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help me pls ppl

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right to the point...

Im to nice...i l try messaging people nicely to spark a convo rather than hard hitting them with shite to see if there is a connection or a response at least but dont get no reaction or the line im not verified...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x

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By *W69Couple over a year ago

Bournemouth

Have you tried attending a social event nearby?

Watfords not a million miles away from Abfabs, perfect place to get verified and meet new people?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Sell yourself more, what you are looking for and what you will bring to a meet.

Good luck and welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Really a newbie so aint gotta clue....

will check out what you say any help is appreciated

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

To be honest, your profile needs work....your forum post is twice as long as your profile! Remember that you get out of this site what you put in, so spend some time working on your profile content.....

Welcome and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

put a bit more about what you want! and some Other non mirror photos and remember only been on a week....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A week in?

What was your expectancy?

What did 'your friend' tell you would happen?

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By *W69Couple over a year ago

Bournemouth

"To be honest, your profile needs work....your forum post is twice as long as your profile! Remember that you get out of this site what you put in, so spend some time working on your profile content.....

Welcome and good luck

Second that completely.

Have a look in the clubs section and go from there if verifications the problem. If not redo the profile

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By *am123Man over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x"
your post is longer than your profile

be patient and i find dont get to involved in fancy messages fancy a fuck normally works well try that

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that"

I cant accom!

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

Too nice, nope thats not the reason, you need polite respectful messages showing a degree of individuality and your personality, your profile along with your messages are your first impression your profile is doing you no favours, if you use the search feature on the forum it will bring yp loads of advice threads,

Verified thats the catch 22 to get verified you need to meet to get a meet you need to be verified,, try socials clubs or web cam

Itshard for guys on here you have to sell yourself at the moment sorry to say youre not

Best of luck

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x"

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By *my-blackTV/TS over a year ago

Poole

1. Minimal profile info - first thing peeps do when getting a message is have a quick peek at who is sending it.

2. You are a single male looking for a female, the ratio is probably 50 single males vs 1 single female on this site.

3. You have only been here a week.

Thats why the male peacocks have big feather plumes, your profile is the equivalent

good luck with finding someone though

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Being a decent person is ideal. But you have to be thick skinned too, as it is tough for you single guys on here. If you have stamina, determination and flexibility, keep at it. Listen to others, keep improving your profile and pics and dont solely rely on fab for swinging. There are lots of decent great people and they gravitate towards each other. Expect little and you can only be pleased as things start improving. Good luck!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

I cant accom!

so what is your reason? no one would want to find out after meeting with someone that they are married/ or in a relationship, it's sticky business and it hurts like a bitch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well don't take it to heart that's fab for you it's a woman's world and it's hard for guys you have to be a drop dead gorgeous hunk with the body to boot to get anywhere fast and I lack all of that :p so good luck keep trying and make your 1st message polite and unique and always with a face pic even if they don't have one and never send your cock and balls unless asked as they all know what they look like

Happy hunting x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

I cant accom!

so what is your reason? no one would want to find out after meeting with someone that they are married/ or in a relationship, it's sticky business and it hurts like a bitch"

The one on my profile!

But not accommodating is common on the profiles of many singles (of both sexes) and couples and means nothing. People have their own reasons. Nor does it affect the ability to meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

I cant accom!

so what is your reason? no one would want to find out after meeting with someone that they are married/ or in a relationship, it's sticky business and it hurts like a bitch

The one on my profile!

But not accommodating is common on the profiles of many singles (of both sexes) and couples and means nothing. People have their own reasons. Nor does it affect the ability to meet! "

I read it after posting it lol Yeah I can understand if you live with parents, but for me, if a married man was to approach me on here I wouldn't even attempt to entertain him, he'd be blocked as soon as I knew he was married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

I cant accom!

so what is your reason? no one would want to find out after meeting with someone that they are married/ or in a relationship, it's sticky business and it hurts like a bitch

The one on my profile!

But not accommodating is common on the profiles of many singles (of both sexes) and couples and means nothing. People have their own reasons. Nor does it affect the ability to meet!

But why assume someone is married?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a look at some other guys profiles and see how they have laid there's out!

Chat with people forums as they are a nice bunch and will always offer there opinion on things just take on board what they say and use what you will and go from there.

Men out number ladies here prob 10 - 1 if not more so you need to stand out from the crowd and just be patient and be yourself. Good luck and welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you can't accom so people will assume you're married or in a relationship so a lot of people won't want to get involved in sticky business like that

I cant accom!

so what is your reason? no one would want to find out after meeting with someone that they are married/ or in a relationship, it's sticky business and it hurts like a bitch

The one on my profile!

But not accommodating is common on the profiles of many singles (of both sexes) and couples and means nothing. People have their own reasons. Nor does it affect the ability to meet!

But why assume someone is married? "

because they don't explain why they can't accom, especially if I want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First thing your profile tells us nothing so we would pass you by. Tell the world about yourself and what you want. Not what your friends told you.

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By *rimehertsguyMan over a year ago

hertfordshire

Doesnt matter how nice and polite u are . Its the single male thing .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x"

Reference to a drug in username would get you deleted without reading if you messaged us .

Not our thing may be other peoples but not ours

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

Follow most of the advice given so far, though not the bit about sending "fancy a fuck" messages.

A line stating why you can't accom will help. If you are married/attached then say so. It will reduce the pool of people willing to meet you but they wouldn't meet you after chatting anyway. Some do meet attached people though. And if it's for another reason (houseshare, children etc) then say so. Some will always jump to conclusions but it's better to save yourself the hassle of the conversation and concentrate on those who might be interested.

And on that note, don't forget to check that you match their preferences before messaging.

Good luck.

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By *am123Man over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Follow most of the advice given so far, though not the bit about sending "fancy a fuck" messages.

"
id say all advise is good advise

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thankyou all for the advise i shall look into making my profile better (peacocking as to put it)...

And will change my user name if it will help as it isnt supposed to be a drug reference although i can see where people could mistrue it to be lol.

Cheers people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both your public pics are the same one but one is just zoomed in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Both your public pics are the same one but one is just zoomed in"

i thought all my pics were public lol ill have to go change the privacy ty

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x"

happens all the time, it's a shame too, as the profiles that state 'please read', you'd at least expect a 'not my type' or 'no thanks' but yeah - after all the effort replies can be hard to get

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x

happens all the time, it's a shame too, as the profiles that state 'please read', you'd at least expect a 'not my type' or 'no thanks' but yeah - after all the effort replies can be hard to get"

just because you message a single fem, don't expect a reply back, the best reply is no reply

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x

happens all the time, it's a shame too, as the profiles that state 'please read', you'd at least expect a 'not my type' or 'no thanks' but yeah - after all the effort replies can be hard to get

just because you message a single fem, don't expect a reply back, the best reply is no reply"

and the reason for couples? given there are there is double the energy to type?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x

happens all the time, it's a shame too, as the profiles that state 'please read', you'd at least expect a 'not my type' or 'no thanks' but yeah - after all the effort replies can be hard to get

just because you message a single fem, don't expect a reply back, the best reply is no reply

and the reason for couples? given there are there is double the energy to type?

The same as my last post...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do not use the word "convo." You would not use that in normal speech.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right to the point...

I have tried n failed n starting to believe im too nice!!!

How do i start convos etc and get verified (not photo cause i done that) x"

You are 30 year olds, probably paying a share of bills/ rent, in 2014 are you expected to be a monk, it seems very un natural not to have friends around, and a social life,

If you can get that sorted I think you will have much more luck on here, unless of course you share with your girlfriend or wife.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try smiling in your photos, you look depressed as sin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try smiling in your photos, you look depressed as sin

he must be married