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Am I being deceived???
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By *exxi_bi OP Woman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
My 2nd posting of the day (I need to get out more).
I have been chatting with what I thought was the fem half of a couple for the past few days. We've been chatting on msn and the first chat I decided to save. Well just now I had a very brief chat with the male half and as it happens their use of the English language is exactly the same. Their txt speak, punctuation and grammer all the same.
When i confronted him about this he got defensive and said whats wrong if they type the same? Am i calling him a lyer? he asked.
Earlier when I was supposedly chatting to the fem half I asked her if she would like to cam2cam later and 'her' response was that the cam on laptop wasn't working and that they should have a cam by the weekend. And when I asked for a phone chat she is going out in the evening and her hubby will be here.
Their profile says they are genuine and have had meets. So am i being deceived? and if I am why do it if they're genuine?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it's feasible that he could be innocently logging on when she's at work etc and thinks people will assume he's a single male if she never appears so pretends to be her so it looks like she's around?
How many verifications? Is it possible they have split up and the verifications are very old? Or is it just one which could be him on another profile.
If you do like the sound of them other than this, perhaps give them one more change to prove themselves them consider giving them the good news...It's how we'd play it anyhow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or on second thoughts... it could be that he's logging on not at ALL innocently while she's out...and he's hoping he can get you to cam for him if you think he's her......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If somebody is genuine there is no need to be defensive ..I would be little sceptical if I were you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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they might of split since feedback also......seen that before. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Gut instinct is a wonderful thing. If you don't think they are who they say they are, and don't want to waste any more time seeing if they are real or not, then say no thanks and move onto the next one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I've heard alot of these webcam excuses before. Such as the webcam is broken, it doesnt work on this computer, we changed to windows 7 and it doesnt work.
Now giving someone the benefit of the doubt I say fair enough. But to be honest, I bought my first webcam at Lidl a few years ago for nothing. It still works perfectly. I bought a new one a few months back, that has worked away fine, well except for the chatrooms here, but the new chatrooms that are being tested, the cam works fine.
Now this webcam has worked on xp, and a xp striped OS with a vista theme, and now on windows7 it still works.
So I dont always believe the whole the webcam doesnt work crap.
If I am talking to someone and they give me that webcam excuse, but still want to see me on cam. Then I simply tell them, I feel very self conscious when in a convo I am the only one on cam.
If they are genuine, then they will buy a new cam or get it fixed when they can and should be more than happy to come on cam to prove they are genuine.
So I suggest, talk to them if you, but dont set any meets or swap anymore pictures until you see them on cam.
Also a webcam can be bought for a few pound now in argos or where ever, so theres not much of an excuse not to have one. |
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By *exxi_bi OP Woman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Well their only verification is from a few weeks ago and a very genuine verification at that. The female they met (twice) has lots on hers and for good measure I did message her earlier in the day to just to confirm what she verified...still waiting to hear from her.
I don't think they have split up. I just get the feeling the male is doing this for his own pleasure. And I remember when chatting today with 'her' on msn the cam symbol was showing under their pic. If the cam wasnt working then would this still show up?
I think Im going to see if their verifier responds and then decide. If they are genuine then i will have to apologise because I just left the chat and obviously made him out to be a liar.
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By *exxi_bi OP Woman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
oh one more thing, he didn't ask to see me on cam, I asked if they wanted to cam2cam. Just thought id clear that up. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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As you say, maybe as they are members on here and you don't really want to be accusing anyone of anything unless you know it to be true....then it probably isn't fair to be discussing them on a forum.
The moral of the story....do as many checks as you can and go with your gut instinct, if it doesn't sound right to YOU then walk away. There are plenty of other people on here. |
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