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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
Just ignore the nasty bastards. Be the beautiful curvy girl you are and enjoy yourself with ones who love your curves x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always get called fat if i reject lol  "
it alway's amuses me how you can go from the most gorgeous woman on the site to a fat cow who should ne grateful for their attention in about 5 seconds once you have said no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone has photos on their profile.. people can clearly see what your getting xx then no one can complain..
Of course that doesnt include the idiots that put you down when you refuse them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i can see the skinny ladies as guys put it spitting there dummies out.... 
Where? "
Plenty of time. example...put a bbw in front of me and a skinny girl ill take the bbw...id just take both  |
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"i can see the skinny ladies as guys put it spitting there dummies out....
Where?
Plenty of time. example...put a bbw in front of me and a skinny girl ill take the bbw...id just take both "
No one needs be offended as long as the conversation doesn't get nasty towards either slimmer or bigger ladies.,
Problem is some twit always has to be nasty about the ones they aren't interested in. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"i can see the skinny ladies as guys put it spitting there dummies out....
Where?
Plenty of time. example...put a bbw in front of me and a skinny girl ill take the bbw...id just take both
No one needs be offended as long as the conversation doesn't get nasty towards either slimmer or bigger ladies.,
Problem is some twit always has to be nasty about the ones they aren't interested in. "
It always happens!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't want it too cause arguments xxx
Dont worry theres plenty of users on the forums that would find trouble in a empty box "
You're the only one thats making an issue on this thread though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can say, I may be fat but if I choose to I can change that, but your ugliness can't be changed even with plastic surgery. X"
this isn't directed anybody in particular btw
just mean it as conversation stopper in general |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't want it too cause arguments xxx
Dont worry theres plenty of users on the forums that would find trouble in a empty box
You're the only one thats making an issue on this thread though"
im in full support of bbw if that offends you then im sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
SOD THEM IM A BBW NEVER BEEN CALLED FAT THOUGH I DONT THINK THEY DARENT!
HOLD YA HEAD HIGH BBWS RULE  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't want it too cause arguments xxx
Dont worry theres plenty of users on the forums that would find trouble in a empty box
You're the only one thats making an issue on this thread though
im in full support of bbw if that offends you then im sorry"
 yeah ok then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled.  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled. "
Your lucky! I've had them from people I've never even spoken to before, never mind rejected them! I find it incredibly amusing now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have not had any nasty messages like this yet but i cant imagine how it must make you feel
Im not being funny but if there that shallow then can you imagine how shit they would be in the bedroom
Im fat so what i would love to be skinny but im not so for now im only enjoying amazing sex with real men that can handle me
They are replying with nasty messages probably because they are envious that you are enjoying good times with polite honest people not mini keyboard warriors i hope you dont let it get to you to much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see posts about BBWs look your more then letters .. Your people first and four most with brains not just a body size. If i was a BBW i should hate just that tag would send me into a rant at them I would go mad just being called a BBw sorry i would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see posts about BBWs look your more then letters .. Your people first and four most with brains not just a body size. If i was a BBW i should hate just that tag would send me into a rant at them I would go mad just being called a BBw sorry i would."
Soooo true it pisses me off a bit that we are labelled lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few nasty messages off random guys who I've never spoken to. Its very sad these people think its acceptable to belittle others they know nothing about based on a few pics. I think they are insecure and do it to boost their fragile egos. At the end of the day, a larger person can always lose weight if they so wish but these people will always be rude disrespectful and pathetic. How sad they abuse others to make up for their own insecurities. Ignore them, they're not worth any of your time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see posts about BBWs look your more then letters .. Your people first and four most with brains not just a body size. If i was a BBW i should hate just that tag would send me into a rant at them I would go mad just being called a BBw sorry i would.
Soooo true it pisses me off a bit that we are labelled lol x"
Its like your singled out if over a size .. I don't like it . People should shine for who they are as people no just there size .. we all like different things here and theres no need no matter of size to feel not as good as the rest . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The digital world gives people with low self esteem a chance to exercise what they see as power and control by being nasty
It's like the trolls who say nasty things on websites set up for people who have died
Invariably when these people are caught and the ones who have broken the law appear in the press, they seem to be your typical social misfits who have spent there entire adults lives locked away in a bedroom not taking part in normal life.
The best advice is to take their comments with a pinch of salt and picture the poor sado on the other end typing it. Probably kicking his porn videos all over his bedroom cos you've rejected him. He will then go down the pub and tell his mates that all women are stuck up bitches. Then wonder why he can't seem to attract he opposite sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a guy feels the need to respond to rejection with insults, you should feel smug in the fact that your initial reaction to reject them was the correct one and that they instantly proved you right.
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In a perfect world there wouldnt be labels but its not. Whether its skinny, curvy, fat, etc but there is. Someone embrace their size after years of battle and if calling themselves Big Beautiful Woman helps with that is there really a problem! Each to their own and all that not everyone has to go by the same! I for one and proud to be a BBW cause thats what i am big and beautiful! Taken me enough years to be able to say it and believe it! This site helped that!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a guy feels the need to respond to rejection with insults, you should feel smug in the fact that your initial reaction to reject them was the correct one and that they instantly proved you right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled. "
Im with peaches on this subject
I got loads pictures obviously im biggirl and only ever had one insult from a random profile,the insults were amusing and daft tbh x i get people on threads try to say something to.try get me to bite,there have a long wait while they look daft,i ignore sillyness,i left school many moons ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the point of insulting someone even if you're not attracted by them I'll never get why some guys (mainly, unfortunately) are so stupid on here...
And I join those who said it before: curvy women are beautiful!!! |
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Labels can be useful. Some kind of indication of size is needed on your profile because people have preferences and if a guy isn't turned on by a big woman then no matter how lovely her personality is, he's unlikely be interested. Why waste his time and your own? If I were meeting privately then I'd say I was a larger woman on my profile, state my dress size and include a (clothed) body shot. Then a guy could decide for himself if I was his type.
As it is, we don't meet privately but play in clubs so people can see me 'in the flesh' so to speak and decide if I'm their type. Incidentally, I reject EVERYONE who messages us because we play in clubs and I haven't had a single nasty message back as yet (maybe I've just been lucky)
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Ignore em, your gorgeous and they're just name calling because they know they would never stand a chance of meeting you!
Be proud of your curves they show how much of a woman you really are xx "
Sorry, but how can you say she is gorgeous when there are no pics? Confused.com lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously dont worry about the idiots.
Im slim so they try to insult me by saying Im old, they will pick on anything they think you may be insecure about.
Doesnt work here, DONT let it work for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do they know what you look like? I don't get such messages
Phewww thanks diamond, i knew i wasnt on my own in this "
You can add me too as I've never a message like that either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love BBW and Curvy
"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
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Beauty comes in ALL sizes. people thinking that beauty is only in a size dress are very narrow minded.
Ignore these people and enjoy your time with those people who are happy to meet you for you not your dress size Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In a perfect world there wouldnt be labels but its not. Whether its skinny, curvy, fat, etc but there is. Someone embrace their size after years of battle and if calling themselves Big Beautiful Woman helps with that is there really a problem! Each to their own and all that not everyone has to go by the same! I for one and proud to be a BBW cause thats what i am big and beautiful! Taken me enough years to be able to say it and believe it! This site helped that! "
Amen to that...!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I hate is the profiles that stipulate size! Nobody over a size 12 or such. And usually a 100 other stipulations too! I'm afraid I just pass them by as I can't be bothered with people like that. So far I have not had any nasty comments re my curves. Only admiration for my tits!! And they are staying for sure! I'm tattooed and pierced and I would say that draws more attention then my size. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive never had that as such but got called a whale once after saying no thanks....also had a meet with a guy who said he wasn't sure about this 'bbw thing' once play was over..... couldn't give a monkeys what people think about me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could always try paraphrasing winston churchill by pointing out that you can always loose weight but they will always be ugly ( from the male half by the way) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always found the "larger" lady to be very sensual and sexy. Curves in all the right places. You just be yourself and don't let anyone else tell you different.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its all down to personal preferance... i tend to laugh at peoples poor attempts to insult me.. we are all on fab to have fun.. so who gives a toss what people think? Im a big girl.. I find others who judge me for that have issues, not me. Im definitely not changeing, why would I? You couldn't of been that disgusting for them to message you in the first place... says a lot about them as a person and should confirm the reasons why u said no in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok reading the title of this thread with one eye open in bed.. Thought it said brew and curry! "
You weren't alone!
Report and block. We're not going to be everyone's cup of tea but there's no need to be nasty about it. |
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I adore bbw and ladies of the fuller figure but as a skinny 40s guy find it very difficult to meet with even for a social maybe I'm not there type who knows but there are a lot of very sexy big ladies on this site |
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for the ladies that don't understand how some of us get insulting messages, here is why I do......
My profile clearly states I am a large lady, I have plenty of pictures to prove it.
Before I had filters on, I used to get the odd message off guys that I have never spoken to, that just said fat slag, or fat people like you shouldn't be on the site. Just totally out of the blue. If a got a message and wasn't interested, I would always reply with a polite no thank you, then to be told "your too fat for me any way".
I get that not everyone likes plus size ladies, but I wont change for anyone. Filters are in place and I prefer to message men myself. Yes I get rejected lots, but I just carry on looking for more men! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I myself would not be into bbw women but even so I wouldnt go out of my way to hurt someones feelings here. I bet most of the insults come after u reject someones advances and they turn on u .. these ppl arent even worth talking about everyone has balls of steel on the internet and ppl like that im betting couldnt even make eye contact in the real world so ladies just ignore and keep smiling ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand guys. Im a size 18, and if I reject a guy I've never had a rude message back like this. they wouldn't like it if we retaliated with something rude after rejection.
I can't see your pics but ignore them, there are nice guys on here |
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"I myself would not be into bbw women but even so I wouldnt go out of my way to hurt someones feelings here. I bet most of the insults come after u reject someones advances and they turn on u .. these ppl arent even worth talking about everyone has balls of steel on the internet and ppl like that im betting couldnt even make eye contact in the real world so ladies just ignore and keep smiling ... "
And thats it in a nutshell there is no need for anyone who throw nasty insults about but hey if it makes these people feel good about themselfs then let then crack on with it |
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The people who have made the insults obviously have insecurities and must be sad individuals.
A woman with curves I personally find to be very sexy and I am sure the amount of men who appreciate you far far outnumber the minority who make petty useless comments.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx
Just ignore the nasty bastards. Be the beautiful curvy girl you are and enjoy yourself with ones who love your curves x"
Sound advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*touch wood* I had no nasty messages on here Yet but got some arsey remarks from single guys when I say no. Sad really. Fat and skinny seem to be insulting words im bbw my friend is super skinny and she gets abuse the same. Odd world we live in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always get called fat if i reject lol
it alway's amuses me how you can go from the most gorgeous woman on the site to a fat cow who should ne grateful for their attention in about 5 seconds once you have said no thanks "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always get called fat if i reject lol
it alway's amuses me how you can go from the most gorgeous woman on the site to a fat cow who should ne grateful for their attention in about 5 seconds once you have said no thanks "
I've had a few random abusive comments and several after a polite no thanks. If they haven't been a coward and blocked me I always reply with a thank you for reaffirming my decision not to meet you was the correct one, I have no desire to meet a disrespectful immature child!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nik has lost weight and she was slim before.people she works with keep saying how skinny she looks.ive told her say something back about how fat they are and see how they take the comments.commenting on people being slimmer seems to acceptable to alot of people . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
tell them its simple if they dont like then move on to next profile they prob just said that because you were not intrested in meeting with them theres plenty of men that love bbw so dont let the narrow minded twats get you down we are who we are so enjoy the way you are |
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
well said. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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these threads always bring a surge of compliments on the basis of one side of alleged abuse, a wave of wellbeing and platitudes.
it reinforces often how fickle this all is. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled. "
Peaches. I have only been here a year. But I have also never had anything nasty said about my weight.
OP - can I ask. What was your response to him before you received the message.
I am not excusing his behaviour. But maybe you need to rethink your responses if you get these a lot. |
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"i can see the skinny ladies as guys put it spitting there dummies out....
Where?
Plenty of time. example...put a bbw in front of me and a skinny girl ill take the bbw...id just take both
No one needs be offended as long as the conversation doesn't get nasty towards either slimmer or bigger ladies.,
Problem is some twit always has to be nasty about the ones they aren't interested in. "
Yep: ALWAYS happens! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
if your fat and have no problem with it ,it should bother you skinny people don't moan when they are called skinny |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
I get negative posts from people about my size & as they have the problem not me i just ignore them...i like to think its their loss at the end of the day & as John still likes me thats all that matters.
We are going slimming world at the moment but that's our choice as we are happy with ourselves but healthier a bit lighter, me & John are strong believers of Karma what go around comes around. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I truly don't understand the need to seek reassurance from people who don't know you, never met you and in some cases can't see you.
The 'you be the beautiful person you are' is ludicrous when said to a total stranger on the tinternet & suddenly that boosts your confidence enough to take your clothes off and have sex with more strangers.
More so, if people are actively meeting & shagging like rabbits.
Bizarre.
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"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled. "
I'm much bigger than you and in six years I've never received a nasty message about my weight or to saying no. I suppose because there was absolutely no ambiguity as to what I was looking for and stating I wouldn't reply to anyone outwith my criteria and graciously declining those I didn't wish to meet helped...I guess... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do they know what you look like? I don't get such messages
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I have a few over the years, some on first contact so was most certainly unsolicited
One a few days ago when I said thanks but no thanks what he was offering was not to my taste and he promptly told me I should be grateful for the offer as I'm that fat and ugly I wouldn't get any others, he also blocked me before I could hit the report button although to be honest I can't be arsed with it I'm not bothered by it o just move on, I'm confident enough and thick skinned enough to not let it worry me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do they know what you look like? I don't get such messages
I have a few over the years, some on first contact so was most certainly unsolicited
One a few days ago when I said thanks but no thanks what he was offering was not to my taste and he promptly told me I should be grateful for the offer as I'm that fat and ugly I wouldn't get any others, he also blocked me before I could hit the report button although to be honest I can't be arsed with it I'm not bothered by it o just move on, I'm confident enough and thick skinned enough to not let it worry me "
I've had a few abusive messages after a polite no thanks, its pathetic and why people feel the need to be immature and disrespectful spouting hurtful messages about a person's appearance I will never know. Perhaps it boosts their fragile little egos as they clearly don't have the self confidence and decency to take polite rejection. Just confirms your decision they weren't for you was the correct one |
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"these threads always bring a surge of compliments on the basis of one side of alleged abuse, a wave of wellbeing and platitudes.
it reinforces often how fickle this all is."
Oh isn't that the truth! |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
I have had bad messages off couples not guys, e.g. their profile says they are looking for girls up to a size 12 & they contact us for a meet with "hello Kim i didn't know you were on Fab...you fancy a meet".
I always reply but refuse to meet couples who state guidelines like this in their profiles as i am obviously not there type & its just because someone as seen me in a adult film.
Then you get the "fat old cow" messages because i have said i don't want to meet them.
People can be rude & you will get these bullies that try & ruin the site/forums as they did the school playground many moons ago...some people don't change. |
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"I truly don't understand the need to seek reassurance from people who don't know you, never met you and in some cases can't see you.
The 'you be the beautiful person you are' is ludicrous when said to a total stranger on the tinternet & suddenly that boosts your confidence enough to take your clothes off and have sex with more strangers.
More so, if people are actively meeting & shagging like rabbits.
Bizarre.
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There are many fragile egos on here. I wonder why people become almost bereft and seek validation if someone says something negative about them, then perk up when the usual sycophants appear: needy or what?!! |
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"I truly don't understand the need to seek reassurance from people who don't know you, never met you and in some cases can't see you.
The 'you be the beautiful person you are' is ludicrous when said to a total stranger on the tinternet & suddenly that boosts your confidence enough to take your clothes off and have sex with more strangers.
More so, if people are actively meeting & shagging like rabbits.
Bizarre.
There are many fragile egos on here. I wonder why people become almost bereft and seek validation if someone says something negative about them, then perk up when the usual sycophants appear: needy or what?!! "
this sums it up perfectly
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I think the people with the fragile ego's are the ones who feel the need to hurl abuse at others when they have been polite enough to reply to a message with a polite no thanks rather than ignore it and delete without reply. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
My reaction is concertrate on the nice messages that you get rather than the odd few negative ones. Don't let some random stranger that you are never likey to meet bring you down....
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I have had the odd nasty message from guys who I haven't wanted to meet and some have been very offensive which do hurt, not all of us are thick skinned..Not had many nasty messages but the guys seem to think cos of my age/size/looks then I should take what's on offer. I am never nasty in my replies but me saying "no thanks" obviously upsets them and they say nasty things then block me before I can reply.. |
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By * a u lMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
It's a real shame these guys make it harder(no pun intended) for us genuinely civilised folk, who want to socialise have fun but accept that they will not be everyone's cup of tea. Be you fabulous / bbw / curveyclaire or what ever you call yourself, and block them and report them. They are taking up valuable space in the Web!!! Be sexy and don't let the b******s get you down. Paul |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"I truly don't understand the need to seek reassurance from people who don't know you, never met you and in some cases can't see you.
The 'you be the beautiful person you are' is ludicrous when said to a total stranger on the tinternet & suddenly that boosts your confidence enough to take your clothes off and have sex with more strangers.
More so, if people are actively meeting & shagging like rabbits.
Bizarre.
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Pretty much spot on. |
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Why do some men when getting rejected act like spoilt kids they are interested until they don't get what they want then bam out with the insults me I don't take it personally on here if some ones not interested then say no thanks and bye and pass on by any way rant over |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"I think the people with the fragile ego's are the ones who feel the need to hurl abuse at others when they have been polite enough to reply to a message with a polite no thanks rather than ignore it and delete without reply. "
Yes have to agree on that you will always get the online asbo's lol!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get insults daily especially in the chat room just block and ignore why let a total stranger get you down and also how can a total stranger truly hurt your feelings they are nothing to you surely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have never had any negative comments, but to be fair - if I am not interested I just block straight away ... I'm here for physical fun so if I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to waste their time or mine. I'm a big girl and I'm delighted to have met some gorgeous sexy men. But I also understand that some men don't fancy big girls and fair enough. That's the beauty of this place ... So much choice! |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled.
I'm much bigger than you and in six years I've never received a nasty message about my weight or to saying no. I suppose because there was absolutely no ambiguity as to what I was looking for and stating I wouldn't reply to anyone outwith my criteria and graciously declining those I didn't wish to meet helped...I guess... "
It depends on who it is here on fab as the forums are so clique, penny to a pound a shit this thread will be hijacked by the usual Fab bullies.
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"In all the years ive been on here, i have had not one nasty message because im the larger lady.....even when ive said no thank you...
It does puzzle me to hear this happening if imm honest,. What sort of reply do you send back in order to illicit such a nasty message ?
Im not saying i disbelieve anyone and i know there would be those who take rejection badly but i am always puzzled.
I'm much bigger than you and in six years I've never received a nasty message about my weight or to saying no. I suppose because there was absolutely no ambiguity as to what I was looking for and stating I wouldn't reply to anyone outwith my criteria and graciously declining those I didn't wish to meet helped...I guess... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing I have learned since joining Fab is that size, shape, height, length etc etc there is something for everyone.
There will always be the rude ones who to be honest are just hitting out at their rejection.
Just move on, there is someone who will appreciate you and your curves not too far away.  |
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We have had a number of insults about my weight. W haven't had any meets or been to any clubs in a couple of years because my husband doesn't want to put me in a situation were others insult my weight. I am who I am and there is nothing I can do about others comment..
I am unhappy about my weight gain but at the moment I am not in a position to change that.
Please don't let it get to you as it has got to me rise above love and report and block any people who comment like that.
(I don't mind putting bbw on ourrofile it kind of gives them a warning, we like all different sizes bar non) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't remember receiving any really nasty messages, the odd unpleasant ones perhaps.
I just delete and block, no point in getting wound up by faceless gutless tw@ts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I had one who thought I was fantastic till I said no...the insults..needless to say I blocked him...pity there is not somewhere we could show them up!! But that would be abused... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The human body is a amazing gift it dose not matter if you are thin or big , walk down a street like you own it , I say go to hell to the people who take the piss out of the larger size x |
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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago
Darlington |
"How do they know what you look like? I don't get such messages
Phewww thanks diamond, i knew i wasnt on my own in this "
I haven't got messages like this either. It's a shame to hear that others have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
Over the years, we have used and been on various sites. Sandra has nearly always had really nice comments. Last week a guy contacted us to say, she is fat and we must be desperate. I saw and read the message before Sandra, so luckily she never got to read it. It left me feeling angry. People are entitled to opinions, but some are best kept to themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never had a nasty private message like this
But when I was showing on the cams one day, a very silly little man started to get anti about me because I wouldn't private with him.
Some of the lovelier men in the room reported him on my behalf. I just blocked him.
I don't take any notice now at my age.
My theory is, if you don't like what you see, look the other way.
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
Yer snap, same for us, we thinking of giving up on fab and going to another site |
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you. don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx
Just ignore the nasty bastards. Be the beautiful curvy girl you are and enjoy yourself with ones who love your curves x"
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Personally i think it's time we took back the different body types descriptions & disassociated any insults or judgements with them
fat,skinny,curvy,boyish,pear,hourglass
none of these have to be taken as an insult
and none of them are an indicator of who a person is
I'm happy to be fat, I'd be more offended if someone called me vindictive or cruel, nasty or selfish
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
Any man that calls a woman fat..probably don't have big enough equipment to do the job anyway..
I love me some BBW.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shape size race and age (above 18 & within reason) should make absolutely no difference, if there is a spark and a want to have fun that's all that counts.
Admittedly people have there own opinions as we all do, personally I do prefer the more curvy lady but that's not to say I would say no to a thinner woman. To many people are to narrow minded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block report and forget them Honey, they are not worth it. Curves are back & plenty of guys on here like curves and can see past the size, it's more personality and whether or not you can communicate and have fun. xx |
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By *heEwokMan
over a year ago
Dartford |
See Im total opposite I don't even get a hi, I'm a medium/ big lad but never get any such messages, actually come to think of it I never get any messages at all! I think most people on here know what they want and like but if they don't get it they lash out... You know the natural male prick response to make themselves feel better! Don't let bullying get to you report and block. And get on and enjoy your life, it's got to be better than the sad sacks writing that crap! |
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"And don't take what anyone on here says to heart they don't like rejection so will try make u feel rubbish x"
nicely put. i would also add that they are ignorant cowards and put in e mails things they would never have the balls to say in public. |
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"I thought to start this topic to see wat reactions is.
Last couple off weeks ive had some nasty messages saying that u r fat and the rest.
don't think its nice if any you are not confident about yourself and this knocks you back. All i will say if you don't like bbw you know wat u can do. We all still have feelings. Xxx"
is that why youve chosen to hide your profile ? ignore the idiots BBW is beautiful pm me and lets meet so i can help restore your confidence x |
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