FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > single guys
single guys
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I've always said that I will meet them there, not go in as a couple and then become nasty when I ask why they can't go in on their own, I did when I first went in and loved it so why can't single men? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"i would never ask just for that reason
when i want to go to a club i go
its too much hassle finding a single lady to go life too short to save a few bob lol xxx  "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay."
No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"
whats wrong with that
it means we can spend more money on the drinks they have on offer |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"
No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners
Bonus for me lol and don't have to pay for drinks either "
wow, you certainly have a great deal there.
enjoy and I hope you have many fantastic meets there with single guys paying the entry rate and enjoying the club. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?whats wrong with that
it means we can spend more money on the drinks they have on offer "
Because I go in on my own. Never go with anyone as I feel I'll have to talk to them all night which us not what I want |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay.
No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them"
Ah right yes thats good, I dont normally go to clubs lol x. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"lol women alwais get in for free, men pay.
No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners and have worked on party nights for them
Ah right yes thats good, I dont normally go to clubs lol x."
Yeah lol x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I know what club your on about, and yes it is a tenner for a single woman. Its not always free for single women in clubs as some think. If I lived closer to it I would go there on my own too. And I dont mind paying to get in as its such a lovely club. X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
No they don't, it's £10 usually but I don't have to pay as I know the owners
Bonus for me lol and don't have to pay for drinks either
wow, you certainly have a great deal there.
enjoy and I hope you have many fantastic meets there with single guys paying the entry rate and enjoying the club."
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.
I have no problem with a single guy coming in with me. The only restriction is that we have to leave together. It can save them a LOT of money. Especially if it means I have a potential playmate there. As I chat and get to know someone well before I meet them, I know that we have a lot in common and I will enjoy their company anyhow.
If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.
I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.
I have no problem with a single guy coming in with me. The only restriction is that we have to leave together. It can save them a LOT of money. Especially if it means I have a potential playmate there. As I chat and get to know someone well before I meet them, I know that we have a lot in common and I will enjoy their company anyhow.
If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.
I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....
some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys......
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....
some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys.....
"
The few time I have coupled up with a guy it's always been on a mixed night, and I am happy if he wants to go off and play as long as he's happy with me playing alone too.
I wouldn't go to a couples only night even if I was with a guy. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"some guys do see it as a cheaper way of getting into clubs.....
some guys also see it as a "golden ticket" to couples that wouldn't normally be interested in playing with single guys......
"
If these couples wanted to play with a single guy, wouldn't they. Regardless of whether he came in with a woman or not. Just because I went in with a guy does not in any way mean I wil them play as a couple with him.
But like previously stated by another poster I would also only go on a mixed night as I prefer to play with singles. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me"
In that case I understand your point. But how do you know it's not because they don't want to meet with you? X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me"
If that's how it feels, don't meet them. You'd know of they were interested in you and not just the club admission. It's not nice to be used. x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It just seems like they only wanna come in with me so it's cheaper, not for an actual meet so it feels like they just wanna use me
In that case I understand your point. But how do you know it's not because they don't want to meet with you? X"
They just say they wanna come to a club with me as they haven't been to one before but never mention anything about a meet x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I might just give this a go
Never thought of it before reading this, it'll be a heck of a lot cheaper lol"
yea it's also easier squeezing through the toilet window lol.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.
But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.
Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle "
oooh, I like ur street talk!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle
oooh, I like ur street talk! "
where that z come from? bloody phone |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.
But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.
Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club."
So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Men on here seem to be a problemz for you reading your threads,you only do social meets anyway,why don't you go the club and see what comes through the door,save yourself all the hassle
oooh, I like ur street talk!
where that z come from? bloody phone "
Brap braps luv!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Is this a stealth brag?
Cos i really don't see the big deal. 
No. Read the entire thread
I did. My comment still stands."
Because they're just using me to get into a club cheaper. I'm gonna let myself be used. End of. They don't even suggest a meet there |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.
But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.
Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club.
So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go
alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular"
You will only meet in a club you want the guy to pay single guy prices and then it's only to talk to him.
You occasionally work there as well.
Do you not think that sounds a bit iffy?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"
Think really if they that interested on meeting they would turn up and get I. As a single guy, makes no odds to me of it cost more as a single guy to get in the result is still the same when you get in ain't it? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So you will only meet in clubs what is wrong with helping someone else get in and save a bit of money. If you don't have to pay anyway.
But you would rather go to your friends club where you also get in free.
Call me cynical but I would suspect you are trying to just attract guys to the club.
So what if they're my friends and no I'm not attracting guys to the club, I simply don't wanna go into a club as a couple. I only go
alone and I only get into the club for free because I run the bar on a party night and I'm a regular
You will only meet in a club you want the guy to pay single guy prices and then it's only to talk to him.
You occasionally work there as well.
Do you not think that sounds a bit iffy?
"
No it's not as its my preference |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"No it's not as its my preference"
No problem with that. But you can see where they are coming from surely. Single men have to pay a lot to get into a club, and most clubs also charge a membership fee, if single men are allowed in at all (due to restricted numbers/no new members on a weekend policies etc et ad nauseum). So to them they are paying loads of money for what might just be a chat. Why not meet them for a chat in a cheaper location beforehand then neither money nor time is wasted.
Or don't meet men from here. You obviously have a good system set up for yourself using a club, so make it clear that you will ONLY meet men who are already in there, and they then know whether or not they can afford to meet you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"No it's not as its my preference
No problem with that. But you can see where they are coming from surely. Single men have to pay a lot to get into a club, and most clubs also charge a membership fee, if single men are allowed in at all (due to restricted numbers/no new members on a weekend policies etc et ad nauseum). So to them they are paying loads of money for what might just be a chat. Why not meet them for a chat in a cheaper location beforehand then neither money nor time is wasted.
Or don't meet men from here. You obviously have a good system set up for yourself using a club, so make it clear that you will ONLY meet men who are already in there, and they then know whether or not they can afford to meet you."
I get where you're coming from but all the men that message me have never been to a club before and so that's how it makes me feel |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
some clubs are very expensive to go in i agree such like chams and a single man still dont have a guarantee to get in on certain nights
well just go to another thats my opinion lol
i do agree with one of the post to meet in more public places which are cheaper but that nooooo good for me as then i would take them for a meal wine and dine well thats just me and we would still end up in a club heheheheh
but at the end of the day boys a good night on the pop with your mates how much would you spend and get no action
i love the swinging lifestyle so for me a perfect night would meet sexy people in a club thats my opinion |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.
I'd never do it just to get cheaper entry as this is one of those things that bugs me and many others - particularly if it's a couples only night - as the two parties often split and you're left with single guys attending what is a strict couples night.
OP - having read the thread the simple solution is to just agree to meet IN the club - that way no-one will be using you for cheap entry, there'll be no expectancy that you'll do anything other than chat, and if the guy wants to go off and play you'll have no responsibility for him. Simple.
If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If I had to pay the prices that single men pay I would not go to so many clubs. Especially as they normally have to become members so a one off visit in my opinion can be over priced.
I have no problem with a single guy coming in with me. The only restriction is that we have to leave together. It can save them a LOT of money. Especially if it means I have a potential playmate there. As I chat and get to know someone well before I meet them, I know that we have a lot in common and I will enjoy their company anyhow.
If you discuss both your expectations beforehand I don't see why you both can't have a good night, and introduce a club to a gentleman who otherwise would not probably go.
I am lucky to be a female and pay either nothing or next to nothing. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I never go to clubs with a man,have been asked loadstimes to go with men,im just too independant and like to meet different people,rather than stay with one.im quite happy to.meet them there,im quite a meany i wont go as a couple because i stay a fair few hours,men dont have the energy lol and go before me x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't go to clubs on my own, membership fees are too much, and so is the cost of the night !
I know why clubs do it, they get the money and plenty are willing to pay it to get in.
I have been to one club recently a couple of times with a lady off Fab, we were meeting anyway and a club seemed a good place.
Cost us £20, enjoyed each others company, played a bit, watched some people and had a good night.
Had I gone on my own it would have cost me £60 !
Not a complaint at clubs, they have a business to run. I just cant afford it !
so yeh if I wanted to meet a lady and she was meeting at a club, I would ask to go in with her and not on my own ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've attended clubs lots of times as a single guy, and occasionally I'll take a very good play friend of mine on a couples night. It's never crossed my mind about the cost or as a tool to play with couples - it's just great to vary the type of club meets I have once in a while |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Every time I've been, I've been escorted in by a single female and I paid. Cheaper for me, she's still getting in free.
As Wyrdwoman says above, it's also made play easier for both of us, lots of couples don't want singles but other couples, so it opens up possibilities for both! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
If it's someone I haven't met before I arrange to meet in the pub nearby for a drink and a chat. That way if I don't get on with them I can say no thanks there and then and continue into the club on my own.
If we do get on then I'm happy for them to come in using my couples card but it's on the understanding that if they are with me their behaviour reflects on me so they must abide by club rules.
I also only take new meets in on everybody welcome nights. On the rare occasions I go in on couples night it's with someone I already know. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm dying to go to a club but don't think I've got the balls to go alone. If anyone would like to escort me id'e be very greatfull . I don't mind if I have to pay full price . As somebody said earlier it's cheaper than a night on the lash |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.
I'd never do it just to get cheaper entry as this is one of those things that bugs me and many others - particularly if it's a couples only night - as the two parties often split and you're left with single guys attending what is a strict couples night.
OP - having read the thread the simple solution is to just agree to meet IN the club - that way no-one will be using you for cheap entry, there'll be no expectancy that you'll do anything other than chat, and if the guy wants to go off and play you'll have no responsibility for him. Simple.
If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way! "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"
Im with you on this. I just dont go as a couple - The most I will agree to is meeting inside but I make it clear Im not going to baby sit them all night, I have no idea what women will be attending and Im not responsible for their enjoyment x this works for me x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I've 'coupled up' to go to clubs before - but only with people I already know.
I'd never do it just to get cheaper entry as this is one of those things that bugs me and many others - particularly if it's a couples only night - as the two parties often split and you're left with single guys attending what is a strict couples night.
OP - having read the thread the simple solution is to just agree to meet IN the club - that way no-one will be using you for cheap entry, there'll be no expectancy that you'll do anything other than chat, and if the guy wants to go off and play you'll have no responsibility for him. Simple.
If a single guy wants to try the club scene then he really needs to 'man up' and go solo - else he'll never learn to stand on his own two feet and learn to interact with others in a positive way! "
thank you................
if i say it.. I get bawled at..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?"
You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I might do it for the company only if we were playing at a nearby hotel as well. Otherwise I would never try to save a few quid by trying to go as a couple. I am fed up with all the cheapskates trying to save a pound or two on this site. If he cannot pay his way he is just in your way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?
You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ? "
You don't!
There are plenty of clubs charging reasonable fees for guys. And the issue tends to be the expectancy of many that once you pay anything to get in then there's an attitude of entitlement to some play - something you rarely get with couples/single females. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?
You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ?
You don't!
There are plenty of clubs charging reasonable fees for guys. And the issue tends to be the expectancy of many that once you pay anything to get in then there's an attitude of entitlement to some play - something you rarely get with couples/single females. "
If I pay £10 to get into a club I want AT LEAST 5 shags or else it's not worth my while.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?
You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ? "
If clubs charged the same for women... you'd have a room full of men... go eat your bi-heart out |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I'm dying to go to a club but don't think I've got the balls to go alone. If anyone would like to escort me id'e be very greatfull . I don't mind if I have to pay full price . As somebody said earlier it's cheaper than a night on the lash "
As someone previously put, man up and go on your own, learn to stand on your own two feet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm dying to go to a club but don't think I've got the balls to go alone. If anyone would like to escort me id'e be very greatfull . I don't mind if I have to pay full price . As somebody said earlier it's cheaper than a night on the lash
As someone previously put, man up and go on your own, learn to stand on your own two feet"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I always get the feeling that when a guy wants to meet me at a club, he wants to go as a couple so he can get in cheaper. It's usually the ones that have never been to one. Anyone else had this?
You are spot on . Why do we have to pay extortionate prices ?
If clubs charged the same for women... you'd have a room full of men... go eat your bi-heart out"
The club I go to is £25 for a single guy on a social night, that's not extortionate. But if you were to go on a Saturday it's £40 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
