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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was thinking of taking my wife to an adult shop and as well as looking at their goods, also letting other men feel her up if they wanted to.
Has anyone had experience of this before? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
How do you think other people shopping in there might feel about that? If they aren't interested in joining in then that's non-consensually involving them in your play. The staff might not be entirely happy either. They work in an adult shop not a play venue.
Take it to a club and keep it between consensual parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the days of seedy dark back street sex shops with the dirty old pervy man behind the counter have gone, the 2 we go to are bright and welcoming with friendly helpfull female staff who smile and give advice on the products, as said above I doubt any form of touching up your wife by others eould be tolerated  |
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And how does your wife feel about this? Fantasy is one thing and if that is what this is enjoy it and maybe set up a bit of roleplay where other people won't be offended. Otherwise have a bit of respect for people including your wife. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was thinking of taking my wife to an adult shop and as well as looking at their goods, also letting other men feel her up if they wanted to.
Has anyone had experience of this before?"
Eh? Did this idea come from a dodgy 80's porn flick? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not  |
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Actually there are shops that allow even welcome it to be honest and no they are not dirty seedy shops either. Although its ideal if they are advised before of what you would like to do and arrange a time for it hence then avoiding times they know not to be suitable.
so its not a way out thought at all..just pick your shop and sound them out first maybe ideal.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not "
The man has a point.  |
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By *bacusMan
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Yeas its his fantasy and probably from seeing it played out on a video. We shouldnt be criticising even if its not to our taste.
The man has a point. "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not "
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
The man has a point. "
Do do the people who don't want to see this whilst out shopping. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you think other people shopping in there might feel about that? If they aren't interested in joining in then that's non-consensually involving them in your play. The staff might not be entirely happy either. They work in an adult shop not a play venue.
Take it to a club and keep it between consensual parties."
I used to work for the private group, yeah so not cool for the staff!!! Lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if the fantasy were to become a reality there would not be any complaints from rhe other customers .
Does anyone really think a 'proper' sex shop would have patrons not into a bit of harmless fun ?
He wasn't suggesting anyone had to do anything they didn't want to do . And the images on the dvd covers etc.... would be far more graphic anyway.
We think it's a great idea and would happily join the op to realise this fantasy in the right shop.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I think if the fantasy were to become a reality there would not be any complaints from rhe other customers .
Does anyone really think a 'proper' sex shop would have patrons not into a bit of harmless fun ?
He wasn't suggesting anyone had to do anything they didn't want to do . And the images on the dvd covers etc.... would be far more graphic anyway.
We think it's a great idea and would happily join the op to realise this fantasy in the right shop.
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I use "proper" sex shops sometimed but I wouldn't be impressed to see that sort of behaviour. It's a shop, not a play venue.
There are appropriate places, and as mentioned above, certain stores might agree by arrangement. Anything else is totally disrespectful of anyone else around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive."
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if the fantasy were to become a reality there would not be any complaints from rhe other customers .
Does anyone really think a 'proper' sex shop would have patrons not into a bit of harmless fun ?
He wasn't suggesting anyone had to do anything they didn't want to do . And the images on the dvd covers etc.... would be far more graphic anyway.
We think it's a great idea and would happily join the op to realise this fantasy in the right shop.
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Err, there would from me if I wad a customer. ..and the female staff in the 'proper' sex shop I visit wouldn't stand for it either!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair enough .... if everyone thought it was fine , there would be no fun to get from doing it !
Just hope that if we do get to do it , it's not in a shop with staff or customers like the objectors on this thread !
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions "
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
The man has a point.
Do do the people who don't want to see this whilst out shopping."
The question posted to the forum was "Has anyone had experience of this before?"
A simple NO would of been surfice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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having outdoor fun, one on one car fumbles, dogging, aint they all public offences??? alot of ppl seem to be into that on here so whats the difference????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of."
but why feel the need to be negative about it??? he wasn't asking ppl to be negative |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair enough .... if everyone thought it was fine , there would be no fun to get from doing it !
Just hope that if we do get to do it , it's not in a shop with staff or customers like the objectors on this thread !
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Sorry, didn't realise that despite being open minded, uninhibited and on a swinging site I had to condone you breaking public decency laws??? Think you've been watching too much 70s porn... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of.
but why feel the need to be negative about it??? he wasn't asking ppl to be negative"
Because some people don't want to see it and the OP didn't seem to have considered that.
I repeat, there is no rule that only people who agree with the OP may reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of.
but why feel the need to be negative about it??? he wasn't asking ppl to be negative
Because some people don't want to see it and the OP didn't seem to have considered that.
I repeat, there is no rule that only people who agree with the OP may reply."
but at no point did he say he was doing it, he said think!! and then asked if anyone had experiences |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"having outdoor fun, one on one car fumbles, dogging, aint they all public offences??? alot of ppl seem to be into that on here so whats the difference?????"
I'm guessing that dogging is generally done in quiet out of the way places (although I'm no expert) however, this is talking about the middle of an open shop. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of.
but why feel the need to be negative about it??? he wasn't asking ppl to be negative
Because some people don't want to see it and the OP didn't seem to have considered that.
I repeat, there is no rule that only people who agree with the OP may reply.
but at no point did he say he was doing it, he said think!! and then asked if anyone had experiences "
If you think breaking public decency laws, forcing one's fantasies on non-consenting adults and potentially upsetting and offending people is ok then that's your view.
I disagree. There are places for that sort of thing. Shops are not one of them. It's a point entirely relevant to the original post, regardless of whether you like the opinion or not. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"having outdoor fun, one on one car fumbles, dogging, aint they all public offences??? alot of ppl seem to be into that on here so whats the difference?????
I'm guessing that dogging is generally done in quiet out of the way places (although I'm no expert) however, this is talking about the middle of an open shop. "
And strangely the police do seem to be keen to shut down dogging sites, and people affected by them are somewhat inclined to complain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair enough .... if everyone thought it was fine , there would be no fun to get from doing it !
Just hope that if we do get to do it , it's not in a shop with staff or customers like the objectors on this thread !
Sorry, didn't realise that despite being open minded, uninhibited and on a swinging site I had to condone you breaking public decency laws??? Think you've been watching too much 70s porn..."
Well perhaps we have ?
Public decency is something we totally respect . However a bit of a fumble in a sex shop doesn't strike us as indecent .
You are perfectly entitled to your opinion , as are we .
Really wanna do it now .... has anyone any suggestions as to a good shop ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the guy was only thinking of doing it and asking if anyone else had experience, but as per normal ppl on these forums are too easy to jump down ppls throats,
the moral standards police I think not
Oh so because it's what he wants it's ok to completely disregard what everyone else may want?
Yes, I have experience of other people playing in public when I really didn't want to see it.
He has a right to his fantasies. I have a right to my opinion. He posted the topic for discussion. I told him how I feel about it.
It's not aggressive - though some people seem to think anything said that doesn't agree with them is aggressive.
he asked for ppls experiences not opinions
He put the concept up for public discussion. As far as I know there is no rule on here that says only people who say what the poster wants can comment. My post was on topic and doesn't break any rules I am aware of.
but why feel the need to be negative about it??? he wasn't asking ppl to be negative
Because some people don't want to see it and the OP didn't seem to have considered that.
I repeat, there is no rule that only people who agree with the OP may reply.
but at no point did he say he was doing it, he said think!! and then asked if anyone had experiences
If you think breaking public decency laws, forcing one's fantasies on non-consenting adults and potentially upsetting and offending people is ok then that's your view.
I disagree. There are places for that sort of thing. Shops are not one of them. It's a point entirely relevant to the original post, regardless of whether you like the opinion or not."
I don't think he would force it on people, thats abit ott, and I doubt he is thinking ann summers in a middle of a shopping centre,
always remember everyone has there fantasties, yes even you, what other ppl wouldnt like or be into, so remember that before you stand on the moral high ground just because u dont like it,
judge and be judged as they say but some just dont like that |
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To be honest the op wasnt suggesting to strip her in the middle of the supermarket or toys r us for that matter. there is a difference.. and probably more appropriate than being felt up in a pub which is the best fun ever however we do that discretely not spread eagled on the bar.. there is common sense that has to come into play. They were suggesting naked with a group of men in the middle of ann summers i suspect. you might not agree with it but they didnt say they would do it openly in full view of people who didnt want to see. people need to chill. tbh you could probably see worse in any town centre on a saturday night and your feelings wouldnt be considered then. we are talking about in a sex shop which changes things a little. but as i said go for it but make sure you know the management and they are okay with it and arrange a suitable time. |
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"To be honest the op wasnt suggesting to strip her in the middle of the supermarket or toys r us for that matter. there is a difference.. and probably more appropriate than being felt up in a pub which is the best fun ever however we do that discretely not spread eagled on the bar.. there is common sense that has to come into play. They were suggesting naked with a group of men in the middle of ann summers i suspect. you might not agree with it but they didnt say they would do it openly in full view of people who didnt want to see. people need to chill. tbh you could probably see worse in any town centre on a saturday night and your feelings wouldnt be considered then. we are talking about in a sex shop which changes things a little. but as i said go for it but make sure you know the management and they are okay with it and arrange a suitable time. "
lol * were not suggesting it was meant to say further up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The op isn't being judged personally. He's being told that it's a shit idea, which doesn't take potential, innocent bystanders into account. "
I really don't think it is a shit idea ... me and my wife really like the idea  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"The op isn't being judged personally. He's being told that it's a shit idea, which doesn't take potential, innocent bystanders into account.
I really don't think it is a shit idea ... me and my wife really like the idea "
Yes I noticed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The op isn't being judged personally. He's being told that it's a shit idea, which doesn't take potential, innocent bystanders into account.
I really don't think it is a shit idea ... me and my wife really like the idea "
Stay well clear of East Anglia if i were you
Nothing personal just trying to lighten the mood.
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I guess those objecting have never had a cheeky grope or sexy snog in a public place...let alone a naughty knee trembler with the risk of getting caught EVER?
The op wasn't suggesting full on sex in public.. just a cheeky grope of a horny wife.
I am sure he'd asked a similar question about a meeting in a pub or night club wouldn't have brought such a negative response.. Or would it? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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The man was only asking for any experiences, but as usual it ends up a thread on what people think we should all act like.
To the OP...I think your idea sounds horny and if all parties are agreed including the staff I don't know what the issue is. Most proper sex shops have blacked out windows so only consenting adults would see anyway.
It is finding a shop that may let you now though |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I was thinking of taking my wife to an adult shop and as well as looking at their goods, also letting other men feel her up if they wanted to.
Has anyone had experience of this before?"
No can't say I have....
To be honest can't see many if any, adult shops letting you do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was thinking of taking my wife to an adult shop and as well as looking at their goods, also letting other men feel her up if they wanted to.
Has anyone had experience of this before?
No can't say I have....
To be honest can't see many if any, adult shops letting you do it."
Simples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the days of seedy dark back street sex shops with the dirty old pervy man behind the counter have gone, the 2 we go to are bright and welcoming with friendly helpfull female staff who smile and give advice on the products, as said above I doubt any form of touching up your wife by others eould be tolerated "
we had the idea of doing this, but V felt uncomfortable in the only seedy shop we went into.
the other shops we went to felt too nice to do anything in, so yes, there are places you could probably do it, but they arent really the kind of places i would want to |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I was thinking of taking my wife to an adult shop and as well as looking at their goods, also letting other men feel her up if they wanted to.
Has anyone had experience of this before?
No can't say I have....
To be honest can't see many if any, adult shops letting you do it.
Simples! "
Who you calling simples?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow it hit a nerve. Sorry if it did but Ive checked the forum I put it on and it definately is a swinging site so though I did ask for opinions, some were aggressive and uncalled for from members of a site that should have an open mind and be polite in what they think.
We have lots of fantasys and I asked to see if it what a swinging forum would think. We quite like dogging and thought maybe a shop full of horny men might like to make a play for my wife. Obviously if it did seem to want to go further we would exit the shop and find the nearest Asda to progress things.
I do like the Halfords idea as I have a discount card and Tescos clubcards as well. |
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"Wow it hit a nerve. Sorry if it did but Ive checked the forum I put it on and it definately is a swinging site so though I did ask for opinions, some were aggressive and uncalled for from members of a site that should have an open mind and be polite in what they think.
We have lots of fantasys and I asked to see if it what a swinging forum would think. We quite like dogging and thought maybe a shop full of horny men might like to make a play for my wife. Obviously if it did seem to want to go further we would exit the shop and find the nearest Asda to progress things.
I do like the Halfords idea as I have a discount card and Tescos clubcards as well."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow it hit a nerve. Sorry if it did but Ive checked the forum I put it on and it definately is a swinging site so though I did ask for opinions, some were aggressive and uncalled for from members of a site that should have an open mind and be polite in what they think.
We have lots of fantasys and I asked to see if it what a swinging forum would think. We quite like dogging and thought maybe a shop full of horny men might like to make a play for my wife. Obviously if it did seem to want to go further we would exit the shop and find the nearest Asda to progress things.
I do like the Halfords idea as I have a discount card and Tescos clubcards as well. "
Waitrose darling Waitrose...
Mind you, I have often thought about a changing room!! |
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