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First meet-advice

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi we have our first non social meet with another couple organised next week and I am so nervously excited! I've slept with my faire share of men and he with women but we have never done anything like this before.

For a long time I've wanting to explore my bi side but never before been able to, but as excited as I am it's like being a virgin all over again!

I've also put on a lot of weight since I last slept with someone other than my hubby and I'm scared they will see me naked and go running for the hills lol!

So any advice/tips, words of comfort

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't get naked! You don't have to!

When we (Fox and I) play with others she tends to stick to lingerie rather than strip off! Wear whatever you're comfortable/confident in (and accessible! lol) and just relax and go with the flow!

You'll soon get caught up in the fun and forget your worries.

Have fun - and above all - go at your own pace and don't feel pressured into anything you're uncomfortable about!

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By *istress loves purpleCouple over a year ago

amongst the fairy dust

Hi Buzz ,,,, my advice J(@)(@) typing this ,,,,, is just go with the flow ,,,, get hubby to pamper you before the liason ,,, even if it just a quick foot massage lol ,,, like yourself I was a tad insecure about my weight ,,,, hay ho I say ,,, if we were all the same shape and size !! What a boring world we would live in !! ,,, go girl enjoy have some fun !! And judging by your public pics ,,,, you have absolutely no need to be hiding your body ,,, sexy curves Rool xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a Basque or sexy vest n Knickers. I dont get naked as i have had Kids my belly Leaves me feeling uncomfortable. Have a wine and relax. Start off Kissing you partner and Take it From there if notacomfortable just stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi Buzz ,,,, my advice J(@)(@) typing this ,,,,, is just go with the flow ,,,, get hubby to pamper you before the liason ,,, even if it just a quick foot massage lol ,,, like yourself I was a tad insecure about my weight ,,,, hay ho I say ,,, if we were all the same shape and size !! What a boring world we would live in !! ,,, go girl enjoy have some fun !! And judging by your public pics ,,,, you have absolutely no need to be hiding your body ,,, sexy curves Rool xx

Thanks xx

I have a lovely basque and stockings that covers my mummy tummy (which is what I'm self conscious about mostly) was planning on a large glass of white for some dutch courage too!

We've been honest that we are inexperienced in swinging so hopefully they understand, and we have waited till we had a "spark" with someone rather than take the first offer, so hopefully it will all flow naturally.

Hope these butterflies bugger off though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

get naked and enjoy yourself !! Think confidence and imagine the fun you are going to have

I have a grotesque stomach, all flabby and covered in stretch marks but I don't give a monkeys. No one else will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"get naked and enjoy yourself !! Think confidence and imagine the fun you are going to have

I have a grotesque stomach, all flabby and covered in stretch marks but I don't give a monkeys. No one else will "

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By *wingerdelightCouple over a year ago

eastliegh

Well if the person/s you are meeting obviously want to meet you. Then there must be some attraction. So don't let it worry you and enjoy

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By *istress loves purpleCouple over a year ago

amongst the fairy dust

"get naked and enjoy yourself !! Think confidence and imagine the fun you are going to have

I have a grotesque stomach, all flabby and covered in stretch marks but I don't give a monkeys. No one else will

This ,,,,, we have only had a couple of liaisons ( apols hate " meet" ) I don't like my belly either so where a bask if someone wants to remove it then happy times ahead ,,,, I pride myself on my cleavage so no one gets past looking at them lol ,,,,, relax go with the flo!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a guys point of view. As long as there is chemistry and an initial attraction nothing else matters. Just go with the flow and what ever is Comfortable. Most of all your all there to have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all your reassuring replies

I know I'm over thinking everything, it is just something we've been looking forward to for a long time!

Roll on next week

Thanks again xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oooh how exciting !! Good luck x

I never get naked ! I always wear beautiful lingerie and never take my bra off as I hate my boobs ( and they look soooo much better held up !lol ) if any one tries I just say it turns me on to fuck in stockings and my lingerie xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck

Dont worry about the nerves, everyone gets nervous on their first meet, its a good thing and if used properly can make you more sensitive and alive.

Dont worry about any little wobbly bits hunni, everyone is a little self conscious stripping for the first time with new people, trust me, noone is going to scream or laugh or run away in disgust.

Relax and enjoy yourselves xx

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