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"Also the time taken whilst someone a long distance from you is travelling to you... can be spent so much better with someone local! "well yes, but it'll be easy for you being a woman. being a single fella I've exhausted the local ones and lookin further. not too far though.. lol | |||
"Maybe they think that when the time comes to meet you may decide you'd rather stay on the sofa and have a wank than make the effort of travelling a long way for a fuck "you mean they think i could be a timewaster | |||
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"Perhaps it's just a nice way of saying that they aren't interested. Blaming distance rather than saying you're not their type. " the thought had crossed my mind. i'm not travelling 100s of miles.. usually lookin upto no more than 50. another thought was they may think i'd be pushy after travelling and they wern't interested. | |||
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"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me "bloody hell.. | |||
"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me
bloody hell.. "Its not that shocking,One of my friends drove from Wales to Kent to meet us for the evening | |||
"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me "this is a typical example. she's been on here 3 months and had 9... nine.. NINE!?!!!! feckin meets and I havenlt even been told to get lost or bugger off email.. not fair at all I tell yer! | |||
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"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me
bloody hell..
Its not that shocking,One of my friends drove from Wales to Kent to meet us for the evening "oh wow.. you mean someone you already know as friends drove that far? not exactly in the same context though is it?!. lol | |||
"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me
bloody hell..
Its not that shocking,One of my friends drove from Wales to Kent to meet us for the evening
oh wow.. you mean someone you already know as friends drove that far?
not exactly in the same context though is it?!. lol " no but don't worry if you did'nt understand ....lol | |||
"We drove 230 miles at the weekend to meet, well worth the effort though "I'll say! love the pics.. just been perving them xlol | |||
"I've mailed people who are a good distance away who can accomodate, but when i mail them, IF they can be arsed to reply is to say i'm too far away! If I'm doing the travelling what's the problem? they never say. " We had someone who travelled over 2 hours to see us when he arrived was nothing like his pictures or how he had portrayed himself on the phone and in messages...because he'd travelled for so long we felt such a sense of obligation to him that despite our sense of better judgement, we allowed him to join us and the other local friend we had here and it was truly awful...and then we couldn't get rid of him both on the night and following on...we vowed never to do that again, a social beforehand is an absolute requirement and if you're too far away to make that feasible them we won't go ahead...by the way, he's no longer on site and this was under a different profile name in case anyone is offended on his behalf... | |||
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"Maybe they think that when the time comes to meet you may decide you'd rather stay on the sofa and have a wank than make the effort of travelling a long way for a fuck "bloody good idea! | |||
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"I've had someone travel over 150 miles to see me
this is a typical example. she's been on here 3 months and had 9... nine.. NINE!?!!!! feckin meets and I havenlt even been told to get lost or bugger off email.. not fair at all I tell yer! "The first two verifications were guys I met under a different incarnation.  .
I've been on and off fab for over 18 months. | |||
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"There are 50 people within 10 miles of most of us, travelling any further comes across as desperation. Also no reply is a nice way of saying your not my type." Actually it can say the opposite .
At the end of the day it depends on the two people involved. | |||
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"People make a decision on whether to proceed based on their own factors - we will likely never know what these are for each of them, and what they state as the reasons may not always be the case. Most of us want major factors such as simplicity, ie lack of complications, lack of pressure and flexibility on how to proceed, once we've met potential partners. Long distance increases possible complications, pressure and reduces some flexibility. What if people would prefer at least one social short meet, prior to sex happening, if it even does? If someone is visiting and staying for a few days in an area then that may be possible, but for repeated trips, with the sole purpose of a social meet or possible sex, people won't definitely say it, but they may feel some level of dissonance, where they're not quite comfortable with it. The benefit of more local meets is that, coupled with a heavy dose of life committments, such as families, work etc, they can be fairly rapidly completed, should other partners also be available, at reasonable short notice. This diminishes over distance. I meet people for long distance meets, as I travel a fair bit - the travel is sometimes a pain, but some fun can redress this. I don't though travel exclusively for a meet, the meet is just coincidental. If the op is regularly in another area, then perhaps you could add that place into your profile: it won't magically alter people's preferences, but could help them to understand that you may be a potential regular meet: some of us prefer regular vs. one-offs. If you fancy casting your net further afield, consider arranging other activities somewhere, potentially booking a hotel etc, and then post in the meets section. If you don't get a meet, you'd still enjoy the Tate Gallery, the new Birmingham Library, the Museum of Fans, the Pencil Museum etc. I'm sure you'd find some better stuff to also do. Good luck!" So eloquently put  | |||
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"If anyone travelled a good distance for a meet I doubt very much they be physically or even mentally in the right frame of mind. Travel can be and is often quite stressful and a good meet needs all concerned to be happy and relaxed. Best to stay local imo and to say you've exhausted the local talent,is not a great thing to say either
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luckily my tanks never get to half full before the chain gets pulled and therefore no need to travel hundreds of miles ,
but in fairness we do have some good friends who we are very willing to drive a couple of hours to see | |||
"If anyone travelled a good distance for a meet I doubt very much they be physically or even mentally in the right frame of mind. Travel can be and is often quite stressful and a good meet needs all concerned to be happy and relaxed. Best to stay local imo and to say you've exhausted the local talent,is not a great thing to say either
"Its more about the first meet being a social, yes you could get on and decide to book a room but if you don't, the person who has travelled potentially could have lost a whole day | |||
