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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Looking for some advice from couples.
We have been on here for 9 months and started out meeting just fems it's been slow and also had few family problems to take care off so had a break for a few months.
It's now the new year and were looking into meeting couples but were not sure what to expect as myself (MRS) had only been with MR for the last 12 years and only started with MR meeting alone.
So the question is can anyone give us any advice/information on there first couple on couple meet all be it that at first were just gonna try soft swap.
Thanks in advance MRS & MR |
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just make sure that you and Mr have discussed limits and boundaries first, then make sure you have discussed with the other couple too. Don't be afraid to say that you want things to stop, slow down or change at any point and don't be afraid to ask for time out to discuss with your partner at any time....then enjoy! |
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Hey, it seems like you have the right approach... talk and be honest with each other and also maybe arrange a social meet first with a couple you get on with. Chat and have a laugh and hopefully you'll feel relaxed enough to keep the social going... Always know how to say you're not comfortable. Our first swap was great but we took our time and both relaxed and got to know the couple before anything happened that night.
Each to their own and wish you well
Ruby x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because your playing with couples. Doesnt mean you need to swap fully. I have only had one person other than my play partner for full sex in 3 months.. and we are not even a couple. Yet no couple we have played with has felt cheated etc...
So just take it slow and talk, talk some more..and make sure you do it because you both want to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks
Yeah both myself and MR have been talking a lot abouts things and we both agree that this is the best thing to do and just take things slow and steady at our pace not anyone else's.
We just don't want things to become awkward between both of us that's why looking for advice and see how others got on with there first time and maybe put our minds at ease.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Communication is the key feature
Talk, talk and talk some more!
Decide what you both want... Don't feel that you HAVE to do something.. Then talk a bit more, maybe take things slowly to see how you feel! Lots of soft swap couples about, maybe try that first and see how you feel!
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By (user no longer on site)
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We played with fems for 3 years and had no intention of playing with couples. However we went out for a drink with a local couple. We clicked straight away. The rest is history, we now have great friends who we play with.
Agree on boundaries, meet socially first check you are all happy. Use your instincts as you would when meeting a fem. soft swap is a good way to start. I had only been with hubby for the last 16 years. |
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Read through profiles till you find some one on your wave length ie soft swap etc. Check veris to see how they played and also check out who verified them. Might give you more insight into who you may be meeting. Go on the terms you may not play at all. That's what we usually do. And don't always play. We can still enjoy the social side even if we don't play.
It can be very nerving on first meets but we still get nervous even meeting people we have played with more than once lol so try to relax and enjoy but don't let any one get you doing some thing your not comfortable with. Never be scared to stop if your not happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah both myself and MR have been talking a lot abouts things and we both agree that this is the best thing to do and just take things slow and steady at our pace not anyone else's.
We just don't want things to become awkward between both of us that's why looking for advice and see how others got on with there first time and maybe put our minds at ease.
Xx"
Sensible attitude - just remember the first rule of swinging. No means NO ant applies at any time.....simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
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all great advice.
we have only ever soft played, and have found it more than enough for us, so there really is no pressure to go any further than you are comfortable, or at least any faster than you want.
its kind of natural for one partner to sometimes want that little bit more than the other, but as long as boundaries are agreed, and you both know where you are with things, then it should all be gravy.
good luck and have fun guys |
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just do your research into any prospective meets so they as close as match yours ....there are lots of peeps who look only to tick their own boxes on here rather than all share the fun experience as one ..xx |
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