental people on here! For the lady who has just suggested the messages fizzle out when I tell them I'm married...I don't receive messages, I'm a bloke remember

Every message I send explains my situation. "

Well the problem is this . Let's say the woman / couple are willing to play with you , despite you being married .

The planning and deceit make it more trouble than it's worth to be honest .

It's not as if there aren't plenty of single guys on here , without the baggage son to speak .

And yes , plenty of them are married too , but they make life easiervby hiding it

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By *ayandess1Couple over a year ago

bridgwater

Make your mind up, if you have permission there's no need for secrecy.

We have heard all this before. My gut instinct is that your cheating. Your wife does not know your here and by the sound of it there more baggage than termanal 5.

Danger Will Robinson!

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By *isalikesitWoman over a year ago

nottingham

"Make your mind up, if you have permission there's no need for secrecy.

We have heard all this before. My gut instinct is that your cheating. Your wife does not know your here and by the sound of it there more baggage than termanal 5.

Danger Will Robinson! "