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Ok, views and opinions please...
We as a couple, have a no kissing rule, this is kept for us only .
Is it ok for her to kiss another female and he not be allowed to kiss said female or another female or is it a case of a total ban on kissing ???
What's your views and thoughts guys..... It could be construed as one rule for one and one rule for another ???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely kiss people during sex.. even when I was married I didn't start with a kiss.. so I do tend to avoid it..
Also I think different people like different things. Now I love watching my play partner with other women and kissing is something he loves to do. But of respect others wishes.
I kiss but don't really find it great.. like kissing women but more for the effect it has visually on those watching lol and it still feels naughty. |
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i love to watch the wife kiss a guy it makes in more exciting and more of a turn on when i watch them
when her fuck buddy turns up they cant keep there hands and lips and tongs to there self's
the only time they stop is when they both collapse on the floor from both being fucked, lol, mmmmmmmmmmm  its great to watch. |
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"I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected."
agree 100% and lets face it we are all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I were part of a couple I think I would have some things I keep only for my partner. I do enjoy kissing though but a fuck can be exactly that,if a fuck is all you want. Kissing is more intimate than anything else for me. Make your own rules and break them when you want to I say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, views and opinions please...
We as a couple, have a no kissing rule, this is kept for us only .
Is it ok for her to kiss another female and he not be allowed to kiss said female or another female or is it a case of a total ban on kissing ???
What's your views and thoughts guys..... It could be construed as one rule for one and one rule for another ???
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It's your choice!
As a single I've met couples that do and couples that don't kiss.
When meeting with Fox she generally doesn't kiss other guys but does girls - although it's her choice entirely and she makes her own mind up depending on mood and the other guy/guys.
There is no right and no wrong answer - you make your own decisions and are free to be as flexible as you want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a fem fem only kissing rule, kissing for us and also anal they are the only things we won't do on a meet and we've been turned down cos of this but it's our thing "
This is the same rules as us and hasn't caused any problems for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had one meet where the couple didnt kiss and it will never happen again ! ....if theres a no kissing rule then its a big NO from us ! ... its a big part of foreplay for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally think kissing is too personal emotional maybe..... Something that should be kept between partners .....have done girl on girl kissing that is a turn on but as far as we have gone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own but for us this 'saving something just for us' tosh is just that, it's tosh.
She can do what she likes with anyone she plays with as can I and the green eyed monster never rears its ugly head.
In 14 years of playing the only time we ever had this happen was in a private room in Chams when the lady announced to me 'we don't kiss' whilst over her shoulder I could see her hubby and my good lady tongue wrestling like WWF stars |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally think kissing is too personal emotional maybe..... Something that should be kept between partners .....have done girl on girl kissing that is a turn on but as far as we have gone "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's your fun, your rules, your choice.
It has to feel right for you. Each to their own.
But I personally love kissing...just ask him....I snog his face off as soon as he walks in the door from work...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If that's how you want to play then that's up to you...so long as you are clear about it before a meet is organised. I couldn't have sex without kissing as it would feel to clinical...I may have casual sex, but for that short time I enjoy the intimacy I feel with the other person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your choice and i respect that.
I love to kiss, its the thing that gets my motor running. You can tell how good / bad the experience will be by the kiss 9 times out of 10 and i would find it awkward in the extreme if kissing was forbidden |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to kiss find it sensual and adds to the meet, have met others that don't do it especially the guys
It is strange but fine, have had it that couples say they don't do it then when in the throws do it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I have one friend with the most incredible lips for a man .. so full and hes so gentle.... now him I love kissing"
I have been told I have a sexy mouth and an incredible kiss, no idea what makes that. However, I find kissing the most amazing aphrodisiac... I need kissing to be part of foreplay, not to get me hard, that is instant, but to mentally turn me on for real passion ... Especially after the first climax ... Mmmmm horny at the thought now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a single male and us single males are often accused of willing to meet anything with a pulse but i can honestly say would not meet anyone who did not want to kiss xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand that kissing can be more emotionally attaching than other things, but I do find it strange that you would have oral sex with someone but wouldn't kiss that person.
Shame really as it is more sensual than anything else you can do with a woman/man.
Then again I'm new to all this so what do I know 
Does it make you feel like he/she is cheating?
What's the reason for your rule?
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Only read the OP post here, so here goes.
There's an old saying, "It started with a kiss"
Lets face it, most flings and relationships start like that, or at least move onto the next level from a kiss. We see someone we like, chat, dance, kiss, sometimes the kiss is flat, sometimes not, when it's hot, you want more.
Anyway, my point is, this scares some people, I shall let you decide why rather than wind people up.
For me it's all part of the play, fore play, whatever you like to call it and I wont entertain a meet where kissing is banned, for two reasons. It's part of the act of sex and two, as above paragraph  |
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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago
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"I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected."
Totally agree with the first part of your point. I have turned down meets when I've found out they have a no kissing rule. Like you it's all part of the foreplay |
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kissing it seems for some is more special than the other physical acts shared between two or more people, now I for one cannot get my head around how you are prepared to fuck but not kiss??
sex is about the emotional connection just as much as it is the physical acts and kissing only heightens the senses of intimacy, whats the point of being in the situation of swinging if you're not going to kiss.
Tells me you're not secure in your relationship if you can't share a kiss..
It's the most erotic part of play and if you're not going to enjoy that then why bother playing at all...
I would go without penile penetration in favor of soft oral play every time if that was the choice available; but never go without kissing, unless of course the others persons dental/mouth hygiene was an issue but then so would be their other personal hygiene habits!!! |
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"kissing it seems for some is more special than the other physical acts shared between two or more people, now I for one cannot get my head around how you are prepared to fuck but not kiss??
sex is about the emotional connection just as much as it is the physical acts and kissing only heightens the senses of intimacy, whats the point of being in the situation of swinging if you're not going to kiss.
Tells me you're not secure in your relationship if you can't share a kiss..
It's the most erotic part of play and if you're not going to enjoy that then why bother playing at all...
I would go without penile penetration in favor of soft oral play every time if that was the choice available; but never go without kissing, unless of course the others persons dental/mouth hygiene was an issue but then so would be their other personal hygiene habits!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont think i could ever meet someone who wouldnt kiss, in fact i did before a long time ago and hated it. Kissing if done right and can get me instantly turned on in seconds and to me i dont even give it a second thought about whether to kiss someone or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont think i could ever meet someone who wouldnt kiss, in fact i did before a long time ago and hated it. Kissing if done right and can get me instantly turned on in seconds and to me i dont even give it a second thought about whether to kiss someone or not. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"kissing it seems for some is more special than the other physical acts shared between two or more people, now I for one cannot get my head around how you are prepared to fuck but not kiss??
sex is about the emotional connection just as much as it is the physical acts and kissing only heightens the senses of intimacy, whats the point of being in the situation of swinging if you're not going to kiss.
Tells me you're not secure in your relationship if you can't share a kiss..
It's the most erotic part of play and if you're not going to enjoy that then why bother playing at all...
I would go without penile penetration in favor of soft oral play every time if that was the choice available; but never go without kissing, unless of course the others persons dental/mouth hygiene was an issue but then so would be their other personal hygiene habits!!!"
It doesn't have anything to do with being secure in your relationship. As you are swinging as a single I don't expect you to understand that a couple may want to keep something just for them to enjoy together. We aren't looking to have an emotional connection with people we meet it is just sex. The emotional connection is only between us 2 when we have sex together.
If people's prefernce isn't the same as yours then they shouldn't bother playing. Now that makes sense.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"kissing it seems for some is more special than the other physical acts shared between two or more people, now I for one cannot get my head around how you are prepared to fuck but not kiss??
sex is about the emotional connection just as much as it is the physical acts and kissing only heightens the senses of intimacy, whats the point of being in the situation of swinging if you're not going to kiss.
Tells me you're not secure in your relationship if you can't share a kiss..
It's the most erotic part of play and if you're not going to enjoy that then why bother playing at all...
I would go without penile penetration in favor of soft oral play every time if that was the choice available; but never go without kissing, unless of course the others persons dental/mouth hygiene was an issue but then so would be their other personal hygiene habits!!!
It doesn't have anything to do with being secure in your relationship. As you are swinging as a single I don't expect you to understand that a couple may want to keep something just for them to enjoy together. We aren't looking to have an emotional connection with people we meet it is just sex. The emotional connection is only between us 2 when we have sex together.
If people's prefernce isn't the same as yours then they shouldn't bother playing. Now that makes sense. "
Yes but ...it's okay to kiss another woman? If it's a 'special thing' then why isn't it just as 'special' if it's done with another woman? I am not saying this is the case but I can see why some would think it may point to insecurity on the male's part. As has been said though, each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No kissing sounds bizarre to me. Proper snogging gets my juices flowing. If I'd coffee-meet someone who I would be loathe to kiss, then how on earth could I bring myself to get even more intimate with him?! |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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"I think meeting people but not kissing is stupid "
That's quite a harsh quote! Why is it stupid, it's a choice, we all entitled to. I may think some of your choices are not for me but I wouldn't call them stupid it's just what you are comfortable with.
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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I think both myself and Scott would feel very different about kissing if we were single, but we aren't.
In our experience there is generally not often enough empty mouths for kissing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was only chatting to another fab member about this very subject the other day.
People have said that they kissing is far too personal which I agree with, but then letting another man but his thing in the holiest of ho'lies is just as much if not more personal.
The way that I tried to rationalise it is, if I was in love with someone and she came home and said that she was d*unk, whatever and she kissed someone I would be pretty pissed, if she came home and said she fucked another guy....I'd pretty much hit the fucking roof. |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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"I was only chatting to another fab member about this very subject the other day.
People have said that they kissing is far too personal which I agree with, but then letting another man but his thing in the holiest of ho'lies is just as much if not more personal.
The way that I tried to rationalise it is, if I was in love with someone and she came home and said that she was d*unk, whatever and she kissed someone I would be pretty pissed, if she came home and said she fucked another guy....I'd pretty much hit the fucking roof."
As would we with both as that is cheating. |
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I NEVER used to kiss on the mouth in nsa.
That changed, and then I was forbidden from kissing on the mouth (long story)
Now I enjoy the kissing, and get a fair few compliments too  .
It can be more intimate so it really is about individual preference and boundaries. |
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By *GR2014Man
over a year ago
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"I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected."
If someone won't kiss me or be kissed its a deal breaker.. I'm a human not a piece of meat some respect people please!!!!! |
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I think it comes down to a few things:-
1: Some people like the sensual nature of kissing and enjoy it during sex to get that emotional connection with those they meet and it adds to their meets, this I agree with.
2: Some see it as cheating and keep it special with each other and only do it with their partners. some see this as a bit weird as if sticking your cock into a mouth a tongue is less flesh but each to their own.
3: Some women will kiss other women but not men, as their husbands like to see it and not threatened by their wife's running off with other women. heard the term plastic princess used about these women by other bi women :-0
I think its pretty obvious to all on here if swinging and open-minded pretty much everything is on the table to those who are very laid back and comfortable with their own sexuality, and comfortable in their relationships to not be threatened by kissing or other acts between consenting adults.
For those that put restrictions on activities then thats up to them, but alot of people in couples or singles would and do question what they are actually afraid of happening if someone kissed their husband or wife infront of them?? why restrict kissing when letting them fuck others bit hypocritical etc!!
Have heard many tales of couples going mental when one of the partners steps over that so called barrier and get the green eyed monster and throw a fit during meets, and always instigated without the other couple or single involved knowing they have agreed this between them but not let the other party know!!
Myself always agree boundaries and try not to have any surprises when meet people off here or other sites by speaking first if they have any do's or dont's.
I prefer to meet those that are relaxed and who don't put restrictions on their meets as they are the ones I enjoy and can go with the flow and have found through experience those people are more relaxed and less uptight
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think people need to remember that everybody is different in their outlooks and preferences. For some, including us, kissing is too intimate, for others it's an essential part of a meet. Each to their own. |
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"I think it comes down to a few things:-
1: Some people like the sensual nature of kissing and enjoy it during sex to get that emotional connection with those they meet and it adds to their meets, this I agree with.
2: Some see it as cheating and keep it special with each other and only do it with their partners. some see this as a bit weird as if sticking your cock into a mouth a tongue is less flesh but each to their own.
3: Some women will kiss other women but not men, as their husbands like to see it and not threatened by their wife's running off with other women. heard the term plastic princess used about these women by other bi women :-0
I think its pretty obvious to all on here if swinging and open-minded pretty much everything is on the table to those who are very laid back and comfortable with their own sexuality, and comfortable in their relationships to not be threatened by kissing or other acts between consenting adults.
For those that put restrictions on activities then thats up to them, but alot of people in couples or singles would and do question what they are actually afraid of happening if someone kissed their husband or wife infront of them?? why restrict kissing when letting them fuck others bit hypocritical etc!!
Have heard many tales of couples going mental when one of the partners steps over that so called barrier and get the green eyed monster and throw a fit during meets, and always instigated without the other couple or single involved knowing they have agreed this between them but not let the other party know!!
Myself always agree boundaries and try not to have any surprises when meet people off here or other sites by speaking first if they have any do's or dont's.
I prefer to meet those that are relaxed and who don't put restrictions on their meets as they are the ones I enjoy and can go with the flow and have found through experience those people are more relaxed and less uptight
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That sums it up pretty well.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't get it myself..no kissing but the meet can lick or fuck..if I met a guy and he never kissed me I would be pissed off..kissing is part of the foreplay..but if you set rules they should be respected."
I'd totally agree fucking or licking pussy or having my cock sucked just isn't as good without kissing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does everyone else meet without restriction then?
I've seen many profiles stating no water sports, is that not a restriction? "
it is a fetish, kissing isnt |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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"Does everyone else meet without restriction then?
I've seen many profiles stating no water sports, is that not a restriction?
it is a fetish, kissing isnt"
Still a restriction though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing for me is a major part of foreplay... That tingly feeling in the tummy can't beat it....
But each to their own... I'd struggle to meet people with no kissing rules... It's something I do automatically... It's the first move....
But each to their own we all have rules... |
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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it comes down to a few things:-
1: Some people like the sensual nature of kissing and enjoy it during sex to get that emotional connection with those they meet and it adds to their meets, this I agree with.
2: Some see it as cheating and keep it special with each other and only do it with their partners. some see this as a bit weird as if sticking your cock into a mouth a tongue is less flesh but each to their own.
3: Some women will kiss other women but not men, as their husbands like to see it and not threatened by their wife's running off with other women. heard the term plastic princess used about these women by other bi women :-0
I think its pretty obvious to all on here if swinging and open-minded pretty much everything is on the table to those who are very laid back and comfortable with their own sexuality, and comfortable in their relationships to not be threatened by kissing or other acts between consenting adults.
For those that put restrictions on activities then thats up to them, but alot of people in couples or singles would and do question what they are actually afraid of happening if someone kissed their husband or wife infront of them?? why restrict kissing when letting them fuck others bit hypocritical etc!!
Have heard many tales of couples going mental when one of the partners steps over that so called barrier and get the green eyed monster and throw a fit during meets, and always instigated without the other couple or single involved knowing they have agreed this between them but not let the other party know!!
Myself always agree boundaries and try not to have any surprises when meet people off here or other sites by speaking first if they have any do's or dont's.
I prefer to meet those that are relaxed and who don't put restrictions on their meets as they are the ones I enjoy and can go with the flow and have found through experience those people are more relaxed and less uptight
That sums it up pretty well.
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Very well said. Our only restrictions is soft. We are open to the fact that this could change with the right couple. We both have so much trust in each other that nothing would bother us. The soft thing is just a thing we want to build up to with the right people. We love seeing each other enjoying themselves it is a turn on and no way a threat. We know that we are together for life as we have so much love and trust for each other. If there is any worry about something then maybe swinging is not the right thing to do. We have never had an upset between us all our swinging fun. Once you have trust there should be no problem, we do not get the no kissing rule. We generally do not meet non kissing couples as it ads to the fun and as said is part of foreplay. Everyone to their own eh? |
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