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Was I right...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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…to refuse to meet up?
The other day I was contacted by a man whose profile pic looked very fit and hulky. He said he was 43 and had a 19 yr old gf who wanted a 3some with a TV, liked bareback and was filthy. I said it sounded good.
He then suggested meeting at Milton Keynes casino early evening before going back to his and hinted they’d be another guy and possibly girl involved. As a TV I was reluctant to meet in a place potentially full of “lads”, d*unks and homophobes. He said the meet was to ensure we got on, which I agreed is a good idea. I then suggested he escort me into the venue and told him what I’d be wearing. I also asked for his mobile and where we’d be playing.
He reassured me the casino would be fine with me coming in dressed, claiming he knew the manager and refused to give me his mobile number or location of the “party”. He then said “If you are not trusting then forget it, we want a laugh not complications”. I said I’d sleep on it.
The next morning I asked for a face picture, told him what I’d be wearing, when I’d arrive and asked for a mobile number again to make arrangements easily and even suggested an alternative gay friendly place to meet. He then blocked me.
I felt he was very brusque about my apprehension about meeting in such a public and possibly hostile place and found his refusal to give me his mobile and the location of the “party” to be odd. Added to a lack of face photo it made me suspicious I was being set up or couldn’t trust him. He did have one personal verification (I email her but have had no reply) and was a silver member, so maybe he was on the level and I messed up a good night out.
Was I right to be so concerned or should I have gone for it? Discuss…advise…please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say you were right to be concerned. If I dont feel happy or the conversation takes another direction, I'll change my mind. Personal safety comes first and if you feel uneasy then don't do it. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"…to refuse to meet up?
The other day I was contacted by a man whose profile pic looked very fit and hulky. He said he was 43 and had a 19 yr old gf who wanted a 3some with a TV, liked bareback and was filthy. I said it sounded good.
He then suggested meeting at Milton Keynes casino early evening before going back to his and hinted they’d be another guy and possibly girl involved. As a TV I was reluctant to meet in a place potentially full of “lads”, d*unks and homophobes. He said the meet was to ensure we got on, which I agreed is a good idea. I then suggested he escort me into the venue and told him what I’d be wearing. I also asked for his mobile and where we’d be playing.
He reassured me the casino would be fine with me coming in dressed, claiming he knew the manager and refused to give me his mobile number or location of the “party”. He then said “If you are not trusting then forget it, we want a laugh not complications”. I said I’d sleep on it.
The next morning I asked for a face picture, told him what I’d be wearing, when I’d arrive and asked for a mobile number again to make arrangements easily and even suggested an alternative gay friendly place to meet. He then blocked me.
I felt he was very brusque about my apprehension about meeting in such a public and possibly hostile place and found his refusal to give me his mobile and the location of the “party” to be odd. Added to a lack of face photo it made me suspicious I was being set up or couldn’t trust him. He did have one personal verification (I email her but have had no reply) and was a silver member, so maybe he was on the level and I messed up a good night out.
Was I right to be so concerned or should I have gone for it? Discuss…advise…please."
Completely right.
If you are not comfortable (and he is not even trying to held that as I see it) then you did the right thing.
It's never going to be worth taking a chance in that situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you know you did the right thing,i am sure you dont need the re assurances of others as to how you should conduct your own security
personal safety is paramount.how could you possibly enjoy a meet if you felt threatened or unsafe in any way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You definitely did the right thing. Anyone up front would not have a problem giving their no and a face pic. Not unreasonable requests! I'd say you were saved from a lot of bother. Well done for sticking to your instincts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all of you - you know I know I think did the right thing, but I just wanted to check I wasn't being silly. I did think the guy was a dick not to be more understanding.
Thanks - keep the support coming though!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You definitely done the right thing . And for him to mention there might be more people than he first suggested would make my sensors stand on end and think twice . And for him not to send a face pic or give his number is just taking the mickey . Leave well alone and block him from contacting you again . Safety is paramount . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If something doesn't feel right then chances are it isn't...I've cancelled before now a few times when something doesn't quite add up to me. I might have missed out on a great night, but I might also have escaped ending up in the Manchester Ship Canal! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you felt it was rite then yes i was as for your piece of mind and comfort is above as is your safety bum holes to what any body else thinks your feeling are paramount xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks very much for all your support and comments. I knew I was right but I am new to Fabs so I didn't know if I was being a "timewaster" by saying I'd do it but setting conditions. I feel vindicated and will be more confident in future in making sure I only meet in safe situations.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only thing that you did wrong was to keep thinking about it past the point where he hadn't listened to your concerns about the venue...!
Always listen to your gut feelings and if you have the slightest doubt then stop things right there.
It's about full enjoyment for both sides and you don't owe anybody your time!
Sounds like you had a lucky escape - and even if not then you know that you'd have been too worried to enjoy anything...
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"Thanks very much for all your support and comments. I knew I was right but I am new to Fabs so I didn't know if I was being a "timewaster" by saying I'd do it but setting conditions. I feel vindicated and will be more confident in future in making sure I only meet in safe situations.
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Assuring your own safety and well being is never a waste of time despite what anyone else might suggest. |
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By *itzWoman
over a year ago
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You absolutely did the right thing. So what if he has paid out to be a silver member, doesnt mean anything. It is much better to wonder what might have happened than to regret your decision knowing what has happened. Always know where you are going and talk to your meet on the phone at least, there are some funny fuckers out there. I would suggest finding a mate who knows what you are up to on the swinging scene to be a phone buddy, who you can tell where you are going, give your meets telephone number and any other details you have and contact them when you meet and also when you get home safe. Take care out there and have fun xxxx |
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