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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
Actually its a great question. I took my condom to Timpsons the shoe repairers the other day as it was looking a bit worse for the wear. All sorted now!
I wonder sometimes.............. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With some of the things I've read about regarding clubs I'm not surprised people ask questions like these. I happen to know that men will happily go from woman to woman without changing condoms if not stopped |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With some of the things I've read about regarding clubs I'm not surprised people ask questions like these. I happen to know that men will happily go from woman to woman without changing condoms if not stopped"
Even after a two-hour break in between? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
This is a wind up right, I mean we all know about safe sex right? Even if you didn't learn it at school they remind you about stuff like this when you go to the GUM clinic!  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
it is alarming the question really needs to be asked....
but maybe it serves a purpose for people who are not nieve enough to know.... |
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This question has been met by varying degrees of astonishment, contempt and disbelief. The original post doesn't say that these people don't do it it asks "do you?". I have been reading the forums for some time and the degree of misunderstanding and ignorance surrounding safe sex is breathtaking and there is an underlying tacit belief that stis can't be passed from woman to woman only from men to women, women to men and men to men I believe questions like this are very useful becaue they make people question these beliefs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was once chatting to a couple who were saying about him swapping from her to me and back again...I mentioned about us needing plenty condoms though and they asked why! I told them we wouldn't be meeting as I valued my sexual health and they couldn't understand what my problem was as he was going to wear 'a' condom...needless to say they were then blocked. If people want to take risks that's their choice, but if you don't understand the risks you're taking then that worries me even more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once chatting to a couple who were saying about him swapping from her to me and back again...I mentioned about us needing plenty condoms though and they asked why! I told them we wouldn't be meeting as I valued my sexual health and they couldn't understand what my problem was as he was going to wear 'a' condom...needless to say they were then blocked. If people want to take risks that's their choice, but if you don't understand the risks you're taking then that worries me even more "
Good for you! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
I insist of course.
What about touching intimate areas though on more than one person at once.... That's the area that I'm concerned with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems that everyone thinks it's a no brainer .
However , let me play the devils advocate fir a moment .
Do you mouthwash after oral with more than one partner ?
Wash your fingers if in a group play scenario ?
What's the difference ?
Condom has another woman's pussy on it , so do fingers , so does tongue !
Women's mouths eat pussy and suck dick in group play , and no one cries out for them to use listerene after each person !
So , unless I am missing something here , there are some strange reactions here .
Go ahead and block us , as I am sure it has happened in the past , but as we get checked every month , I guess we must have been lucky so far  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems that everyone thinks it's a no brainer .
However , let me play the devils advocate fir a moment .
Do you mouthwash after oral with more than one partner ?
Wash your fingers if in a group play scenario ?
What's the difference ?
Condom has another woman's pussy on it , so do fingers , so does tongue !
Women's mouths eat pussy and suck dick in group play , and no one cries out for them to use listerene after each person !
So , unless I am missing something here , there are some strange reactions here .
Go ahead and block us , as I am sure it has happened in the past , but as we get checked every month , I guess we must have been lucky so far "
For me it's about looking at the risks and deciding which risks I want to take. Penetrative sex is a higher risk than oral, but of course both carry risks. My concern in my particular case was that they didn't even seem to understand that there was a risk...almost like they assumed an STi could only be transmitted between a man and a woman, not from a woman to a woman. If they are so naive about the risks then I assumed (perhaps wrongly) that they were a couple that would only go to the clinic if they had symptoms, and that this one condom kept everyone 100% safe from harm. We all take risks, but it's about deciding the level of risk you want to take. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems that everyone thinks it's a no brainer .
However , let me play the devils advocate fir a moment .
Do you mouthwash after oral with more than one partner ?
Wash your fingers if in a group play scenario ?
What's the difference ?
Condom has another woman's pussy on it , so do fingers , so does tongue !
Women's mouths eat pussy and suck dick in group play , and no one cries out for them to use listerene after each person !
So , unless I am missing something here , there are some strange reactions here .
Go ahead and block us , as I am sure it has happened in the past , but as we get checked every month , I guess we must have been lucky so far "
Good point. Goes along with my post a bit  |
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex... "
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh  I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!! "
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?  |
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ? "
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
I cant believe I just read that. How many times does the condom/ no condom/ will a crisp packet and laccy band suffice do...thread come up.
If you dont change skins between you are protected but they are not......jeez
Self evident change every time.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
...How do you think s.t.d's and h.i.v is past from one person to the other,Just think about that for a min and the answer is yes just incase you don't get it..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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what astounds me is the belief that there is less risk of transmission via oral across the board. that's not the case. gonnorhea, chlamydia, syphllis, trichimonas, herpes and hpv are all passed as readily via oral contact as penetrative sexual contact. hepatitis and hiv are unknown but *suspected* to be transmitted less easily unless there is an open wound in the mouth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of
others) play "
Including us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now they haven't said they don't, they asked if others do."
They don't have safe sex as an interest so I think it's safe to assume they don't practice it |
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play "
Admitting to double standards does not make it right. That is like admitting to being an ageist employer or being sexist. It is still wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play
Admitting to double standards does not make it right. That is like admitting to being an ageist employer or being sexist. It is still wrong."
Which part is wrong ?
Not mouthwasing , or checking fingers ,  |
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I was once messaged on my couples profile by a couple who has safe sex as a preference, they said they practised safe sex unless my husband had had the snip as they didn't want anymore babies, but if he had had the snip then they were happy to bareback, our reply was to point out that safe sex means safe from disease not pregnancy.....then blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this and other threads along the same lines prove that none of us practice safe sex only sex as safe as we are individually happy with. "
Very true , and well put |
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play
Admitting to double standards does not make it right. That is like admitting to being an ageist employer or being sexist. It is still wrong.
Which part is wrong ?
Not mouthwasing , or checking fingers , "
Having double standards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play
Admitting to double standards does not make it right. That is like admitting to being an ageist employer or being sexist. It is still wrong."
You're right, but I have to say that the person that said this has a point. After all, how many women here have used dental dams when going on another woman? |
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"Never seen guys walking from room to room with condoms already on !
And I go to clubs most weeks "
Have seen it in both the clubs I regularly attend. And others have agreed it happens when I mentioned it to them in disbelief |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never seen guys walking from room to room with condoms already on !
And I go to clubs most weeks
Have seen it in both the clubs I regularly attend. And others have agreed it happens when I mentioned it to them in disbelief"
Point taken |
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"That's not etiquette, it's called having safe sex...
The bloke concerned is still having safe sex - it's the women involved who are at risk (or, rather, the second (and subsequent..?!) women. I've had one guy approach me in a club after playing with a woman and then moving over to me and expecting to play with the same condom still on.
I've also seen in clubs men moving from room to room wearing condoms - there is no way of telling if they've already been playing with them on or if it's fresh I like to see the condom being unwrapped for this reason!!
Yeah , we understand this , but do you mouthwash after going from one dick to another, or ask guys if they have fingered anyone else before you ?
Nope and nope
I get the whole double standards thing but, hey, that's the way I (and an awful lot of others) play
Admitting to double standards does not make it right. That is like admitting to being an ageist employer or being sexist. It is still wrong.
You're right, but I have to say that the person that said this has a point. After all, how many women here have used dental dams when going on another woman? "
Or use hand sanitiser if in group fff play between different women?  |
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"Never seen guys walking from room to room with condoms already on !
And I go to clubs most weeks
Have seen it in both the clubs I regularly attend. And others have agreed it happens when I mentioned it to them in disbelief
Point taken "
I'm possibly checking out blokes and their cocks more than you do, mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree completely. The double standard is wrong. Even more so when the possessor of said double standards tries to impose their half baked morality on others.
Not really sure where exactly I'm trying to impose anything on anyone, let alone my apparent 'half baked morality'. However, to anyone who feels this is indeed the case, feel free to block me because clearly we'd never get along, nor would I wish that we would "
We certainly didn't see any 'half baked morality' from anything you posted .
Since you have played in clubs , you are entitled to state your thoughts and opinions on the matter , which you have done in a non judgemental way . We have also had experience , and like yourself , have made our points .
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"With some of the things I've read about regarding clubs I'm not surprised people ask questions like these. I happen to know that men will happily go from woman to woman without changing condoms if not stopped"
YUCK!! Never seen it happen, but ffs I hope its rarer than you suggest.
Thats not swinging, its russian roulette X |
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By *ompip3Couple
over a year ago
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"Do you change condoms when about to penetrate a different woman?"
Easiest way around this problem is for the guy's to swap condoms!!
......That way the same condom going back into the same woman!!....Job done!!
ps. tongue firmly in cheek, just before we get a backlash and blocked lol!! |
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There was a story going around Plymouth years ago about a sailor who went to the MO, who examined him and said he'd caught the clap. The MO told the sailor should have used a condom, and the sailor said he had. The MO didn't believe him, and the sailor explained he and a mate had both fucked the same woman, and after his mate had cum first, the sailor used the same condom, but turned inside-out!
There used to be a French TV advert in the early days of the AIDS scare - no joke - which showed a swinger group swapping, accompanied by the message "new partner? change the condom!" |
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When we first started swinging we saw lots! ( At a club we soon realized wasnt for us at all!) A man in a group situation we were watching, going from one woman to another etc ... Same condom . Eeeks!!! Got talkin and heard some horror stories , of men seen in loo washing condoms, people makin holes in them, so when fuckin they slip off?!! ... So from the start we carry a heap load with us lol ... If someone puts one on ,we watch it opened and put on! I (mrs) do tend to get a bit vocal when the odd few say they got no condoms!! What? At a swinging club unprepared!! Lol ... Thankfully this quite rare ,with the clubs we now attend often. We continually check cocks for condoms tho! Cant be too complacent in this life style |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would hope it is common sense that condom is changed every time there is new contact so to speak, but as above said where does it end? fingers, tongues etc going to put together a swingers survival kit of condom, femidon, mouth wash, Hand gel, gum shield and boxing gloves! 
At the end of the day the only way to be certain is to get checked frequently and strike a balance between fun and safety. We all make a choice to engage in sexual activity, and accept the risks that come with it as well as the responsibility to ensure our own health is intact.
Overall we are all a well educated lot and i have heard of far more doses being caught by random d*unken pick ups than in swinging.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would hope it is common sense that condom is changed every time there is new contact so to speak, but as above said where does it end? fingers, tongues etc going to put together a swingers survival kit of condom, femidon, mouth wash, Hand gel, gum shield and boxing gloves!
At the end of the day the only way to be certain is to get checked frequently and strike a balance between fun and safety. We all make a choice to engage in sexual activity, and accept the risks that come with it as well as the responsibility to ensure our own health is intact.
Overall we are all a well educated lot and i have heard of far more doses being caught by random d*unken pick ups than in swinging.
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