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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location? |
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
Awwww...
Thought I'd reply as you're fit. Haha!
Yes, the reason is that they are very desperate and they want your exact address asap because they hope to believe that you fancy the pants off them and you need them of all people immediately.
Failure to give address is deemed as 'rejection'.... Sad but true... Some guys just get desperate thats all.
I understand you though... Bloody hell. If I was you, I wouldn't give out my details either. Too many weirdos around.
Take care hun. Xxx
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over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
I'm with you on this, like you I'm a single female and live alone. Very few guys have been here & I don't dish out my address or mob no. x |
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
not just single females that need to be careful, the female half of a couple needs to be cautious!! sadly many males are muppets and only think with their knobs!!!!!!!!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
It might be that they do not want to meet anyone local to them or too far away, so an area or post code in Manchester would narrow it down for them
I would never ask for an exact address, until after I had met them and was going to there house
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In my experience the ones who are most put out by my insistence on meeting in a public place and not giving my address out to randoms off the internet turn out to be attached and trying to hide it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience the ones who are most put out by my insistence on meeting in a public place and not giving my address out to randoms off the internet turn out to be attached and trying to hide it. "
I would not want an exact address, but would want an idea of where they lived to see how long it took to get near to them for a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very few people know our address but we do have a pub a couple of minutes walk from us and we use that as our location in messages, worked well for us so far xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a message from a pitureless profile a couple of days ago asking me whereabouts in the area, so I replied near......a local landmark how about you, was demanded that I told them the village or better still the street to prove I was real........instantly blocked them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fully understand why people are reluctant to give out their exact location, so usually meet at a pub or coffeeshop or something first then you both know weather you want to go further.
However a rough location I think is OK like saying Near the Reebok Stadium rather than your street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An exact addresss,(unless one is invited), is way too far out of the question.
But to give a general idea, like maybe near a large city or town, or mabye some kind of well known establishment wouldn't be too much to ask.
Some people just don't want to try and start an acquaintance unless they are within a certain radius.
I don't think that is too much for anyone to ask. Personall, I prefer a 50 mile radius. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
Just lie like me |
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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouth |
"In my experience the ones who are most put out by my insistence on meeting in a public place and not giving my address out to randoms off the internet turn out to be attached and trying to hide it.
I would not want an exact address, but would want an idea of where they lived to see how long it took to get near to them for a meet "
WHY ? What does it matter your not meeting them at their place anyway might be better to get the postcode for the pub or hotel just a tip. |
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By *exybee7Woman
over a year ago
Ashbourne |
"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
This is why I will always meet socially first. It's just not safe to give out your address. I would definitely recommend meeting in a public place first and always tell a friend when and where you're meeting, then check in with them when you're back home. Xx |
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"In my experience the ones who are most put out by my insistence on meeting in a public place and not giving my address out to randoms off the internet turn out to be attached and trying to hide it.
I would not want an exact address, but would want an idea of where they lived to see how long it took to get near to them for a meet "
But I don't accommodate. So you won't be getting near to me for a meet. So what difference would it make?
And even if I did I wouldn't say until after we've met and we've decided we are both happy to take things further.
I fully accept that not everyone does the coffee meet thing, but considering how many site users have had problems with stalkers or other numpties, some of whom can be very aggressive and abusive if they don't get what they want, then giving too much info out to everyone is a bad idea. And I know the argument will be "but if you're thinking of meeting then you have to give something" but not all the numpties reveal their natures straight away! |
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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?
It might be that they do not want to meet anyone local to them or too far away, so an area or post code in Manchester would narrow it down for them
I would never ask for an exact address, until after I had met them and was going to there house
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A postcode!!!! Are you for real? My street has a single postcode with only 4 house, so it would be easy for people to find me.
And if they don't want to meet people local they should be satisfied when I say either N/S/E or West Manchester |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?
not just single females that need to be careful, the female half of a couple needs to be cautious!! sadly many males are muppets and only think with their knobs!!!!!!!!!!! "
we havent given out our address ever.
we usually meet at a pub and have them follow us home, if it goes further.
dont even give out V's number, since a husband text her the one day and asked if he could pop round for a bit of fun one afternoon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unwittingly we all give our location away in our digital pictures taken in our homes...ever noticed map coordinates in the pic info anyone? Scarey!  "
must be a smartphone thing as i cant find that on any of our pictures. |
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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago
London |
"Unwittingly we all give our location away in our digital pictures taken in our homes...ever noticed map coordinates in the pic info anyone? Scarey!
must be a smartphone thing as i cant find that on any of our pictures."
It's available as metadata on digital cameras. Depending on the model will dictate what gets saved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't just dish out my address to anyone that messaged me, but I don't see an issue with giving a vague area to someone you're chatting to. Manchester is a pretty big place so knowing a rough area can make it easier to find somewhere in the middle for a social. I'm not talking street names but districts like Urmston, Eccles, Longsight...all are Manchester but if you know someone lives that side of the city then you're not going to try to arrange a social in Cheetham Hill. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
Its one of two reasons.
1. They think you don't trust them.
2. They want to control you and/or use it to their advantage.
I will never, ever give out my home address to anyone. Colleagues, acquaintances, no one. If I meet someone new and we end up socialising. In time and when I can trust them with other things. That's when I tell them where I live. Otherwise I say the area, not the street name. It takes alot for me to trust others with this sort of information. So you aren't wrong at all in what you are doing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No idea but I have chatted to a guy who only meets at either his or 'yours' for a first meet, conversation didn't end well, would never ever meet at someone's home nor let a stranger into mine first time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience the ones who are most put out by my insistence on meeting in a public place and not giving my address out to randoms off the internet turn out to be attached and trying to hide it.
I would not want an exact address, but would want an idea of where they lived to see how long it took to get near to them for a meet
But I don't accommodate. So you won't be getting near to me for a meet. So what difference would it make?
And even if I did I wouldn't say until after we've met and we've decided we are both happy to take things further.
I fully accept that not everyone does the coffee meet thing, but considering how many site users have had problems with stalkers or other numpties, some of whom can be very aggressive and abusive if they don't get what they want, then giving too much info out to everyone is a bad idea. And I know the argument will be "but if you're thinking of meeting then you have to give something" but not all the numpties reveal their natures straight away!"
I think maybe you are perhaps misunderstanding the first bit. I am arranging to meet someone who lives in Bristol, its a very big place so whilst I don't want to know exactly where he lives, an area helps so that I can work out roughly halfway between me and him.
You weren't being asked for your exact location, only an area, does that make sense? |
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I'm often asked where in Halifax I live. Halifax isn't that big really and I live only half a mile or so from the centre so I tend to say 'near the middle'. For some reason they think I'm being arsey. No, I'm being cautious. There's not many 6ft tall overweight white women in this area for a start! |
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We get this a hell of a lot, especially on chat i mean really do they think ill give out where we live especially in a chat room? Its also incredibly amusing when people use it in their first message.
If a person gets demanding for it and cant wait till you arrange a meet, welcome to block. Mrs x |
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I do shift work so Frisky is at home with the children. We often get messages asking what we are up to I reply working and Frisky at home with the children. It's amazing how many guys then say tell me where you live and I'll go round and give her a seeing to...They then get arsy when I point out that I am not giving my home address to a stranger...  |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
Livingston |
"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?
not just single females that need to be careful, the female half of a couple needs to be cautious!! sadly many males are muppets and only think with their knobs!!!!!!!!!!! "
Sadly, many females have a screw loose, so guys should be careful too... heard many a horror story from all sides!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?
not just single females that need to be careful, the female half of a couple needs to be cautious!! sadly many males are muppets and only think with their knobs!!!!!!!!!!!
Sadly, many females have a screw loose, so guys should be careful too... heard many a horror story from all sides!! "
Oh yes I've had more than my fair share of nutters.
I'm not fussed about an address early on, it's usually a way to scale down an area maybe give a postcode for somewhere local but obviously not too close, this can also depend if you have given a photo out too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
Where I live is my business. All they need to know is that I live in Manchester. Them using the excuse that they would like to know my area so they can calculate travel time serves no purpose as I wouldn't be meeting anyone in my area.
I've had crazy people follow me home before without my knowledge and I'm not taking that risk again.
So I'd only meet someone at the Trafford centre as that is where I would feel safe and comfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where I live is my business. All they need to know is that I live in Manchester. Them using the excuse that they would like to know my area so they can calculate travel time serves no purpose as I wouldn't be meeting anyone in my area.
I've had crazy people follow me home before without my knowledge and I'm not taking that risk again.
So I'd only meet someone at the Trafford centre as that is where I would feel safe and comfortable."
That makes perfect sense however I think I may be looking at this from the other side as I have said above, trying to work out half way helps from city to city if I have an idea of the area where someone lives.
For you meeting someone from Manchester, choosing the Trafford centre makes perfect sense, if they don't like it, tough hard luck.
If I am meeting someone local to me ie Gloucester or Cheltenham, I choose one of two pubs but never ever the one I work in though I have been asked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?
not just single females that need to be careful, the female half of a couple needs to be cautious!! sadly many males are muppets and only think with their knobs!!!!!!!!!!!
Sadly, many females have a screw loose, so guys should be careful too... heard many a horror story from all sides!! "
Same here in fact one woman ended up with a prison sentence after pulling a knife on a meet, luckily in a pub so there were witnesses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a reason why some people kick off if you don't want to tell them the exact area where you live?
I don't get it...as a single female living on my own why would I tell strangers my exact location?"
ummmmmmm Nope. Definitely not. You are much too hot to do a silly thing like that LOL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I laugh coz does it matter exactly what direction from the city cntr I'm in,u gonna go wait that's half a mile more than I wanted to travel so no thanks Lol x |
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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"I laugh coz does it matter exactly what direction from the city cntr I'm in,u gonna go wait that's half a mile more than I wanted to travel so no thanks Lol x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where I live is my business. All they need to know is that I live in Manchester. Them using the excuse that they would like to know my area so they can calculate travel time serves no purpose as I wouldn't be meeting anyone in my area.
I've had crazy people follow me home before without my knowledge and I'm not taking that risk again.
So I'd only meet someone at the Trafford centre as that is where I would feel safe and comfortable."
So then just tell them that and if they still push for more information than you're comfortable to give then stop contact...it's pretty simple! If you're not working out where to meet then the issue of area doesn't come into it, however for some people area is relevant to arrange somewhere mutually convenient.
I personally wouldn't like to meet at the Trafford Centre as it's too public and there's a high risk of being seen by someone who knows me but each to their own and all that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm often asked where in Halifax I live. Halifax isn't that big really and I live only half a mile or so from the centre so I tend to say 'near the middle'. For some reason they think I'm being arsey. No, I'm being cautious. There's not many 6ft tall overweight white women in this area for a start! "
U just told every one u live half mile from the centre of Halifax and ur white , overweight and six ft lol if u narrow it down any more we will all know where u live and who u are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get where u live a lot but I'm stated as glasgow and for any time reasoning bull that people come out with u can get a bus from one side ov Glasgow to the other if you are offered a meet and the area is then narrowed down are you really going to be put off by the fact you may have to get two buses??or it will take you an extra half hour,wanting to know where you live is all entwined with tho the fuks gonna catch you!!xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never tell anybody where you actually live....i met one lady off here and thank god it was a hotel meet as it soon became clear she was barking, great sex but was real hassel afterwards |
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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Never tell anybody where you actually live....i met one lady off here and thank god it was a hotel meet as it soon became clear she was barking, great sex but was real hassel afterwards"
So the sex was great until she wanted more, typical tee hee |
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"Never tell anybody where you actually live....i met one lady off here and thank god it was a hotel meet as it soon became clear she was barking, great sex but was real hassel afterwards"
This!!
I had a stalker create three profiles to get round me keep blocking him. He threatened me with " I know where you live and where you work".
I wasn't sure if he did.... But I told admin and let them deal. But if you don't want to let someone know where you live, that's your choice. Safety first. |
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