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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

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By *issBehavingxxWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on...

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By *ubyExpreeWoman  over a year ago

BBBW Heaven


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

Let her try it on you with a strap on first.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Respect what she is telling you. Anal is not for everyone

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By *livia_KWoman  over a year ago

South London

If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Try a cock up your arse then decide if u like if someone does not want to do somethong you should accept it seems very selfish mate.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

Lol well said x

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!"

I think I explained it wrong, she wants to try it but is scared that it will hurt

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well respect her and forget it or during a nice slow oil massage gentley tease her forbiden hole see how she reacts but alway remember if she says stop it means stop

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!

I think I explained it wrong, she wants to try it but is scared that it will hurt "

Of course it will hurt, I think that's what previous posts are saying,

IE let her fuck you using a medium to big dildo first, so you can experience the pain, maybe then you will understand what she is worried about

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By *ancs MinxWoman  over a year ago

Burnley


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!

I think I explained it wrong, she wants to try it but is scared that it will hurt "

That's not what you said at all, if that was the case why would you have to change her mind?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Plenty of people close to you who love anal (_O_)

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple  over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

the phrase "change her mind" is what's wrong...

if she's interested then let her chat to people to get some tips.

If it's something just you want, keep dreaming.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

Let her try it on you with a strap on first. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

Exactly lol

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By *orny69pussyCouple  over a year ago

Tonbridge


"Respect what she is telling you. Anal is not for everyone"

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!

I think I explained it wrong, she wants to try it but is scared that it will hurt

That's not what you said at all, if that was the case why would you have to change her mind?

"

Not really change her mind just anyway it should be less painful

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By *ittleBitOfFunCouple  over a year ago

Cardiff

If she wants to try it and your not pushing her to do it you can try a butt plug first. I don't like anal but tried using a beginners butt plug from ann summers which helped. Don't go on at her though if she's not happy doing it though for your satisfaction

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By *ubberdollieWoman  over a year ago

Stoke

Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

My thoughts exactly, what's good for the goose is good for the gander!

She can even wear the strap on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman  over a year ago

evesham

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?"

it does get better and easier after a few hundred times.

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By *irtyDee33Woman  over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

it does get better and easier after a few hundred times. "

If anal was that painful everytime then why do people do it?

I have no problem with it now, but if you're not 100% relaxed and up for it then it will hurt!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have no problem with it now, but if you're not 100% relaxed and up for it then it will hurt!!!"

You can also push slightly, it really helps loosen up.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Take your time with her. Don't go ramming your cock straight in lol she won't thank you for that. Try small anal beads to start with, and also don't make anal the main part of the play, she has to be horny and relaxed for it to work. It might also take a few sessions before she can take your cock in there. Hope that helps

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By *ubberdollieWoman  over a year ago

Stoke

Take it from someone who knows how painful anal can be if you aren't up for it, trust me if she has a bad experience she may never feel relaxed enough to do it again. So wait for her to be up for it and never ever push her into it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Zzzzzz

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By *ubberdollieWoman  over a year ago

Stoke


"Zzzzzz"
Sorry am I boring you?

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By *B9 QueenWoman  over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

If she doesn't want it then you should respect that. If you try to 'convince' her that would suggest you will pretty much harass her and that will probably result in her going off sex with you. So you'd be shooting yourself in the foot.

Also you don't sound very experienced which worries me. She doesn't want it and you have no idea what to do. Disaster looms.

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By *iss_tressWoman  over a year ago

London


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

I'd be happy to introduce you to my Big Boy range of anal toys op!

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By *Ryan-Man  over a year ago

In Your Bush

Show some sympathy man and give her a broom handle to bite down on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I guess the objective is to get your cock up her arse.

Change the objective to giving her pleasure. Lick a little there when giving oral.

I light finger stroke nothing pushed in.

Progress to a finger tip. Wait for a positive reaction. If that's working add a little more.

Slowly work through this over many sessions / weeks. Never rushed, never pushed. As she discovers the pleasure she may want more but always for her pleasure. Anal is more about the thought than the deed.

An ass should be given, not taken.

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By *beautifulpainCouple  over a year ago

Basingstoke


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!"

Could not agree more.

OP: surely sex is the most enjoyable when it's enjoyed by both of you. You should not seek to change this person but grow together in sexual exploration and always respect each others limits.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Respect what she is telling you. Anal is not for everyone"

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!"

Couldn't agree more with this, it takes time, trust & relaxation & yes lots of lube. xx

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By *ee VianteWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

As others have said, if she doesn't like the idea then that should be that. I have zero respect or tolerance for anyone who tries to coerce or persuade anyone to do something they don't want purely for the pleasure of the persuading party.

It's selfish and immature.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

All this may sound obvious but before you go anywhere near her bum with your cock use plenty of lube on your finger and her anus.

Gently stroke it with your finger while you give her oral.

As she relaxes and gets into it gradually introduce your finger into her anus in slow rhythmic movements.

Judge what you do by her body language, if she get's more excited slowly add a second finger, if all is well slowly keep up the finger fucking and oral until she orgasm's.

Doing this will, hopefully, allow her to associate it with pleasure instead of pain.

If she wants you to fuck her anally, try it face on as you kneel in front of her and she sits on a sofa or arm chair with her knees drawn up.

This way you can judge her feelings by her face and she can masturbate.

Phew that was a saga !

Good luck.

Right.....I'm off to bum the Mrs !

XXXX

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By *lackCherryCouple  over a year ago

Bristol


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!"

This .

I also tend to find it easier if im turned on and horny other wise it is a little painful. What about introducing a beginners butt plug? Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I was the same as she is. Wanted to but was scared. If she is on here as wants to message me she can x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it. And in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to convince her to do something she doesn't want to do. No means no.

If it is something she would like to try but is woried that it may hurt, then that of course is a different matter. Just go slowly, make her feel comfortable and use lots of lube!

I love anal and if I know I'm getting it then I'll prepare my anus beforehand - lube and butt plug.

The recipient of cock up butt must have control, they must be listened to!

This .

I also tend to find it easier if im turned on and horny other wise it is a little painful. What about introducing a beginners butt plug? Mrs x"

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By *ssexguy69Man  over a year ago

thurrock Essex

if she dont wana do it , then respect her wishes you dont force her do ya ,

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By *RYBBWCouple  over a year ago

Leeds.


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

If she doesn't want to do it she doesn't want to do it. And from the title of the post it would seem you want to do it more for your own satisfaction more than hers.

Try respecting her and her wishes.

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By *ssexguy69Man  over a year ago

thurrock Essex

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Go in dry and if she makes a kind of throaty squeaking sound, it just means she's loving it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Following on from Cates advice may I suggest donkey punching too, it will take her mind off it and also feel better for you.

Win.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

maybe try with a small toy first nice n slow , work up to a cock later, if small feels nice she will be more willing to go bigger

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it she doesn't want to do it. And from the title of the post it would seem you want to do it more for your own satisfaction more than hers.

Try respecting her and her wishes."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Do the commenters that jump in with outrage actually read the previous comments or are they too preoccupied with the presumed opportunity to get all angry and snarly?

My advice would be for her to have a practise sticking things up her ass by herself.

My advice to the snarly commenters would be the same.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I guess the objective is to get your cock up her arse.

Change the objective to giving her pleasure. Lick a little there when giving oral.

I light finger stroke nothing pushed in.

Progress to a finger tip. Wait for a positive reaction. If that's working add a little more.

Slowly work through this over many sessions / weeks. Never rushed, never pushed. As she discovers the pleasure she may want more but always for her pleasure. Anal is more about the thought than the deed.

An ass should be given, not taken. "

listen to this man, he knows what he's talking about

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By *thwalescplCouple  over a year ago

brecon


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

Let her do you first, just to show her how easy it is!

(Here's a tip, get a big mouthful of pillow, and when she ask you if you are in pain, tel her no, it's screams of delight she can hear!)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I can now happily accommodate a very thick, very long cock in my arse. Not sure if that's a good thing. Condoms can chafe so when you do go the whole way remember to keep lube handy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?"

OMG I don't know what kind of anal sex you've been having but I have never experienced it like that!!!

Yes, it can take a bit of getting used to but really not that painful...

My advice for the OP is if she really wants to push her boundaries and explore anal sex start with little finger (just one), she should be relaxed and horny, rimming might also help. Then progress to more fingers and eventually a smooth thin beginners butt plug. Don't forget the lube! You can never have too much lube when it comes to booty play. This will progress through several sessions as she becomes more familiar with the sensations and you will also become better acquainted with her responses.

It can be very pleasurable but take your time and eventually you could both be enjoying full anal tremendously.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It is very pleasurable when the woman is comfortable with it. Orgasms are intense

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

brilliant answer!!! When I guy wants to do that to me, I always ask if I can do it to them first. And I do

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By *ubberdollieWoman  over a year ago

Stoke


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

OMG I don't know what kind of anal sex you've been having but I have never experienced it like that!!!

Yes, it can take a bit of getting used to but really not that painful...

My advice for the OP is if she really wants to push her boundaries and explore anal sex start with little finger (just one), she should be relaxed and horny, rimming might also help. Then progress to more fingers and eventually a smooth thin beginners butt plug. Don't forget the lube! You can never have too much lube when it comes to booty play. This will progress through several sessions as she becomes more familiar with the sensations and you will also become better acquainted with her responses.

It can be very pleasurable but take your time and eventually you could both be enjoying full anal tremendously. "

Extremely bad experience in my early 20's , enough to put a girl off for life lets say And being pissed and in a swimming pool at 4am probably wasn't the best venue to discover this activity !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Let her watch you receiving anal first...

Either from a guy or a girl with a nice big girthy strap-on... "

That's exactly what I would have said

Lynn

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Have we established that she wants to try, but is worried about the pain? If she's against it, respect that dude and never ask again.

If it's the first one then her future enjoyment (or not) of anal is in your hands. One thing, which is massive is that if she's worried about the pain, she's going to be nervous and it IS going to hurt, then she's never going to try it again.

Your job now is to make sure she enjoys it, if you ever get that far. Take it slow and don't push her at any stage! I would try first giving her a nice massage and just allow some oil to trickle over her arsehole. Let her enjoy the sensation, if she does, maybe just rub your thumb over it and leave it there.

Let her leave that experience with a positive memory of enjoying it being touched. Maybe when you're going down on her after that, lick her backside and gauge whether she enjoyed that as well. If so and only then, maybe lube up your finger and just poke the tip inside while you're taking her from behind.

Then, and ONLY if she's willing still to explore further could you try having a conversation about going to a sex shop. Get a tiny little butt plug and a decent lube. If she enjoys that then work your way up until you have something similar close to the size of your cock and if she's still happy do you stand a chance of it not hurting.

Have some amazing sex first and make sure she's had at least one orgasm then ask her gently if she wants to try. Be prepared for it to take a long time fella and also to stop at any time during the process and not bring it up again.

Do you really want to be the guy who is the reason she'll always be against it? Anal sex can be amazing for both parties, but only if the utmost care is taken. What you see in porn is not real.

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By *lleyCat1969Man  over a year ago

Folkestone

OK, I admit I haven't read the posts in this thread but I'm saying what I guess most of them have said, which is if she doesn't want to do it, then simply respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have we established that she wants to try, but is worried about the pain? If she's against it, respect that dude and never ask again.

If it's the first one then her future enjoyment (or not) of anal is in your hands. One thing, which is massive is that if she's worried about the pain, she's going to be nervous and it IS going to hurt, then she's never going to try it again.

Your job now is to make sure she enjoys it, if you ever get that far. Take it slow and don't push her at any stage! I would try first giving her a nice massage and just allow some oil to trickle over her arsehole. Let her enjoy the sensation, if she does, maybe just rub your thumb over it and leave it there.

Let her leave that experience with a positive memory of enjoying it being touched. Maybe when you're going down on her after that, lick her backside and gauge whether she enjoyed that as well. If so and only then, maybe lube up your finger and just poke the tip inside while you're taking her from behind.

Then, and ONLY if she's willing still to explore further could you try having a conversation about going to a sex shop. Get a tiny little butt plug and a decent lube. If she enjoys that then work your way up until you have something similar close to the size of your cock and if she's still happy do you stand a chance of it not hurting.

Have some amazing sex first and make sure she's had at least one orgasm then ask her gently if she wants to try. Be prepared for it to take a long time fella and also to stop at any time during the process and not bring it up again.

Do you really want to be the guy who is the reason she'll always be against it? Anal sex can be amazing for both parties, but only if the utmost care is taken. What you see in porn is not real."

There has been only one man for me. He followed the slow, no pressure approach, taking me one tiny step at a time. As prescribed above. It took near enough a year...but he said I would ask for it..and I did. And it was amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OK, I admit I haven't read the posts in this thread but I'm saying what I guess most of them have said, which is if she doesn't want to do it, then simply respect that."

I think most of them read the follow up bit that said she was keen but anxious.

The few that didn't look a bit silly.

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By *Ryan-Man  over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Have we established that she wants to try, but is worried about the pain? If she's against it, respect that dude and never ask again.

If it's the first one then her future enjoyment (or not) of anal is in your hands. One thing, which is massive is that if she's worried about the pain, she's going to be nervous and it IS going to hurt, then she's never going to try it again.

Your job now is to make sure she enjoys it, if you ever get that far. Take it slow and don't push her at any stage! I would try first giving her a nice massage and just allow some oil to trickle over her arsehole. Let her enjoy the sensation, if she does, maybe just rub your thumb over it and leave it there.

Let her leave that experience with a positive memory of enjoying it being touched. Maybe when you're going down on her after that, lick her backside and gauge whether she enjoyed that as well. If so and only then, maybe lube up your finger and just poke the tip inside while you're taking her from behind.

Then, and ONLY if she's willing still to explore further could you try having a conversation about going to a sex shop. Get a tiny little butt plug and a decent lube. If she enjoys that then work your way up until you have something similar close to the size of your cock and if she's still happy do you stand a chance of it not hurting.

Have some amazing sex first and make sure she's had at least one orgasm then ask her gently if she wants to try. Be prepared for it to take a long time fella and also to stop at any time during the process and not bring it up again.

Do you really want to be the guy who is the reason she'll always be against it? Anal sex can be amazing for both parties, but only if the utmost care is taken. What you see in porn is not real.

There has been only one man for me. He followed the slow, no pressure approach, taking me one tiny step at a time. As prescribed above. It took near enough a year...but he said I would ask for it..and I did. And it was amazing! "

Fair play to him bet he had major cramp though after that long.

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By *istress v in yorksCouple  over a year ago

south Yorkshire

Let her fuck you anally first, will teach you to be slow and patient, but if she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to simple as that. Can't change her x


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

as i have said before use a desensatising lube!!

this helps a lot

i wont (f) do it if none of this lube used

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?"

This!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!! "

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Have we established that she wants to try, but is worried about the pain? If she's against it, respect that dude and never ask again.

If it's the first one then her future enjoyment (or not) of anal is in your hands. One thing, which is massive is that if she's worried about the pain, she's going to be nervous and it IS going to hurt, then she's never going to try it again.

Your job now is to make sure she enjoys it, if you ever get that far. Take it slow and don't push her at any stage! I would try first giving her a nice massage and just allow some oil to trickle over her arsehole. Let her enjoy the sensation, if she does, maybe just rub your thumb over it and leave it there.

Let her leave that experience with a positive memory of enjoying it being touched. Maybe when you're going down on her after that, lick her backside and gauge whether she enjoyed that as well. If so and only then, maybe lube up your finger and just poke the tip inside while you're taking her from behind.

Then, and ONLY if she's willing still to explore further could you try having a conversation about going to a sex shop. Get a tiny little butt plug and a decent lube. If she enjoys that then work your way up until you have something similar close to the size of your cock and if she's still happy do you stand a chance of it not hurting.

Have some amazing sex first and make sure she's had at least one orgasm then ask her gently if she wants to try. Be prepared for it to take a long time fella and also to stop at any time during the process and not bring it up again.

Do you really want to be the guy who is the reason she'll always be against it? Anal sex can be amazing for both parties, but only if the utmost care is taken. What you see in porn is not real.

There has been only one man for me. He followed the slow, no pressure approach, taking me one tiny step at a time. As prescribed above. It took near enough a year...but he said I would ask for it..and I did. And it was amazing!

Fair play to him bet he had major cramp though after that long. "

nope! he got lots of pussy and extra special loving care

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By *RYBBWCouple  over a year ago

Leeds.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

U shouldn't try convince her. But to try encourage her to try it incase she likes it(never know till u try) lots and lots of lube,u need to be very gentle careful and listen to her. She says stop u stop. She needs to feel in control. Also if u are thick prob won't be good idea first,try fingers and maybe bullet vib build up to anal

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels likes she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks."

Maybe for you its bollocks but who are you to say thats not how they felt after?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels likes she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

Maybe for you its bollocks but who are you to say thats not how they felt after? "

I'm me!

Who are you to ask me who I am?

That statement is made as an overriding fact, not a personal experience. Therefore it is in my opinion - utter bollocks.

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple  over a year ago

Douglas


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks."

As said by a straight guy, you couldn't write it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

As said by a straight guy, you couldn't write it. "

So far as I'm aware a woman fucking you in the ass with a strap on does not make you gay.

Educate me if I'm I'm incorrect on that?

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple  over a year ago

Douglas


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

As said by a straight guy, you couldn't write it.

So far as I'm aware a woman fucking you in the ass with a strap on does not make you gay.

Educate me if I'm I'm incorrect on that?"

Didn't realise we had to be mind readers as we still can't find your post saying you took it with a strap-on.

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By *ENGUYMan  over a year ago

Hull

Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

"

maybe he went to bed?

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

"

That's because he's in a and e having a darn great strap on removed from his bum after his girlfriend saw this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have a straight,married fuck buddy who loves a strap on. I got him to suck a cock too. He likes pleasing me and he is straight, maybe with good gag reflexes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

As said by a straight guy, you couldn't write it.

So far as I'm aware a woman fucking you in the ass with a strap on does not make you gay.

Educate me if I'm I'm incorrect on that?

Didn't realise we had to be mind readers as we still can't find your post saying you took it with a strap-on."

Is that the royal 'we' or are you both actually reading back to try and find it? It was only a couple of posts back so shouldn't take long!

Its less about mind reading and more about not jumping to conclusions.

Even if I were to have had sex at some stage of my life with a man would that mean I'm not straight?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

That's because he's in a and e having a darn great strap on removed from his bum after his girlfriend saw this thread."

His arse will be on fire tomorrow.. apparently

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

That's because he's in a and e having a darn great strap on removed from his bum after his girlfriend saw this thread.

His arse will be on fire tomorrow.. apparently "

I must have an asbestos arse. And I don't always lube, just a bit of spit. Never use a butt plug, they feel uncomfortable. Take a really thick one and a long one in mine quite regularly too. Am I abnormal???

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Following on from Cates advice may I suggest donkey punching too, it will take her mind off it and also feel better for you.

Win."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

That's because he's in a and e having a darn great strap on removed from his bum after his girlfriend saw this thread.

His arse will be on fire tomorrow.. apparently

I must have an asbestos arse. And I don't always lube, just a bit of spit. Never use a butt plug, they feel uncomfortable. Take a really thick one and a long one in mine quite regularly too. Am I abnormal??? "

So far as I'm aware you're the normal one. My wife loves it - although she prefers plenty of lube. DP is her favourite sex act.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed that the OP has goner very quiet?

Not a peep out of him today!

Strange!

That's because he's in a and e having a darn great strap on removed from his bum after his girlfriend saw this thread.

His arse will be on fire tomorrow.. apparently

I must have an asbestos arse. And I don't always lube, just a bit of spit. Never use a butt plug, they feel uncomfortable. Take a really thick one and a long one in mine quite regularly too. Am I abnormal???

So far as I'm aware you're the normal one. My wife loves it - although she prefers plenty of lube. DP is her favourite sex act."

never had dp with 2 men. I should try it I think

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I should think so too

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

Easy, let her fuck you with a strap on then when you say it's nice and doesn't hurt she should follow suit

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple  over a year ago

Douglas


"Course anal bloody well hurts! After all it ain't what that particular orifice was made for! And if she manages to do the deed she won't thank you after when she feels like her arse is on fire and turned inside out and every time she farts she feels like she is going to have an accident! Nuff said?

This!!

I've given and taken - and that is bollocks.

As said by a straight guy, you couldn't write it.

So far as I'm aware a woman fucking you in the ass with a strap on does not make you gay.

Educate me if I'm I'm incorrect on that?

Didn't realise we had to be mind readers as we still can't find your post saying you took it with a strap-on.

Is that the royal 'we' or are you both actually reading back to try and find it? It was only a couple of posts back so shouldn't take long!

Its less about mind reading and more about not jumping to conclusions.

Even if I were to have had sex at some stage of my life with a man would that mean I'm not straight?

"

No, not the royal 'we', my wife and i. Still can't find the post saying you took it from a strap-on. You said you had given & taken, that was all.

Apologies for jumping to the wrong conclusion, no offence meant.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS  over a year ago

Derby

Tell him to go down the tranny route. He won't have to ask then

And. If he still hasn't had any success. Sorry. When. He will end up,adding TV to the old request. Yet Straight on the profile

Next!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Tell him to go down the tranny route. He won't have to ask then

And. If he still hasn't had any success. Sorry. When. He will end up,adding TV to the old request. Yet Straight on the profile

Next! "

Trannies call themselves girls don't they? This confused me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

Easy, let her fuck you with a strap on then when you say it's nice and doesn't hurt she should follow suit "

What if he lets her and likes it??

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Apologies for jumping to the wrong conclusion, no offence meant."

No worries

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Tell him to go down the tranny route. He won't have to ask then

And. If he still hasn't had any success. Sorry. When. He will end up,adding TV to the old request. Yet Straight on the profile

Next! "

Eh? So a guy ain't straight if he fancies a bit back door fun with the missus?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

Allow her to explore this HERSELF without your interference. Once she knows what to expect and how it can be pleasureable, she will probably be a lot more receptive to the idea. Persistant mithering to have anal, is just going to make her uptight, in more ways than one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Tell him to go down the tranny route. He won't have to ask then

And. If he still hasn't had any success. Sorry. When. He will end up,adding TV to the old request. Yet Straight on the profile

Next!

Trannies call themselves girls don't they? This confused me "

Trannies usually refer to themselves as gurls.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS  over a year ago

Derby

Of course not. But f he don't get any success that way. Hell have to seek alternative options

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Of course not. But f he don't get any success that way. Hell have to seek alternative options "

He does have an alternative though! Her pussy! Thats something a tv can never have an alternative for.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Tell him to go down the tranny route. He won't have to ask then

And. If he still hasn't had any success. Sorry. When. He will end up,adding TV to the old request. Yet Straight on the profile

Next!

Trannies call themselves girls don't they? This confused me

Trannies usually refer to themselves as gurls. "

I think men like gurls because they make a lot of effort to look nice

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

Allow her to explore this HERSELF without your interference. Once she knows what to expect and how it can be pleasureable, she will probably be a lot more receptive to the idea. Persistant mithering to have anal, is just going to make her uptight, in more ways than one."

Mithering? What's that?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

How about you respect her decision about her body.

Honestly I don't think I've ever seen such an awful post.

No one should be pressurised into doing something they don't want to do, whether male or female.

Respect costs nothing, counselling can cost thousands

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

I'm just surprised you actually know a girl.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

Allow her to explore this HERSELF without your interference. Once she knows what to expect and how it can be pleasureable, she will probably be a lot more receptive to the idea. Persistant mithering to have anal, is just going to make her uptight, in more ways than one.

Mithering? What's that? "

Mithering is what we do up North. It's persistantly asking and nagging about something that someone doesn't really want to be bothered about. NOW STOP MITHERING ME!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X

Allow her to explore this HERSELF without your interference. Once she knows what to expect and how it can be pleasureable, she will probably be a lot more receptive to the idea. Persistant mithering to have anal, is just going to make her uptight, in more ways than one.

Mithering? What's that?

Mithering is what we do up North. It's persistantly asking and nagging about something that someone doesn't really want to be bothered about. NOW STOP MITHERING ME!!"

Ohh I'm going to use that on the grandkids

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know a girl an she doesn't like the idea of anal, any way I can change her mind? an she reckons it's gunna hurt any advice or tips I can do to make it less painful ? X "

Oh for gods sake

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"How about you respect her decision about her body.

Honestly I don't think I've ever seen such an awful post.

No one should be pressurised into doing something they don't want to do, whether male or female.

Respect costs nothing, counselling can cost thousands"

Reading the eighth comment would have taken you about 3 seconds and saved you 10.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

TRue if she dont want to dont force her

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Who do you think you are OP?

If she dont like it who are you to change her mind???

Respect her decision and leave it at that and turn her on in other ways.

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn


"

Reading the eighth comment would have taken you about 3 seconds and saved you 10."

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

reassurance that she is in control, relaxation & take your time.

and good lube.

both enjoy

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