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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Reading a very interesting thread yesterday about jealousy.When we first started this many many years ago, we had a couple of dodgy meets where the guys seemed way out of their depth and the ladies were having a great time with hubby, made me feel really jealous. I do wonder sometimes if I'm 100% up to this.hand on heart ~are you? |
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This is a really great question. We have been to Clubs 3 times now and have played with each other, but have yet to even feel comfortable about having sex in front of people! Beth has been approached many times by single guys and I do get a little jealous even though we have both agreed that we want to experience a 3sum - and its quite a thrill if a guy approches us both and doesn't just ignore me!. I guess that I'm not sure what the effect of sharing my gilfriend will be - the excitement and anticipation is great, but the fear of the impact is less so. So maybe it isn't jealousy, its more about a fear of losing the fantastic relationship we already have. Any thoughts?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have a great relationship and have been together for a hell of a long time.it was all well discussed before we set out on this mad journey.I think it's a mixture of jealousy and ill admit I'm selfish, much prefer mmf.Just worry if it's not 100% damage can be done  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been swinging (as a single women) for several years now, and it has formed an important part of my life.
Then last year I fell into a relationship with somebody in a very similar situation.
We talked it all out, right from the start, and agreed that we both wanted to continue enjoying some swinging, as individuals. We took great care to get it all right, and to be open and honest.
But to our complete surprise, we both found that jealously crept in through the year (for each of us) even though we hadn't expected it.
More honest talking, and we've decided that our relationship is far more important and so, sadly, we've both stopped swinging and are re-adjusting to a monogamous lifestyle together.
Open talking and honesty are so vitally important - and so is listening to your partner, even when they don't say anything....
If anybody feels that they can think of putting swinging before their partnership, then perhaps it's time for some honest questioning about where their life is going, and what they value ...
Hope that you find all the right answers and that things work out well for you!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been swinging (as a single women) for several years now, and it has formed an important part of my life.
Then last year I fell into a relationship with somebody in a very similar situation.
We talked it all out, right from the start, and agreed that we both wanted to continue enjoying some swinging, as individuals. We took great care to get it all right, and to be open and honest.
But to our complete surprise, we both found that jealously crept in through the year (for each of us) even though we hadn't expected it.
More honest talking, and we've decided that our relationship is far more important and so, sadly, we've both stopped swinging and are re-adjusting to a monogamous lifestyle together.
Open talking and honesty are so vitally important - and so is listening to your partner, even when they don't say anything....
If anybody feels that they can think of putting swinging before their partnership, then perhaps it's time for some honest questioning about where their life is going, and what they value ...
Hope that you find all the right answers and that things work out well for you!!
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We have had great fun taking about going to clubs before we went, whilst there and since going - talking seems key. We also love making the effort to get dressed up and both of us are drawn to similar people - guys, couples or women. For us, we are taking our time, getting used to this and waiting till the right person creates the spark! But it still feels a bit strange letting a guy chat your girl up!!  |
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I would say that if you have even a slight doubt don't do it. This is one of those things where I truly believe that its better to wonder what it would have been like than regret what happened. You can't know the effect it will have on your relationship for sure, we discussed every aspect of it before we started as honestly as we could, fears, doubts the lot and for us it strengthened things between us opened up a new honesty and trust but......that's us and it isn't guaranteed.
For many people the idea of swinging, the idea of seeing their partner with another peson and the idea of great sex with more than one person is a huge turn on but the reality is somewhat different...as evidenced by the amount of people who get right up to the point of meeting and drop out.
I really think there should be a category for people who enjoy the attention and the talking but want to go no further. |
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By *W69Couple
over a year ago
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"I would say that if you have even a slight doubt don't do it. This is one of those things where I truly believe that its better to wonder what it would have been like than regret what happened. You can't know the effect it will have on your relationship for sure, we discussed every aspect of it before we started as honestly as we could, fears, doubts the lot and for us it strengthened things between us opened up a new honesty and trust but......that's us and it isn't guaranteed.
For many people the idea of swinging, the idea of seeing their partner with another peson and the idea of great sex with more than one person is a huge turn on but the reality is somewhat different...as evidenced by the amount of people who get right up to the point of meeting and drop out.
I really think there should be a category for people who enjoy the attention and the talking but want to go no further. "
Great post, really well put. From our perspective we've grown as a couple and are 100% happy with our lifestyle and the experiences that we share at the moment.......
.........The moment that either of us feel anything but 100% is the time that we will back off and talk things through.
Can't see it happening anytime soon but always aware that things may change.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We did a lot of talking before we decided on this lifestyle,and we still do , its natural to have some worries or what if's running through your head, BUT if they are more than a fleeting thought then perhaps you need to talk a little more seriously with each other , too many people think they can handle it but reality proves otherwise, and as already said once its done you can't undo, better to wonder than regret |
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we are newish to this lifestyle , still got to get our wings but hopefully one day we will earn them . But we will have a lot of fun even if that doesnt happen ,,,,,,, fun ,,,, I think thats the most important thing and friends , we hope to make a lot of new friends along our new journey in life |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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My boyfriend and I met on here and our relationship grew out of what was meant to be just another meet. We've been together for five months and are planning to move in together very soon
We have talked a lot and are both open to the idea of swinging as a couple and have set up a couples account on here but right now, neither of us wants to share each other.
We have both seen how jealousy can affect a relationship, he has lost a friend because of her jealousy around our relationship. Swinging is no place for jealousy.
If jealousy comes into our relationship then we will know that swinging together isnt for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I posted a thread about this very subject
And got some great and very honest replies xx
Didn't mean to nick your thread  "
Don't worry; it's ALL about sharing on here!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Reading a very interesting thread yesterday about jealousy.When we first started this many many years ago, we had a couple of dodgy meets where the guys seemed way out of their depth and the ladies were having a great time with hubby, made me feel really jealous. I do wonder sometimes if I'm 100% up to this.hand on heart ~are you?"
Paula loves the jealousy she feels when she sees me with someone else, or knowing I have been chatting up another woman . It makes her insecure, and yet horny. All the good sex we have is either after a meet , or when she sees me chatting someone up,
Even better a full on snog when we are out, did that Xmas in full view of her, she had to wait 3 houses before we left the pub she was very horny by then .she never leaves me alone when she is jealous.
She also really loves the idea of seeing me with other people , and we regularly go out and chat other people up. As I too enjoy seeing her with other guys, but as yet that elusive woman who doesn't mind married guys is hard to find, and even harder to get them back to our place.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Reading a very interesting thread yesterday about jealousy.When we first started this many many years ago, we had a couple of dodgy meets where the guys seemed way out of their depth and the ladies were having a great time with hubby, made me feel really jealous. I do wonder sometimes if I'm 100% up to this.hand on heart ~are you?
Paula loves the jealousy she feels when she sees me with someone else, or knowing I have been chatting up another woman . It makes her insecure, and yet horny. All the good sex we have is either after a meet , or when she sees me chatting someone up,
Even better a full on snog when we are out, did that Xmas in full view of her, she had to wait 3 houses before we left the pub she was very horny by then .she never leaves me alone when she is jealous.
She also really loves the idea of seeing me with other people , and we regularly go out and chat other people up. As I too enjoy seeing her with other guys, but as yet that elusive woman who doesn't mind married guys is hard to find, and even harder to get them back to our place.
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It's good to know the jealously can work in a good way for you guys |
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