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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago
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"What about getting off on here and actually putting the effort into your marriage rather than arranging meets on here?
Just my thoughts"
That should read off of here ... not off on. Sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about getting off on here and actually putting the effort into your marriage rather than arranging meets on here?
Just my thoughts"
Thank goodness someone else said it first.
So you are on a male profile... Has she rumbled you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it looks like its been at an end for you for a long time judging by the veri's.
I'm sure if she found out in the future or has found out , she would be distraught.
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We know nothing about this man's marriage or his wife, she might know he's here, she might be on here herself with a singles profile, or he might indeed be here without her knowledge...who knows. He has asked for advice because he thinks his marriage is at an end none of us know why that is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going off the cant accommodate bit.
If he is playing with permission, perhaps it's not worked out as they'd hoped. Advice take a break from fab.
If he's playing without her permission he cant of being giving as much as he could to their relationship. Advice if you care about your relationship, get yourself off fab. |
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"I was going off the cant accommodate bit.
If he is playing with permission, perhaps it's not worked out as they'd hoped. Advice take a break from fab.
If he's playing without her permission he cant of being giving as much as he could to their relationship. Advice if you care about your relationship, get yourself off fab."
there's nothing to go on except what is in front of our eyes that's my point really. He might be a voracious cheat or he might no we don't know, we don't really even know what exactly he wants advice on hence my non commital answer earlier. |
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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago
more north lincs than mids! |
"We know nothing about this man's marriage or his wife, she might know he's here, she might be on here herself with a singles profile, or he might indeed be here without her knowledge...who knows. He has asked for advice because he thinks his marriage is at an end none of us know why that is "
I wasn't commenting at all about the arrangements of their marriage but if it isn't working out for whatever reason then you leave behind things like this and go try to sort it. |
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I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief. "
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief. "
Partners let their partners meet/ cheat, to try and cling onto something that has reached its sell by date, don't believe all you are told, if 2 people love and care for each other, they don't need to play away. |
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing "
Well considering I have a phobia of talking on the phone, a conversation with the Mrs isn't something I'd ever be remotely interested in.
I have a pretty refined bullshit detector and it is pretty easy to tell when someone is sneaking around. I don't actually have a problem with meeting married men so there wasn't a reason to try to pull the wool over my eyes in the first place. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing
Well considering I have a phobia of talking on the phone, a conversation with the Mrs isn't something I'd ever be remotely interested in.
I have a pretty refined bullshit detector and it is pretty easy to tell when someone is sneaking around. I don't actually have a problem with meeting married men so there wasn't a reason to try to pull the wool over my eyes in the first place. "
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
Partners let their partners meet/ cheat, to try and cling onto something that has reached its sell by date, don't believe all you are told, if 2 people love and care for each other, they don't need to play away."
That's a bit like saying if a couple love each other they don't need to swing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing
Well considering I have a phobia of talking on the phone, a conversation with the Mrs isn't something I'd ever be remotely interested in.
I have a pretty refined bullshit detector and it is pretty easy to tell when someone is sneaking around. I don't actually have a problem with meeting married men so there wasn't a reason to try to pull the wool over my eyes in the first place.
ahh right "
it's good to get bits like this cleared up  |
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing
Well considering I have a phobia of talking on the phone, a conversation with the Mrs isn't something I'd ever be remotely interested in.
I have a pretty refined bullshit detector and it is pretty easy to tell when someone is sneaking around. I don't actually have a problem with meeting married men so there wasn't a reason to try to pull the wool over my eyes in the first place.
ahh right
it's good to get bits like this cleared up "
Wish I hadn't bothered lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
Partners let their partners meet/ cheat, to try and cling onto something that has reached its sell by date, don't believe all you are told, if 2 people love and care for each other, they don't need to play away.
That's a bit like saying if a couple love each other they don't need to swing.
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it is indeed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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different things for different people, but both me and mrnotts have played alone.
Most the time this was at our home and mostly with the other partner being around and meeting either before or after or both the "meet" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My marriage ending suddenly & I wasn't expecting it. I'm happy now. I have a life & I decide who, where, what, when & how.
Break ups aren't easy regardless of the circumstances but stay respectful, accept that one or both are going to feel hurt, angry & upset,be polite & if possible stay friends. xx |
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"My marriage ending suddenly & I wasn't expecting it. I'm happy now. I have a life & I decide who, where, what, when & how.
Break ups aren't easy regardless of the circumstances but stay respectful, accept that one or both are going to feel hurt, angry & upset,be polite & if possible stay friends. xx"
lady after my own heart
but to the op.talk talk talk x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In 35 yrs of helping couples, I have never come across a marriage that ended suddenly, it usually takes anything from 2 yrs to 22 years, from the initial idea to the ending.
problem is lots of people don't accept the signs, and when their partner goes, they pretend to be shocked and surprised! |
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signs what signs ??? my hubby comitted adultery but divorced me just announced to me dont think im ever going to be with her but i not want to be with you either im off to see a solicitor those few words have destroyed me been cast aside like dishwater not sure if i'll ever get over it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mate you are single bloke on a swingers site, so obviously it is all your fault. What makes it so obvious is that there is absolutely no evidence to base this opinion on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met the OP and can confirm he meets (or at least did) with the knowledge and blessing of his partner.
I don't know what to suggest G, but do know that the end isn't always a bad thing. If you are both miserable with the way things are it can be a relief.
out of interest..? Did you get blessing from a phone call with her or something? .. just musing
Well considering I have a phobia of talking on the phone, a conversation with the Mrs isn't something I'd ever be remotely interested in.
I have a pretty refined bullshit detector and it is pretty easy to tell when someone is sneaking around. I don't actually have a problem with meeting married men so there wasn't a reason to try to pull the wool over my eyes in the first place.
ahh right
it's good to get bits like this cleared up
Wish I hadn't bothered lol"
Thank you for bothering |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all we are trying to talk I was looking for advice and the strongest suggestion seems to be leave here
And yes I play with her knowledge"
maybe take time out and get to know each other again see if it worth saving . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"signs what signs ??? my hubby comitted adultery but divorced me just announced to me dont think im ever going to be with her but i not want to be with you either im off to see a solicitor those few words have destroyed me been cast aside like dishwater not sure if i'll ever get over it x"
Adultery was like a big bill board!
you couldn't of had a bigger sign. |
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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago
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be careful, I discovered Fabs..got bored with hubby..
I left him, a year down the line met my current bf, been together 16 months but still think I was stupid to leave hubby..my one regret in life.. |
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"Thanks all we are trying to talk I was looking for advice and the strongest suggestion seems to be leave here
And yes I play with her knowledge"
Well not knowing why she's divorcing you it is difficult to help.
Need to get to the bottom of it.
apart from chin up dust yourself off and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I feel your pain, mate."
it fucking sucks mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs"
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me, "
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any advice people, think me and the mrs are close to the end"
Try Relate.
They are not there just to help with reconciliation but to smooth out the separation process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance"
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed. |
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"What about getting off on here and actually putting the effort into your marriage rather than arranging meets on here?
Just my thoughts"
I thought that exactly!! Ask your mrs first instead of putting it on a seingers site!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed."
the love of my life was introduced to swinging by me and she loved it. we broke up and i saw she was on the site as a single lady thats the only reason i am still on here. im not looking to meet peolpe im looking to get her back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed.
the love of my life was introduced to swinging by me and she loved it. we broke up and i saw she was on the site as a single lady thats the only reason i am still on here. im not looking to meet peolpe im looking to get her back"
If your wife has you blocked, your not being very smart, breaking a rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed.
the love of my life was introduced to swinging by me and she loved it. we broke up and i saw she was on the site as a single lady thats the only reason i am still on here. im not looking to meet peolpe im looking to get her back
If your wife has you blocked, your not being very smart, breaking a rule "
shes not my wife and she hasnt blocked me lol im not breaking any rules :P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not here to be a cunt lol and i wont name her
just after talking to people about my shit if that makes sense"
she has just left, gosh she is one hot woman, I can see why you want her back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not here to be a cunt lol and i wont name her
just after talking to people about my shit if that makes sense
she has just left, gosh she is one hot woman, I can see why you want her back "
id say more beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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not here to be a cunt lol and i wont name her
just after talking to people about my shit if that makes sense
she has just left, gosh she is one hot woman, I can see why you want her back
id say more beautiful "
because your a nice guy and a charmer x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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not here to be a cunt lol and i wont name her
just after talking to people about my shit if that makes sense
she has just left, gosh she is one hot woman, I can see why you want her back
id say more beautiful
because your a nice guy and a charmer x"
i try to be a nice guy and not sure about a charmer tbf if i was i would have her with me |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed.
the love of my life was introduced to swinging by me and she loved it. we broke up and i saw she was on the site as a single lady thats the only reason i am still on here. im not looking to meet peolpe im looking to get her back
If your wife has you blocked, your not being very smart, breaking a rule
shes not my wife and she hasnt blocked me lol im not breaking any rules :P "
You were not breaking any rules anyway as you were only answering a question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i lost the love of my life and everyday i wish i had tried harder but i didnt and now i have to deal with all the what ifs
I have been trying to lose mine for 20 yrs, but she keeps finding me,
i wish mine would find me i would never let go given the chance
surely the last place to look for the love of your life is on a swinging site, maybe words are cheap, and by taking action, she would see that you have changed.
the love of my life was introduced to swinging by me and she loved it. we broke up and i saw she was on the site as a single lady thats the only reason i am still on here. im not looking to meet peolpe im looking to get her back
If your wife has you blocked, your not being very smart, breaking a rule
shes not my wife and she hasnt blocked me lol im not breaking any rules :P
You were not breaking any rules anyway as you were only answering a question "
thats good i didnt think i was |
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"signs what signs ??? my hubby comitted adultery but divorced me just announced to me dont think im ever going to be with her but i not want to be with you either im off to see a solicitor those few words have destroyed me been cast aside like dishwater not sure if i'll ever get over it x
Adultery was like a big bill board!
you couldn't of had a bigger sign."
i was meaning signs there was a problem so he had to go off and have an affair ,it was totally unexpected x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you no longer make each other happy, leave and let each other be happy.
if, however, there is still something there, from both parties (not just yours or hers) then fight for it.
either way you need to be certain its what you both want |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Any advice people, think me and the mrs are close to the end
Looks like is happened , profile is just you , no missus . "
Profile has always been just me, I play with her permission |
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