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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With couples I don't think it's an issue - unless of course you can see several different cocks involved! 
Any you'll ever see on mine (or the couples profile) will be me and Fox. |
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I have photos of unprotected sex with my partner that I won't put on my profile because I know people will get the wrong impression. Probably different for you but with a single fem profile I will give it a miss. I even got grief of someone for 'bareback pics' when the cock in question was actually a (rather convincing) dildo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would put them on but just put a short sentence on your profile stating the pics with an uncovered cock are your partners and you practice safe sex with everyone else x |
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. "
You could put a similar note on your profile...?  |
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. "
most would accept those pics show you and partner, safe sex should always be practiced with others surely, health check or not!!!  |
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We wouldn't expect to see condoms on a couples profile, unless of course there are multiple partners in the pictures. All our pictures are of just us, so we don't need protection for them. We state safe sex only on our profile, so it should be self explanatory. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't see the problem, as long as YOU practise safe sex (if you want to) with them then what does it matter? the only safe sex is no sex at all, at the very least you should treat every new partner as if they have an STI unless proved otherwise. Or accept the results. Easy. |
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We just presume everyone is bare backing anyway! Ergo why neither of us ever play without condoms.
It makes me laugh that people are that stupid to think that those that "don't" show bareback pictures, must in someway be a safer bet.... Treat everyone as if they do, take responsibility for your own level of safety and have fun!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone! I asked as I'd seen talk if people being put off couple's profiles because there is pics of bareback sex! Made me wonder if others felt the same.
Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent. "
Maybe because its extremely hard to catch an STI orally, since you can view the goods before you stick it in yer gob I suppose
Then again...the mouth does fight foreign infections on a constant basis, so its over equipped to deal with the little sexual indiscretions we throw at it!  |
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent. "
Because giving oral over a condom is grim!
I assume bb pics on a couples profile are of themselves - unless there are obviously multiple bare cocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. Herpes is the only visible one. HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, to name a few. Not bashing anyone, just was curious. I see it a lot on porn sites also. I first thought to keep from getting pregnant. But on a lot of people profiles it says safe sex, so I click on their profile and it's suck this and that. I'm totally for al around safe sex, so I just wandering.  |
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent. "
The chance of catching an STI orally is tiny compared to full penetrative sex. And I'm not talking about the ones you can see! |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent. "
As a couple of others have said, oral transmission of STIs is less likely...my personal risk assessment is 30 odd years of sexual activity and only one teenage dose of clap back in the pre-condom days, obviously if I were to catch something orally I'd have to reconsider...
As for the OP, I'd consider BB pix on a couple profile would likely be them unless it were obvious that there were several unclothed cocks in play...it wouldn't necessarily stop me meeting even if there were BB orgy pics, but I'd make sure that the person/people were aware that I only play safe by restating in messages what my profile says |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Again,to each it's own!! I was just wandering. I thought you could ask question and get advice here. I work in healthcare and seen some really nasty things on and in people mouths. So I thought I could ask this question on this forum. I keep getting guys msg me talking about oral when my profile clearly states I don't. Started browsing other females profiles and a lot of them don't state safe sex. Of course a lot of guys don't read profiles. They just see boobs,butts, and couch and send a request. Thanks on the feed back |
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"I'm not speaking on couples, I would assume they would not use one. I would think giving oral over a condom would be gross unless they have flavored  "
It isn't great with a flavoured one either also the teat chokes you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. Herpes is the only visible one. HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, to name a few. Not bashing anyone, just was curious. I see it a lot on porn sites also. I first thought to keep from getting pregnant. But on a lot of people profiles it says safe sex, so I click on their profile and it's suck this and that. I'm totally for al around safe sex, so I just wandering. "
I wondered when I was younger and asked a load of doctors...and they all said its "INCREDABLY" hard to catch anything orally if there's no broken skin or inflammation...maybe others should find out FACTS for themselves instead of listening to gossip, oh and regular check ups at the GUM clinic is kinda useful too, for those that think you can't test for these invisible infections! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. "
if you spend 15 minutes looking at posted pictures on this site you will see BB pics outweigh condom shots by about 70-30 , despite what people claim . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom.
if you spend 15 minutes looking at posted pictures on this site you will see BB pics outweigh condom shots by about 70-30 , despite what people claim . "
from the ministry of absolute facts I do believe......zzzzzz xxx |
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"Again,to each it's own!! I was just wandering. I thought you could ask question and get advice here. I work in healthcare and seen some really nasty things on and in people mouths. So I thought I could ask this question on this forum. I keep getting guys msg me talking about oral when my profile clearly states I don't. Started browsing other females profiles and a lot of them don't state safe sex. Of course a lot of guys don't read profiles. They just see boobs,butts, and couch and send a request. Thanks on the feed back "
You asked a question and got replies. They didn't agree with your viewpoint. It happens
*insert rolling eye smiley* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not looking for anyone to agree or dis agree. Just asking people's opinion, like everyone else on this forum. No wrong or right answer. Just thought it to be odd to suck on a cock, but wear a condom!!! Again to each it's own. Thanks for everyone's feedback.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bare back pics on couple's profile do not put me off as I realise they are likely to be the couple themselves, Bareback pics on a singles profile puts me off though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't say it puts me off because I always insist on condom use, but I do notice.
There really is no point asking as the person will only come out with 'the pics were with a longterm partner' if it's on a single profile. It's ip to you whether you believe that or not.
Similarly fb couples rather than married couples, they aren't really couples are they, they are singles who have hooked up and created a couples profile. Since I've been a member here I've seen a few people have several fb couples profiles and the pics are bareback.
Ultimately it's best to go with the look after yourself approach and it's not a safe option to solely rely on pics and profile status to weigh up the risk. Couples, singles, fb couples, etc, are all as risky as each other.
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"I wouldn't say it puts me off because I always insist on condom use, but I do notice.
There really is no point asking as the person will only come out with 'the pics were with a longterm partner' if it's on a single profile. It's ip to you whether you believe that or not.
Similarly fb couples rather than married couples, they aren't really couples are they, they are singles who have hooked up and created a couples profile. Since I've been a member here I've seen a few people have several fb couples profiles and the pics are bareback.
Ultimately it's best to go with the look after yourself approach and it's not a safe option to solely rely on pics and profile status to weigh up the risk. Couples, singles, fb couples, etc, are all as risky as each other.
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Surely don't have to be married to be a proper couple? I've been with my partner for 2 and a bit years but we're a lot more than an fb couple. I'll never get married again lol |
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent. "
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent.
The chance of catching an STI orally is tiny compared to full penetrative sex. And I'm not talking about the ones you can see!"
WRONG the chances are the SAME ! only the risk of catching HIV orally is lowered |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. "
If you think some people will get the wrong idea seeing them then maybe you are right. If in doubt put other pictures up instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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if its a single profile then it would be a conclusion we would jump to.
if it was a couple and the cock inserted was a different colour to the partner, then again, we would jump.
otherwise, as has been said, we would just imagine it would be with your partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We practice safe penetrative sex apart from with each other but not orally. I've noticed reading through these posts nobody has mentioned oral dams if ladies insist on condom for b.j's should you guys insist on dams too? Have heard of someone (no names) using clingfilm when going down on a lady!!! Imagine that all turned on moist and ready to be pleasured and he whips out a catering size roll of clingfilm  |
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent.
The chance of catching an STI orally is tiny compared to full penetrative sex. And I'm not talking about the ones you can see!
WRONG the chances are the SAME ! only the risk of catching HIV orally is lowered "
Im not wrong actually but if saying I am makes you feel better go right ahead. |
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"What I don't get is why they use condoms, bit still perform oral!!!!! That's not safe sex. STI can still be transmitted orally. I can understand not wanting to get pregnant, if that's what everyone on here is trying to prevent.
The chance of catching an STI orally is tiny compared to full penetrative sex. And I'm not talking about the ones you can see!
WRONG the chances are the SAME ! only the risk of catching HIV orally is lowered
Im not wrong actually but if saying I am makes you feel better go right ahead. "
hmmm interesting I would very much like to see the evidance backing up your statement, as it conflicts with the GUM clinic, FDA, netdoctor advice. |
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To be honest I'm fed up of giving bloody references on here. You do what you want and I'll do what I want. There is a risk, a smaller one, and it is a calculated risk I am going to take.
I did once spend a considerable amount of time sourcing and sharing references on this subject on a thread and it just got ignored so I really can't be bothered to do it again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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WRONG the chances are the SAME ! only the risk of catching HIV orally is lowered "
Where did you learn that from. Because its totally wrong. I go to the clinic often, and I always talk to the staff. Because I used to do large gangbangs I asked specifically about it and have had some very in depth chats about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have been swinging for 17 yrs and have played bare on 3 or 4 occasions in that time. We state this in our profile to give anyone who looks a choice to contact us or not. We do have health checks at GUM and donate blood regularly to keep a check but we are well aware that there are plenty of peeps who do not declare they have done it too nor show pics of that nature. We always assume a partner has because the transfeR of semen to the vagina is so easy to happen, e.g. Guy wanking then fingering the girl. |
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"Quick question guys and gals, if a profile says safe sex only but there are pics of the contrary would it put you off?
Reason I ask is we stipulate safe sex only, however I don't practice this with my husband (been together 10 years, we've both had sexual health check ups). We recently took some pics we want to put on our profile but a couple show sex without a condom. "
I would expect to see bareback pictures on a couples profile!  |
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"We just presume everyone is bare backing anyway! Ergo why neither of us ever play without condoms.
It makes me laugh that people are that stupid to think that those that "don't" show bareback pictures, must in someway be a safer bet.... Treat everyone as if they do, take responsibility for your own level of safety and have fun!
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This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would you want to use safe sex with your own partner unless you dont want to get pregnant weird, don't you think  "
BBQ has tried so many different pills and the implant and all make her sex drive go away, which kind of defeats the purpose! So condoms it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its up to you what you put on your profile pics, people get put off? Their own loss if they cant work out bb is you and hubby, not that anyone reads it I posted a thing on my profile stating im the same and wont do bb with other guys. Because a I dont wanna risk getting preg and b I tend to meet guys I can see veris from and 9/10 the other girls (a specific 3) only have bb pics on theyre profile after meets with tom dick and harry so dont wanna risk catchibg annything off them |
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