FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > I feel a bit low at the moment
I feel a bit low at the moment
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest  "
I find that incredibly frustrating. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating."
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice. "
Yes, I empathise, I get like that after a brush with someone I realise was deceiving me. Even if you are cautious and have your suspicions it's still so deflating to find out they were being dishonest, leaves me very flat. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just think about all the great days you have had in the past 
I will try but it's hard. I'm here in bed on my own and I'm like what's wrong with me!!!!"
Nothing at all wrong with you - lots of people in the same boat (bed)
The good days always outnumber the dark ones - so smile xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice. "
People who aren't honest aren't worth it just focus on a small group of friends I have 2 that if they weren't there I would have ended my life about a yr ago because like u say others have an agenda pm me if u want a chat? Just don't feel alone ok? Chin up |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Meditate. It's some powerful stuff.
What do I meditate about?"
Nothing. Just find a quiet place, close your eyes and relax. After a while all your bad thoughts will leave you, and you'll realise that they have no power over you.
I'm not an expert, but it works for me  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just think about all the great days you have had in the past
I will try but it's hard. I'm here in bed on my own and I'm like what's wrong with me!!!!"
Nothing wrong with you - it's dishonesty that is wrong. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Hunni, we all go thru patches like this. Remember its not you, just the asshats who arent worthy of your time.
you are an incredibly beautiful woman, you will have no problems finding a good guy who is gonna worship you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice.
People who aren't honest aren't worth it just focus on a small group of friends I have 2 that if they weren't there I would have ended my life about a yr ago because like u say others have an agenda pm me if u want a chat? Just don't feel alone ok? Chin up "
Thanks sweetie, It's so hard when you feel so close to the edge |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well I may be a tad cynical !! But I take everything I'm told with a pinch of salt ! And if its turns out to be true its a bonus xx hope you feel better soon hun I'm sure you will x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice.
People who aren't honest aren't worth it just focus on a small group of friends I have 2 that if they weren't there I would have ended my life about a yr ago because like u say others have an agenda pm me if u want a chat? Just don't feel alone ok? Chin up
Thanks sweetie, It's so hard when you feel so close to the edge"
That's a grand master flash lyric!! But seriously if you sensitive to people telling lies, this isn't the place for you, harsh but true
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice.
People who aren't honest aren't worth it just focus on a small group of friends I have 2 that if they weren't there I would have ended my life about a yr ago because like u say others have an agenda pm me if u want a chat? Just don't feel alone ok? Chin up
Thanks sweetie, It's so hard when you feel so close to the edge"
No problem there's always somebody somewhere who's willing to listen so as I said if u ever need an ear to bend I'm always willing to chat (especially to a stunning woman) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Well I may be a tad cynical !! But I take everything I'm told with a pinch of salt ! And if its turns out to be true its a bonus xx hope you feel better soon hun I'm sure you will x "
I don't know why I always believe everything I'm told I just think everyone is nice so it hurts when I find out the truth. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Meditate. It's some powerful stuff.
What do I meditate about?
Meditation is about clearing the mind , so you don't think about anything "
There's always things in my mind hun, but I hear what your saying |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *horltzMan
over a year ago
heysham |
"Meditate. It's some powerful stuff.
What do I meditate about?
Meditation is about clearing the mind , so you don't think about anything
There's always things in my mind hun, but I hear what your saying"
Having a trusting nature is a good trate , just a shame that so many are willing to take advantage !!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well I may be a tad cynical !! But I take everything I'm told with a pinch of salt ! And if its turns out to be true its a bonus xx hope you feel better soon hun I'm sure you will x
I don't know why I always believe everything I'm told I just think everyone is nice so it hurts when I find out the truth."
In the real world 95% of people are nice, and honest, and genuine, |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"But seriously if you sensitive to people telling lies, this isn't the place for you, harsh but true
"
I agree.
I look for nsa, so I couldn't care less if someone lies. Their perogative. I have met guys who claimed they were single, just to see them out with the wife and kids. Guys give me 1 name, and pop up as suggested friend on Facebook with another name. So what? I don't get it when people get annoyed about people not being truthful. As someone said, it's the Internet, it's a sex site. No one has to be truthful really. And if you are here just looking for nsa, should it matter? I have often wondered if single women (especially) who get so worked up about guys not being truthful are actually seeking something more from potential meets, and think this could be the case with some.
Just my take on it.
But cheer up. Take a break from the site if you are feeling like that, and reassess. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just try and keep your chin up; take each moment as it comes. Things don't become easier, you just become stronger i say.
...your beautiful! You really are.
And if there is someone upsetting you. Then they aren't worth you being upset over.
This is for you @}-- |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"But seriously if you sensitive to people telling lies, this isn't the place for you, harsh but true
I agree.
I look for nsa, so I couldn't care less if someone lies. Their perogative. I have met guys who claimed they were single, just to see them out with the wife and kids. Guys give me 1 name, and pop up as suggested friend on Facebook with another name. So what? I don't get it when people get annoyed about people not being truthful. As someone said, it's the Internet, it's a sex site. No one has to be truthful really. And if you are here just looking for nsa, should it matter? I have often wondered if single women (especially) who get so worked up about guys not being truthful are actually seeking something more from potential meets, and think this could be the case with some.
Just my take on it.
But cheer up. Take a break from the site if you are feeling like that, and reassess. "
I don't ask for much except mutual respect. If you approach me with a lie they it's going to end with your lie. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"But seriously if you sensitive to people telling lies, this isn't the place for you, harsh but true
I agree.
I look for nsa, so I couldn't care less if someone lies. Their perogative. I have met guys who claimed they were single, just to see them out with the wife and kids. Guys give me 1 name, and pop up as suggested friend on Facebook with another name. So what? I don't get it when people get annoyed about people not being truthful. As someone said, it's the Internet, it's a sex site. No one has to be truthful really. And if you are here just looking for nsa, should it matter? I have often wondered if single women (especially) who get so worked up about guys not being truthful are actually seeking something more from potential meets, and think this could be the case with some.
Just my take on it.
But cheer up. Take a break from the site if you are feeling like that, and reassess. "
why let them know what or who u are on facebook ?...anyone ive added from here ive known a good long time, or met in person..theyd never just randomly pop up... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
With the android system/ phone I have, if I have someone's number, and they have their number hooked up to Facebook, they will come up on suggested contacts. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well I may be a tad cynical !! But I take everything I'm told with a pinch of salt ! And if its turns out to be true its a bonus xx hope you feel better soon hun I'm sure you will x
I don't know why I always believe everything I'm told I just think everyone is nice so it hurts when I find out the truth."
I am so with you. I am the same, and have had it rough the past 6 years. I find dark mornings and evenings don't help. I do find meeting people brightens my day, even if I don't feel upto it just before.
I do have a book, "mindfulness" which has been a great help. Its by Mark Williams and Danny someone. Even the first chapter helped shut my head up when trying to sleep.
Just know its not you that is at fault, our thoughts are powerful and you need to continue as you, trusting, believing and knowing you are amazing.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Speaking from experience, I think it's the inevitable effect of Fab on anyone who is honest and open and expects the same from others.
Personally, I try to make my own circumstances clear from the first few emails. Saves looking stupid and deceitful later. Also easier than trying to keep some bullshit story straight.
You're a stunning looking lady and sound like a decent person, which is a rarity in this place. You deserve to be treated with some respect. Sadly, the odds are against it in here. Hope you have more luck in future! x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I take everything I read on here with a pinch of salt.....it is the internet after all.......lots of things are not as they seem "
Yep!
I'm amazed the number of times I read something and think "that's been written by a guy not a girl".
Messages, profiles and especially forum posts!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But seriously if you sensitive to people telling lies, this isn't the place for you, harsh but true
I agree.
I look for nsa, so I couldn't care less if someone lies. Their perogative. I have met guys who claimed they were single, just to see them out with the wife and kids. Guys give me 1 name, and pop up as suggested friend on Facebook with another name. So what? I don't get it when people get annoyed about people not being truthful. As someone said, it's the Internet, it's a sex site. No one has to be truthful really. And if you are here just looking for nsa, should it matter? I have often wondered if single women (especially) who get so worked up about guys not being truthful are actually seeking something more from potential meets, and think this could be the case with some.
Just my take on it.
But cheer up. Take a break from the site if you are feeling like that, and reassess.
I don't ask for much except mutual respect. If you approach me with a lie they it's going to end with your lie."
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I look for nsa, so I couldn't care less if someone lies. Their perogative. I have met guys who claimed they were single, just to see them out with the wife and kids. Guys give me 1 name, and pop up as suggested friend on Facebook with another name. So what? I don't get it when people get annoyed about people not being truthful. As someone said, it's the Internet, it's a sex site. No one has to be truthful really. And if you are here just looking for nsa, should it matter? I have often wondered if single women (especially) who get so worked up about guys not being truthful are actually seeking something more from potential meets........"
Absolutely - honesty!! Sex if nothing more is still an intimate physical connection, and I mind what I am connecting myself to, period. Be straight with me about who you are and what you want, let the dice fall as they may - then I can make up my own mind. To lie is a 'violation of expectation' to someone who is giving the benefit of the doubt and presuming innocent until proven guilty, an actual trespass has taken place. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Meditate. It's some powerful stuff.
What do I meditate about?"
The meaning of life  take up yoga its sposed to be really good for you.
We all go through phases of being down in winter I think. Dont worry about it ..
You do seem to have bad luck with the people you meet (or try to) Perhaps you should change your search method.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice.
People who aren't honest aren't worth it just focus on a small group of friends I have 2 that if they weren't there I would have ended my life about a yr ago because like u say others have an agenda pm me if u want a chat? Just don't feel alone ok? Chin up
****************
Thanks sweetie, It's so hard when you feel so close to the edge"
}
***********
I think perhaps if being here is taking you "close to the edge ".. Then it is a little worrying , perhaps you as a single woman with no dependents should think about finding lovers through friends family and work place meetings.
Rather than a swinging site where inevitably people are looking for NSA shags, the internet being what it is does have a tendency to be full of people hiding behind another life.
From seeing your photos and profile you appear pretty slim etc so im sure you wouldnt have a problem meeting numerous people in real life that would fancy you.
Certainly no one from internet sites should take you close to the edge.
If this IS the case I urge you to go to a doctor for some help with your mental health.
hope your day improves |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
South Yorkshire |
I used to have bad dips all the time but luckily they are few and far between now! Sometimes we think we need other people on our lives to make us feel better/happy but we need to be happy with ourselves first!
Do nice things for you, nice bath/nice meal/take a trip etc learn to be ok with you! Took me a very long time but I enjoy me time now!
As for the liars and shites here or in the 'real' world, lol just hold your head high, dust yourself off and think 'I've had a lucky escape' , it makes u a stronger and more cautious!
Hope u feel ok soon x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I take everything I read on here with a pinch of salt.....it is the internet after all.......lots of things are not as they seem
Yep!
I'm amazed the number of times I read something and think "that's been written by a guy not a girl".
Messages, profiles and especially forum posts! "
I hear ya squirrel |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest
I find that incredibly frustrating.
I feel stupid and gullible as I just think people are honest just like me I don't want to think everyone has an agenda but they way how I'm feeling so low is just not nice. "
I feel like that re here sometimes, specially when you get let down. I'm always honest too but wonder if it's the right way to be or if I should change. Anyway, just stay as you are its most likely the time of year |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Squeezey hugs
I get depressed alot, and its really difficult.
And people can be shitty, their mostly not, but at times they will be. Animals too tbh.
But you female, just get a guy to come hug you to death n feed U cake |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This is exactly how I used to feel years ago on here when I was a single woman actively looking for meets. Id meet someone and feel so great afterwards and love it when they wanted to meet again but then couldn't get my head around others who met me and didn't want to meet again and lost total contact with after weeks of chatting. It messed with my head and confidence to the point I didn't know who I was or what I wanted anymore. Fabs is a great place but you have to have very thick skin and understand that not everyone you come across will be as honest as you want them to be. Some don't give a toss about honesty and will shag anything and anybody but most have standards and self respect which is to be proud of. Set yourself guidelines and tell potential meets that you won't entertain bullshitters. Have you thought maybe you're after more and want an actual loving relationship? I told myself I was happy meeting random strangers til I met my hubby who ironically I met through this site. You will be happy but you need to find what makes you happy, no one else can do that for you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Well I may be a tad cynical !! But I take everything I'm told with a pinch of salt ! And if its turns out to be true its a bonus xx hope you feel better soon hun I'm sure you will x
I don't know why I always believe everything I'm told I just think everyone is nice so it hurts when I find out the truth.
In the real world 95% of people are nice, and honest, and genuine, "
I see what you did there |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hormones?
Time of year as in SAD or single-itis due to Christmas approaching?
I guess I'm just sad that people can't be fully honest "
get ready for a lifetime of sadness, most people are not honest, especially in the world of NSA sex.
People will not change, if you want to be happy, you must change.
No one can make us happy, that comes from within  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
