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what to put in initial message ?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hi was just wondering what others put into their first message to someone ? and also whats the worst and best messages you have had ? what works for you and whats a def no no .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fancy a shag is a no no.. along with a cock pic..

A little about yourself.. saying why someone caught your eye and something about THEM works best we think...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

id normaly mail saying id just viewed their profile and wondered if theyd like to chat with the view so a social meet n take things from there few compliments threw in regarding pix n profile too xxxxx

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

honestly..... i write phwoarrr yr fit , lol

but i think i have only ever sent 5 or 6 messages 1st.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i find saying how big and hairy the fanny is always works

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By *imfromGlasgowMan over a year ago

er...guess

You can't go far wrong with something that shows you've actually read the profile you're writing to and, perhaps more importantly, nothing that that suggests you haven't read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks guys know this topic has prob been covered a thousand times already just wanted to make sure i was kind of sending out what others expect s im not really part of the here is my cock how about it brigade think i should try to be a bit more personal about it all and make a proper effort to read the profiles , but alas to no avail lol but tomo is a new day once again much appreciated for the help good luck to you all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

never do a copy and paste multiple message! lol shows complete lack of actual interest in the person you're messaging...especially if there happens to be something in the message that certainly doesnt apply! a compliment always makes me smile...dont make it too long winded or too short...best of luck! x

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By *teve_SoleilCouple over a year ago

Malaysia

Oh...and don't put "hye, I've read your profile"...but then you're out of their looking for range...read the profile...then states what interest you with their profile...not just..."I like your profile cause there's a woman in it"...:D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We think some people have their 'blurb' in a word doc and just cut and paste it ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

people tend to message me, so dont ask me......

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By *DSRMan over a year ago

leicester

One for the single males to consider....

DON'T SAY; WANNA F***!!!!!!!

I mean that only works for builders pmsl.

Seriously though, be yourself... Don't just in with, I think you look hot; DUH!!! Well why else are you writing them? lol I tend to go with, hello (then a joke) then something about me (Something interesting and not sexual) Then a little about why i have joined the site or how long I have been on these types of sites.... then a few random bye bye jokes.

I think structure is important in a message, but it's not the main thing... You need to get some of your personality in there, advertise yourself... Not just the sexual stuff, & when you advertise; You need to show a small bit of all your good features, leave them wanting to know more.

Ps... the next time i write advice on here it will be completely different lol I tend to use a load of different techniques for this type of thing, it keeps me interested (& fresh)

Peace

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By *DSRMan over a year ago

leicester

"people tend to message me, so dont ask me......"

If you don't mind me asking;

Is that because you use the chat area or/and the forum do you think?

Just curious

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hi thanks i use both , i read the forums when i can and have a chat , i like the social aspect of the site as well as the open sexuall nature of it all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find saying how big and hairy the fanny is always works"

Yours or theirs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes no matter what you write, some people dont reply, no matter how good the email is. its those itchy delete button fingers lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we had a message the other day off a single male, it started really well,he was saying that he never gets replys, then just went a bit wrong when he was explaining how to lick a womans pussy (in great detail i might add) and although it made for a great read,it kinds put me off, so i messaged him back and told him really nicely that it might be the bottom half of his message that was putting couples off and that most people dont appreciate that in a first mail, and he replied and thanked me,

see i do try and help lol

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By *eavensg84uCouple over a year ago

Harrow

We have just had a message from a single guy (who hadnt read our profile properly anyway) that was titled 'gorgeous' and said 'profile pics' - so he clearly thought that 3 words would be enough to get me to drop my knickers for him! Aaaaggghhhhh!

But we dont want a 500 word essay either - especially if its clearly been typed one-handed, like the one mentioned above.

"Cut and pastes" are pretty obvious too, as they dont refer to anything in our profile.

So - our advice is - keep it simple but not stupidly short, keep it clean(ish) and relate to the person who you are replying to.

And if you're black with a 10 inch dick - 'fancy a shag?' might work anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't want a 500 word essay either - especially if its clearly been typed one-handed, like the one mentioned above.

"Cut and pastes" are pretty obvious too, as they dont refer to anything in our profile. "

LOL Cut and paste is a definite no-no, as far as I am concerned. But everyone is different, and I would quite like 500 word essay on why we're destined to be together.

But please, no one-handed typing, and I much prefer messages which are spelled and punctuated correcly. And if this makes me 'shallow', then I'm very sorry. LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bad spelling or txt speak!

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By *iceguydaveMan over a year ago

Monmouth

..to add my tuppence-worth, I'd re-iterate the point above about spelling & txt-spk: If it doesn't look you can be bothered to take the time to check what you've written (or even to write in WHOLE WORDS!) then anyone reading it could be forgiven for thinking you're taking a slightly lax approach to the whole business, and by extension not showing them much respect..

I know I can sometimes be a bit anal about grammar etc., but I've always found it better to err on the side of caution - and yes, it does make a difference.

I've had responses several times that said something along the lines of "How refreshing to receive a literate message!"

The problem I have always had - being a gobby beggar - is deciding how long/short an initial message should be. This is made more difficult, as shown above, by the fact that some people like a long one, some a short one (oo-er missus!). So I try to keep my 'introduction' reasonably short (which for me means a couple of paragraphs!) and hope anyone reading it will at least peek at my profile, which tells them far more than anyone would ever want to know

Lastly, it should go without saying that if you're writing to someone, your message should refer in some way to them, their profile, their pics or something, and how/why you think you might be of interest to them. If not, you're in danger of it looking like a copy&paste job, even if it isn't - which doesn't go down well at all...

Common sense, mostly, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

try to keep the message short as possible ,, but also let them know you have actually read their profile ,, try not to waffle on too much or folks become bored ,, dont mention the germans ,, yep ,,, we know they started it and dont mention any stds that you may have ,, or any that you think you might have ,,, ohh and one last thing ,, dont tell them ya just got back from cancun,,,, best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having just updated my profile with a small hissy fit due to the 'quality' of some of messages that I receive (lol - it didn't work), may I suggest that you search for 'swinging as a single male playm8' in google?

It's an interesting blog that contains some good advice, a lot of which has been echoed here already. I can't comment on the rest of the site but the single male advice was spot on..... particularly the final comment about never wiping your knob on the curtains

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