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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all, decided to vent a little here as i have tried and tried to make contact with people but i am still having no luck!
I am a decent guy, intelligent enough to be able to spell without using annoying text talk, i have a sense of humour (if anyone would actually chat then they'd realise this lol), i'm always respectful, always polite and i don't see my arse when i get a knock back.
So what is it that i am doing wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not doing anything wrong..
Its a numbers game thats all.. The pics of your cock may not be a great help but get to know people etc.. chat have a giggle maybe.. soon enough you'll get spotted.
In a warehouse full of mars bars even the last one gets eaten eventually eh...
The last thing you want to do is winge lol....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hi dont be too downhearted mate , single guys are tena penny on here , just have to patient i guess and try to not come acroos as a desperate sleazy guy , no im not saying you do just saying that there are a lot of guys that do , try to make your profile stick out a bit , i mean as iv said before on forums my own isnt great iv just been lucky very very lucky , keep the faith and hopefully things will improve for you , oh what do you put when you are messaging people ? and have you delibertaely left out a face pic ? i mean thats your choice your privacy in my opinion , what about a full body shot for the pics ? |
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There are probably a lot more single men on here than couples and single ladies combined. And of those couples and single women, not all of them will be looking for single men, and to narrow the field down further, those that are will be looking for a particular kind of man, i.e a certain age group, race, or whatever. You've just gotta keep sending out messages, but keep them polite and sooner or later you'll find someone, or someone will find you. |
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I would assume when you are asking what's wrong...:D...you are asking for advice...hmm...
first is not having a laid back approach to this whole swinging society...you put your profile online to add some spice to your sex life...don't let it control your life...so go out...have fun...get to know people...if you get lucky here...good..if not...why so serious?the fact you vent here saying that you are disappointed after 9 only 9 weeks from our point of view is already wrong...:D..kinda makes us feel you might end up being a pushy guy...:D..well...that's just us..:D
2) You are not a special on this site...so are couples and singles...so you are not the only one not getting replies...if you were put in the shoes of some of these people on the site who gets lots and lots and lots of messages from people they are said are not looking for...maybe even you would lost count and feel a waste of time...like if every single bi or queer men, couples (MM) keep messaging you saying they wanna do you...:D...
3) Photos...:D...the better looking your photos...the better your opportunity...spend some time at a studio and have your picture taken by professionals...:D...we are planning on doing it sometime when we have the time..:D...we think it would greatly increase your chances...:D...
4) Detailed profile...this may not interest some but we think it would be interesting for guys to put in their profile their length, girth, and cut/uncut...:D...review what kind of people are you looking for and write that...for example...your looking for says you'll meet 99 y.o....maybe you would...or maybe there isn't any in the website...but we do see this as a sign that you're just looking for anything...:D..
With all that...hope you find your stepping stone...meaning the first person/couple who can get you going...do get on cam too...:D...anyway...these are just our two cents...:D...hope we don't offend you or anything...:D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice would be to take off the cock-pics (or put them in your private gallery) and definitely take off the negative comment about "what am I doing wrong".
Add a face pic if you are able, or a full body shot, if not. Something like a holiday snap is better than a photo that you've obviously taken yourself (blank out your face, if you need to).
And I recommend taking time over the messages you send out. Read people's profiles, and compose a individual message that shows you've thought about why you're likely to be well-matched with that particular couple/lady - there's nothing worse than one-liners, which have obviously been copy-and-pasted to hundreds of people.
And, as others have said, just have patience - there are a lot more guys than girls looking for recreational sex, so it will take some time and effort on your part.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has been loads of advice given which is good but my main thing would be as the one above me said....Take the "what am I doing wrong?" bit from your status
It makes you sound like a whinger that has no confidence and it could have the effect of making people pass your profile by without a second glance....not what you want at all 
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Ok - here's something I wrote in another thread that was heading in a similar direction - maybe it'll help:
It isnt especially difficult for single guys to get meets.
And certainly the number of complete idiot single males does NOT make it harder for the good ones - they in fact help the good ones to stand out from the crowd.
While us lads aren't quite as in demand as say a single bi fem - we are still in demand, and a decent genuine reliable single guy can actually be something of a hot property due to our rarity.
So here's the formula.
1. have a decent profile that says something about you - make it look like you made an effort.
And remember - you are here to enhance a couple's (or lady's) sex life not for them to enhance yours - try to get that across.
2. FACE PICS!
They show you're more likely to be genuine if you've got the balls to show your face.
The girls do like do have a little peep at our bits (despite the fact they say they dont) - but a gallery that is just a cock forest will get you nowhere.
3. Talk to people!
Use the chatroom. And by talk to people I dont mean "Hi I'm from Cardiff, who fancies a meet?" thats just code for "I'll fuck anyone in a 10 mile radius"and isnt going to make any girl feel like you've singled her out as having something special.
Likewise "Hi XYZ Nice Profile" is a waste of time - if you're going to try that sort of approach, instead try picking something specific from the profile that you liked and use that as a conversation starter.
Talk to everyone and by talk I mean have a laugh and a joke with folks - even other blokes - even couples that arent into single guys. If you show your an open and socialble person with a sense of humour then people will gravitate towards you.
4. Dont bother with site email.
Seriously - you wont beleive how much email some girls and couples on here get - one girl I spoke to had over a hundred within a few hours on joining the site - you just aint going to stand out.
Only bother emailing someone if you've chatted with them first.
Over to you lads
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. loose the tag line! talk to people and get yourself known.
I have always found chat and attending socials have proved me genuine and shown the real me. i'll admit i'm crap at writing first contact mails, but every so often i get a suprise response and 9 out of 10 times it leads to a meet. sometimes it's quick, other times it involves weeks or months of mail/msn/phone calls.
it is very rare to mail and get an instant meet.
9 weeks is very early stages, but don't be disheartened and don't winge.
The women on here are the same as anywhere, just a little more open minded about sex.
"hi,look at my cock, fancy a shag" wouldn't work in a club, bar or cafe. so why should it work here! |
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