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Ladies and gents.
What are your views on your other half kissing the other party during a threesome?
It seems a little odd to me that I myself don't mind the fact that my man is going down on another woman or even inside her but the thought of them kissing really puts my off.
Am I alone? |
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Nope. Kissing is seen as very personal and intimate so some couples don't like it.
My ex had a thing where i could play with anyone but kinky stuffs & kissing were for him only.
I actually enjoy kissing as part of sex but i respect other peoples boundaries.
As long as you do what you're comfortable with don't worry what others think or do  |
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I have met couples who are the same; from my point of view if its their rules then fine, but I love kissing its a wonderful teasing part of foreplay.
So no you are not alone, there are many like you on Fab. |
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We met a couple and the lady said pretty much everything goes but no kissing. It's everybody's choice and preference of course but I couldn't do it with no kissing involved |
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I'd happily kiss the other fem and I don't think he has a problem with it at all, just my hang up between him and her. It is very intimate in my mind, it's something that needs to be kept sacred. But even though these are my views, I still think it's crazy!  |
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Agree also. Kissing is for me and my other half only. A peck on the cheek from the other parties before and after is fine but nothing more in the heat of 'battle'.
Funny situation really. Im happy for someone can have anal with my partner and cum all over here and get rough if situation developes but kissing is off limits. Odd when I think about it but it is a hard limit we agreed to. |
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"I'd happily kiss the other fem and I don't think he has a problem with it at all, just my hang up between him and her. It is very intimate in my mind, it's something that needs to be kept sacred. But even though these are my views, I still think it's crazy! "
It's not crazy, its how you feel and what you want. That's what this is all about |
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over a year ago
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I cant get my head round this at all. Kissing is uber important to.me but I find it.bizarre that I can suck and lick someomes clit but woe betide me if I move in for a frenchie......still we all have crosses to bear  |
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"Omg!!! Thank god I'm not alone....
I love to kiss my regular but when we are in a mfmf or mff or mfmfmf I hate the thought of him kissing other lady's ... He did do it once and at the time I had his cock in my mouth and I looked up and he was kissing very passionately ..... He's very lucky I didn't bite his cock off !!!!!
Needless to say he / we don't kiss any others apart from each other    "
See now I would have found that super horny and erotic... I love seeing Lee kiss another lady even more so if I am playing with him at the same time... Yet I can take or leave another guy kissing me.. I've found though it's mostly because they kiss crap. Even with ladies I've found most aren't kissably compatible with me lol
But if a woman doesn't want to kiss lee or she isn't allowed.. then I enjoy it less x |
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I had a rant about this previously as I enjoy kissing and found it strange that I could do everything (including anal) but no kissing.
But, on reflection, it has to be the couple's choice and if I want to play with them I respect their boundaries. |
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"I cant get my head round this at all. Kissing is uber important to.me but I find it.bizarre that I can suck and lick someomes clit but woe betide me if I move in for a frenchie......still we all have crosses to bear "
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Sex without kissing feels cold to me as it fills me with passion but I suppose that's why some don't want to share it.
Kissing can b very intimate also turns a sexual act into so much more! I think a kiss can build up desire so mayb another reason why not to share x |
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I never know how to start if i don't kiss, feel very cold and clinical just going down on a guy straight away without the build up first, i know this sounds daft but makes me feel used if I'm good enough to suck a cock but not to kiss, and even though this is swinging that don't mean we should walk away feeling cold about our meet, each to their own but i always ask of people kiss before i meet and if they don't it does put me off meeting |
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"I never know how to start if i don't kiss, feel very cold and clinical just going down on a guy straight away without the build up first, i know this sounds daft but makes me feel used if I'm good enough to suck a cock but not to kiss, and even though this is swinging that don't mean we should walk away feeling cold about our meet, each to their own but i always ask of people kiss before i meet and if they don't it does put me off meeting"
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I think i would be a little disappointed if there were no kissing, but everyone has there no go areas, I would just have to respect their choices like they would of mine. |
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"I never know how to start if i don't kiss, feel very cold and clinical just going down on a guy straight away without the build up first, i know this sounds daft but makes me feel used if I'm good enough to suck a cock but not to kiss, and even though this is swinging that don't mean we should walk away feeling cold about our meet, each to their own but i always ask of people kiss before i meet and if they don't it does put me off meeting"
I wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss as without it I can't get turned on and would feel like I was providing a service rather than having a mutually enjoyable time. I guess if it's two couples playing it's a little different as you can kiss your own partner, but even then I wouldn't be able to meet a couple that don't kiss as I kiss without thinking about it so to have to mentally stop myself would just distract from any fun I might be having otherwise. I did once have to put a stop to a meet because he wouldn't kiss me after I've had his cock in my mouth because it was 'gay'...he hadn't cum, it was just foreplay so not sure what the issue was, but having to stop myself from going to kiss him just killed the mood dead |
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"Ladies and gents.
What are your views on your other half kissing the other party during a threesome?
It seems a little odd to me that I myself don't mind the fact that my man is going down on another woman or even inside her but the thought of them kissing really puts my off.
Am I alone?"
Nope not alone... I feel exactly the same! I enjoy watching him with other girls but him kissing would kill the moment for me! I know a lot of people find it odd but we can't help the way something makes us feel!
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Think this is quite an interesting debate.....
It.appears that the majority of singles high male and female expect kissing to be a requisite whilst there is more of a split in the thoughts of couples.....
An interesting expression of preferences! |
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Agreed. Really interesting, and I say that because I'm one of those that probably finds kissing a bigger turn on than other more traditional hard core sexual acts.
It's a shame we can't get some professional psychological explanation for this. Snogging a girl goodnight after a date is quite acceptable but sex is considered a much more sacred intimate act by vanillas.
Yet nothing gets me going more than a sexual snog, hell, I recently came watching porn and they were only kissing. They weren't even naked!
We need an explanation!
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Just a thought.......
Taking us back to the stone age, a man would take a woman and that would be that!
Kissing (I imagine) was not part of the ritual and so was learned when our brains evolved. There for, this is my conclusion. We have more of an emotional connection towards lips touching than we do genitals.
Does this make sense or have I drank too much shiraz? |
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over a year ago
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we are the same. mrs kisses other women but not men and mr doesnt kiss anyone. its something we want to keep between ourselves. she has always kissed her friends when out drinking so that doesnt make a difference to us that she kisses other women. |
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Each to their own but we have to kiss. I have no problem with hubby kissing another fem. in fact I love watching them. We would never play with another fem or couple who will not kiss. |
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"Each to their own but we have to kiss. I have no problem with hubby kissing another fem. in fact I love watching them. We would never play with another fem or couple who will not kiss. "
what makes kissing so important if you dont mind me asking? |
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"Each to their own but we have to kiss. I have no problem with hubby kissing another fem. in fact I love watching them. We would never play with another fem or couple who will not kiss. "
To us it's where we start. Kissing is where everything begins and can be sensual or passionate. In between doing the other stuff there is always lots of kissing. We can't meet people who don't kiss because we know we would forget. To us it gels everything together. We both enjoy it so much. |
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"I'd struggle to meet if there was no kissing allowed, it's something I will do without even thinking about! It's automatic.  "
See so Many say that yet it's rare the partner ever moves in to kiss me... But then we normally start with each other.. then swap. X but really Lee always kisses the girl, yet the guys rarely do with me.. And of those that have most I have avoided after the first kiss lol |
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"Ladies and gents.
What are your views on your other half kissing the other party during a threesome?
It seems a little odd to me that I myself don't mind the fact that my man is going down on another woman or even inside her but the thought of them kissing really puts my off.
Am I alone?"
No kissing no play with jason. Paula doesn't care either way.
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"I love kissing when I'm having sex I think it's a form of foreplay but if I'm asked not to kiss I respect that and would refrain myself x"
See this kind of thing baffles me even more...a few guys have said that they enjoy kissing and it's important to them but they'd still meet a couple that didn't kiss and 'just hold back'. Now whilst I respect anyone that chooses to meet without kissing, I wouldn't meet them because I know I wouldn't enjoy myself. I'd rather have some self loving than a meet I know would leave me wanting |
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I will happily kiss the woman, I agree, that's where it starts for me too. My only hang up is HIM kissing her. I don't know how anyone else behaves within a ffm situation but mine is mostly the girls and the guy following suit so there's no need for kissing the guy full stop.
Each to their own obviously. I also understand how others can be put off if this was a set rule. It's my one and only rule so I don't think it's so bad. Kissing is ours |
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It's personal preference and opinion as usual.
We consider kissing intensely intimate,so we don't do it with other parties as we reserve that for us and us alone.
Clearly others would have a problem with that, but cest la vie |
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"Agreed. Really interesting, and I say that because I'm one of those that probably finds kissing a bigger turn on than other more traditional hard core sexual acts.
It's a shame we can't get some professional psychological explanation for this. Snogging a girl goodnight after a date is quite acceptable but sex is considered a much more sacred intimate act by vanillas.
Yet nothing gets me going more than a sexual snog, hell, I recently came watching porn and they were only kissing. They weren't even naked!
We need an explanation!
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Its simple.
We're not talking a peck here we're talking full on intimate tongue tonsil war
If you join a couple for nsa its just sex. That sex doesn't need that level of intimacy. That's for them alone.
No different to a couple that keep anal or fisting or certain kink things to themselves. They set the boundaries & you either go with it or respect their choices and go else where.
I've been both sides but as a single I'll enjoy a good snog as long as it's what the others are comfortable with |
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"Just a thought.......
Taking us back to the stone age, a man would take a woman and that would be that!
Kissing (I imagine) was not part of the ritual and so was learned when our brains evolved. There for, this is my conclusion. We have more of an emotional connection towards lips touching than we do genitals.
Does this make sense or have I drank too much shiraz? "
Not sure about your Shiraz intake, but you'll have to adjust your age if you can give a first hand account of what happened in the Stone Age. The whack-on-the-head-and-drag-into-a-cave scenario is pure cartoon. Who says our forebears weren't tactile, sensuous, into titillation? |
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"Just a thought.......
Taking us back to the stone age, a man would take a woman and that would be that!
Kissing (I imagine) was not part of the ritual and so was learned when our brains evolved. There for, this is my conclusion. We have more of an emotional connection towards lips touching than we do genitals.
Does this make sense or have I drank too much shiraz? Not sure about your Shiraz intake, but you'll have to adjust your age if you can give a first hand account of what happened in the Stone Age. The whack-on-the-head-and-drag-into-a-cave scenario is pure cartoon. Who says our forebears weren't tactile, sensuous, into titillation? "
And so I woke the next morning and read my input and laughed at myself. Shiraz = Numbskull
It's literally down to personal preference. There's no psychological reason, we're all different and enjoy different things. |
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"Just a thought.......
Taking us back to the stone age, a man would take a woman and that would be that!
Kissing (I imagine) was not part of the ritual and so was learned when our brains evolved. There for, this is my conclusion. We have more of an emotional connection towards lips touching than we do genitals.
Does this make sense or have I drank too much shiraz? Not sure about your Shiraz intake, but you'll have to adjust your age if you can give a first hand account of what happened in the Stone Age. The whack-on-the-head-and-drag-into-a-cave scenario is pure cartoon. Who says our forebears weren't tactile, sensuous, into titillation? "
Most animals have courtship rituals some of which are quite elaborate and very close to kissing. I suspect that's where it originated. |
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"I love kissing when I'm having sex I think it's a form of foreplay but if I'm asked not to kiss I respect that and would refrain myself x
See this kind of thing baffles me even more...a few guys have said that they enjoy kissing and it's important to them but they'd still meet a couple that didn't kiss and 'just hold back'. Now whilst I respect anyone that chooses to meet without kissing, I wouldn't meet them because I know I wouldn't enjoy myself. I'd rather have some self loving than a meet I know would leave me wanting "
It's not that we won't enjoy ourselves, we'll still have fun.
People are different so you generally won't do all the things you like with each person/couple. Does that stop you meeting them? No.
E.g. I love to cum in a woman's mouth but my current regular FWB doesn't like cum on her face or in her mouth so we don't do that. I still have a fantastic time when we meet. |
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"Agreed. Really interesting, and I say that because I'm one of those that probably finds kissing a bigger turn on than other more traditional hard core sexual acts.
It's a shame we can't get some professional psychological explanation for this. Snogging a girl goodnight after a date is quite acceptable but sex is considered a much more sacred intimate act by vanillas.
Yet nothing gets me going more than a sexual snog, hell, I recently came watching porn and they were only kissing. They weren't even naked!
We need an explanation!
Its simple.
We're not talking a peck here we're talking full on intimate tongue tonsil war
If you join a couple for nsa its just sex. That sex doesn't need that level of intimacy. That's for them alone.
No different to a couple that keep anal or fisting or certain kink things to themselves. They set the boundaries & you either go with it or respect their choices and go else where.
I've been both sides but as a single I'll enjoy a good snog as long as it's what the others are comfortable with "
That was the best explanation I have read to describe how we would want to say it but couldn't find the correct way of putting it.
Thank you x |
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"I will happily kiss the woman, I agree, that's where it starts for me too. My only hang up is HIM kissing her. I don't know how anyone else behaves within a ffm situation but mine is mostly the girls and the guy following suit so there's no need for kissing the guy full stop.
Each to their own obviously. I also understand how others can be put off if this was a set rule. It's my one and only rule so I don't think it's so bad. Kissing is ours "
So agree with you |
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"Ladies and gents.
What are your views on your other half kissing the other party during a threesome?
It seems a little odd to me that I myself don't mind the fact that my man is going down on another woman or even inside her but the thought of them kissing really puts my off.
Am I alone?"
no not at all i am the same u feel its too emotional ...too involved can't bear to watch it |
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over a year ago
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As much as I respect others preferences for me kissing is a big turn on and without kissing sex is just cold and I wouldn't feel connected to whoever I was playing with and I know from past experience I think lets just get this over and done with
A couple will always have their own little things that only they do to each other that doesn't include the others they are playing with sometimes without the others even realising. Those little looks, smiles or touches can be more intimate than just kissing |
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I think that as a couple there should be "just us" bits between you
And as a single guy of course its their rule i play by
I love kissing i find it a real turn on
On an intimacy scale for me i find oral alot more intimate
So I love to be intimate with every women im with lol |
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For me yes please.... can be a very important and sensual part of foreplay. But I also accept that some folks have their own boundaries which are always respected. .... |
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"I love kissing.
I had the most amazing kiss once....
Just once... thats a shame you should find someone who will take your breath away everytime they kiss you "
We kissed for 20 minutes and it was so intense she came where she stood and I had to catch her as she crumpled. It was beyond intense and went into pure beauty. It's not something I expect to happen every time |
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"I love kissing.
I had the most amazing kiss once....
Just once... thats a shame you should find someone who will take your breath away everytime they kiss you
We kissed for 20 minutes and it was so intense she came where she stood and I had to catch her as she crumpled. It was beyond intense and went into pure beauty. It's not something I expect to happen every time "
She came with just your kiss.
Hello..I'm Rhoo are you planning a visit to Glasgow soon.. If so I'd be happy to try and give you a kiss to remember
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"As much as I respect others preferences for me kissing is a big turn on and without kissing sex is just cold and I wouldn't feel connected to whoever I was playing with and I know from past experience I think lets just get this over and done with
A couple will always have their own little things that only they do to each other that doesn't include the others they are playing with sometimes without the others even realising. Those little looks, smiles or touches can be more intimate than just kissing"
Just how we feel. Sex without kissing is cold, warm and intimate is so much better. |
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"I love kissing.
I had the most amazing kiss once....
Just once... thats a shame you should find someone who will take your breath away everytime they kiss you "
The problem with that is if things go wrong it's then a lot to live up to as I found out the hard way  |
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My theory, for what it's worth, on no kissing outside of the relationship is that the kissing is not seen as the most intimate thing but as the most loving thing. In a relationship you kiss each other with love, it's not just a part of foreplay.
We don't have a no kissing rule but I admit of all the things I'm happy to watch him do with another woman kissing is the only one that gives me an uncomfortable feeling. |
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We have met one or 2 couples that don't kiss and although the sex has been good ... There is always something missing !
We both adore kissing .
And what's even better ... seeing chris in a long slow sensual kiss drives me crazy ... To the point I can orgasm ! .. True
One last point .... Kissing females is just scrumptious !!
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"Omg!!! Thank god I'm not alone....
I love to kiss my regular but when we are in a mfmf or mff or mfmfmf I hate the thought of him kissing other lady's ... He did do it once and at the time I had his cock in my mouth and I looked up and he was kissing very passionately ..... He's very lucky I didn't bite his cock off !!!!!
Needless to say he / we don't kiss any others apart from each other
See now I would have found that super horny and erotic... I love seeing Lee kiss another lady even more so if I am playing with him at the same time... Yet I can take or leave another guy kissing me.. I've found though it's mostly because they kiss crap. Even with ladies I've found most aren't kissably compatible with me lol
But if a woman doesn't want to kiss lee or she isn't allowed.. then I enjoy it less x"
This is pretty much exactly how I feel about it. Super hot for me but I'm not really into being kissed by other guys. Doesn't go both ways, he loves kissing |
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"Just a thought.......
Taking us back to the stone age, a man would take a woman and that would be that!
Kissing (I imagine) was not part of the ritual and so was learned when our brains evolved. There for, this is my conclusion. We have more of an emotional connection towards lips touching than we do genitals.
Does this make sense or have I drank too much shiraz? "
Some of it makes sense but I dont know how by any means you know that people of the stone age were so savage and don't kiss. I think Its a faulse assymption. We inherited our human nature from them and I dont think they didnt have emotions just as todays humans and as you said kissing is connected with emotions so ...
Back to the subject I think people are swinging because they get some thrill out of it that stimulate the mind. The naughty things, the uncommon sex, the thrill of sharing it with a stranger, 3some 4some ect, the forbidden sex all that provoque some evil side of us. When it comes to a cpl they wont go into swinging before they feel secure enough in their relationship but still that security comes with degrees and differ from one cpl to another. Thats why each have different boundarries. Those boundarries are very important to maintain the feeling of security in the relationship which is more important then swinging itself. When it comes to single swingers we usually dont have that sort of concern hence most of us have no prblem kissing because in the mind its sexual not emotionaly related unless a magic moment happens lol. my opinion.
Both sex and kissing are intimate. In the common sense (non swinging society) it should be shared only with a partner. For swingers we chose to do whats wrong for the common society. Some of us chose not to do all the wrong things but just the ones we want and dare to cross.
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When we first started playing mrnotts was really against me kissing. But as time has gone on it's just happened..not on all meets mind, but I'm getting more into it now. As for seeing him kiss another woman, I can't remember ever seeing him until last year. We were in the middle of a group play and I looked up to see him kissing. I think I came instantly very horny  more please ! |
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I would want to keep something special just between me and my partner. Kissing is for me more intimate than any sexual act so I would probably make it kissing. But who's to say I wouldn't be tempted |
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